https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:08:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-experts-schedule-ferber-vs-healthy-sleep-habits#post-2273255 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 21:26:06 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2273255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my LO is about the same age as yours, also puts herself to sleep and has the same amount of wake ups at night. She's usually up for 1 hour before she's ready for her first nap, for which she sleeps 45 min to and hour. Then is up for about 2 hours the rest of the day. She often goes down for her second or 3rd nap around noon but when she wakes around 1 it's obvious that she could use a bigger nap. So I usually extend this nap with either nursing and/or gentle rocking and I can often get about hour out of her. She definitely seems to need to have at least one nap extended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-experts-schedule-ferber-vs-healthy-sleep-habits#post-2273249 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 21:18:13 +0000 PawPrints 2273249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely move bedtime earlier and do what you can to extend naps to two sleep cycles instead of one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-experts-schedule-ferber-vs-healthy-sleep-habits#post-2273211 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 20:14:01 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2273211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like what you need to work on is extending naps. My lo went through a phase of 45 min wake-ups, but we ignored unless he was screaming and eventually he took longer naps. Btw, 4.5 months was the absolute worst time for sleep for us. It was a do anything to make it work time. My lo is a great skewer and I firmly believe in sleep begets sleep and I never ever wake him up. At that age I was doing a dream feed before I went to bed... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-experts-schedule-ferber-vs-healthy-sleep-habits#post-2273092 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 18:02:00 +0000 gingerbebe 2273092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always lean towards giving baby more sleep and then cutting back if the baby signals that he or she needs less. </p> <p>At 4.5 months my son was sleeping 15-16 hours a day with about 1.5-2 hours of waketime between naps, which were also about that long. He dropped that 4th nap around this time but it was a short disco nap anyway - no more than 30-40 minutes. So I think having 4 naps a day is fine!</p> <p>We always planned for 12 hour days and 11-12 hour nights, so our goal was always to start the day at 730am and put him to bed at 730pm. I wonder if your naps would be better if you bumped up the bedtime and just had fewer naps. So, for instance, if your LO had a catnap in the late afternoon and then went to bed for the night at 630-7pm instead of going to bed at 830pm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sleep-experts-schedule-ferber-vs-healthy-sleep-habits#post-2273083 Tue, 25 Aug 2015 17:45:52 +0000 mrswin 2273083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 4.5 month old DD has never been a great day time sleeper but nights are alright (usually 1-2 wake ups). She knows how to put herself to sleep, is no longer swaddled and sleeps in a crib at both night and nap time with the occasional carrier or car seat nap.</p> <p>I have read both Ferber and Healthy Sleep Habits but I am confused and could use some help/suggestions. </p> <p>Ferber recommends a total of 13 hours of sleep per day with no more than 9-10 hours over night (!) while Weissbluth recommends 14.5 hours of sleep total with about 11 hours over night. </p> <p>I cannot seem to figure out how to make this work as DD seems tired after 1.5 hrs but only naps for 45 minutes at a time. I have been trying to start with a consistent wake up time of 6:30am and a bedtime of between 8 and 8:30pm. In order to keep to DD's wake time we often end up with 4 or 5 naps while both books recommend only 3 naps per day. I tried reducing her overnight sleep a la Ferber but I didnt see any change in her naps. </p> <p>Have you had success with either method? How did you work on getting your LO on the schedule? Any advise would be much appreciated, I feel like she will be a happier baby if she is getting decent day time sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2189184 Tue, 26 May 2015 09:49:56 +0000 mrsjyw 2189184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 2.5, his daily schedule usually looks like this:</p> <p>730 wake (rolls around, reads, plays)<br /> 8/830 calls for us<br /> 830-930 yogurt, milk, breakfast<br /> play time / activities / snacks or lunch if he's really hungry<br /> nap 1230-1/130 or 1-230/3<br /> lunch usually after nap / snacks / play time / activities<br /> MMC episode around 630 sometimes<br /> dinner around 630/7<br /> bath time 730<br /> bed 8! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2189181 Tue, 26 May 2015 09:47:44 +0000 ValentineMommy 2189181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Typical day (that I'm not at work) with my 28m old DS....