https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 16:41:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914806 Fri, 01 May 2020 09:58:31 +0000 foodiebee 2914806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used Taking Cara Babies and I recommend it. Having the rules and framework to follow helped us immensely, because otherwise we were just flying blind and making it up as we went, and we weren't consistent. </p> <p>Napping still took us longer to master, but I agree with @MrsSRS that if she misses one nap, you need to try again in 30-45 minutes. Don't just let her go for the rest of the day without one or you'll mess up night sleep too.</p> <p>ETA The key for us is wake windows, not sleepy signals, as our LO won't show signals but will go down easy if we follow the wake window. If we wait until he acts sleepy, it's too late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914801 Fri, 01 May 2020 09:09:10 +0000 BadgerMom 2914801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: If you need some rules/guidelines to follow so you know you're doing what you can (I sure know I do in these situations), I agree with previous posters in that I've heard great things about Taking Cara Babies. My personal favorite sleep gurus were babysleepscience.com they're actually sleep professionals with actual medical/scientific credentials behind their name. Good luck! These phases are so hard and certainly compounded with everything else going on right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914782 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 19:30:52 +0000 MrsSRS 2914782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Or maybe a Magic Merlin suit? That might discourage the playing and toe grabbing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914781 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 19:29:49 +0000 MrsSRS 2914781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: once she misses a nap have you tried shortening her wake time to 45 minutes and then doing the nap routine again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914780 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 19:19:46 +0000 karenbme 2914780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BadgerMom: You’re probably right. We don’t have a video monitor, but the grunting and babbling is enough to tell us with just audio that she’s not sleeping. But once she’s missed a nap she turns into a cranky baby beast, which makes the next nap impossible and it escalates from there. I’m really looking for a way to feel like we’re making progress in stead of having open ended sleep problems that feel like they get worse the more we try to fix them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914777 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 17:40:18 +0000 MrsSRS 2914777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BadgerMom: this is VERY good advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914747 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 08:34:29 +0000 BadgerMom 2914747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I follow the "you can't make them sleep" all you can do is provide the correct lead up and environment for them to sleep. I think your experience is an example of when the video monitors don't do us any favors. In the "old days" our moms would have assumed if we were quiet we were asleep, and I think there is merit to that idea. It gave us as babies a chance to work through these phases on our own.<br /> I think if you've done all the lead up and environment "right" then you just leave her. She will learn to fall asleep on her own and since shes not crying it's not even that painful for you. Turn off the video portion of the monitor, shes safe and happy. I would STRONGLY suggest doing this at night at the very least since bringing her into your bed is not going to do either of you any favors in the long run and will probably prolong the whole process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914745 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 07:20:49 +0000 karenbme 2914745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oldschooolmama: Thanks for the recommendation. A couple friends did taking Cara babies and recommended as well.</p> <p>@caitcat: I didn’t realize there was a kindle app. Thanks!</p> <p>@MrsSRS: I worry about extinction for my daughter because she’s pretty mellow a lot of the time and if we just put her in the crib she’ll go from sleepy to play time quickly and just lays there playing with her toes and babbling. Her bad naps spilled over to night sleep last night and we tried to leave her in her crib and shush occasionally, but she was awake playing from her first wake up at ~9 until I brought her into bed with us at 1am (I know, bad, but that’s the first time in months and we all needed to sleep). She wasn’t crying, just laying there wiggling around, talking, and playing with her sleep sack. She napped really poorly yesterday, too, so I don’t think the issue is that she’s not tired, but she doesn’t know how to fall asleep yet and is an easy going baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914737 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 20:11:22 +0000 MrsSRS 2914737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to fix it fast can you do sleep training extinction method using a two hour awake window?