https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 13:25:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790612 Thu, 07 Dec 2017 10:27:28 +0000 snowjewelz 2790612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my 2nd 12/20 so right around Christmas too. Didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790539 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 22:38:01 +0000 Truth Bombs 2790539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: my son was born 6 days before thanksgiving, 4 days later my husband was incredibly ill and quarantined in a hotel, we had to fly my dad down unexpectedly to help, then 4 day weekend/thanksgiving. Oh, and Thanksgiving Day was my older one’s 3rd birthday!! About as abnormal as it gets. Our 3 year old totally just rolled with the punches! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790517 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:47:35 +0000 Littlebit7 2790517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: yep! I'll try walling @eko </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790514 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:44:10 +0000 PawPrints 2790514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: Yes join! Especially since you and I both have 2.5-year-old DDs and are due with a new baby within 3 days of each other :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790506 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:29:22 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2790506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: I think @eko: is the admin still.. join us! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790505 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:17:11 +0000 Littlebit7 2790505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: no I kept meaning to join and then it dropped off my radar and then dec 2017 group here on HB sorta died!! I wonder if I can be added now?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790504 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:12:23 +0000 PawPrints 2790504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: Whoa wait, are you in the December 2017 Facebook group? Sorry I have a hard time remembering who has which username!</p> <p>@2littlepumpkins: @Foodnerd81: @gingerbebe: Good advice. I hadn't thought about the family of four time, we will definitely want to set aside some of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790503 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 20:05:21 +0000 Littlebit7 2790503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm following along here! My LO is 2.5 and I'm due on dec 23rd. Best of luck to you! It's a stressful time having baby arrive at any part of the year but everything seems multiplied around the holidays. We don't live close to any family whatsoever (7+ hour drive) so whomever comes to visit will likely stay for multiple days. My parents will likely come up either when I'm in labor, or just before Christmas to watch and wait for baby. And entertain my toddler. Who knows about my inlaws. I reach my point with them after about 48 hours.<br /> @Foodnerd81: you make a good point; I've been thinking about family of four time a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790502 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 19:39:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 2790502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my second a week before Christmas, got home from hospital on a Monday and MIl arrived on Tuesday. In some ways it was really great because the older one got so much extra attention and activity. People were mindful to really pay attention to her and not just fawn over the new baby. They took her out to do fun things every day. </p> <p>However- my warning is to watch out that you don’t miss out on the nice bonding as a family of four. Everyone was so focused on helping by taking the toddler out that it ended up being me home alone with the new baby all morning and then everyone crowded around all afternoon, with no quiet new family foursome time. In my postpartum haze I really resented missing out on that. She turns two in a week and I’m still kind of sad about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790490 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 19:01:32 +0000 gingerbebe 2790490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One the baby is here, it will probably go back and forth between IM A BABY and IM A BIG GIRL. Our son was a little manic like that too. But we kept stressing how we had to do things a certain way or he had to be careful 'BECAUSE BABY IS VVVEEEERRRRY SMALLLL.' We kept reiterating how small baby was and how big DS1 was and obviously it was a size difference he could relate to, so he would start going along with it better. Eventually, he would start saying things like "baby can't do this because he's TOO SMALL, right mommy?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790489 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 19:01:00 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2790489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Get your visitors to pay attention to your older child if possible! Grandma time with our older one helped a lot when we had #2. And remember it's temporary and normal. My two year old has suddenly decided to resist naps for the first time since I don't remember when. And now he can get out of the crib. So that's fun.</p> <p>The only thing I'm worried about with the holiday is that my kids will be so bummed if we miss Xmas bc we are in the hospital. 😬 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790486 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:58:07 +0000 PawPrints 2790486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: Thanks! I think I'm worrying about it since DD has spent the last two days in a brand-new major boundary-pushing time which came out of nowhere and is totally out of her normal character. Last night coming home from daycare she wanted to be buckled into the infant seat (which we've already installed) instead of her own, yelled I'M A BABY NOT A BIG GIRL a lot, then spent the entire drive home yelling I DON'T LIKE MY CAR SEAT. So, just picturing this ramping up - we've been very spoiled to have a pretty sweet cooperative 2-year-old so feeling a little unprepared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790481 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:54:00 +0000 gingerbebe 2790481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't think you have to worry about it. Like, even if the baby was coming at a point in time where there wasn't a holiday, you'd still probably have family and visitors and different caretakers while you're giving birth, etc. And if this was a holiday WITHOUT a baby, there would still be family and school closures and what not. Like, I don't think it being Christmas will really be a big deal.