https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 14:58:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-630118 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:32:18 +0000 Modern Daisy 630118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has asked me if it was planned yet, but someone asked my DH. I'm not really showing yet so I anticipate the rude questions and comments will start coming once I pop out a little more.</p> <p>So far the worst thing I've gotten is from a superior at work. When I announced she was nothing but happy and excited for me, but made a comment that she wasn't suprised because it made her suspicious that I was out for surgery early last year. Umm.. I told you what the surgery was for and it had nothing to do with getting pregnant. It sounds like she thinks I was lying or something which I think was rude to insinuate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608991 Sun, 03 Mar 2013 08:21:36 +0000 immabeetoo 608991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was planned. Who asks that! We're married and want kids - even if it wasn't why would we tell you?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608981 Sun, 03 Mar 2013 08:04:01 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 608981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only 14+ weeks along Im hardly showing. I had to be put on light duty the second we found out because I work in a jail and cant risk having to get physical with an inmate. A coworker , young 20 something who has obviously never been around a pregnant woman from early in their pregnancy kept "joking" that I am obviously faking to get out of doing anything because Im not showing yet at all... oh and that I was just faking throwing up because normal pregnant women never puke that much or often...</p> <p>Now I can't stop thinking, "Why am I not growing???" Great. Just what I needed. One more thing to stress about! Jerk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608809 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:46:33 +0000 andrea86 608809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got all kinds of nice questions/comments when I was pregnant with my twins:</p> <p>1. Are you sure there are only two? I mean another could be hiding and it would be hard to see in an ultrasound.<br /> Yes! After MULTIPLE ultrasounds I'm sure we've found them all! :)</p> <p>2. Are you nervous? Having twins has got to be hard. I'm glad its you and not me.<br /> Yes, of course I'm nervous, but honestly I'm glad its me and not you too! </p> <p>3. Are they natural?<br /> Nope, I think they might be aliens. If you are asking if we used IVF, no we did not and I don't see why it matters.</p> <p>4. What? You didn't have a C-section? I thought you HAD to with twins.<br /> Apparently you dont, because I remember their delivery quite vividly!</p> <p>I do think a lot of times people are just curious about pregnancy. Its such an interesting and fascinating faze of life, they just need to learn how to be respectful about the questions they ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608792 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:32:17 +0000 Springtime 608792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone asked me "do you feel gross?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608787 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:25:50 +0000 meganmp 608787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People ALWAYS asked if twins run in my family, and I know its because they want to know how they were conceived. I've taken to simply saying, "Nope! They're IVF kids!" People tend to shut up at my bluntness. I have to say, at this point, I prefer it if people just ask if we used IVF. Most people also asked how I delivered them, and seem shocked when they find out it wasn't a c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608765 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:05:50 +0000 matador84 608765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. are you having twins? are you sure there aren't two in there?<br /> 2. are you excited?<br /> 3. are you breastfeeding?<br /> 4. are you having a natural birth?<br /> 5. are you having an epidural?</p> <p>mostly from people i don't know! so annoying. um are you excited? i would say not really to some people just for laughs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608763 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:03:22 +0000 Arden 608763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mummystar: Oh my gosh I would have punched her. Seriously. "Morning" sickness sucks, and she's an idiot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608759 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 23:01:36 +0000 MrsStar 608759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got asked if I was faking morning sickness. According to this person (who had never held a baby in her life or ever been around a pregnant person and was apparently an expert) morning sickness shouldn't last from week 6 til week 17 and it shouldn't mean throwing up everyday. Um, ok? Oh and since it was "morning" sickness, it shouldn't last all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608748 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 22:55:19 +0000 stargal 608748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: omg I got that too after I would tell people " nope only one baby in there" they would always go "omg but your huggggge." Literally scream it.... Thanks I haven't noticed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608733 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 22:45:56 +0000 ladyfingers 608733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely the twins question. One girl asked if it was twins and when I said no she was like wow, but you're really big for being sux months along, right? Then tried to tell me it was a compliment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608683 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 21:56:16 +0000 lomom 608683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: yeah definitely but I think there are higher instances of identical twins without the use of fertility drugs since some fertility drugs result in the releasing of multiple eggs... That's kind of where my thought process was with whether or not the question was rude/pertained to using fertility drugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608676 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 21:52:39 +0000 Bookish 608676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't had *too* many so far, but I'm getting really tired of people loudly asking me if I will breastfeed or what kind of childbirth I want while I'm at work at my desk. HELLO, I'm at work, I really don't want to discuss my boobs or how my ladybits will be treated with you! Agh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608656 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 21:34:39 +0000 Mrs. Pen 608656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: omg wtf!!! that's awful!!