https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 18:38:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20924 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 09:09:20 +0000 tejbee 20924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH told me he really wanted to do this, saying, "it will be one of the most exciting surprises!" I wasn't so sure about it at first, but I'm definitely on board with him now. We are Team Green(or yellow) over here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20879 Wed, 23 Nov 2011 03:48:36 +0000 SugarplumsMom 20879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Team green here as well. I like baby green, yellow, browns, grays, and unisex clothing. But there are times when I see a cute girl outfit that I love! The kind that's not so frilly but just girly enough that it's definitely screams girl. </p> <p>I hope to find out the gender, it'll make things easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20753 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 22:08:26 +0000 Mrs. D 20753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green initially because we weren't going to be ABLE to find out, but then we paid for a 3D scan and took advantage of the opportunity to find out.</p> <p>We wanted to because its easier, its terribly hard to buy ANY baby clothes here that are suitable for team green, its all pink or blue. Knowing means people know what to buy us.</p> <p>Plus since we're cloth diapering, it will be easier to buy the covers, and since most are coloured, its nice to know we can buy more than white, yellow and green ones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20742 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 21:31:29 +0000 PitBulLover 20742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We arent even close to TTC but we will be team green all the way! I don't like pink and blue either (I like green &amp; yellow) and I know that when you go green people are less likely to get you just baby clothes for your shower and more likely to get you stuff you actually need. My SIL was team green and she got way more registry stuff than clothes and was happy about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20646 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:39:43 +0000 HabesBabe 20646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys are totally swaying me to be on Team Green now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20644 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:33:53 +0000 MsMini 20644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am team green, I have never wanted to know before birth. I have been to lots of deliveries as an NICU nurse, and there is a totally different vibe in the deliveries where the parents don't know the gender yet, there is a whole different level of anticipation, and I would hate to miss out on it.</p> <p>Also, we really don't care what gender we are having, so that isn't a factor. I also love more neutral clothes (black, brown, grey, ivory) so I am excited to pick out those. I think that even if we knew the gender, it wouldn't change how we decorate the room, or the items we register for, because we would want to be able to use them for another child.</p> <p>I have only gotten negative feedback from 1 or 2 people. Most people are really supportive and excited that we aren't finding out until the birth.</p> <p>I haven't had a shower yet (because I am only 16 weeks), so I can't say anything about the gift situation. That is just a bonus, because even if we get a huge pile of gender neutral clothes, I know that this is just the right choice for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20642 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:31:34 +0000 cyneswith 20642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to know for the name. I also like flowers/butterflies, and dinosaurs/pirates, and I can't wait to stock up on dinos or butterflies. Also, my husband and I are planners - we already know that a boy's room would be island themed and a girl's room would be forest/garden themed. My husband wants murals in their rooms, and I can't do the fumes while pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20635 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:26:26 +0000 runsyellowlites 20635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm SO glad we're team green! It is hard at times, like when all of my prego friends are finding out, but I'm really excited about not knowing.</p> <p>How many times do you get a chance like that to fully experience the birth and meeting of your baby?</p> <p>Plus with us having a home birth this go round I was really gung ho about going all out with it.</p> <p>SIL did kinds give us grief about it, but otherwise everyone has been really on board.</p> <p>My only concern is accidentally finding out at our u/s.... I REALLY don't want to know. =/</p> <p>I've always picked out names for both sexes anyways because there are those few times that gender prediction is wrong.... my sister was "supposed" to be a boy..... you can only imagine the confusion when my mom WOKE UP from her cesarean to "want to meet your baby girl?...." lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20630 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:17:25 +0000 sugar 20630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted to be able to connect with the baby more. Having a pronoun really helped. It also really helped with the naming decision, which we really struggled with. Yes, we now have a ton of pink, and I am not a pink girl- but for some reason I still secretly love it. And I know no matter what- her entry into this world will be magical and special!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20578 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:19:34 +0000 tequiero21 20578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we found out. my husband would have loved to be on team green but no way. i told him i could find out and he could be surprised but he wouldn't have that. i definitely wanted to be prepared. even knowing, i'm not into pinks and blues (made my babies red and gray hats). i want names picked out. etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20554 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:58:49 +0000 MsMamaBear 20554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: This is a bit strange for those who hate to lose control, LOL, but we decided: a girl-I name her, boy- he named him. :) I ended up naming Baby Bear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20456 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:07:22 +0000 winniebee 20456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny how opinionated family members are about this. Initially we thought we would be team green and ALL of my family was annoyed by this. We are leaning towards finding out for a few reasons:</p> <p>- My DH is convinced it is a boy. What if it's not?