https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 03:55:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-sleep-training-help-need-motivation#post-2810650 Mon, 19 Mar 2018 13:58:50 +0000 amfstubbe 2810650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello! </p> <p>We just started sleep training our 10 month old this week. Sleep trained our older son - he was quick to catch on and slept 7pm-7am after 4 days of training him to sleep. This little guy has been a much tougher sleeper since day one, and seems to be stubborn to the core when it comes to this sleep training. He sleeps 2 naps per day, about 1-1.5 hour each. We’re very happy that we’ve worked him up past 40 minute naps and sometimes we even get lucky enough for a 2 hour nap. If he’s had two short naps, we give him an extra nap in the afternoon. The issue is I have fed him at 10 before I go to bed as a dream feed and now it’s really tough to drop. And then he wakes up 4 or so times per night after that. We are doing 10 minute checks on him, and he cries harder and harder every time we go in. :sad: Today he woke up only an hour after bedtime and is still crying 40 minutes later. I guess I just need some encouragement to hang in there. Feeling like it’s impossible this time around!</p> <p>And a question about the pacifier, I only give it to him when he goes to bed but I don’t reinsert it during the checks. Should I? He hasn’t figured out how to bring it to his own mouth while in the crib. </p> <p>His schedule is wake 6-7am (depends a little on the night and also if his big brother wakes him), nap at 9:00 sleep till 10:30, nap at 1:00pm till 2:30ish, bath at 6:15, sleeping by 7pm</p> <p>Thankful for all advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691557 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 18:36:03 +0000 snowjewelz 2691557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: we got "lucky" that she had coxsackie in her throat so she wanted nothing to touch her mouth anyway lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691527 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 17:06:45 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2691527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: The first night we took the paci away he went right to sleep and we looked at each other and were like "OMG! This is great!" Then he woke up with a high fever and had a double ear infection and we just couldn't stay the course while he was sick. So impressed that you were able to pull it then!<br /> @Worrywart: Funny you mention that-I've started telling him we "gave" his pacis to our two friends who each had a daughter. Said we sent them to Baby H and Baby A. Today before nap he was repeating that over and over again, "I don't need the paci, I send paci to the babies..." I know 27 months is younger than they said I "needed" to, but I figured it was worth a try...<br /> @ShootingStar: We're giving this weekend as our final go at it. I *think* he might be turning a corner (let's pretend I didn't say that for fear of jinxing it). He's definitely taking less time to fall asleep and able to better settle himself during overnight wakings. :goodluck:<br /> @Mrs. Sunshine: I wonder if 2.5 would have made that much more of a difference. I think it might. If he keeps going on the upward trend I'm hoping we can be done, but if his sleep continues to be utter crap we'll have to re-evaluate.</p> <p>Thanks so much to everyone for weighing in! Really means a lot to have your stories and virtual support. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691517 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 16:06:43 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2691517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a similar experience to @ShootingStar. I carried around so much guilt having let her keep her paci so long but when she finally threw her last one away all on her own, it was no big deal. My thoughts were always along the line of if a doctor or dentist wasn't telling me to get rid of it, she could keep them until they break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691507 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 15:46:02 +0000 ShootingStar 2691507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was a HUGE pacifier addict. There were times when he was melting down and it was the only thing that would get him to calm down. They were also essential to sleep for a really long time. But we slowly phased them out and by 2.5 he was done and it was pretty painless.</p> <p>We started with restricting them to being used only for sleep or the car. He slowly stopped using them for nap at daycare and after a while we stopped giving them for nap or the car, and they were only for at night. </p> <p>They started breaking at that point and every time one broke, we had him throw it away. Then the last one broke and he volunteered to throw it in garbage. After that he asked for it a couple times but we would remind him that he threw it away and he'd be like, "oh yeah" and move on.</p> <p>We did have one false start though, one night we didn't let him have it and bedtime was a little longer than usual. The next night bedtime was a disaster and then we had a broken smoke detector elongate the process even further and we were all so frazzled that we gave up and gave it back to him. Maybe a month or two later he was totally done.</p> <p>So I'd say just give them back and wait a little longer until he's ready. IMO it's not worth losing sleep over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691314 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:38:36 +0000 Worrywart 2691314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't wean until almost 3 1/2. The only thing that really got her excited was giving her pacis to her baby brother that was coming soon and receiving a "bye bye binky" present. Our ped and dentist both said to drop it around 3 years old. 27 months is still young. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691303 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:24:34 +0000 snowjewelz 2691303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww I'm so sorry! We only successfully weaned bc she happened to have gotten sick and her throat her and using the paci just made it worse so we seized the opportunity... Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691147 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 23:30:16 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2691147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@theotherstark: Thank you ❤ @Banana330: We just gave him a new lovey (he's obsessed with Margaret Tiger so we got him a little tiger doll), but I don't think he's old enough to understand that it's a replacement. He is pretty verbal but at 2 AM he's just pissed he doesn't have the paci. Thanks for the idea, though-maybe I need to get another special toy?@muffinsmuffins: Thank you so much for being honest about how much it sucked and how long it took. SO GLAD your little one is back to normal. It gives me hope!@littlejoy: Thanks for the support, and sorry it's an issue for you, too. We are trying to stay strong and follow through but it's SO HARD. I am thankful for the two years of awesome sleep, but this blows 😩. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691142 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 23:15:10 +0000 littlejoy 2691142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't found anything that works either. Still dealing with paci and sleep issues at 3 years. Thinking of you and following this thread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691100 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:28:40 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2691100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't super smooth for us either. Daycare had no issue for naps so we went for it a few weeks ago on a weekend. We talked it up and cut the pacis from his Wubbanubs. Nights were ok but he took an hour to get to sleep. Napping was HORRIBLE. He went from easy 3 hr naps to screaming for 2 hrs. We put his Twilight turtle nightlight in the crib (projects stars onto ceiling) and that REALLY helped. Maybe an hour of fussing around. By Monday he was back at daycare and by the weekend he was back to normal. It was so hard not to give in but we just kept giving his other loveys and the turtle nightlight and stayed strong. I think cold turkey and no going back is the best, but it was a lot harder than I thought because his sleep was similar to your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691052 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 