</p> <p>8:00 - DS wakes up<br /> 8:15 - he has breakfast in my bed (don't judge, I'm super pregnant and tired lol) and we watch cartoons together while I put my makeup on<br /> 10:00 - We usually run errands, go to grandma's for a visit, or go to the playground<br /> 11:30 - 12 - lunchtime<br /> 1:30-3:30 - DS naps (I usually do too)<br /> 4 - small snack and we usually go outside to play<br /> 6 - dinner<br /> 6:45 - back to playing for a few minutes<br /> 7:30 - bath, bedtime routine<br /> 8 - DS bedtime </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2189166 Tue, 26 May 2015 09:40:00 +0000 erinpye 2189166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do everyone's kids sleep so much‽ :crying: :silly: </p> <p>My DD1 turned 3 last month, DD2 is 15.5 months.</p> <p>5-5:30 AM: DD2 is up<br /> Breakfast and playing, cartoons, until DD1 wakes<br /> 6-7 AM: DD1 is up<br /> Breakfast for DD1, a snack for DD2<br /> If we have a play date, it's usually at 10 AM-12 PM, and it means my 15 month old will fall asleep for 5 minutes in the car and won't nap.<br /> Otherwise, play inside or outside 10-12.<br /> 12 PM: lunch<br /> 12:30-1:30/2: play<br /> If DD2 will nap, nap at 1:30 or 2<br /> DD1 doesn't nap, so she has "quiet time" such as painting, coloring, or iPad games, while DD2 sleeps. Every once in a while I can get her to catnap during this time.<br /> 3 or *sometimes* as late as 4 PM: DD2 is up<br /> After nap until 5:30 or 6: play, maybe the park or grocery store/ other errand<br /> 5:30 or 6: dinner<br /> Bath<br /> Play<br /> Stories<br /> Bed at 7- 7:30 for DD2<br /> Bed at 8 or 8:30 for DD1</p> <p>They need different things different days, so the schedule is never set in stone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188985 Tue, 26 May 2015 06:32:02 +0000 MamaChin 2188985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msplatypus: yes when she's 18 months. Same as big bro, 3 mornings a week while I go back to school. I like to have 2 weekdays with them at home so we can do fun stuff without the weekend crowd (the zoo, beaches) and seeing grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188906 Mon, 25 May 2015 22:50:00 +0000 msplatypus 2188906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaChin: I'm so excited for more flexibility! Will the little one go to day care eventually too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188902 Mon, 25 May 2015 22:48:48 +0000 msplatypus 2188902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: we are going through the 3 to 2 transiton, it's been tough, how's the 2 to 1? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188802 Mon, 25 May 2015 20:39:15 +0000 MamaChin 2188802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A day with my 2.5 year old and 14 month old. </p> <p>8:00 - they're usually recently awake or I go get them up on days DS has daycare. Breakfast for the 3 of us, DH leaves for work before they wake.<br /> 8:40 - out the door for daycare dropoff 3x a week. Me and DD will either run errands after or come home to play.<br /> 10:00 - DD naps. If DS is at daycare then I workout and prep lunch and dinner. Other days I either go in the yard with DS, do an art project or he plays while I workout if I didn't get it in before they wake up. Sometimes a snack depending on how much he ate at breakfast.<br /> 11:30 - DD is up. We play and get ready to pick up DS.<br /> 12:30 - lunch for the kids. DS eats at daycare but he'll sit with us and have fruit.<br /> 2:00 - DS naps<br /> 2:30 - DD naps<br /> 4:30/5 - they're up, if on the early side then I'll give them a snack. I don't let them sleep later than 5:30. Sometimes I'll take them on a walk or the local playground.<br /> 6:30 - dinner<br /> 8:10 - DH gets home and it's daddy mania<br /> 8:20 - DD bedtime<br /> 8:40 - DS bedtime</p> <p>We're pretty structured but with tons of time for free play. Once a week we visit my parents, maybe we'll get in a beach picnic with some friends, they're definitely more flexible now that they're older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188752 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:28:35 +0000 Mae 2188752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in transition! Up until yesterday we were on 2 naps (12 mo) and our day looked like (unaccounted for time is generally just spent chilling/playing): </p> <p>7:30- up and bottle<br /> 8:30- breakfast for dd and me<br /> 9:45-11:15- nap, up and dressed for the day<br /> 11:30- bottle then run our daily errands<br /> 1:00 or 1:30 (whenever we get home)- lunch for dd and me<br /> 2:45-4:30- nap<br /> 4:30- bottle then usually do some chores (laundry, vacuuming, whatever) then play<br /> 6:30 - dinner for whole fam<br /> 7:30 - start of bed routine<br /> 8:00 - in bed</p> <p>Now we are on 1 nap and so far this is what I think it will look like (we are also transitioning from bottles to more solids so its a bit of a mess..)</p> <p>7:30- up and breakfast then bottle right after<br /> 9:00- snack then dressed for the day then out to run errands<br /> 11:30- lunch for dd then bottle<br /> 12:30-3 nap (at least... she slept this long the last 2 days, i hope it is the norm!!)<br /> 3:30- snack then bottle then chores<br /> 6:30- dinner with the whole fam<br /> 7:30- bed routine<br /> 8:00- in bed </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188743 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:19:06 +0000 catomd00 2188743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A typical day for my 15 month old:</p> <p>7 - wake up, nurse, hang out in bed and snuggle<br /> 8 - breakfast and play time/errands/play date etc.