https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 21:12:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2053555 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 09:33:59 +0000 SeptMomma12 2053555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a really spoiled cat too (truly our "baby" for 5+ years before LO came) and totally expected him to act out or get jealous. But honestly he pretty much ignored LO for the first two years. We definitely saw less of him than we did before (and he's a join you in the bathroom kind of cat too), but no real behavior changes. Then suddenly right around LO's second birthday he seemed to accept he was staying and now they get along pretty well. It helps that one of LO's favorite things to do is get him treats;)</p> <p>One thing we did do that I think helped a bit is that we still allow him to sleep with us. That's "his time" and it didn't change when LO came along. (We don't co-sleep.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2053454 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 08:37:50 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2053454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Astro Bee: My cat is like that too! I figure that when I'm home alone with the cat and the baby, I'll take the baby into the bathroom with me to shower and such, and leave the cat out, but I know she'll be yowling at the door the whole time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2053442 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 08:34:21 +0000 Dandelion 2053442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, cats don't care. They're just grateful for all the new things to sleep on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2053438 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 08:32:33 +0000 Astro Bee 2053438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following for any helpful hints. We're due with our first in 8 (yikes!) weeks, and have two spoiled cats. One is the really pissy demanding type, but I'm worried about both. The second one is more attached to me and follows me around the house. I think she has separation anxiety or something, because I can't go into the washroom without her trying to get in with me. They both love lying on our laps whenever we sit on the couch. I don't know how they'll react to such a big change in their routine/our attention. </p> <p>@MrsBananaGrabber: So you're not alone in feeling like it's going to be a disaster until you cat adjusts. I keep having visions of a cat jumping into the bassinet at night and smothering the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2053409 Wed, 04 Feb 2015 08:09:15 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2053409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kinda surprised everyone's experiences went so well! I keep having these horrible visions of our cat getting terribly jealous of the attention and scared of the new noises and smells and acting out in some way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051988 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 11:31:30 +0000 kes18 2051988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really do anything (we have two). I set up the baby gear and they LOVED sleeping in it (as most cats do with new things). But once the baby came they weren't allowed in the room she was sleeping in (at night). They didn't really seem to care too much about her. Usually they avoid her, even now at 10 mo they especially try to avoid her since she likes to try to grab them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051842 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 10:11:34 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2051842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I set up the gear pre-baby too. I'm not sure if it helped but it certainly didn't hurt.</p> <p>I actually found we had no issues at all until my daughter started crawling and walking. We ended up making a few spots around the house for the cat to go that are too high for the baby (a shelf on a bookcase and the top of a dresser) and we also leave our guestroom door open so she can be in there when she wants to get away from my daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051841 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 10:11:15 +0000 avivoca 2051841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We set up the baby gear. The only things they wanted to play with were the car seat (Autumn loved to lay in it) and the crib (but only to run under the skirt and hide). They spend a lot of time trying to stay out of her reach now, so it wasn't a huge deal. We also brought home something that smelled like her for them to get used to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051820 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 09:54:51 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2051820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just set up the gear. They could care less about the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051803 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 09:39:14 +0000 Mae 2051803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't really do anything. We did set the baby gear up a few weeks in advance-- not necessarily for them but just to have it done. So I guess they were used to that by the time LO came home. But I don't really think you can prepare a pet for a baby. The first few weeks(months) are hard on everyone, pets included, but they'll adapt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051753 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 09:03:37 +0000 blackbird 2051753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I set everything up but they were so indifferent. The cats wanted nothing to do with a loud and unpredictable newborn </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051748 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 08:58:37 +0000 Tanjowen 2051748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would set your baby gear up a little before baby arrives. That was the hardest change for our animals, more so than the baby! We put the pack n play, swing and various items around downstairs and she got pissy f that we changed things on her, and peed on DH's car every night for 2 weeks. Once we got past that bump, she has seemed normal. </p> <p>The baby slept so much on arrival she would just hop onto the couch and stare at him and adjusted to his presence quite well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/any-advice-on-getting-a-cat-ready-for-a-new-baby#post-2051687 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 07:59:49 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2051687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did you prepare your cat (or other pet) for a new baby?</p> <p>Our cat is completely spoiled. She's extremely affectionate, and insists on sitting on our laps if we're seated and following us around the house if we're not. She doesn't go in any of the bedrooms so she leaves us alone all night, but first thing in the morning she wants to cuddle. I certainly don't plan on leaving her alone with the new baby, but I want to be sure that she eventually gets along with him/her and isn't too difficult and jealous about our attention being diverted away from her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626523 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:30:08 +0000 pastemoo 626523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: :) Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626518 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:26:24 +0000 Cherrybee 626518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like he's being a normal baby to me... but your step grandma would know better, after all she has met him once and I've not met him at all!! </p> <p>Please don't let her comments get to you. She doesn't know what she's talking about.... once you find a daycare provider your LO clicks with he'll be toddling off to play without a glance back, while you sniffle at the gate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626480 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 09:04:51 +0000 pastemoo 626480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the love. I am reading and re-reading everything and feel a bit better. :)</p> <p>@Kemma: Yes, they do. I am thinking it is a little bit of his regular personality, too.<br /> @babyjmama: That's great that your mom can take care of him! Please keep me updated if/when you transition to regular daycare. Good luck! :D<br /> @sunny: Just to clarify, the daycare mom did not say he was spoiled--and she even said one of her own kids was like that when she was a baby--she just said my little guy was too much for her now and she can't keep him. My step-grandma said he's spoiled when I told her that my son got fired from daycare.