https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 22:47:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820737 Mon, 07 May 2018 09:26:43 +0000 irene 2820737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So interesting to read all of this!</p> <p>Everyone: Do you feel like your version of reality now is a better one compared to the possible others?</p> <p>@Mama Bird: Wow, how come one of your versions would be dead? lol. You have many alternates ;-)</p> <p>@newlypregnantlady: Hugs...!</p> <p>@Ajsmommy: Awwww.... Hugs...<br /> I feel like this quite strongly all the time too. So I do believe there is a version somewhere. I hope you find peace with where you are now. Hugs and kisses :heart: </p> <p>@nana87: Good for you :happy: </p> <p>@DesertDreams88: Wow you went to Oxford!? Pardon my ignorance but what is SS? Do you think you are in a better scenario now compared to being a college professor / phD in the alternate universe?</p> <p> @808love: Fun to think about right? i hope :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820649 Sun, 06 May 2018 13:56:53 +0000 808love 2820649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Alternate lives --never thought of this until now<br /> 1. Married to ex b.f. and divorced him or wealthy and insecure or possibly but least likely, happily married but really not bc I can't even imagine living life without DD<br /> 2. Never married and single. Probably lonely or anxious, but lots of adventures and time with friends. Possibly running/ owning my own side business and free lance writing/photography.<br /> 3. With DH and living somewhere else (commuter lifestyle, closer to extended family, more time on road--sounds most appealing to me as a possible future)<br /> 4. With DH and several kids (crazy tired or life revolving around kids&lt;does anyway-but moreso&gt;- lose myself- not for me) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820495 Fri, 04 May 2018 21:36:55 +0000 DesertDreams88 2820495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a 3.9 GPA through 7 years of higher education (BA, additional teaching certificate, MA). During university time, I double-majored and double-minored, and studied abroad at Oxford earning a 4.0 GPA there. </p> <p>So, that being said, in an alternate world I am a history professor or PhD or doing something prestigious in academia. </p> <p>Instead, right now I'm an 8th grade SS teacher to underprivileged students who have little background in SS and in a system that doesn't care about SS education. </p> <p>Other alternate realities: Still struggling with infertility. Instead, thankfully, I found a helpful doctor that diagnosed my PCOS and meds worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820443 Fri, 04 May 2018 18:06:55 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2820443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to think about this more when I was with my ex because we met by chance. If I went to the university of my choice instead of staying in my hometown, I would have never met my ex, and my life would've been very different. </p> <p>I'd be more into fighting causes and graduated in some kind of -ology. I'd probably still be concerned about appearances and preoccupied with social functions. I never would have left California, except for vacations. My kids would go to private school and I'd be married to a guy within my culture or similar enough. I'd probably be one of those people that write inspirational messages on IG referring to my own life 😂</p> <p>Another version of myself would have been if I didn't contact my now DH before I left for Asia. I would have stayed in Asia, either single and exploring the world, or in a relationship, but with no kids. I don't think I'd be happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820409 Fri, 04 May 2018 14:10:03 +0000 nana87 2820409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I graduated from college, I made the decision to move to a new city, where I didn't know anybody, for a really good job. I left my then-boyfriend, of only 3 months or so, as well as all my friends, for a total unknown. I was devastated at first, but it was the best decision I ever made: I ended up meeting dh 2 weeks later, and that job led me to my entire career. So, I do think about that a lot! The parallel-universe me who chose to stay probably got married too young to that boyfriend, because he was extremely nice and crazy about me, and I didn't know yet what real love or deep attraction felt like yet, and I would have settled with him. I wouldn't have pursued my career passions because I didn't know what they were yet, though I probably would have eventually gone to law school instead of getting my phd because that's where I thought I was heading. So in both love and work, I think I would have made it work but felt a little lost/unfulfilled. I would have remained very, very close to my college friends though, and maybe even lived with them. That would have been a ton of fun! Oh, but then I think of all the friends I made from my new work and grad school who I never would have met and that's sad... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820388 Fri, 04 May 2018 12:44:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2820388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like this ALL the time. </p> <p>My highschool/college bf passed away when we were 23 and I honestly feel like there's a version of me that still lived that life we had planned and sometimes I feel like my current real life is the twilight zone, like I don't recognize myself!!</p> <p>So one version of me married my bf when we were 24, we had 2 kids, we moved back to our home town and I stayed at home/got a part time job at the school so I could spend time with my family and kids. My bf became the gym teacher and coached all the boys sports at our school. We live in a small house with lots of land.