<br /> 11 - lunch<br /> 1130-230 nurse/nap<br /> 230-6 play/errands/play date etc.<br /> 6- dinner<br /> 7- book, pjs, nurse, bed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188738 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:16:34 +0000 cat620 2188738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msplatypus: I'm due the beginning of August, so I'm about 29 weeks right now. I get tired out chasing after my toddler all day! But the good thing is that I'm in much better shape this pregnancy than my last one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188733 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:09:25 +0000 msplatypus 2188733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: that is an amazing nap! Couch snuggles! I'm really hoping my lo will like to cuddle, she's not liking it right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188732 Mon, 25 May 2015 19:07:41 +0000 msplatypus 2188732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: a 2 year old and pregnant! How far a long are you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188721 Mon, 25 May 2015 18:56:18 +0000 Tanjowen 2188721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Typical day with my 17 month old:<br /> 630 -700 - wakeup, change diaper, get dressed<br /> 715 - breakfast<br /> 745 - 830 - independent playtime while I clean up and drink coffee<br /> 830 - 900 - I play or read with him or we do couch snuggles with a cartoon as a treat<br /> 930 - either go for a walk or to the store depending on what errand I have to run<br /> 11 - lunch<br /> 1130 - 2/230 - naptime. This long of a nap has been recent and a wonderful, beautiful thing.<br /> 2 - 430 - play outside.<br /> 430 - in to cool off and he plays while I prep dinner<br /> 500 - dinner<br /> 530 - 6 - back outside or a walk<br /> 6 -645 - bath/milk/bedtime story<br /> In his crib by 7 pm and out. once we got through a recent growth spurt, it's been nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188684 Mon, 25 May 2015 17:58:08 +0000 cat620 2188684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll do a typical day with my almost two year old. </p> <p>7am - DS wakes up for the day, so my husband and I get up too. He's our alarm haha. We get him dressed, and then he plays quietly while DH and I get ready.</p> <p>7:45am - We go downstairs and eat breakfast. DH leaves for work.</p> <p>8:15am-9 - DS plays while I try to do chores </p> <p>9am-10:30 - DS and I go to the park and he plays on the playground/we go for a walk</p> <p>10:30-11:30 - We're back home, and I play with DS or try to do chores</p> <p>11:30-12 - Lunch</p> <p>12:15pm-2 - DS takes a nap. I typically rest during this time, because I'm pregnant and tired!</p> <p>2-3pm - We play inside, or go out in the backyard</p> <p>3-5pm - We run errands like go to the grocery store, or we go to the park/meet up with a friend</p> <p>5-6pm - I make dinner/clean up a bit</p> <p>6pm - Daddy is home! We eat dinner and he plays with DS afterward</p> <p>7:30pm - Bathtime and stories for DS</p> <p>8pm - Bedtime for DS </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188618 Mon, 25 May 2015 15:56:14 +0000 Ree723 2188618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msplatypus: They are all community playgroups. All of the churches here host playgroups every week, usually once per week. With so many to choose from though, there is something on every day. We go to three different groups at three different churches. They're all about £1.50 per family per session, so very, very reasonable! The girls love them and they are really nice places to meet people and give the kids an opportunity to socialise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188613 Mon, 25 May 2015 15:51:23 +0000 msplatypus 2188613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: such a full day! Is your play group at people's homes or at a community center or something? I've been thinking about going to a local one this summer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188609 Mon, 25 May 2015 15:47:33 +0000 Ree723 2188609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll do a typical weekday with my 15 month old and my nearly 3 yr old:</p> <p>7:45 - DD2 starts to stir, I get up and have a coffee and breakfast whilst she wakes slowly and plays quietly in her cot; DH has left for work more than an hour earlier.</p> <p>8:30 - Get DD2 up and ready for the day, followed by DD1 who is usually awake by this point</p> <p>8:45 - breakfast for the girls</p> <p>9:05 - 11:45 - playgroup three days per week (the other two days we stay home), which we walk to and from, about three to four miles round trip each day.</p> <p>12:00 - nap time for DD2, snack time for DD1</p> <p>1:00 - nap time for DD1, I enjoy the next two hours of relaxing and/or doing chores etc. Now that it's nice, I'm usually in the garden either reading or working with my flowers and plants.</p> <p>3:00 - DD2 wakes up and has lunch, followed by playtime in the garden if it's nice or in the playroom otherwise. DD1 can get up anytime after this time as she will have had her two hours rest time, usually she sleeps until 4:00 though.