https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 15:51:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856362 Tue, 13 Nov 2018 12:03:59 +0000 snowjewelz 2856362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely put photos of anything that has to do with her in the album because she is part of your family and you should be able to talk about her if friends/family are flipping through the album. Do what is good for you and your family :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856267 Mon, 12 Nov 2018 15:37:13 +0000 pachamama 2856267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: I think it's a lovely idea to permanently and publicly memorialize your daughter. :heart: You loved her so so so much and it will keep things more present for you and your family (and neighbors!). It was such a hard decision for you and I know you want her to know you will never forget her. I'm not sure why our society has made this very common pain and sadness we feel as women so taboo. Let's bring it to the surface.<br /> Sort of in the same vein, I wear my children's birthstone in rings between my wedding bands- when people asks about the ring set I tell them the aquamarine was from a baby I lost. It makes me sad/happy and creates a conversation where more often than not they will share their history of loss.<br /> @Pollywog: girl. crying. UGH :-( </p> [attach=5254/18/pi3la1.337x600.1112181531.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856105 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 22:53:05 +0000 DesertDreams88 2856105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea of a dedicated page or two. Another alternative is to make a separate book. Each of my children has a small 8x8 book with ultrasound photos, diary-type entries, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856104 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 22:50:23 +0000 yellowbeach 2856104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LabradorLover: Still fighting the good fight, thanks for thinking of me. We are ok. Today was a good day as DH saved a life of a man who suffered a cardiac arrest while running a local marathon (he was the race doc). DD and I went to see Peppa Pig Live and it was the happiest I've ever seen her. So today was a good day. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856102 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 22:41:38 +0000 Pollywog 2856102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally not the same, but I had a miscarriage after I had announced to everyone. Looking at photos from those three months is so clear I'm pregnant. I'm beaming and clearly nauseous. The photos afterwards I look much older and that I'd gone through hell. I'd include the photos that capture that you lost a daughter because it's an event that changed your life. If people ask, my reply has been "we lost a baby" or "J wasn't our first pregnancy". No one has asked questions. </p> <p>We have a teddy bear that was a gift for our first baby in our room. My almost 3 year old asks if it's his and I reply "that was the first baby in mommy's belly. She was too sick and was never born, like you were. You can play with the bear,but please put it back when you're done. " He's never asked follow ups </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856101 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 22:09:30 +0000 LabradorLover 2856101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just adding my :heart: :heart: :heart: to this. Always thinking of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856097 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 21:25:18 +0000 yellowbeach 2856097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: Thanks so much for your reply. I feel so consumed by all of this even still, so it's really helpful to have some rational outsider perspective. I think you bring up a good point about listing Feb-May 2018 because that will say everything and set the tone in case anyone wants to ask questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856094 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 21:00:29 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2856094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you are ok to talk about it, I would reserve a page in the book to put a scan of the ultrasound photos with the dates of February to May (ie: Baby E forever in our hearts, February 2018-May 2018 or whatever you prefer with specific dates/phrases) I think that allows you to honor her and make her an important part of your year while also making it pretty clear what happened for future. I think if I scanned through a friends book and saw that, I would understand what it meant and ask no further if I was a casual aquaintance who didn’t know what happened. If your other child sees that, I think it could be a good conversation starter as well and helps them to know they had a sibling and this is the photo we have of them.</p> <p>I think it’s ok to put whatever you like in the book, even if that’s a blank page if you aren’t sure and want to come back to it later. I’m sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856093 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 20:46:10 +0000 gotkimchi 2856093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: then I think that’s a really beautiful way to honor her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856092 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 20:45:04 +0000 yellowbeach 2856092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: That's a great question that I hadn't really considered. I would actually welcome the idea of talking about her because I feel like everyone except me has forgotten. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856090 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 20:30:04 +0000 gotkimchi 2856090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What makes you feel good? Would you be happy to talk about her if someone asks or would that make you miserable? Do what you can handle and are ready for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-handle-tfmr-in-annual-shutterfly-family-album#post-2856089 Sat, 10 Nov 2018 20:24:51 +0000 yellowbeach 2856089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every year I make a Shutterfly photo book for DH. It's our family album of the events of that year. It's his favorite present every year and our moms love it so much I give them a copy as well. I'm struggling with how I should handle Baby E (our TFMR for T21 in May) in the book. She was a part of our lives from Feb to May, and the emotional aftermath defined the remainder of the year for me. I still have her US photos and am sure down the road I will want to have them somewhere more permanent. I just struggle with the awkward questions that might come up in the next 2-5 years, especially as our 21 mo DD grows older and starts asking questions. Maybe this would be a way to start the conversation? Perhaps it will just create very awkward moments if new friends &amp; neighbors casually peruse the book lying on the coffee table... Any advice/thoughts/experiences appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-738993 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 09:17:22 +0000 .twist. 738993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Photo Book Girl: Thanks!! I will go check out your blog :) </p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: That's good to know, thank you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-738680 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 06:50:21 +0000 T.H.O.U. 738680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: or look at drop box. I have started using a combo of Shutterfly and Drop Box for storage. I love that shutterfly doesn't limit the space and you dont have to make an order to keep your account active. I have pictures from college on there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-738558 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 01:23:22 +0000 Photo Book Girl 738558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I make tons of photo books and I actually write a blog on them. @.twist. if you need any help, I'd be happy to give you some tips. My site is linked in my profile and I've done lots of Shutterfly reviews. My favorite one so far is the one I did for this past Valentine's Day. I made them as gifts for the grandparents. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-735074 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:17:54 +0000 .twist. 735074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: haha! Answered a question for me. Thanks. I will look into CrashPlan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-735072 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:17:17 +0000 .twist. 735072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: haha yea, I'm SUPER lazy and if this works out for me I might actually have photos to put up in our house! </p> <p>@LuLu Mom: Ah, can you re-download them to your computer?</p> <p>@sunny: Thanks for the tip! That is actually a great idea!! :) </p> <p>Also, a tip for anyone reading that I just heard from a friend is that you cannot use iphone photos! She tried to make an album from them and went to checkout just to find all her work was for nothing and it couldn't be ordered. </p> <p>I have no idea if that applies to ipad photos as well. Would love to hear if anyone can weigh in on that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-735067 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:15:16 +0000 sunny 735067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: shutterfly is no good for online backup. You cannot download photos at their highest quality. I think you might be able to download photos at very small sizes (not suitable for printing).</p> <p>Your only options are to order a disc (not sure of the cost) or to create a photo project.</p> <p>I recommend CrashPlan to backup your collection! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-735061 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:13:21 +0000 sunny 735061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh btw one tip I have is to create a photobook when you have time and then order when they send you a good coupon!</p> <p>I've let a few free book coupons expire because I didn't have the time to make a book. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734953 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:35:09 +0000 LuLu Mom 734953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like it &amp; it's the only one I use. And it's nice to have an online backup for all my photos just in case somethign were to happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734952 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:34:44 +0000 runsyellowlites 734952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Without Shutterfly we would NEVER have printed photos! Seriously! I'm horrible about getting prints done so when Shutterfly sends out their 101 free prints (usually a couple times a year) we stock up! Sadly I just missed this last one b/c we were moving &amp; I didn't have time to load pictures, BUT next time I'll totally be on it!</p> <p>I personally have never done a photobook b/c I can't seem to get into designing them/placing the photos.... I really should for the awesome discounts they have though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734919 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:22:05 +0000 .twist. 734919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: thanks! that is shocking. lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734914 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:21:33 +0000 Grace 734914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: They send tons of promo codes for 40% or 50% off and I think there was a free book one just now. Also often there's a code for free shipping. It's one site where it seems we get the same perks as in the states. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734907 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:19:32 +0000 .twist. 734907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies, I'm getting the impression that it's really great depending on the type or project you're doing? </p> <p>@Grace: I know you're in Canada, so, do you find they send out a lot of coupons and stuff? What's the shipping like? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734892 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:17:20 +0000 Grace 734892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love Shutterfly for photo books and a calendar. I'm making a baby book on there right now with the plan to print it off when LO is 2. I think the quality is fine, but I'm also not picky. One annoying thing is that the site can be a bit buggy (stuff won't open, freezes, things like that). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734860 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:09:23 +0000 sunny 734860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've made lots of photobooks using Shutterfly. Always always look for coupons! I have never ordered a photobook without a 30%-40% off coupon. Occasionally they will send you a coupon for a free 8x8 book and you pay $8 shipping. </p> <p>I love Shuttefly but I just wish their shipping fees weren't so ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734852 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:07:34 +0000 heffalump 734852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, the print quality is what you get for the price. I never buy anything on there unless I have a coupon or there's a good sale, there is always some promotion going on. I like their photobooks because you can easily customize them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734847 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:07:04 +0000 Bookish 734847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love it because of all the coupons they send out! I've actually been pretty pleased with the quality of prints I've gotten, even ones as large as 11x17. Mind you, normal point and shoot photos I would keep smaller, but if you have large professional files like I did (like for my engagement pics), they turned out great. They send out coupons so often that I haven't paid more than 20$ total for hundreds of prints over the last couple of years.</p> <p>I also buy their photo books very regularly, and the one I just made for DH's anniversary present looked great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734841 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:04:22 +0000 lawbee11 734841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've made a couple of photo books on Shutterfly and they turned out cute. I also made a photo calendar, and it is really cute! My MIL is obsessed with Shutterfly and has a million prints from there. I would say their print quality is comparable to Walgreens or Target--not great but not bad. I would print pictures to hang on the fridge or put on your desk at work, but I wouldn't order large prints to hang around the house from them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/shutterfly-crash-course#post-734828 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 14:58:39 +0000 .twist. 734828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are your opinions on Shutterfly? </p> <p>I've heard a little about it, but really don't know anything about how it works or what's great about it? </p> <p>Can anyone give me any tips or tricks or warnings? Is the quality good?</p> <p>I just signed up for it and apparently I get 50 free prints for signing up and I'm thinking about testing it out on some wedding photos! </p> <p>Thanks!!!! </p>