https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 06:47:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-693811 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:44:47 +0000 red_seattle 693811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: those suggestions are awesome and I totally hadn't thought of giving X a picture of me, or even paying attn to little things like opening blinds. Thanks soooooo much!</p> <p> @Honeybee: talking about the fact that I'll be gone so he's prepared is a great idea, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-693012 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 20:23:04 +0000 Honeybee 693012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It' snot quite the same thing, but the kids and I had a couple week-long separations from DH in the last three months. DD and DS have never been away from DH for even a night, so it was a really big thing (especially for DD, who is super bonded to her daddy). One thing I think made it a little smoother was to prepare DD ahead of time. We told her stories about what would happen, explaining what the routine would look like without daddy, where daddy would be, when she would see him again, etc... Every day we went over the same things, and when the time came, she did really well. There were a couple times she cried for DH, but most of the time, she did just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-692992 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 20:15:16 +0000 Cole 692992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: Thanks! I have been through it a lot, the perspective of the caregiver helps in this type of situation, I have found some tricks along the way :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-692983 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 20:12:07 +0000 prettylizy 692983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have anything to add but @Cole: that is BRILLIANT!!! Seriously, genious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-692959 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 20:02:00 +0000 Cole 692959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With the families I have nannied for we have had good luck with having mom (and/or dad) make a video of them reading a favorite story. I don't usually volunteer to the child that I have it but if they are asking for mom or dad it is a great thing to pull out. Having photos of you that they can hold is often something they like and skype or face time could be great-- I would probably check with the caregivers afterwards and make sure it didn't make things worse. Sometimes just getting on with the day is easier than the reminder you aren't there.</p> <p>Beyond that I think the best thing you can do is make sure all of his caregivers are on the same page and keep his routine as close to normal as possible-- things like "getting to stay up late" don't really work well, especially not at 20 months. If he is staying with them I would try to pack things that are key to his routines (favorite cup/dishes, books, lovey, sound machine, linens.) If they will come to your home I would just ask that they humor you and let you show them all the things you do through the day-- things like when you open and close the blinds might be a signal to your son that you never even thought about so just pay attention in the weeks before your trip.</p> <p>He will bounce back from your trip very quickly but don't be surprised if he almost ignores you initially when you return, it ends quickly and it is totally normal. A special new stuffed animal or such helps bridge this gap. </p> <p>I hope this helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/suggestions-for-while-im-away-for-2-weeks#post-692843 Thu, 04 Apr 2013 19:06:57 +0000 red_seattle 692843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just emailed X's pediatrician the same question, but I just realized you would all be a great resource, too, so I thought I'd put the question here, too.</p> <p>I'm going to be out of the country for 2 weeks this summer. While I know X is, like most kids, incredibly resilient and will bounce back, I'm also concerned about how hard this will be on him. I'm his primary caregiver, and in the 2 months before I leave, I'll be with him almost 24/7-- which I'm afraid may make it harder than if I was leaving him with others from time to time since he'll be so used to me being around.</p> <p> Do any of you have any tips for how I can make this go smoother for X and for his grandmas and aunties who will be taking care of him? I'm worried about while I'm away, and also re-adjusting when I get home. He will be 20 months old at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-627344 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 20:17:51 +0000 tequiero21 627344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually do not know any friends who are breaking up... Most were married after us though, so it's still fairly early? But I don't foresee them breaking up.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-627229 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 18:58:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 627229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of DH's friends married in his early twenties and is now divorced. The ex-couple did not have children and seem to be friendly. All of my married friends are still married, most do not have children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-626501 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:19:07 +0000 doodlepoodle 626501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are a few, one is already remarried and his 2nd wife is an amazing person, we're SO happy he finally found happiness. None of our closest friends have though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-626471 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:59:11 +0000 travelgirl1 626471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I noticed in the last year that a lot of my married Facebook friends were breaking up (early 30s). Some had kids, some didn't. One of my BIL's just ended his marriage last year too. So sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-626464 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:55:10 +0000 MamaMoose 626464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF is nine years older than me and you she got married at 25 and divorced at 27. But it was for the best and she's now happily remarried with two awesome kids. None of my friends close to my age (28) have divorced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-626457 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:53:52 +0000 LemonLong 626457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was married once before me. They got married really young and divorced by 24. They had no children together </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-626451 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:49:25 +0000 Caly 626451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've had several couples we know split &amp; it's very sad. One couple in particular had been married over 10 years &amp; had one child. Remaining friends with both can be tricky (especially after both parties move on) since we always have to watch what we say in regards to the other party &amp; also be respectful of both. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427547 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 02:27:43 +0000 autumnlove 427547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, not yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427462 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 23:41:19 +0000 mlm2934 427462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't had any marriages end, but a few years back we went through a wave of close friends in serious relationships or engaged breaking up. It was really really emotionally challenging for my hubs and I bc they were CLOSE friends, so it oddly felt like we were going through a break up too! Only advice I have is to just ride the waves with your friends. We tried to commiserate with each friend and let them talk things through, while maintaining that we loved them both and wanted them to be happy in end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427450 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 23:33:26 +0000 anonysquire 427450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Acually yes. My cousin got a divorce after 3 years marriage, my friend got a divorce after 6 months. It's so sad :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427273 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 21:07:30 +0000 brownie 427273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, two friends divorced and many people from high school on Facebook. It seems like that time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427271 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 21:06:29 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 427271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know two different couples in their 30's who divorced within a year of having their first child. Sad...but also probably for the best in those particular situations. They are all very involved in the babys' lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427252 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 20:43:18 +0000 HLK208 427252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our old good friends (DH was close with him and I was close with her) got divorced 6 months ago. They're 27 and 28. She changed completely and became a party animal...which is sad because they have a 3 year old. He wasn't faithful to her...but since he has stepped up as a dad at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427233 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 20:13:31 +0000 SweetMamaM 427233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While we know of some halves of couples that have been through divorces (prior to us knowing them), it's only this past month when a couple we are friends with announced their separation. It was very sad :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427226 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 20:08:05 +0000 MsMini 427226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A very good friend of mine is divorced now, they separated when their kids were 3 and 5-ish. Theirs wasn't due to a breakdown in the relationship, but rather due to one of them recognizing that they are gay.</p> <p>Two of DH's friends are also divorced, they are siblings and the whole family have a lot of issues (psychological and with addiction) so I think that is the root cause of the breakdown of both of those marriages. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427221 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 20:00:17 +0000 lovehoneybee 427221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No divorce, but two of our closest friends just ended their engagement :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427217 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 19:55:05 +0000 Mrs. Pen 427217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no but thats because we're young and all of our friends are younger than thirty... I honestly cannot foresee any of them splitting!! </p> <p>Actually I do have one friend that is divorced and she is 25 or 26, thankfully no kids are involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427215 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 19:53:03 +0000 mrsjazz 427215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of my married friends are still together. Only one couple is divorced. Both of our parents are divorced so we both are very familiar with it. 3 out of 4 of our parents are remarried and have been in long-term relationships so it's nice to see that there's still a belief in love &amp; marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427169 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 19:10:05 +0000 chopsuey 427169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of our married friends are still together.<br /> Our parents are still happily married too and there's no divorce in either of our extended families.<br /> Lots of happy loving role models! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-friends-starting-to-break-up#post-427162 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 19:04:34 +0000 mrsmate 427162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im in my early 30s, and we just learned that a couple we are friends with separated this fall. They have two kids under 3. We know about another couple with no kids that separated this summer, and another childless couple that divorced last year. They were all married 4-6 years. Does anyone else have married friends who are splitting up and know how to handle it? Both DH and I have parents who are still married, so divorce is something we are not very familiar with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-6-month-old-to-forget-someone#post-285382 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 22:28:36 +0000 plantains 285382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm wondering about this too as I'm taking LO to the UK for 2 weeks and DH can't come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-6-month-old-to-forget-someone#post-285329 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 21:45:47 +0000 Ree723 285329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's good to know! I'm hoping that because DD will have just had a month with her daddy around all the time (instead of going off to work five days per week), he will be fully ingrained in her memory for when we return! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-6-month-old-to-forget-someone#post-284852 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 19:19:11 +0000 MamaBehr 284852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my first was only three months old my DH left to do a summer work in Houston, TX. My daughter and I flew down right after her four month visit, and she totally recognized my DH in the airport. She immediately got a huge grin on her face. We did a little skyping, but that was more for him than for the baby. So, if she can at four months, after he had been gone for four weeks, I would imagine your LO won't forget her Daddy :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-6-month-old-to-forget-someone#post-284732 Thu, 06 Sep 2012 18:49:11 +0000 chopsuey 284732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hurmm.. DH was away for 2 weeks when LO was around 5-6 months old. She never had separation or stranger anxiety so things went back to normal when he got home.<br /> We skyped while he was away too. </p>