17:44:10 +0000 Banana330 2691052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did you offer up a transitional lovey? Maybe let him pick a new stuffy or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691031 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 17:02:46 +0000 theotherstark 2691031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I clearly have no advice, but just wanted to send hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-weaning-a-toddler-when-it-doesnt-go-well#post-2691025 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 16:47:20 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2691025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Winniebee posted last week in anticipation of paci-weaning her son, and most of the responses were that it didn't end up being a huge deal. Well, I'm weaning my 27-month-old and it's been hell. He had been sleeping better than ever in his life from about early December until now (2-3 hour nap during the day, 11 hours of sleep overnight). All that is out the window. We tried to pull the paci cold turkey and it was a disaster, so we backed off, ordered the "Lily Method" pacifiers, and have been slowly doing those. It worked fine until we reached the last few, and then he went ballistic. He's absolutely beside himself that he can't suck on them, so we threw them out and now he's paci-less. Just hoping to hear from others who had less-than awesome experiences...did sleep ever return to normal? :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430195 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 21:41:58 +0000 Ms. RV 2430195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love how my daycare does it. They have a board with hooks labeled with each kid's name. The pacifier goes on the hook when not in use. We keep an extra one in her cubby just in case, though, but they haven't misplaced it in the three months she has been there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430193 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 21:40:09 +0000 Mrs Spoon 2430193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We put one in her bag each day which they would send home. I also used the wubbanubs because they are huge and hard to lose (Both for us and daycare). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430177 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 21:26:21 +0000 ShootingStar 2430177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our old daycare always lost things because the teachers were careless and put them in the wrong cubbies. I would tell them to search each cubby before telling me it was lost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430175 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 21:25:10 +0000 sapphire 2430175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have 2 pacifiers that are left at daycare. They clean them. They've never lost them. I would not leave work for that, even if he did miss a nap...they can find another way to soothe LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430172 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 21:22:43 +0000 mauxie 2430172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daycare had us bring in a couple paci's in a container (small ziplock brand box). The paci's are labeled and the container is labeled too. They are washed and returned to the box each day and if for some reason, one is lost, there is a backup.b </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430139 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 20:52:34 +0000 yellowbird 2430139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also in the camp of buying a bunch and putting them in his cubby. We have like 10 pacifiers at my house and I can only ever find 1 or two. Then they reappear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430135 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 20:45:38 +0000 Mrsbells 2430135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didny leave one at daycare. I just clipped it to her shirt and that way it couldn't get lost </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430122 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 20:31:48 +0000 Miss Ariel 2430122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We keep an extra one in her basket and bring one back and worth every day. There's been a few times when they haven't been able to find her pacifier when we picked her up, but it always reappeared the next day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430118 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 20:28:44 +0000 littlejoy 2430118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We keep one there. It is on a tether, so maybe it's easier to find? It's only for naps, so I think it's a simple matter of grabbing out of her cubby &amp; putting it back in. I'd be frustrated in your situation, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2430115 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 20:25:16 +0000 alphagam84 2430115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't leave work and would tell them to deal with it themselves or find the pacifier. They can't expect you to leave work to bring them one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429434 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 13:00:52 +0000 MamaCate 2429434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO has a cubby next to his crib where his extra stuff is kept. He has extra clothes, paci, sleep sack in there. The paci always goes in there when he is done with it. He has been there over 3 months and it has not been lost. My older DD was in the baby room 7 months and never lost her paci! </p> <p>So I agree with buying a few to keep there as backup but I would also want the daycare staff to come up with a new plan for storing it and not losing it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429426 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:56:28 +0000 Mrs D 2429426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually left 1 in the cubby and then DD would come with one in the morning - so in theory there were two there. The one she would come in with was on a clip and therefore a little harder to lose.</p> <p>Now that I see it mentioned - its a great idea to keep an extra in the car to avoid having to go home. I'd like to say "I'd make them deal with it" but since DD getting no sleep would have directly negatively benefitted me I probably would not be that hardcore. But I would 100% be fine with them giving DD a sanitized loaner! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429401 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:44:40 +0000 nana87 2429401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our daycare had a supply of extra pacifiers that they use for the los that use pacis, so we brought some but inevitably they'd use one of the "class" pacis for her. she's actually weaned off the pacifier there, though she still uses it at home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429380 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:34:42 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2429380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely not leave work to go get another pacifier!</p> <p>And while they clearly need to develop a better way to keep track of the pacifier so it's not getting lost all the time, I would probably also get a couple to leave at day care so that if they lose one there is still a back up available. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429371 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:32:43 +0000 PawPrints 2429371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is insane!! The only reason I expect a call from daycare is if she's puking or has fever. Can't they clean one of their own pacifiers to give her?</p> <p>We keep a few back up packs of pacifiers in LO's drawer at daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429272 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:41:46 +0000 kiddosc 2429272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do they lose it so often and never find them again? It's one room, there are only so many places a pacifier can go. I think it's ridiculous you have to replace them so often, they need a better procedure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-pacifiers#post-2429268 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:39:52 +0000 blackbird 2429268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@raspberries: The only thing I turn around for is the frantic "you forgot to pack milk/formula!" call ;) </p>