<br /> - I'm a planner.<br /> - My family members will get us baby clothes for our shower, regardless of whether we know the gender. We'll just get a lot of yellow and green if we do not know.<br /> - We're going to get gender neutral gear anyways. The only stuff that we would not get gender neutral would be baby clothes and maybe bedding and curtains. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20448 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:05:35 +0000 mediagirl 20448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, we don't NEED to know for the nursery/clothing. Our theme is going to be the sea, so it's pretty neutral and there is a lot of blue and green included. We WANT to know so we can figure out a darn name already! We won't have to keep fussing about one or the other, we can concentrate on one gender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20446 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:02:51 +0000 heffalump 20446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pro: If you get gender neutral stuff now you won't have to worry about buying all new stuff when you have another baby. I'm worried that if we have a boy next it's going to hurt our bank account!</p> <p>Con: You can't personalize anything before the baby comes. We named our baby girl Rose, and naturally her room is full of Rose's. People went crazy giving us personalized gifts, it was awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20394 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 14:10:45 +0000 MsMamaBear 20394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ginger: You'll be happy either way once that sweet baby gets here. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20389 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 14:06:38 +0000 ginger 20389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It never even crossed my mind about the usefulness of gifts at a baby shower. Pre-TTC thoughts, I was definitely guilty of buying the mom-to-be lots and lots of pink frilly clothes (or hip little boy clothes) that she probably never even had the chance to use. </p> <p>@junebugmama: that's been a concern of mine as well; I'm hoping for a particular gender, and maybe it's better to find out so that I'm not disappointed if it's not. Then again, I'm half-inclined to think that I'll be thrilled either way, despite my hopes... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20347 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:11:50 +0000 MsMamaBear 20347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@themcmom: I know. I had family members ask everytime they saw me if we had changed our minds.LOL It was kinda funny! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20346 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:11:40 +0000 MH.Abroad 20346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we decide to find out, we won't tell anyone that we know. We'll just pretend to be Team Green, unless we actually are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20337 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:06:33 +0000 Lozza 20337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbells I think that's what we might do for our next one. Only I think we'd also probably lie and tell people that we didn't know either so nobody would try to wheedle it out of us or get offended that we weren't telling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20324 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:57:10 +0000 themcmom 20324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Yeah, I was surprised by the people who were bothered that they didn't know what gender our baby was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20307 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:40:42 +0000 Mrsbells 20307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we are finding out the gender but plan on keeping it between jus the two of us, until the baby is born. I really dont want to be bombared with all blue or all pink baby items </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20303 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:37:21 +0000 Lozza 20303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt like finding out the gender helped me to feel like the pregnancy was a lot more real and concrete.<br /> We'd lost our first pregnancy, and with the second one, I kind of never really wanted to get excited or think/talk about it very much during the first couple trimesters- I just really felt kind of removed from the whole process (other than the fact that I felt like I had the flu and the world's worst hangover rolled into one all day long).<br /> For some reason, getting to use a gendered pronoun ("he" instead of "it" all the time) made a big difference to me psychologically in starting to bond with the baby and get excited about him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20300 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:36:40 +0000 MsMamaBear 20300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were Team Green. His idea, but I fell in love with it because it bothered people.LOL Baby Bear turned out to be a girl. :)</p> <p>Pro- You get more useful gifts at the baby shower, not a mountain of clothes in pink or blue. (I HATE pink.) YouWILL get diapers. We cloth diaper, but daycare doesn't take them (SO old school,LOL) so those disposables and wipes go to daycare with her. I get to redecorate her room later. I decorated it in neutral, so when she is 2, I'll switch it up, which won't be too pricey since her wall decorations are stick ons and we didn't paint. :)</p> <p>Cons- If you can't survive with planning a room in neutral, you'll have problems. If you NEED to buy things specific to gender, you'll