</p> <p>Or:<br /> <a href="https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/baby-sleep-wake-time-formula/" rel="nofollow">https://www.babysleepsite.com/schedules/baby-sleep-wake-time-formula/</a></p> <p>Or:<br /> <a href="https://takingcarababies.com/nap-schedules/" rel="nofollow">https://takingcarababies.com/nap-schedules/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914728 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 17:29:21 +0000 caitcat 2914728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you download a kindle version of a book, if there's one in particular you'd wanted and just can't get quickly enough? I downloaded a ton of sleep (and later "strong willed toddler") books to a kindle app on my phone in desperation. I find it easier to read on my kindle, but the phone app worked out okay in a pinch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914727 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 17:22:58 +0000 oldschooolmama 2914727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't but I have had a lot of success with Taking Cara Babies. Highly recommend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-baby-sleep-site#post-2914713 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 14:29:08 +0000 karenbme 2914713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anyone used the resources from the baby sleep site? DD is 6 mo and has decided to stop napping entirely and with both of us WFH with no help DH and I need to do something fast. Our local bookstore doesn’t have any nap books in stock and amazon is saying it’ll take a week to get us something, so the idea of a download sounds great, but I also don’t really trust a random website. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651962 Mon, 14 Nov 2016 07:02:33 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2651962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my ob only takes high risk patients now. my first experience at ny presbyterian was awful (the nurse, randomly a ton of women giving birth at the same time, etc.). my second experience was incredible. it's an amazing hospital overall if you do give birth there with a nicu. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651896 Sun, 13 Nov 2016 21:04:37 +0000 Tidybee 2651896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used NYU Midtown Ob/Gyn. I saw Dr. Benedetto throughout my struggle to get pregnant with DD1. I. LOVED. HER. She and her husband run the practice. She's Italian and is very no nonsense and straight to the point. But she has a heart of gold, coming in just to see me in the hospital as Hurricane Sandy was bearing down on NYC and held my little girl for a good 15 min, just snuggling her. Once we moved away and i had a number of miscarriages trying for DD2, I called her several times just to ask her advice, even though I wasn't her patient any more. Her one fault is that she swore she'd deliver me but then she didn't. She saw me on Thursday and was convinced I wouldn't be delivering by my due date 3 days later so she was spending the weekend with her daughter because of the hurricane when I went into labor. I had another doctor in her practice, Dr. Cheon who was equally as fantastic and guided me through my labor and delivery with an amazing bed side manner. I wish I could still be at that practice.<br /> No complaints about NYU - I mean, we just spent the night in the dark and had to be evacuated...no big deal hahah. But they handled it beautifully and professionally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651879 Sun, 13 Nov 2016 20:39:57 +0000 Beehive 2651879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my OBs too - it's an all-female practice on the UES, Brodman, Friedman and Kim. Dr. Brodman won't be delivering babies after the new year, but I love Dr. Friedman and Dr. Kim (who delivered my son). They're super friendly and relatively old school (not crunchy), if you like that vibe. The wait time in the office tends to be very good too. They deliver at Mount Sinai. I get the sense that they might be okay taking a new patient at 25 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651849 Sun, 13 Nov 2016 19:44:55 +0000 hilsy85 2651849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVED my obs--Drs. Cha and Metz. They are on the UES and they deliver at Mount Sinai. Seriously the best--different personalities, but I love them both and trust them enormously. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651830 Sun, 13 Nov 2016 17:37:14 +0000 nana87 2651830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my ob (Katrina Bradley ) but she delivers at SLR, so might not be worth the switch ...</p> <p>Eta her office is at 86th and cpw so not so convenient for LIC... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nyc-bees-ob-and-hospital-recs#post-2651814 Sun, 13 Nov 2016 15:39:30 +0000 WyattnewbabysMama 2651814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry this is long. </p> <p>The short version: can you recommend your Manhattan or Queens hospital and OB?</p> <p>The long version: 14 months ago, I delivered my son at St. Luke’s Roosevelt (now I believe Mt. Sinai West) on 11th Ave at 59th. I love love love my doctor—Dr. Nicolle Underwood—with Westcare OBGYN (located near the Natural History Museum on the UWS). While I was pregnant with my son, we moved to Long Island City Queens but since I was already established with the practice, I continued there for the full pregnancy. I figured I’d switch for a more convenient practice but for the fact that she is just so so wonderful—and after having such a good experience with her during our time trying to conceive including a minor surgery, plus her care while I was pregnant, and then her continued care since (including visiting my son and I in the NICU after his birth and being accessible via text and I could go on and on). But… I just found out that she is moving to California… So I’m trying to decide if I should just switch to another doctor in the same practice—who I know very little about—other than that I had a good experience with her—even though the location is not at all convenient to my home or work. Or if I should find a new practice, made trickier by the fact that I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with my daughter!