https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:34:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767994 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 16:31:20 +0000 starchild 2767994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you all good thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767987 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 15:52:16 +0000 MRSJX3 2767987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This exact thing happened with our closest couple friends. I don't have any advice other than you need to decide what is best for you, not him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767845 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 08:25:39 +0000 SweetiePie 2767845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So incredibly sorry you are dealing with this. I can't imagine how upside down your world feels.<br /> Putting myself in your shoes (which is incredibly hard to do, I'm sure it still falls short), I would take today to gather my thoughts and decide what I'll do if he comes clean vs does not. I would probably take the day off from work.</p> <p>I would approach him tonight and say that given the circumstances it is clear that there has been some infidelity. And this is his final chance to come clean. I think regardless of his answer (denies or admits) I would want some time to myself to think about my next steps. So I would stay at a hotel or a friend's house. I personally would rather remove myself than try to make him go - and he could always try to come back. If I'm gone I can try to keep it private until I'm ready to talk again. </p> <p>For me, and this is just me, I wouldn't immediately go the lawyer/divorce route. I would want to first try to work things out via counseling and trying to heal. Mayyyyybe separation, but with plans to reconcile. Just so I could get some space and figure things out.<br /> Of course it all depends if you already have kids, that could make a huge difference in terms of leaving/separating even temporarily. My above scenario is assuming no kids yet, just the pregnancy. </p> <p>Very sorry, you'll be in my prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767839 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 08:06:04 +0000 LuLu Mom 2767839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing but love coming your way, no one should have to go through this while pregnant. I think you in your heart will decide what needs to happen and the conversations that will need to happen, and only you can decide what is best for yourself and your growing family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767835 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 08:03:33 +0000 Caly 2767835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say I'm so incredibly sorry you're going through this :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767825 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 07:49:55 +0000 Adira 2767825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to say I'm so so sorry that you're dealing with this. Sending lots of love your way. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767817 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 07:22:50 +0000 babypugs 2767817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. Antibiotics are supposed to clear it up, so unless he hasn't taken antibiotics since you've been together I would be suspicious. I can't imagine how you are feeling and I really hope there is another explanation. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767814 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 07:17:23 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2767814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry. </p> <p>I agree with deciding what you want to do first. Assume that yes he cheated, will you stay and do counseling and try to make it work? Or are you done no matter what? </p> <p>Then I would present the facts to him and ask him his side of the story again. Tell him this is his last chance to tell you the truth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767811 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 06:50:41 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2767811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I agree with @ScarletBegonia: decide what you want to do first. Speaking from experience your relationship will always be altered when there is doubt and betrayal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767809 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 06:37:23 +0000 Modern Daisy 2767809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. The most logical explanation is usually the right one. I really can't say what I'd do in this situation, I think you should look inward and trust your gut. Marriage counseling might be a good idea, maybe before hiring an attorney which would surely end your marriage a lot faster. There is no right or wrong answer though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767806 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 06:26:55 +0000 azjax 2767806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. Chlamydia is spread by sexual contact, not by toilet seats, etc. While an infection can be asymptomatic, it's NOT like herpes virus, which can be latent and non-transmissible for periods of time. If you were negative a few months ago and are positive now, you contracted the Chlamydia bacteria in the intervening period of time. If your husband is your only sexual partner, then it came from him. It stinks that he is not being honest about it, but I promise you he's not some medical anomaly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767805 Tue, 15 Aug 2017 06:24:27 +0000 matador84 2767805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't tell you how sorry I am and how hurt you must be feeling. He needs to be honest with you and just admit that he cheated. If he can't do that, I would hire an attorney. Keeping you in my thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767778 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 23:06:09 +0000 MrsJBeeG 2767778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beyond sorry for you to deal with this while pregnant. you will be in my thoughts and prayers. </p> <p>I don't know the medical side but it seems like your worst fear is likely true and he cheated and isn't being honest about it. I have had close friends have this happen and they each decided differently what to do about it - one stayed and one moved on. No wrong answer - it's what is right for you in your situation. I'll be praying for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767777 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 23:03:36 +0000 youboots 2767777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably hire a PI honestly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767775 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 22:56:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2767775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. :( </p> <p>Unless there's another reason (medical professional?) your husband or yourself would have come into contact with it, I would think he cheated. (PP says it can "rarely" be spread by touching the eye after touching infected fluids.) The ONLY other thing I can think of is actually contracting it at the OB if they didn't sterilize something (like an ultrasound probe for a vaginal us) but that seems like a huge stretch too. It can't hurt to ask the doctor about it too. I know that's not what you probably want to hear and I'm sorry you're going through this. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767768 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 21:53:18 +0000 travellingbee 2767768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I am so sorry. This sounds like such a nightmare. I really don't know what to think about the situation, but would be inclined to think he probably cheated. That's so terrible and I hope that you get some answers... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767767 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 21:08:39 +0000 snowjewelz 2767767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry :heart: I hope that you are able to get to the bottom of this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767766 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 21:08:25 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2767766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man...I'm so sorry. I don't have any medical advice, but my relationship advice is to look inwards and decide without your husbands input if you would be comfortable sticking around and trying to make it work if he has cheated. If you decide no, then I would contact a divorce lawyer and start setting the wheels in motion, and go to him to explain it all. If he knows you are serious I don't see why he wouldn't come clean. If you decide yes, then go to him and explain that, and what your terms would be for staying - but that he has to be 100% honest with you. </p> <p>I guess - decide what your bottom line is first, then present him with his options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767764 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 21:05:17 +0000 Anagram 2767764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to say I'm really sorry----what an awful situation to be in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767756 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 20:08:11 +0000 mrskansas 2767756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry :heart:<br /> I asked my husband who is in the medical field and he said that to have chlamydia for 7+ years and never show symptoms or pass it to a partner would be incredibly rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767755 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 19:52:24 +0000 Ina85 2767755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry, that's just awful to deal with especially while you're pregnant. Did you ask your doctor about this, explaining that you've always tested negative and if this means that the husband cheated? I would discuss with my doctor and get my questions answered and go from there. I'm sorry :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767753 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 19:17:27 +0000 Meowkers 2767753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Have you asked the doctor if it's possible for your DH to have had it and not passed it to you all this time? If that's not a probability, then I think there's really only one logical/obvious answer. :-/. im so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767746 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 19:04:13 +0000 FancyGem 2767746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I know that some STD symptoms can be dormant, but I think you can still test positive even if you have no symptoms. The fact that you tested negative before makes me think that he did cheat. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-chlamydia-seriously-confused#post-2767742 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 18:29:11 +0000 Anyone 2767742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pregnant and switched doctors. They redid my blood work and I tested positive for Chlamydia. I was so confused and they reached the first doctor and sure enough I tested negative just a few months ago. I'm seeing the same doctor as with my previous pregnancies and she double checked, definitely negative the past times. I was retested because DH swears he didn't cheat. Still positive. DH got tested and he's positive too. We've been married for a while and I've been tested 5 times that I know of, all negative STD tests. He's never been tested before so I'm tying to convince myself that maybe he's had it our whole marriage (7+years) and it somehow just recently gave it to me. I know I'm probably being naive, but is there any hope? Or should I just woman up and face the fact that he most likely cheated. Seriously, FML. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2726477 Wed, 19 Apr 2017 19:45:25 +0000 FaithFertility 2726477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've kept it, but mine is $36 a pay period so $72 a month but that is for a life insurance plan and STD as a package </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2725820 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:31:40 +0000 Bibliolove 2725820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I am planning on keeping mine after the birth. How much I pay depends on my salary, but if I had to pay over $100 a month I might reconsider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2725811 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:19:49 +0000 littlebug 2725811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm keeping it. It never occurred to me to cancel it, but it costs nothing for me to have, and God forbid something happens and I would need it, I like knowing it's there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2725805 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 13:09:05 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2725805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm keeping mine, partially in case of another pregnancy, but also because I can use it for other medical needs. It is so little money for me (I have great benefits) and the cost is comparable for the potential gains if needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2725711 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 11:13:38 +0000 Coral 2725711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: It depends on your carrier. I called the customer service line to get some of those questions answered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-cancel-short-term-disability-post-pregnancy#post-2725702 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 11:07:23 +0000 josina 2725702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Thats another option, to just lower it. I originally signed up for the lowest plan at $24/month, I don't remember what the pay-out was though.</p> <p>@MamaG: I actually have a coloscopy next month, maybe I should hold out till after that just in case! </p> <p>Anyone know if the plan (Aflac) can be dropped at any time or just in the 60 day window after a life change? (Of course my rep isn't returning my calls/emails!) </p>