</p> <p>@septemberlove: but can you have either naturally anyhow?</p> <p>I think the worst was just the twins comment... most was pretty harmless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608626 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 21:02:09 +0000 sunshineandsushi 608626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I wouldn't be offended by that question! I did have someone ask us the other day if our babies were twins. Ummm... no. They just happen to be babies the same age? Haha :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608622 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:59:34 +0000 lomom 608622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunshineandsushi: I always want to ask if twins are identical or fraternal when I see a twin mommy but I usually don't because I don't want them to think I'm trying to figure out if they used fertility drugs. I just love the idea of twins, especially identical! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608602 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:37:54 +0000 sunshineandsushi 608602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was asked if we conceived our twins from fertility treatments. I wasn't too offended, it was asked by a clueless guy friend. I let him know he shouldn't go around asking pregnant women that question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608599 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:36:49 +0000 MrsRcCar 608599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: people assume that just because we are young that we aren't ready.<br /> @katiew92081: People just think everything is ok to ask anything of pregnant women. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608594 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:32:50 +0000 PrincessBaby 608594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People always asked if we were trying...So weird!!! That's like asking "Were you intentionally having sex, when you ovulated, or just banging with wild abandonment?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608593 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:32:40 +0000 Dandelion 608593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed by people who ask how I'm planning on giving birth. Why does that even matter to them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608582 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 20:22:27 +0000 lomom 608582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get the was it planned question constantly. I hate hate hate it. </p> <p>I'm 22 yes, but I'm also married, a CPA and have been for 2 years and own a large home. If I were unmarried, lacked a stable source of income, and lived in a tiny apartment with a couple of roommates or something, then I could almost understand why someone would ask. But everyone who has asked knows me, knows DH and I have been together nearly 5 years and married almost 2 and that DH is 11 years older than me. Why on earth would anyone wonder? What's even more irritating is that it comes from the same annoying people who have been on my case for 2 years to start having kids. </p> <p>I'm thoroughly convinced that you. Just. Can't. Win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608542 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 19:22:36 +0000 wheres_c 608542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I kept getting the "was it planned" question as well.<br /> as well as "does this mean you will be getting married before the baby"?<br /> I have enough things to worry about besides planning a wedding where Id be huge and unable to drink. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608440 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 17:48:54 +0000 Cherrybee 608440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been asked twice so far if the pregnancy was planned - which I know is quite common but it still shocked me when it happened!! I was also asked (by my childfree-by-choice friend who hates babies and has a "phobia" of pregnant women apparently) if I had been pressured into it by my DH and if I was really sure I wanted a baby. Erm.....! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608415 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 17:23:00 +0000 Sweet T 608415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I got the twins thing a lot. It was so annoying! I remember going to dinner on my due date and some girl asked me when I was due and if it was twins. I was so fed up with it! I also had several strangers come up to me and ask me when I was due and proceed to tell me that I wouldn't make it to my due date. Umm, thanks for that assessment. I'll be sure to let you know how it all works out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608406 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 17:12:40 +0000 MrsRcCar 608406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: when it comes to timing, it isn't like you can control it. People use to ask me if we were ready for DS to be here and I always replied ready or not he is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608362 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 16:45:20 +0000 autumnlove 608362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was something about timing between LOs....isn't it too soon? Won't your uterus burst? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608348 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 16:39:51 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 608348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got the twins thing a lot, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608335 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 16:33:47 +0000 MrsRcCar 608335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: It isn't a question I would have ever dreamed someone would ask. I told DH about it and he laughed. She was some young party girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608333 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 16:33:37 +0000 Arden 608333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: I get the twin thing constantly, and I'm not that big either. People are idiots. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-worst-question-to-be-asked#post-608332 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 16:31:57 +0000 oliviaoblivia 608332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stargal: I got the twins thing all the time! It was bad enough when it was strangers on the street, but then I got it from a L&amp;D nurse. STFU people! </p>