https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 03:23:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-493624 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 11:51:52 +0000 brownie 493624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to school this morning and he didn't cry. I don't know what was different but he fussed a little and just did it. It was amazing. I did leave an old ID card with my picture on it if he needs it today for some reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490997 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 11:38:33 +0000 brownie 490997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a funny but related note, he had no problem with Santa at all. He willingingly went to and got pictures with Santa multiple times this Christmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490778 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:35:03 +0000 brownie 490778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: We could try it. Mornings aren't too bad until we actually get to school. We do the same thing every morning. I stop the car, I get him out, he puts on his backpack. We go into the big kids side and I sign him in, I take him potty, he washes his hands, I take him to the toddler side. At some point between parking and walking to the toddler side he just flips a switch and starts crying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490691 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:04:49 +0000 mrbee 490691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Mrs. Jacks wrote a great post about kids who have trouble sequencing events in the morning... could something like this behavior chart help maybe?</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/cracking-the-code-on-toddler-tantrums/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/cracking-the-code-on-toddler-tantrums/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490676 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 10:00:55 +0000 brownie 490676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: No lovey. He just attached to a christmas present (fur real puppy) but that is new. Our current plan is stickers from snapfish with a picture of mommy and daddy. See if that helps.</p> <p>@TheHistoryOfUs: He plays just fine on his own at home and daycare's house. He loves having us play with him but gladly goes off. Caveat if we put him in independent playtime he doesn't always take that well. But he's getting better with it imposed on him. When we have friends kids over he is all over the playing with them. </p> <p>After the first few days, they say he has a hard time transitioning at preschool. So during an activity he calms down and then when they go to the next activity they don't. But I'm not too sure. The ladies there when I pick him up aren't the ones I drop him off with (lunch/nap time). So I don't always get the information I want.</p> <p>He is a high-needs child so I don't know if that changes the approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490543 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 09:05:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 490543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not an expert on this, but will try to maybe give any perspective. </p> <p>It sounds like maybe he doesn't know what to do when on his own. Does he play well independently while at home? Or is someone always sitting with him playing with him? I know when my daughter started the new toddler classroom at 15 months, she was kinda lost in the room and therefore would just kinda sit and cry. It took her time to learn how to play (play food in the kitchen area, books on the bookshelf, etc) but also be brave/willing/independent enough to go try those things by herself. </p> <p>How does he do during activities at preschool? If a teacher is engaging activity such as circle time or reading is he ok? </p> <p>Also, when I drop my daughter off the only thing that saves us is bringing a banana. She happily waves goodbye and gives me a kiss as long as I leave her sitting there eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490515 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 08:50:10 +0000 mrbee 490515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Does he have a lovey of some kind?</p> <p>Charlie never had a lovey, but when he first went to daycare he would sit in his stroller when he missed us. He did that for quite a while in the mornings. It really helped him cope with the transition!</p> <p>We also gave him some pictures of his family, but not sure how much that helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490324 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 00:44:01 +0000 sarac 490324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really struggle with this as well. I'm a pretty serious attachment parent, and I'm proud of the bond that my daughter has with me and my husband. But wow, it would be so nice to be able to leave her at a gym daycare. She's just gotten ok with being left with my mother, and my mother in law can manage too. We have one other friend who can baby sit. We're trying out a new one tomorrow night, and I expect it to be awful.</p> <p>So, yeah, I've got nothing but commiseration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490283 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:48:03 +0000 brownie 490283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: One of the kids is a friends kid who we see every week. But even that doesn't seem to help him. One of the boys in his class really likes him. Every morning he comes by to say hi as I bring him in. Not smothering just to say hi it's really cute. My kid just has no desire to have anything to do with them.</p> <p>Daycare's son (5 year old) has gone to the gym daycare with him and that doesn't help either. He didn't cry the entire 30 minutes, but he would get distracted and then start crying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490270 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:38:27 +0000 mrbee 490270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does he have any friends at the preschool?</p> <p>I really wish we had had playdates with other kids from Charlie's daycare before he started there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-help-please#post-490265 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:34:37 +0000 brownie 490265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 20 months old (almost 21 months old). He has a babysitter he sees daily while I work. We have followed many attachment parenting things such as co-bedding, extended breastfeeding, and baby wearing. It has worked wonderfully as my child is extremely attached me (even though I work full time). </p> <p>So, our problem is that he is extremely anxious when we leave him. He has no problem going to daycare but we started preschool in October and he STILL cries every time we leave. Today he cried as soon as I pulled into the parking lot. I don't think there is anything wrong with preschool. They aren't hurting him and I know they are treating him well. </p> <p>We have started taking him to the daycare at the gym. He won't stop crying for 30 minutes with them. </p> <p>Please give me suggestions to help him. What can we do to make him feel safer in these places? </p>