https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 06:52:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2021772 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 10:33:52 +0000 pmerr 2021772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm one of those TG people. I didn't do it just for gender neutral gifts (although it was a huge bonus). You can still get lots of things that you need (and may not be able to afford, which was our case), and you'll get things that people liked to use or think are cute. Not everyone goes with the registry even when you don't know the gender.</p> <p>That said, I think doing it combined is a great idea, and if I were ever to find out/do a gender reveal party, I would have it combined. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2021523 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:11:55 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2021523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it sounds fun! I think the most fun is if the parents are finding out at the same time. There are the cutest ideas on Pinterest and on Etsy for a gender reveal party/shower. I've had this invitation pinned forever in case we decide to do a gender reveal for a second baby- <a href="https://www.etsy.com/listing/184517901/chalkboard-gender-reveal-invitation-pink?ref=sc_1&#038;plkey=16f8fa3f16194bca346f80c38fcd48a482c2c08d%3A184517901&#038;ga_search_query=gender+reveal+shower&#038;ga_page=2&#038;ga_search_type=all&#038;ga_view_type=gallery" rel="nofollow">https://www.etsy.com/listing/184517901/chalkboard-gender-reveal-invitation-pink?ref=sc_1&#038;plkey=16f8fa3f16194bca346f80c38fcd48a482c2c08d%3A184517901&#038;ga_search_query=gender+reveal+shower&#038;ga_page=2&#038;ga_search_type=all&#038;ga_view_type=gallery</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2021462 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 06:49:19 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2021462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: People actually gave you hand-me-down clothes as gifts?!? I can understand offering to give some hand-me-downs to be helpful, but bag after bag seems excessive.</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We wouldn't tell our parents beforehand- as much as they insist that they have a right to know first, they'll have to wait and be surprised with everyone else :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2021341 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 23:56:46 +0000 curlymama318 2021341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do it! We're doing the exact same thing! We don't know the gender yet, but are intending to find out. Like PP have said, especially if it ends up being a girl, we don't just want/need clothes! Super gender specific anything is really really not our style at all! The nursery is going to be gender neutral regardless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020954 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 18:40:24 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2020954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: I'm sorry your first shower ended up like that! Glad your second one was better :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020657 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:11:37 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2020657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OP, you know your guests best. Sounds like revealing at the shower would be better for you. Personally, I wouldn't tell my parents beforehand. I think if this is something you want to do for your shower you should surprise the hostesses the morning of. Everyone can be in on it together. If the grands really want to feel special- what about having all the VIPs open up a gift at the same time. Pink or blue onesies? Oversized pink or blue rattles? With that many people (5-6 maybe?) someone is bound to throw a hand in the air for the farthest guest to see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020405 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 13:36:01 +0000 littleblessings 2020405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBananaGrabber: that's a great idea. It adds suspense to the shower and like you said you wouldn't get overloaded with clothes you might not get to use right away. I told everyone the sex before the shower and got tons of hand me downs. I wouldn't have minded some hand me downs but literally bag after bag of clothes that people no longer wanted for their kids. It really bugged me tbh. It was main SOs family doin that. Next baby we are going to be team green for that reason. We don't want tons of stuff we might not be able to use. We don't wanna feel bad about our kid outgrowing clothes super fast. If we announce at the hospital more than likely we will get one or two outfits from most visitors which to me is better than bags and bags of stuff </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020393 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 13:32:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 2020393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I could go back I would do this! I was one that started to cry when I got home from my first shower because of all the frilly, girlie clothes we got (not my style) and the lack of registry items received. I felt awful that I was so upset and I felt ungrateful for the generosity. However at my next shower I received more from the registry so it did balance out. I did return the clothes when I could, I didn't feel bad about this since I had hand-me-downs from my sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020382 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 13:29:45 +0000 Circusbee 2020382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say go for it. I would have loved to do this too, except that I didn't have just 1 big baby shower, instead I had a a couple little ones, so I don't think it would have worked very well for our situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2020342 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 13:18:24 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2020342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love gender reveal parties, I think it is SO fun finding out. It would be a cool surprise for your guests but honestly, shopping for my friends shower who was team green was pretty dull. Gender neutral clothes just aren't cute to me so I felt like I was settling on the outfits I got. The showers I go to people always buy off the registry and get an outfit to go with it so I haven't experienced people ignoring the registry if they knew the sex. I don't think either option is wrong though it will all be great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019728 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 06:25:06 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2019728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: They would never believe that we're Team Green :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019719 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 05:51:10 +0000 lamariniere 2019719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be fun to find out at the shower. In any case, it's your party and I think you should plan it how you want it, despite what people may think. Actually, it never even crossed my mind that it would appear gift grabby to do it this way, but I always gift from the registry whether or not I know the sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019716 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 05:48:01 +0000 Ree723 2019716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBananaGrabber: Ugh, that's annoying! Any chance you could not tell your parents that you'll be doing a gender reveal at the shower so then they have no idea? Or will they know there's not a chance in the world you would be TG?</p> <p>ETA: also think you're well within your right to find out beforehand and have a special moment with your DH :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019714 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 05:39:53 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2019714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: We would have to know before hand to prepare however we tell people (probably a cake.) We briefly considered giving a closed envelope to a bakery to make a cake, but sad as it is, my parents would go to extreme lengths to find out (just for the sake of knowing before anyone else.) They're the type who would call EVERY bakery in the area and offer them $5k to tell the gender early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019712 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 05:35:11 +0000 Ree723 2019712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this would be super fun! I'd love to be at a shower where everyone finds out the sex of the baby at the same time - something fun and exciting to make the shower more interesting! I don't know if I just missed this in your previous responses, but would you be finding out at the shower as well or would you know beforehand? