https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 14:22:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2249536 Thu, 30 Jul 2015 08:49:49 +0000 Bubbles 2249536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No probs, it was a very interesting read although ultimately not the style for me :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2249365 Thu, 30 Jul 2015 05:30:53 +0000 Orchid 2249365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: yes!!!! This is definitely the book!!! Thank you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2249349 Thu, 30 Jul 2015 01:20:10 +0000 Bubbles 2249349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it sounds like RIE - although some similarities. Maybe the Continuum Concept (I think by Jean Leidloff?) - that's based on a tribe called the Yequana (sp?). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2249285 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 20:52:05 +0000 Orchid 2249285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: @Adira: @youboots: thanks! I am familiar with those parenting approaches and indeed there are commonalities. My friend insists there is a book about a tribe that it's based on though. I may have to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248922 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 12:35:39 +0000 youboots 2248922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are describing some concepts of free range parenting and slow parenting, although I've never come across information about those hygiene habits in those schools of parenting. The homeschooling concept is called unschooling- I think it has a wiki page. I got a couple books on slow parenting on Amazon and really enjoyed them- but they are more current and not based on a tribe. The non diapering is elimination communication. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248881 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 12:00:01 +0000 Adira 2248881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it the RIE method?</p> <p><a href="https://www.rie.org/educaring/ries-basic-principles/" rel="nofollow">https://www.rie.org/educaring/ries-basic-principles/</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/12/rie-parenting-basics-9-ways-to-put-respect-into-action/" rel="nofollow">http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/12/rie-parenting-basics-9-ways-to-put-respect-into-action/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248878 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:58:55 +0000 Mamaof2 2248878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: same here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248875 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:58:10 +0000 Mamaof2 2248875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Orchid: maybe Consensual Living?</p> <p><a href="http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/parenting-philosophies/#consensual" rel="nofollow">http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/parenting-philosophies/#consensual</a></p> <p><a href="http://mommybabble.contentquake.com/2007/06/18/consensual-living/" rel="nofollow">http://mommybabble.contentquake.com/2007/06/18/consensual-living/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248866 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:53:40 +0000 mrbee 2248866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty sure that if my kids had a chance to never brush their teeth, they just never would! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248865 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:52:04 +0000 Orchid 2248865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I don't think they will. They seem like they would homeschool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248863 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:50:31 +0000 Truth Bombs 2248863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never heard of it but out of curiosity are they never planning on sending their children to school? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-that-parenting-philosophy#post-2248856 Wed, 29 Jul 2015 11:45:44 +0000 Orchid 2248856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend was describing some interesting parenting practices that some friends of hers use in their home. Apparently there's a book about the parenting style and I'd love to look into it for myself but would rather not ask her to ask her friends. I get the impression the book might be old. It sounds kinda like "Bringing up Bebe" in the sense that it's based around the author's observations of a community (maybe a tribe somewhere??).</p> <p>Anyway, it emphasizes learning through observation versus instruction. They don't instruct their kids at all, but would move them out of a situation if necessary. Kids are not made to brush their teeth, etc. I think another tenet is that the parents don't play with the kids so that they learn to entertain themselves and recognize the different positions of adults and kids. Oh and their kids never wear diapers! Somehow they know when to put the babies to pee and poop!</p> <p>Anyone familiar with what book this might be from??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060499 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:58:12 +0000 pui 2060499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Astro Bee: First off, this whole thing is just for fun and really shouldn't be taken too seriously lol. I'd say just put yourself in the scale wherever you think you fit best in your own opinion.</p> <p>Personally I think intending to breastfeed for at least a year makes you more "crunchy" than just BFing for a few months (I'm in Canada too and most of the moms I know never intended to BF for longer than 6 months).</p> <p>Also I meant this to be a scale on how crunchy/silky you are as a parent, not just in general. I recycle too, but I didn't count that towards being crunchy for this scale. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060471 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:37:32 +0000 miramira 2060471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted 5. We EBF on demand but did use bottles &amp; formula at the beginning while trying to overcome breastfeeding problems. Baby sleeps in a crib pushed up against the side of our bed and the thought of him sleeping in a room alone makes my palms sweat. I do use an ergonomic baby carrier but also a stroller. My back would break otherwise. Baby naps in our arms if he wants. He loves his pacifier. I don't care about organic food. We are baby-led not schedule-led. I make my own cleaning products. I use a menstrual cup. I refuse to buy books (libraries!). I had every intention of cloth-diapering but at the moment it just seems like way too much extra work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060458 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:29:27 +0000 Littlebit 2060458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like a 9. </p> <p>The only thing I do that's crunchy is babywear. And I still use my stroller a good bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060442 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:20:24 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2060442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted 7, but after reading through some of the answers, I think I'm more of a 9 now! </p> <p>Attachment parenting is not my style, I put disposable diapers on LO, he doesn't eat 100% organic (some things are organic, but not all), I EPed for 3 months and then switched to formula b/c breastfeeding didn't work for us, and he was in his crib after 4 weeks. I vaccinate on schedule, and have given him children's advil and tylenol for fevers and give him antibiotics for infections. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060404 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:56:44 +0000 Astro Bee 2060404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with a few other PP in that a few of the explanations that people use to describe their crunchiness/silkiness don't really seem at either end of the spectrum. </p> <p>Maybe it's because I live in Canada, and it's just expected here nowadays that you will breastfeed for several months unless there's an issue (either for mom or baby) that prevents it. Same goes for vaccinations. </p> <p>Our city also only has garbage pickup every two weeks, but recycling and compost are picked up every week. This cost-saving initiative was done IOT reduce how quickly the landfills are filling up, so most people just go with those options for convenience, whether or not they identify with environmental issues. </p> <p>Is it intent that makes you crunchy/silky or your actions regardless of intent? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/3#post-2060390 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:42:15 +0000 LuLu Mom 2060390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted an 8...however now I'm not sure why I'm not more of a 10. I use disposable diapers, I used formula (after BF didn't work out for us), I vaccinate, my daughter hated to be worn, ect. I guess I'm an 8 because I'm hoping to wear my next daughter more and we are giving BF a try again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2060240 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:19:37 +0000 ShootingStar 2060240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm about a 7?</p> <p>Most of the crunchy things I did were out of convenience. We bed shared for months because that's the only way we could get any sleep. I breastfed for 7m but then lost my supply. I tried to CD but failed. I babywear because I like it, but we're both kind of over it at 15 months and 26.5 lb. I do make my own baby food sometimes with leftover veggies. And no screen time for about a year. </p> <p>Right now with all these snow storms I'd LOVE it if the kid would sit and watch cartoons! I formula fed for 5 months and feel no guilt. We did CIO and have a kid that sleeps 12 hours a night. I love my stroller, I give Motrin for teething and pro vax all the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059942 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 20:30:08 +0000 ILoveLettie 2059942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Skadi: Not for me! Politically quite liberal and silky smooth ;) But honestly it was all about my kid. I think lots of "crunchy" things are great but they don't work for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059934 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 20:23:14 +0000 ILoveLettie 2059934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I planned to be crunchy before L was born! I was all set to be a baby wearing, homeade puree makin, ebf to at least a year, cloth diapering, mostly stay at home, totally anti-cio mama. And then life and my particular baby happened and it got real silky real fast. Cloth diaper dropout, exclusively formula fed by 4 months, vaccine loving, Johnson and Johnson no tears shampoo CIO baby is thriving though and I'm happy it worked for our family. I do try to give her healthy food but have a very everything in moderation approach and it's rarely organic! And we don't really do screentime but that's because she could care less about the tv. It's usually on as background noise but very rarely to kid's shows because she's too busy destroying our apartment. So I'm a pretty solid 9. But I have friends that are 2s! You gotta do you :)</p> <p>ETA: oh, and my plans for a med free birth went totally out the window after 2 weeks of early labor. Epi please! My only regret is waiting 12 hours of active labor to get it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059919 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 20:10:59 +0000 littlejoy 2059919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: THIS!!! "The main thing for me is, what works for our family? There are certain things that I feel are really important or healthy, and I try to go with, what I think, the best option is. I don't really care if it falls on the crunchy or silky scale."</p> <p>I assume most parents don't go around thinking, "Wait, can I do x,y,z and still be silky/crunchy?" ... I'm sure some people do, but I also think most people are a mixed bag, and just do what fits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059844 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 18:53:05 +0000 Ifyoulikepinacoladas 2059844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More silk than crunch. Probably a solid 7-8.<br /> On the silky side I: Think pain relief and c-sections are a-ok during birth, vaccinate on schedule and am 150% behind vaccines in general, use disposables, have no problem whatsoever with age appropriate screen time on TVs and iPads, trust western medicine and science and use pharmaceuticals when directed to (although I believe not all providers are created equal, and am fussy with who I will see and believe in being a self-advocate), don't really buy into avoiding gender stereotypes apart from reinforcing that it's ok for boys and girls to like and do stuff that 'isn't marketed for them', believe in sleep training and routines, don't co-sleep, am fine with formula feeding, will let my child eat McDonalds, and will smack as a last resort.<br /> On the crunchy side I: Live a clean lifestyle and incorporate supplements and health foods into my diet, care about recycling, avoid certain ingredients and irritants in body care and cleaning products and buy environmentally friendly products whenever it is practical to do so, love baby-wearing (more for convenience) and believe in play-based learning.</p> <p>So many ways to raise wonderful children! :happy: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059805 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 18:06:48 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2059805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said 7. I BF exclusively til about 6.5 months, but had NO problem supplementing then, and now at 11 months am weaning on my schdule and not his. I tried cloth, BLW and making my own baby food, and none of it worked for me. We sleep trained at 3.5 months and then again at 6.5 months and it was the best thing that ever happened to all of us. I baby wear (with a Bjorn, which I believe is one step above poisoning your baby to babywearers) when convenient but use the stroller way more. The TV is on all the time. I feed my son processed sugary crap if it gets one extra mouthful of food into his mouth. I definitely follow a detachment-parenting style. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059749 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 16:24:55 +0000 Synchronicity 2059749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Toad: Gotcha. I'm sure a lot of these factors vary a lot by region. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059717 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 15:50:29 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2059717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Synchronicity: It's a regional thing. I don't think many did it in the south where I lived. You actually have to take stuff to the recycle place, but the trash man comes to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059693 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 15:17:57 +0000 mrscobee 2059693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: haha love it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059692 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 15:15:59 +0000 Synchronicity 2059692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I guess so! I just think that saying recycling is crunchy is a bit of a stretch... It's just the norm around here, everyone does it. Maybe it's a location thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059687 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 15:07:11 +0000 silver1 2059687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before lo arrived I had plans to make my own baby food, cloth diaper, ec, baby wear which all fell by the way side. I think I'm a 5 or 6 now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-for-fun-where-do-you-fall-on-the-crunchy-to-silky-scale/page/2#post-2059675 Sun, 08 Feb 2015 14:51:46 +0000 Cherrybee 2059675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Skadi: I don't think so, personally. I'm a silky 10 on the crunch scale but I'm super liberal politically. </p> <p>I recycle, too. All those hundreds of cardboard formula boxes.... recycled! </p>