</p> <p>I would just try to keep her sleep/naps as consistent as possible so she gets enough rest and time to decompress from the stimulation, and that at least one parent is always close by to offer a lot of reassuring love and touch.</p> <p>We are always traveling for the holidays in different time zones with new people and surroundings and as long as we stay nearby and keep the nap/bedtime routine solid, our kids are always good to go. When DS2 was born (DS1 was 20 months), same thing - grandparents and family members were in an out for weeks and things were all off, but we just kept his nap and bedtime routine consistent so he could rest. </p> <p>Congratulations and enjoy the holidays with your sweet family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-for-introducing-second-child-at-christmas#post-2790477 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:47:52 +0000 PawPrints 2790477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our second baby is due the day after Christmas. DD is 2.5. Everything I read about how to prepare a toddler for a sibling says to keep their routine as consistent as possible. Well, having the baby at Christmas makes that pretty difficult. Daycare will be closed 12/25, 12/26, and 1/1/18, and MIL/FIL will be staying with us to help care for her and also to spend Christmas, and SIL+fiancee will also be with us for a good chunk of that, and there's the general chaos of all the presents and festivities and candy. So as far from regular routine as you can get, basically.</p> <p>Ideas on how to smooth this out at all? She's incredibly excited for baby brother to arrive, but I know we're going to get some boundary testing and regressing and all that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids/page/2#post-2408008 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 20:37:14 +0000 Mrs. Pink 2408008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: we have bottles like that too haha- I think I'll boil them too 😂 That'll make more $$ for other stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids/page/2#post-2407655 Sun, 03 Jan 2016 12:16:32 +0000 pastemoo 2407655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pink: the bottle nipples... they've been used like twice. I'll boil them. Thanks for all the ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids/page/2#post-2407492 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 23:35:45 +0000 Mrs. Pink 2407492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: for used bottles you're supposed to buy new nipples IIRC... so maybe add that?</p> <p>Must Buys:</p> <p>diaper bag (JJB Be Prepared because, over packer. I have it on layaway. I sold all of my other bags from my 2 year old)</p> <p>another convertible carseat (probably getting another maxi cosi pria but not sure!)</p> <p>cosleeper (2nd hand PB one from a friend. we didn't get one with my daughter and I regretted it)</p> <p>fresh white onesies/baby t-shirts (it'll be June so baby will probably be scantily clad, onesies are an easy pick and the old whites from #1 are a bit stained here and there)</p> <p>On My Wish List<br /> newborn and OS diaper covers (we use sposies but I like the rumparooz covers to go over them)</p> <p>a new seat cover for the mommaroo (we got it 2nd hand from a friend- it's old and a bit faded)</p> <p>A&amp;A swaddles (another thing we never used with #1, I'd like to try them this time!)</p> <p>Squish Wraps/Carriers (I have a few already all in good shape... but the more the merrier! I have been fighting the urge to stash for the new baby... but I have one on the way from a preorder... who knows if I'll add more!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids/page/2#post-2407490 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 23:34:35 +0000 CRGmama 2407490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ds2 is due 2 weeks after ds1 turns 2 so I am commenting to follow! There's a few things listed here that I didn't even think about! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids/page/2#post-2407482 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 22:55:11 +0000 gingerbebe 2407482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: A white noise machine that plugs in. DS can't sleep without his and I figure we'll need one for the second baby so he/she doesn't disturb her brother at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407433 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 21:54:08 +0000 Greentea 2407433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: you reminded me I might need to get a ride on board for the stroller...</p> <p>I think in general I'll also need some new rattles and teething type things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407428 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 21:43:06 +0000 pastemoo 2407428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: what is marpac dohm? Good luck with all the rearranging.<br /> @ladybee: cool </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407387 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 20:29:52 +0000 ladybee 2407387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our son will be 28 months when baby brother arrives. We have bought or plan to buy:<br /> -RNP<br /> -Double video monitor (ours was breaking)<br /> -Crib sheets<br /> -Changing pad cover<br /> -Muslin blankets (never had them before and really wanted them)<br /> -Double stroller<br /> -Humidifier<br /> -Extra carseat base<br /> -New diaper bag (Christmas gift)<br /> -Random organization things for our son's new room, the baby's room, and the diaper bag<br /> -diapers<br /> -wipes<br /> -formula</p> <p>A lot of stuff we got or are getting is simply because we wanted it and it was all I asked for for Christmas. I really want this baby to be celebrated and have his own things just like big brother did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407356 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 19:33:29 +0000 gingerbebe 2407356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO2 is coming when DS will be 20 months old so we still have a lot of baby gear to reuse, but unfortunately we will probably need another crib. Someone gave us a beautiful bassinet