<br /> @banana: "I do it!" Hahah, I wonder what that will be like. He does that with food now--if I try to spoon feed him, he grabs the spoon!<br /> @zippylef: Thank you. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626322 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 04:10:21 +0000 loveisstrange 626322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: Honestly, I do think that 9 months is a rough age too. They have so much going on that even the most independent, low-maintenance kids need a little extra. C is extremely independent and she went through a massive clingy, grumpy phase at that age. </p> <p>Hopefully you can find a provider who is a better fit soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626235 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 01:12:00 +0000 banana 626235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He got "fired" after just 3 days the first time? I wouldn't say your baby is spoiled at all. The daycare provider just wasn't able to handle him. My son went to daycare when he was 2 and for a whole week he cried and wouldn't nap. She never once mentioned anything about it. She basically told me that "he'll get used to it" and that she has handled things like this before. </p> <p>I think it's great that your LO is attached to his mama. That's what babywearing is all about! The bond between mama and baby is just precious. And trust me, once he hits the toddler stage, all you'll be hearing is "I do it! I do it!". :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626221 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 00:43:01 +0000 Mrs. Pen 626221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I "know" you and G a little better than most bees here and I know how much you babywear but I do not believe G is spoiled or manipulative... You and I both recognize the benefits of babywearing esp in the early months but for me, I know the moment J started showing more independence I def let up on babywearing. I wasn't babywearing to spoil him and definitely wanted to encourage independence. But I don't believe that leaving a child crying in a chair/swing/etc is better than wearing them for fear of spoiling :)</p> <p>I do think G is a very high maintenance child. That's not necessarily a bad thing and YOU did nothing to make him that way, it's personality. My sister has a son who is high maintenance and that's actually the reason she started babywearing! So I know that baby wearing isn't the culprit. </p> <p>Anyway... I understand from the daycare providers POV that as a small daycare she couldn't handle a very high string child with other children to care for, but I also agree with others that a better daycare might fit his personal needs better. I don't think you should feel you need to compromise his personal needs: meaning if he's the type of baby who does best being held 90% of the time, try to find a center that can accommodate that! </p> <p>I know money is a factor so easier said than done! Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626182 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 00:04:49 +0000 sunny 626182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with what @Kemma said above... its ok that its not a good fit between the provider and baby, but to blame it on the baby for being "spoiled" is awful! I hope you find someone awesome soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626154 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 23:37:24 +0000 doodlepoodle 626154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: We haven't had to try "real" daycare yet, J is still at my mom's but he's 9 months and will be the death of the daycare if/when he goes. He's the SAME way. He is just a needy baby, always has been. I don't think it's anything I did specifically, we don't totally coddle him and he does play independently, but on the days he's fussy/needy? Oh gah. You betta watch out. Since he's with my mom for now it's not an issue, but when the time comes for daycare it really will be difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626096 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:57:21 +0000 Kemma 626096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a thought but don't babies usually go through some separation anxiety at that age?</p> <p>And blaming a wee babe for being "spoiled" is a pretty shitty thing for a daycare provider to do, it's one thing to say "hey, this isn't working and I'm not the right provider for your child" but to make a parent feel bad is not cool! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626094 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:55:17 +0000 pastemoo 626094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: :) Good luck to you too! Leaving LO at daycare is tougher than I thought it would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626088 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:52:18 +0000 Freckles 626088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops, i just re-read my comment and hope it didn't come off as sounding that wearing him is a bad habit. My LO (11 months) started daycare this week and it's been really rough. She was super needy and crying a lot the first couple of days. If daycares fired babies based on the first week, there would be tons of babies without childcare!!</p> <p>I babywear my LO quite often, and i don't consider herself spoiled. I hope you're feeling better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-626028 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:32:39 +0000 pastemoo 626028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: the first firing happened after 3 days<br /> also he got his first tooth last week--I didn't notice anything but that might be part of it?<br /> Thank you for sharing your story with me. That really helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625991 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:13:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 625991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>your LO only went to daycare for 4 weeks before they "fired" him??? That is totally on the daycare, mama, and not on you or your baby!</p> <p>When my LO started daycare, she wouldn't sleep at all unless she was rocked to sleep and held until she was completely asleep. She would SCREAM otherwise and completely melt down. She started daycare at 12/13 weeks and this continued until just about a month ago...at over 7 months old. They dealt, even though it was more difficult than a baby they could put down in a crib to sleep. Even now, she sometimes needs to be held and rocked to sleep. They have never once complained about it, because different baby needs are totally normal.</p> <p>Don't take this to heart, your baby is NOT spoiled in a bad way. Some babies need certain things to fall asleep, others don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625954 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:55:24 +0000 pastemoo 625954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625940 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:50:47 +0000 LittleGBee 625940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: No doubting your momskillz! I'm sure they are mad awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625926 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:43:16 +0000 pastemoo 625926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I think she's a little gun-shy. She is a very young grandmother (has a 10 month old grand baby plus 3 other babies in her home)--and two of her kids are still in school (high school).<br /> She said my son is like one of her (now teen) daughters used to be as an infant.<br /> My take is that I think she's remembering something and that has a lot to do with it.<br /> Thanks for saying he's not spoiled. :)</p> <p>@sarac: :) That is very sweet. Thank you.<br /> @LittleGBee: There is. I understand her, it's just sad. And it makes me doubt my momskillz.<br /> I think you're right. Every time one of her (older) kids is home and holding him, everyone is happy. I think it's just before they get home from school--maybe he doesn't like her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/spoiled-baby-fired-from-daycare#post-625853 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 21:10:03 +0000 Freckles 625853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's awful! I agree with the above...sounds like the caregiver is super lazy! Even if a baby comes to the daycare with bad habits, they are usually able to break them. Ugh, i feel so bad for you! </p>