</p> <p>Then there's single, do what I want, travel, party, date relentlessly version who never got over loss and is very broken/sad under it all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820369 Fri, 04 May 2018 12:13:34 +0000 psw27 2820369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have 2 - one that lives in Colorado and went to law school there and probably is outside a lot more and is really happy and earthy. The other is a lawyer who really really focused on her career and has a lot of power and probably no kids yet. </p> <p>I refuse to imagine the married my college boyfriend one. Cause he's a douche. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820368 Fri, 04 May 2018 12:11:58 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2820368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn’t a choice, but my mother was very close to dying from complications from meningitis and I think a lot about how different my life would be had she died.</p> <p>I would probably be working full time (I delayed my career to be a caregiver), maybe have a different number of children. And maybe living overseas (we were in Korea when she got sick).</p> <p>Her being the sick also allowed me to find forgiveness for her mental instability and addiction. I came to terms with my whole childhood while caring for her! Idk if I would have that kind of closure had she died.</p> <p>On the other hand I think my father would be in better health because he would only have to take care of himself. Plus I’d be way less worried about his retirement and finances (his medical debt is insane). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820366 Fri, 04 May 2018 12:09:19 +0000 Mama Bird 2820366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say one of them (me's? :silly: ) would be living in another country, but also with DH... apparently we both considered moving over there a few years before we met. One of them might be single, living in a tiny little town. One might be living in my old college town, married to this guy who still lives up there (the idea horrifies me now!), probably with a totally different job. One (the one who never had a dog) might be dead. One might be living like one of my friends, traveling the world, never staying anywhere more than a few months. One might be in the Air Force, possibly training to be an astronaut :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820354 Fri, 04 May 2018 11:47:14 +0000 peachykeen 2820354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Traveling the world (mostly less developed countries) for work but probably not as settled with kids as I am now. Finding DH and adjusting my lifestyle to be with him was the biggest factor in my current trajectory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820350 Fri, 04 May 2018 11:45:02 +0000 codeitall 2820350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I'd married my college boyfriend, I'd still be here but probably with just one child, a nanny, and a house. He rose in the ranks pretty quick in the tech space.</p> <p>If I hadn't gotten married, I'd likely be living the urban life in a metro with funky roommates. Probably still working as a web developer. I definitely would have left my last workplace earlier since I wouldn't have needed tenure for maternity leave.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820345 Fri, 04 May 2018 11:36:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2820345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hah this is fun! If I had stayed with and married my college boyfriend, I prob would've had kids earlier, maybe I would've had more kids? I'd still see myself living where I am to be close to my family.</p> <p>If I never met my husband, who knows what I'd be doing.... Probably being a dog lady haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820339 Fri, 04 May 2018 11:22:35 +0000 travellingbee 2820339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely childless and probably living somewhere like Portland or Northern California. And maybe I am a lawyer? And I get to travel a lot for fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-parallel-universe-exists-what-are-the-other-versions-of-yourselves-be-doing#post-2820335 Fri, 04 May 2018 11:19:13 +0000 irene 2820335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quantum Physics / parallel universe / rhetorical question / friday silliness talk :grin: :</p> <p>They say that when you make a choice, a version of parallel universe is created. While you lead your life in this existing universe based on the choice you made, there was another version that got created, reflecting if you made a choice in the different direction. </p> <p>Where will the other versions of yourself be, and what will they be doing, in the other parallel universes that was created? :grin: Note that it is not any wild dream you have (eg I'd be an astronaut lol), but something that you would have been if you haven't made a certain life-changing decision.</p> <p>For me, currently I am a WAHM in Atlanta GA. Several times in my life I came close to making a choice to study in NYC, or move and get a job in NYC. I feel that a version of me is probably living and working in NYC. I doubt I would have kids because it is so expensive there. I always have this crazy familiarity when I see pictures or videos of NYC subways, or when I go to NYC I feel like I have lived there or I am coming home, I don't know why. </p> <p>Then, there would have probably been another version that I am in this same setting as of right now, except I am childless. I went through some struggles to get pregnant. When I was pregnant with DS, the GYN couldn't find the sac at ultrasound, and was convinced I would miscarry. I almost made an appt for D&amp;C because DH was traveling a lot back then, and I'd rather have everything scheduled so I knew I woudn't be alone when I miscarried. I waited and GYN was wrong. I always wonder what would happen if I have gone ahead with the D&amp;C. It was a very close choice that I almost made.</p> <p>How about you? </p>