so I will probably use that to start and then use the PNP + mattress we already have for a while and see if we can get away with that for a while, since LO2 will be our last. I'm sorta hoping our son will stay in his crib for a long time so I'm not super against buying another crib but we'll try to do without one for a while. </p> <p>We will reuse his infant seat but will need another convertible eventually. We have a bouncer and RNP, but may pick up a used swing if our second looks like a swing person. We have a Boba wrap and Ergo360 ready of this baby tolerates being worn unlike big bro. Might get the rumble board for our UB Cruz but we are also thinking about the UB G-link as a double if baby isn't into being worn. </p> <p>If it's a boy we have plenty of clothes. They will be born 3.5 months apart on the calendar so much of the clothing will be useable. If it's a girl we will have an avalanche of clothes sent to us because it will be the first girl grandkid and both grandmas are shoppers and love frilly things. </p> <p>We will need new hooded towels (we love the PBK beach wraps for DS), diapers and wipes, an assortment of pacis to try out (DS didn't take any), and some new nipples and pump tubing/storage bottles. Lansinoh disposable nursing pads, new nursing tanks and pj bottoms for me to live in. Another humidifier and Marpac Dohm. Another set of blackout curtains.</p> <p>Mostly the biggest work is going to be rearranging the entire house. We are planning to turn DH's office into a playroom, furnish our living room (currently the play space), move DH's office stuff into our master, and then turning the guest room into the new baby's room. I'm exhausted thinking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407351 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 19:13:39 +0000 pinkcupcake 2407351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'll be needing much at all - just new bottles/nipples/pacifiers, breast pump (planning on getting it through insurance), milk bags, diapers and wipes, diaper cream... Mostly small stuff. </p> <p>Bigger stuff - we will prob get a new infant car seat. Maybe a new carrier, I'm kinda tired of my ergo. We sold our swing and jumperoo so will have to get new ones. </p> <p>Oh and clothes if this baby is a boy and doesn't wanna wear big sister's pink hand me downs ;) </p> <p>It's nice knowing that we don't have any big nursery purchases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407350 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 19:12:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 2407350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.kiwi: some of my nursing pads came with samples of breastmilk storage bags- the lansinoh ones I think. Just FYI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407339 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 18:46:22 +0000 pastemoo 2407339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AB810: thank you for the idea and link!<br /> @mrs.kiwi: omg totally forgot I will 100% chance need more bags for milk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407307 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 17:31:45 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2407307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this is a helpful thread for me.</p> <p>#1 is a boy and he will be 22 mo when #2 girl is here.</p> <p>I need:</p> <p>-disposable diapers and wipes (we mostly cloth but still need disposables some times)</p> <p>-a couple more cloth diaper covers</p> <p>-glider (didn't have one for #1 and regretted it)</p> <p>-baby monitor (never had one for #1 but since they will eventually share a room I want one for sure)</p> <p>-double stroller (we walk a lot)</p> <p>-clothes (i could reuse boy clothes for girl but getting some hand-me-down girl clothes- so thankful)</p> <p>-muslin blankets (#1 still is still attached to his)</p> <p>-breastmilk storage bags just in case (never needed with #1)</p> <p>-disposable nursing pads just in case (i used cloth diapers at first when very leaky then used reusable cloth nursing pads)</p> <p>Extras I want: nursing necklaces, cute bibs, headbands/girly accessories, rock n play (friend is letting me borrow), ergo infant insert, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407301 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 17:22:32 +0000 Silva 2407301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only things we need are new diaper covers (the elastics in ours are shot) and warmer clothes, because our second baby will be tiny in the winter.<br /> I'm also planning to get:<br /> A glider (didn't have space in our old apartment, and I wanted one!)<br /> A ring sling (we used the boba, tried the k'tan but didn't like it)<br /> New bottles<br /> New humidifier<br /> Sheepskin<br /> New crib sheets</p> <p>The baby won't be in its own room until it sleeps through the night, or around a year hopefully. We will worry about decorating and stuff at that point </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407297 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 17:07:19 +0000 AB810 2407297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't get much. A rock n play because we never had one and the new baby let us put him down (LO 1 never did). A few pacifiers. A few disposables for the beginning (then we switched to cloth). We used this same method to attached the crib to our bed for the beginning and it worked great!</p> <p><a href="http://amandamedlin.com/2013/11/diy-co-sleeper-pretty-little-quilt/" rel="nofollow">http://amandamedlin.com/2013/11/diy-co-sleeper-pretty-little-quilt/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gear-for-subsequent-kids#post-2407255 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 14:52:30 +0000 mismikado 2407255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Outside of new clothes if this baby winds up being a girl, we have everything we NEED but these things would be nice:</p> <p>Jogging stroller - I hated the stroller we had with DS and refuse to use it again. But can just as easily do without.<br /> Toddler Tula - for tandem wearing<br /> Wrap Conversion Ring Sling - I have a Maya but would LOVE a pretty WCRS.<br /> Rockaroo - our swing is so big for our little house that a smaller footprint would be nice<br /> Diono Rainier - we have 2 convertible seats already but I really value the steel frame in this one<br /> Breast pump - hated mine and would like to try a different brand<br /> New bedding - they will share a room so I'd like to better match what we have going on in the toddler bed </p>