https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 03:07:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-253354 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 15:47:12 +0000 matador84 253354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I would be really annoyed. I don't know what it is with some people. Yesterday someone commented to me, "Wow are you going to have a c-section?" Okay, good thing I love this person and I know he was just trying to be sweet (an older man I work with), but UGHHHH.</p> <p>Check out the mama birth blog sometime. There are lots of crazy stories about non-c vaginal births with multiples. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-253048 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 11:45:40 +0000 pastemoo 253048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I'm sorry she is being so pushy.</p> <p>I wish my NP had warned me, though. I ended up with a c-section and thought it was really low probability in my situation. Ugh. Always good to know it *might* happen--but it is definitely still worth trying vaginally. Tell her that. She may need to hear you say it. "I am fully aware of my risk of c-section. I still want to experience labor."</p> <p>ALSO... train your DH to say "WE DO NOT WANT A C-SECTION" about a million times during your labor. If you don't want it, you really have to fight. I didn't fight hard enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-253038 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 11:29:30 +0000 Shimmer 253038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: This made me chuckle. Thanks for that! :)</p> <p>@purrpletulips: As far as I know, one of the midwives owns the practice (and she's one of the ladies who is experienced in twin deliveries). I know people are sue-happy now, though!</p> <p>@Mrsbells: It's so strange to me that people are so into pushing c-sections when it is a MAJOR surgery! It's not like it's minimally invasive with no risks!</p> <p>@MrsCB: I hear stories like yours all the time! </p> <p>@MerryC: I'm so glad to hear that everything went so well for you! I am also delivering in the OR with a circus of people present. AND I'll have an epidural. I just want them to give me a chance - and the midwives will, as far as I know!</p> <p>@MamaMoose: I have spoken to her. She knows I'm a nurse and I'm very upfront with her about how aware I am of the risks and benefits of what we're headed into. I kept saying to her at this last appointment "I understand that the potential for a c-section is there. I just want a chance to try to do this on my own." I'm not looking to get her in trouble. I'll just mention that I want to see a midwife for each appointment from now on so I only deal with the people who will deliver me anyway. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252942 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 10:32:16 +0000 ladyfingers 252942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that is so annoying! Sorry you're dealing with this :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252936 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 10:26:10 +0000 MamaMoose 252936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes. I'm sorry she's being so pushy. I would try to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she has seen a lot of twin mama's who are very upset if they ended up needing a c-section so she's just trying to prepare you for the possibility so you won't be shocked and upset if it happens? But I don't know why she wouldn't be supportive of you at least TRYING for a vaginal delivery first. I would probably just be upfront with HER that you feel like she is pressuring you and you have made your decision and it's final... rather than telling the midwives. Just something to consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252928 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 10:21:36 +0000 twinmama 252928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you have to deal with an unsupportive NP. I really appreciated that all the OBs in our practice really supported a vaginal twin delivery, while making sure we were aware of all the possible scenarios.</p> <p>I'll write up more details for you on my induction, since I know you asked on another thread, but the gist of my birth is that I had a vaginal delivery in the OR after about 12 hours of labor/pitocin and all went super smoothly. About 15 minutes of pushing and Baby A was out, and Baby B was out 3 minutes later. They had both been head down for many months. There were a ton of people staged in the OR for both me and the babies in case anything went wrong, but in the end just an extra midwife ended up helping do an u/s and pushing Baby B down toward the birth canal to make sure she didn't have a chance to flip. </p> <p>Bottom line, vaginal twin deliveries are totally possible, and not even a crazy exception. But you know that ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252870 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:42:22 +0000 Mrsbells 252870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: Yeah the pressure is ridiculous when you are overdue these days! I went past by due date by 5 days and some people at the hospital seemed shocked that I was still holding out and not wanting an immediate c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252867 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:40:25 +0000 ShootingStar 252867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's so many interventions used these days because health practitioners push it as the only healthy way. My best friend is a twin and there were no ultrasounds back then, so his mom had no idea she was carrying twins until the 2nd one started coming. And they were both fine and perfectly healthy. And for myself, my mom was 18 days overdue with me. Nowadays that would never happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252856 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:33:32 +0000 Mrsbells 252856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cant stand people like that. There was a trainee ultrasound tech the day before I got induce who kept making really mean comment about me beng 5 days overdue and how I had toget he baby out asap with a c-section. I just feel like some people in the industry are so pro c-section and want to shove it down everyones throats. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252848 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:29:17 +0000 purrpletulips 252848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it interesting that she is so opinionated about it when you said she, personally, doesn't do deliveries. I'd bring it up with one of the midwives. Perhaps the practice is in her name and for insurance reasons she is afraid something will go wrong and you'll sue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252805 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 09:04:26 +0000 Lozza 252805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, that's weird. I could understand her trying to get her message across if you were coming in with a manifesto of "I will give birth in my bathtub while standing on my head and drinking chamomile tea, and NO ONE WILL STOP ME," but it sounds like you are being totally reasonable and calm about this. Totally valid vent :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252776 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:49:53 +0000 Shimmer 252776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I've heard that about twin vaginal deliveries! The maternal-fetal medicine doc that checks them every week via ultrasound keeps saying "they're a little small but that will make it easier for you to push them out!" Sure, I have to do it twice, but I'll have an epidural anyway so it may not be as horrifying as it seems in my head! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252757 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:40:04 +0000 mrs. bird 252757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww :( I'm sorry you have her saying those things to you! Sounds like you are aware of the benefits &amp; risks associated with each and are comfortable with your choice. If it makes you feel any better, my BFF had a singleton and then had twins vaginally, she said her twin birth was easier than her singleton :) one was pushing the other out &amp; they were smaller! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252753 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:37:44 +0000 Shimmer 252753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cvbee: I told her I wanted to discuss my options with the midwives that are experienced in twin deliveries, so I have an appointment with one of them tomorrow. I'm definitely going to mention it then. This NP also tried to push me into going to an OB group instead of staying with the midwives at 34 weeks by trying to scare me with the cord prolapse risk. The midwives are already aware of that incident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252740 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:26:09 +0000 cvbee 252740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry that she is saying this to you. Maybe you could make a complaint to the office or tell one of the midwives? Even if you were at a 'regular' OB clinic I wouldn't expect this kind of message. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-with-pushy-practitioners-vent#post-252731 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 08:19:34 +0000 Shimmer 252731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So as some of you know, I've had a pretty uneventful twin pregnancy thusfar (knock on wood!). I've been with a midwife group the whole time, and they assure me that as long as I'm doing ok (I am) and my boys are okay and head down (both are), I can attempt a vaginal delivery.</p> <p>There's a nurse practitioner in the practice that does not deliver babies. Generally, I really like her and her manner - but every time I've seen her recently, she's pushing me to get a c-section! She has said the following to me during the last 3 times I've seen her:</p> <p>-You know, you're in the driver's seat with this. If you're uncomfortable, you can ask for a c-section now.<br /> -With a twin pregnancy, there is a risk of cord prolapse, so a c-section would avoid that and any other birth injury you're risking. (*Note - cord prolapse is a risk with ANY birth, not just a twin birth.)<br /> -There's always a good chance that you deliver Twin A vaginally and then need a c/s for Twin B, so would you really want to be recovering both ways?<br /> -Induction puts you at higher risk for c/s, so it may be better off that you just start with one so you're not exhausted and can recover better afterwards.<br /> -I'm just trying to be realistic that this could very well end in a c-section.</p> <p>Now I understand, really I do. I'm a nurse myself. BUT GIVE ME A CHANCE! There is nothing suggesting that my body or my boys couldn't handle a vaginal delivery - why the push for the c-section from an NP in a midwifery group?? </p> <p>I understand that it's reality that I could very well end up with a c-section and there's nothing wrong with that. I was born via c-section and I turned out just fine :D. I just don't want to electively choose it at this point without a medical reason.</p> <p>*NOTE - If my boys show any signs of distress, I will not hesitate to have them surgically removed in an instant. This is not about my "birth desires" being put over the safety of my boys. If it isn't safe, I won't do it!*</p> <p>/end vent </p>