</p> <p>4:00 - DD1 wakes and has a late lunch</p> <p>4:00 - 6:00 Playtime and usually a FaceTime with my mom; occasionally do a bit of dinner prep for our proper dinner if the girls are playing nicely and settled (this is witching hour(s) though so it can be a bit hairy!)</p> <p>6:00 - dinner for DD2, snack time or a small dinner for DD1 depending how much lunch she ate</p> <p>6:45 - bath time for both girls together on alternate nights</p> <p>7:15 - bedtime for DD2 - jammies, stories, and then down in her cot </p> <p>7:30 - DH arrives home and starts cooking dinner whilst I shower.</p> <p>7:45/8:00 - bedtime for DD1 - story and a snuggle in bed, then she's down.</p> <p>8:00 - dinner time for DH and I, and then the evening to ourselves.</p> <p>That's our typical day and they work pretty well. We have a regular babysitter who pops over one afternoon per week so I can get out and run errands. We do all of our grocery shopping online, and weekends are when we go out and have adventures as a family, weekday outings are almost exclusively playgroups with the occasional play dates thrown in!</p> <p>Sorry this was so long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188600 Mon, 25 May 2015 15:29:48 +0000 msplatypus 2188600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I feel like I can't waaaait to only have one nap to worry about. Thabk you for sharing your day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188592 Mon, 25 May 2015 15:16:27 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2188592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll do today with my 14 month old. (Also. Totallllllly feel you on the tiny naps. My son was a 30 minute mapper. Brutal)</p> <p>Up 7:15 gave a bottle of milk (we should probably be weaning... Haha)<br /> 830 breakfast for both of us.<br /> 845 I shower<br /> Clean until 945<br /> Friends arrive for play date until 1115<br /> 12 lunch<br /> 1245 ds is asleep<br /> During nap I did some internet surfing and worked out<br /> 215 ds is up<br /> Grocery shop until 330<br /> Hang out at home until dinner<br /> Dinner at 530<br /> Play until bath<br /> Bath 730 then bottle and bed by 8</p> <p>Sorry if that's a bit jumbled. It's raining today. Usually we go for walks and play outside a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/day-in-a-life#post-2188568 Mon, 25 May 2015 14:35:51 +0000 msplatypus 2188568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of the things I love reading the most are day in the life posts, also videos! I find that days are so different forever one and that over very short periods of time routines change drastically. They give me hope when I'm going through a rough patch (like tiny naps) and give me warning when everything is mellow. I was wondering what a day looks like for some of the bees! Post if you want to, or if you have a blog where you've don't posts like this post a link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wakeup-time-vs-naptime-vs-bedtime#post-1894459 Wed, 08 Oct 2014 22:48:29 +0000 anandam 1894459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're similarly irregular at 4.5mo! Naps and bedtimes are just happening whenever he seems sleepy, varying by an hour or two from one day to the next.</p> <p>I was just reading a part in Weissbluth's 'Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child' where he basically says anything goes, don't even try to schedule till 4mo, and even then some babies aren't biologically ready for longer naps till 5-6mo. Bottom line I'm getting from him is not to worry unless your baby regularly seems overtired. So I'm not worrying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wakeup-time-vs-naptime-vs-bedtime#post-1894423 Wed, 08 Oct 2014 21:19:37 +0000 Mae 1894423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>same with us. LO is almost 5 mo and usually up anywhere from 530-730 and her max awake time is 1.5 hrs (before we take her up to nap, but then i feed her so it takes another 10-30 min to get her down). Her good nap length (when she wakes happy) is about 2 hrs. But sometimes she wakes after 30 min. So we just have to roll with whatever happens. And bedtime is supposed to be 830 but sometimes her last nap gets awkwardly timed and she's either up too early and we have to put her to be early or she went down too late and we have to push it back a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wakeup-time-vs-naptime-vs-bedtime#post-1894410 Wed, 08 Oct 2014 21:15:51 +0000 NurseMommy 1894410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were very similar at that age. Plans got cancelled, postponed, etc. quite a lot. At 16 months she's got a great schedule going though. Up at 8, nap 1-3, bed at 7:30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wakeup-time-vs-naptime-vs-bedtime#post-1894397 Wed, 08 Oct 2014 21:04:19 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1894397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still dealing with this (well, the nanny is :silly: ) at 7 months - he wakes up anywhere from 6 to 8 so this obviously has a huge impact on his naps and # of naps. If he wakes closer to 8, he definitely will only take 2 naps, but if he wakes at 6 he definitely needs 3. We just play it by ear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wakeup-time-vs-naptime-vs-bedtime#post-1894279 Wed, 08 Oct 2014 19:28:16 +0000 Charm54 1894279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We followed the 2-3-4 schedule from about 6-12 months. It really helped! </p>