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019704 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 04:47:40 +0000 Cherrybee 2019704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE this idea! As a guest, I would feel so involved and so touched to receive this information in such a special way, before any big announcements were made! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019651 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 23:35:20 +0000 Corduroy 2019651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea. DH and I found out the sex shortly before our shower. We had gender neutral invites and a gender neutral registry. At the very top it said "It's a girl" but most guests didn't read that even though they bought from the registry. Our shower ended up being a gender reveal for most. Several guests expressed disappointment that they didn't know while shopping. Oh well, I wasn't disappointed! I thought it was great seeing everyones reaction to the girly theme at the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower/page/2#post-2019388 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 17:34:22 +0000 HabesBabe 2019388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only been to one shower that was like this, and I felt that everyone who was my age or had just had kids knew that it was a way to get gifts from their registry, but not be Team Green. I didn't really care, but other people commented about how the mom and dad were withholding that information to get better gifts (no clothes). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019377 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 17:07:43 +0000 turquoisemama 2019377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I agree with this. We got so many girl clothes at the shower and they were cute, but I would have rather get stuff from the registry and pick out clothes myself. We got mostly newborn sizes and she probably won't fit into those after a few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019376 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 17:07:35 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2019376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: The date is set. Due to travel logistics, the shower will be when I'm 28 weeks along, so it's on the early side anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019375 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 17:06:36 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2019375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NeekieRose: Based on what I've seen at other baby showers with a lot of the same guests who would be there, and our wedding shower 2 years ago with most of the same guests, they're not the kind of people who would throw in a cute outfit as an "extra." Like I said in the original post, at a shower I recently went to (with a lot of the same guests we would invite) the gifts were almost all clothes, even though the mom hadn't registered for any. Most of the guests JUST got clothes. Only a few of us had even looked at her registry. </p> <p>I love all our friends and family who we will invite, but most of them are the kind of people who insist that they know better than you about everything (they're already constantly calling me with pregnancy and parenting advice) and have the best taste. If they're going to go off-registry and get us what they think we should want instead of what we actually want anyway, I'm hopeful that the gender-neutral restriction will at least encourage them to get gifts that the baby will get more use out of, like books or instruments. I would feel bad if we got a ton of clothes that we just never used. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019374 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 17:04:45 +0000 spaniellove 2019374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it sounds like a fun thing to do at a shower! Is the date for the shower already set in stone? Maybe it would go over better if this is done sooner rather than later so it doesn't feel like you knew forever and instead more like you're sharing an authentic experience with your guests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019365 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 16:59:29 +0000 looch 2019365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are going to get clothes as gifts, no matter what or when you try to announce. People just love the itty bitty clothes in size 3 months and they can't help themselves. </p> <p>Having said that, I think a sex reveal is fun at a shower....I mean, I find them incredibly boring anyway so any distraction is great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019320 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 15:10:46 +0000 Reese 2019320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a fun idea. It would never even cross my mind that the parent(s) were being manipulative or selfish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019314 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 15:03:59 +0000 jedeve 2019314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you a) let everyone know ahead of time you will reveal at the shower and b) are finding out then too people won't feel "manipulated." And really you don't owe anyone anything - you can tell then your baby's sex anytime you want! But if they know you are revealing then the gender specific baby gift diehards will probably just get a small gift and then get you a more specific gift later on. </p> <p>I think it sounds fun. Everyone would be there and yeah, I don't love the idea of going to two separate events. </p> <p>Really no matter what you do someone will disagree. Heck, we didn't find out the sex of our first and my mom was convinced we knew and were lying to her for ages! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019313 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 15:02:17 +0000 tysonja 2019313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i planned a shower for a friend and we did this. it was fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019299 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 14:45:35 +0000 snickers 2019299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBananaGrabber: Would you already know the gender? Or would you find out at the baby shower as well?</p> <p>It thinks its an awesome idea and would be so much fun!</p> <p>We had a gender reveal party but just for our family and DH and I already knew we were having a boy. I made cupcakes with blue in the middle it was so much fun and we got the special moment of finding out just the two of us, but then shared it in a fun way with family.</p> <p>It would be so fun as a guest to find out at a baby shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019292 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 14:37:51 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2019292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it because it was a special private moment between my husband and myself. However I know someone who chose to do it and it seemed like it was really fun and they enjoyed it. Everyone knew I was having a boy but I still got a lot of registry gifts in addition to other useful non registry items. Most people waited until after he was born to send the clothes that weren't quite my taste ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019288 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 14:33:19 +0000 NeekieRose 2019288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was invited to a shower where they were doing this and the MIL said it was for this exact gift reason. Which I thought was manipulative. In general I don't like gender reveals where the parents know but are revealing for others (not sure if that is the case here or if you will be finding out too). For this shower the parents had known for 16 weeks. I thought it was lame.</p> <p>I like gender reveals in general. I did one for this baby at DD1's first birthday (timing worked out that I was 19 weeks at the time of the party). </p> <p>In my experience people buy off the registry and then the clothes are just "extras"...so you would actually get less gifts because people won't make those cute impulse purchases. But you know the guests better than anyone else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/thoughts-on-gender-reveal-at-baby-shower#post-2019242 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 13:15:33 +0000 PrincessBaby 2019242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always stick to the registry anyway. I have no idea why people think they know what the baby should have better than the mom. Especially little pink or blue clothes in tiny sizes that will never get used or will just be put on once. If I get an outfit, it's usually in addition to something from the registry, not the main gift. So I say do whatever floats your boat! </p>