</p> <p>Here are some of my concerns/considerations: Or to put it another way, my perfect practice wishlist:</p> <p>1) Delivers at a very good hospital—with a good NICU just in case—could be in Manhattan or Queens but preferably convenient to Long Island City (i.e. east side or at least mid-town. Nothing WAY uptown or downtown Manhattan)<br /> 2) The practice itself needs to be convenient—or at least no more inconvenient than my current practice. Long Island City near my home. Midtown Manhattan. Or downtown near my work.<br /> 3) I am currently scheduled to meet with a high risk OB at St Luke’s Roosevelt to get approval to try for a VBAC. I’m only high risk in that my son and daughter will only be 17 months apart—and apparently anything under 18 months automatically requires approval from high risk—or at least it does at St. Luke’s Roosevelt. So of course, I do want to know if any new doctor would let me try for a VBAC (assuming of course that it is safe and all goes well).<br /> 4) A female OB.<br /> 5) And if the hospital had cheaper private rooms than St. Luke’s Roosevelt, that would be fantastic too.<br /> 6) Willing to take a new patient—who is 25 weeks pregnant.</p> <p>Is this impossible? Am I asking too much? What would you do? Stick with your current practice? Do any of you happen to have a doctor that I should definitely go check out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fridge-recommendations#post-2398896 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 17:00:40 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2398896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a frenchdoor and love it. It's a Samsung and hasn't had any issues in six years. We do have a deep freezer though to go with it. Also the ice maker isn't huge. For parties we have to buy ice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fridge-recommendations#post-2398876 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:46:54 +0000 BandDmommy 2398876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bought new house 3.5 years ago and with it we got a pretty baseline fridge. It's only 3.5 years old and has had tons of issues. Thinking of upgrading.. What do you have? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865973 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 16:11:53 +0000 wheres_c 865973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear about the accident!<br /> I love my cx5. Hopefully you can make it work.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865592 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:37:14 +0000 Chillybear 865592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I dunno we saw it at the Auto show a few years ago and it was brand new i think they started making them in 2011 and i loved it i was never in the regular version </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865587 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:35:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 865587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: Hmmm... I don't think mine had a third row... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865571 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:30:38 +0000 Chillybear 865571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: the sport is smaller... doesnt have 3 rows of seats more typical suv/crossover body </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865565 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:29:29 +0000 T.H.O.U. 865565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: I forget, what is the difference in the Outlander and Outlander Sport? Is one cheaper? I think I just had a regular Outlander. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865492 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:11:13 +0000 matador84 865492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chillybear: I originally wanted a Pilot for the 3rd row and a larger SUV. I test drove the Outback and seriously fell in love with it. It is a truly great car! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865472 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:06:30 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 865472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Goodness... when it rains it pours... (no pun intended). I don't have any recommendations, as I like the big SUVs, but I really, really hope your year turns around. (Seems like you've had enough to last you that long). Glad to know you and the baby are ok :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865448 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:03:13 +0000 Chillybear 865448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: @T.H.O.U.: i did find a couple of Outlander sports in our price range... they got really good safety ratings too </p> <p>@matador84: My husband has a forrester and he loves it he wants me to look at the outback too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865431 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 13:00:20 +0000 matador84 865431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my outback! It is AWD and does great in snow, has a sunroof, huge backseat, big trunk, decent gas mileage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kia-soul-is-crushed#post-865415 Tue, 18 Jun 2013 12:56:48 +0000 ShootingStar 865415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a mitsubishi outlander for years and LOVED it. It was incredibly reliable and never had any expensive repairs. I was going to replace it with an outlander sport, but ultimately decided I needed more room. We do road trips a lot and we were maxing out the space with just us and the dog. But we don't really travel lightly. For every day use, the size would've been fine. </p>