https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 23:08:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2261045 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 14:36:23 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2261045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: yes I think I might do that in the future. Honestly probably not until this baby is born. But hopefully before I get pregnant again I can try to learn more about my body!</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: you are a trooper! Honestly bed rest is HARD. Even though many women have told me they r jealous ha... Ur right though anything for the baby/babies right? Wishing you a safe delivery and recovery at the right time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260484 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 02:52:29 +0000 BSB 2260484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea but I'm on hospital bed rest because my water broke early. Having been on bed rest for the last 2 weeks, I have noticed less cramps and Braxton hicks contractions. So I definitely understand and see how bed rest helps me and my condition.<br /> I'm also Asian but I have been around the 115 lb mark for probably the last 5 years. (Oh, I'm 5'2) I have gained more after seeing an RE and was on fertility meds for my IUIs and IVF. Before getting pregnant, I was hovering around 125-130 lbs.<br /> Anyway, if bed rest worked for you for your children, I don't see why I would change it or chance it. Though, if you wanted a dr to prescribe bed rest, that might be harder to convince them. Having been through infertility, I know I've done pretty much anything and everything to get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260482 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 01:35:04 +0000 sometimesshesings 2260482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.kiwi: it sounds like you and the doctors were all doing what seemed right! Fertility issues can be so tricky.</p> <p>It might be interesting to get a TCM opinion, if you're concerned. In my experience, TCM diagnoses and treatments can be more nuanced, taking into consideration individual constitutions and qi patterns throughout the body (not just where symptoms are presenting.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260481 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 01:18:39 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2260481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: thanks for that info.. Yes I wonder what kind of diagnosis would lead to those recommendations.. during my second pregnancy I was put on pelvic rest due to bleeding.. Then at the u/s baby was safe and I was taken off pelvic rest and I resumed normal activity. Couple days later mre bleeding. Got an u/s and there was no heartbeat. I definitely don't blame myself or the doctors but I do wonder what would have hPpened if I stayed on pelvic rest until the placenta formed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260469 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 00:09:11 +0000 sometimesshesings 2260469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is an acupuncturist. He says that in Traditional Chinese Medicine, there are some old fashioned ideas about not exercising during pregnancy (especially the first trimester), not having sex during pregnancy, not bathing for a month after delivery, etc. He says most modern practitioners only make these types of recommendations if there is specific evidence (with a TCM diagnosis) that they would be warranted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260440 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 22:54:47 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2260440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: thanks for sharing. Yes I always rolled my eyes at the advice my mom and others would give but after two losses I was like maybe I should listen! For my miscarriages there was no found reason so I guess it was all the mOre reason to give it a try? For peace of mind alone it is worth it but idk.. I really don't want to do somethin that is so debilitating and burdens others if not necessary .. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260423 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 22:43:01 +0000 blackbird 2260423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, after having two miscarriages in a row, I had my blood tested and found that I have a blood clotting disorder. I also have a short luteal phase and took progesterone for both my viable pregnancies. I'm not a believer that bed rest in the first tri will make a pregnancy stick unless there's something else going on that benefits from pelvic rest (a bleed or something). The progesterone could've helped. Or there could have simply been something wrong those first two times. </p> <p>My mom and aunt (both half Korean) talked to me like I was a delicate flower when I was pregnant with E. My aunt told me not to work out because I could shake the baby out of its spot in the 4th month. Which....there's no scientific basis for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedrest-and-miscarriage#post-2260412 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 22:22:00 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2260412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been petite and very thin. As in 5'3" and 93lbs.. I am *that* tiny Asian girl.</p> <p>My first two pregnancies ended in miscarriage. people around me even before I got pregnant advised me to gain weight before having kids but honestly it is just very hard for me to gain weight and I eat really well!</p> <p>We saw an RE after my second miscarriage who basically suggested I take progesterone for my next pregnancy.</p> <p>Meanwhile all the older Asian ladies around me suggested bedrest for the next pregnancy.</p> <p>So when I got pregnant the third time I took progesterone and I was on bedrest for the first trimester... And my son was born healthy and strong 5 days early.</p> <p>After my son was born I totally went back to my 93lb self even though I was really hoping after giving birth I would be a bit heavier!</p> <p>Now I am pregnant again and I took progesterone and was on a modified bed rest (as much rest as possible with a young toddler...)</p> <p>I passed my 12 week mark but I was wondering- do I need to be this careful every pregnancy??? I know western doctors will say no, but Im curious to know the perspective of eastern and Asian medicine folks..