have a problem.LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20297 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:35:24 +0000 heffalump 20297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love all things girly and pink, so I had to find out. It wasn't an option, it was a must. If I had a girl and didn't have pink everywhere, there was going to be a problem. </p> <p>So now that we have our little girl, who's room and wardrobe is full of pink, ruffles, and all things girly, I've agreed to go team green when we have baby #2. My hubby wants to, he wanted to for baby #1 but let me have my way. I figure next time around we already have all the pink things if we need it, so I'm not going to miss out, and it will be an awesome surprise when the baby comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20282 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:22:06 +0000 HabesBabe 20282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I can wait at all, but hubs is leaning towards waiting, mostly because he thinks it'll be the best surprise we'll ever have in our lives. BUTTTT I like buying stuff and planning, so I would want to know immediately for that reason (and that reason only). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20241 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 11:35:47 +0000 themcmom 20241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Team Green here. It was really hard not knowing at some points, but really, I'd love Wombat boy or girl, so really gender didn't matter. </p> <p>Now, I will admit that I was totally scared of having a girl (poor relationship with my mom), which is what Wombat turned out to be. Had I known we were having a girl, I think I would've been scared even more than I already was. Not knowing was kind of nice because I found out when my husband told me. Was I upset in the slightest when I found out I had a daughter? Not at all. She's absolutely perfect and I'd never trade her.</p> <p>Plus, Team Green means gender neutral until everyone started buying her pink, which started happening less than 3 hours after her birth; I think it would've happened sooner if she'd been born later in the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20214 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 11:02:32 +0000 prettylizy 20214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There were a couple of things at play for us. </p> <p>Pro: if it's your first/you are having a shower, Team Green gifts seem to be more of the usefull stuff as opposed to mountains of clothes.</p> <p>Con: People say it's harder to buy for us when they don't know what we're having</p> <p>Pro: The entire pregnancy is sort of driven by me, and DH is just a passenger. The moment right after we have the baby, and he gets to walk into the waiting room with our new baby and tell our family 'It's a ___' is a pretty special moment for a first time daddy. I really wanted him to have that</p> <p>Pro: If I knew ahead of time I was having a girl, there would be soooooo many pink firlly things in my life it would be ridiculous! Every time I see a tutu or a hair flower, I want to buy it... I'd have no self control at all!!!</p> <p>Con: There really isn't that much gender neutral clothing out there right now.... it seems that if we do end up with a little girl, she'll be in a lot fo blue and green for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20205 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:55:23 +0000 L2sweetpea 20205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was something my husband was adamant about not knowing gender, so we were team green. I totally did not think I could do it, but it was a lot easier that I had thought. With the exception of the last few weeks I got very anxious to learn what "it" was.<br /> It was kind of fun to look at all the old wives tales and take guesses about what you thought it would be. Interesting to hear everyone's guesses in regards to gender. Also I enjoyed registering for all gender neutral "large" items...that way for our 2nd we won't have to put a boy in all girls items or visa versa. I would have been totally unable to register for gender neutral large stuff had I known gender (I think). I think another big positive is I find when you know the gender people always want to buy you clothing, but you need so much other stuff. I found at my shower I got very few outfits, and almost everything was purchased off my registry. It was so great knowing we had no big ticket items left to purchase. I definitely agree that there aren't as many gender neutral clothes out there, and you do get duplicates. I also have to say having gender neutral clothing I found myself buying lots of headbands after DD was born because she would look "boyish" in some of the brown outfits we got her. Honestly, I'm glad we did it this way; however, for our 2nd I think we are going to find out gender just to have the opportunity to experience it both ways.<br /> It was also really an experience in the delivery room when my hubby got to tell me it was a girl! It was extra special to hear it from him rather than my doctor or sonographer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20192 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:48:08 +0000 looch 20192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't find out. For us, it was more important to have the surprise in the delivery room because life doesn't have enough of these kinds of happy surprises.</p> <p>Pros: we didn't buy a lot ahead of time, especially clothing that has a short time span to be used, we had fun selecting both boy and girl names, we liked to debate about if we thought it was a boy or a girl ( I called LO "Frances/Francis" in utero because it sounds gender neutral).</p> <p>Cons: people want to buy you gifts, but there's not that much gender neutral stuff out there, so we got lots of dupes that we had to exchange </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pros-and-cons-of-team-green#post-20186 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:46:32 +0000 junebugmama 20186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were both leaning towards wanting a particular gender. We had both thought we would wait, but could you imagine if at the birth we felt some form of disappointment. No way! So we decided we would find out now, just in case. </p>