</p> <p>We do want a third maybe even fourth child so if you or anyone you know has gone through anything similar I would love to hear... Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1671100 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 09:02:10 +0000 AibhlinShana 1671100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have thought about this a lot too. I have a fairly strong family history of issues with getting/staying pregnant. My mom's mom had for sure one, but i think two miscarriages before having three kids. My dad's mom had three kids, then something like six miscarriages before she was able to carry to term on my dad. It took my parents several years and meds to get pregnant. All that to say, I think now with all the tests and technology we have now, I would be all about the testing to see why this was contuning to happen. And like some others said, it isnt always an issue with mom alone. But I do also think if you start to persue more invaise tests and interventions, you and your husband should seriously talk, before you get more into the thick of it, what you and he are willing to do to have another biological child. And it might surprise you! We have been ntnp for a year with nada, so we are starting to research further into more options. I always kind of thought it we had issues, I would do the charting and temps and such, possibly meds like clomid and blood moniotoring but if it wasnt happening, I have always been okay with having a family that wasnt genetically ours. Turns out, that is pretty important to DH and he is much more interested in getting into the more in depth meathods of having a baby that is genetically ours than I realized. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1671066 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 07:44:22 +0000 blackbird 1671066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be seeking more help after 3. And it would depend what they tested for after 2. I had 2 and they found a clotting disorder. But I had an HSG too. 3 would push me to a consult with an RE at least. I was put on aspirin and progesterone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1670958 Sat, 31 May 2014 23:27:32 +0000 gingerbebe 1670958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: I'd have a sperm analysis done on him just to eliminate some factors from the equation, you know? It may not end up being anything, but I'd hate for you to wonder if something was wrong with you when its something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1670525 Sat, 31 May 2014 14:16:00 +0000 LovelyPlum 1670525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: :( I agree, they sound similar. I also was on progesterone and an aspirin regimen with my sticky pregnancy, both of which I think helped. I'm afraid I'm not much help with where to go from here, except to say that we are here for you, and please keep us updated! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1670523 Sat, 31 May 2014 14:13:45 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1670523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. someone Thanks, that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1670521 Sat, 31 May 2014 14:11:35 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1670521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbee No, my husband hasn't had any testing. I guess that leads to a whole new round of questions like is IVF something we would persue. Definitely something for us to consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669482 Fri, 30 May 2014 15:46:15 +0000 Kimberlybee 1669482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my cousins had 8 miscarriages before she had her healthy firstborn and went on to have 3 healthy kids total. This was about 25 years ago though so I am not sure of what medical options she had. Sorry about your losses. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669387 Fri, 30 May 2014 15:02:43 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1669387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: Naturopaths basically look at health from a more holistic standpoint: ie diet, environment as causing issues, and treat with natural remedies instead of drugs. However, they can still order all sorts of tests and prescribe anything that isn't a narcotic. </p> <p>She suspected I had autoimmune issues, which many standard doctors don't believe in. So she ran an RPL panel that included autoimmune disorders that can cause losses. Her tenancy was to treat it holistically (diet, herbs), but unfortunately it wasn't enough for me so I took my test results to an MFM who prescribed Lovenox.</p> <p>I saw an RE too once I had all my test results, and she pretty much told me that losses happen in my case, and there wasn't anything she could do. I think she didn't see the IVF $$$ in me so she didn't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669327 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:39:35 +0000 gingerbebe 1669327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: Has your DH had a sperm analysis? I'm just mentioning this because a lot of times we assume its something wrong with us. In our case, we got pregnant (after 2 miscarriages) just as we were getting diagnostic testing done at a fertility center. While I did have some issues that we got treated, we were surprised to find that it was DH who actually had some serious issues with his sperm. So its very possible our first 2 miscarriages were related to his sperm as much as my own issues. Had I not gotten randomly pregnant this time around, the clinic probably would have wanted us to go through IVF just due to his sperm issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669301 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:26:19 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1669301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyplum Thanks. Unfortunately, it sounds like our histories are somewhat similar. We did have some basic tests done after our second loss including a clotting panel but they all came back normal. I used progesterone supplements during my successful pregnancy so I was really thinking that was our answer but it didn't work this time so now I'm not so sure. And I agree, one loss is definitely too many. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669296 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:24:00 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1669296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. someone Congratulations on your pregnancy! My ob-gyn has been very supportive and ordered several blood tests following my second miscarriage but I'm wondering if I should be doing more. What does a naturopath do? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669291 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:20:55 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1669291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamamoose @mrswin @mrs. confetti Yes, I definitely wanted some answers. After my first two miscarriages, my doctor did a bunch of blood tests for the most common reasons but they all came back normal. We used progesterone just in case for my son's successful pregnancy and I was using it again this time. I think one thing that helps is that this miscarriage seemed completely different than my previous two so I am hoping this time was just a 'random' occurrence and not an ongoing problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669268 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:16:00 +0000 LovelyPlum 1669268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :(</p> <p>I think you might know this, but I've had two, before I had my daughter. I was just recently thinking about what would happen when we eventually try for number 2, whether I would have to go through that again, or maybe whether or not I should be prepared for that happening. If I were you, I would ask for testing. We had some before LO, but fortunately, we didn't get too far before achieving a sticky pregnancy. If we have another loss, we will go back for more tests, and I suspect we will start with a clotting disorder panel. I don't think we'd stop trying, though.</p> <p>Hoping for answers for you. As far as I'm concerned, one loss is too many for anyone to go through :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669261 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:13:35 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1669261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see how you would be feeling this way - I feel like emotionally, any number of miscarriages is so hard to handle. My guy would be to seek answers from a professional as to why they are occurring, if at all possible. Hugs to you mama for all of the babies you have lost, and lots of luck moving forward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669224 Fri, 30 May 2014 14:01:35 +0000 pui 1669224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think after 2 miscarriages I would seek medical help if I wasn't already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669218 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:58:32 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1669218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its a tough question to ask, and I thought about it a lot while I was TTC. I had 2 confirmed, at least one more suspected. After my second, I wasn't willing to TTC again until getting some answers. I had the right care provider (a naturopath) who wanted to know what was going on almost as much as I did. We found answers, but most people don't. If, at that point, I still had miscarriages, I suspect we would've stopped and moved on to adoption. Luckily, I'm just about 29 weeks pregnant and feeling confident that I can carry a baby.</p> <p>ETA: Medically, I personally think any more than 1 in a row means there is something wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669215 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:56:26 +0000 Pepper 1669215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: I'm so sorry for your loss. :( </p> <p>I'm not sure what my answer would be. I know my mom had 5 miscarriages and a ectopic pregnancy before she conceived my younger brother. Back then, she didn't have the option of seeing an RE or anything like that. I think they kept trying because they knew she could get pregnant (they already had me). I know it was really hard on her at the time... took about 4.5 years. But, they really wanted another, so the losses didn't stop them from trying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669209 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:54:38 +0000 matador84 1669209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second mama moose. I have a friend who has had 7, now has two children. Another had 3, her third was an ectopic and she had a child full term on her 4th pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669204 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:53:32 +0000 mrswin 1669204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: I'm sorry for your losses. Have you had a D&amp;C for any of them, did the doctors do any testing? There are tests for Repeated Pregnancy Loss that may shed some insight into why you have had 3 losses </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669202 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:53:12 +0000 MamaMoose 1669202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well that many miscarriages wouldn't be enough for me to quit TTC, but it certainly would be enough for me to request that my doctor do some testing to try to figure out if there is a cause for the repeated pregnancy loss. I'm sorry you're going through this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-miscarriages-are-too-many#post-1669185 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:48:43 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 1669185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two miscarriages (both at around 9 weeks) before having my son who is now 18 months old. I just had a third miscarriage at only 5 weeks pregnant. I very much still want to keep TTC but have started wondering what our limit would be. If I have another miscarriage, will I be ready to give up at that point? Two more? </p> <p>I think if I hadn't had my son, three consecutive miscarriages would probably have been my limit just because it is so emotionally painful. But now that I know we can have a baby, I'm not sure how many I would be willing to go through to try to have another. </p> <p>Has anyone else out there thought about this or am I just making things way too complicated? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seeing-an-re-for-recurrent-miscarriages#post-614719 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:06:16 +0000 mlm2934 614719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@futuremama: I hope your appt goes well!! I ALWAYS forget to ask every question at the doctor's office. It's like the dr is royalty and I'm afraid to do anything but listen - then I have a million unanswered questions. </p>