https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 05:42:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gaining-step-siblings-late-in-life#post-547532 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 19:47:47 +0000 Bookish 547532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks :) y'all are right, I don't need to be buddy buddy with them right away, or ever really. At least my sisters are in the same city as me lol. Blah, I'll feel better tomorrow I'm sure. It was just a shock plus pregnancy hormones are bad today :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gaining-step-siblings-late-in-life#post-547502 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 19:19:38 +0000 mrsjazz 547502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have step-siblings. They are young, 2 about to go to college and one about to graduate (I'm about to turn 35). We're not close, but we get along when we see each other at family functions. My brother, who lives with my mom and step-dad, is close with them and my sister knows them a bit better than I do.</p> <p>I'm married and don't go to all the family functions since I split my time with DH's family. It's weird, but I got used to it. My stepsiblings have a good relationship with my mother and they see her more often because they've lived with her for part of the week since their dad has joint custody but I'm out living my life and know that I've got a good relationship with my mom.</p> <p>You're not replaced, it's just a new chapter in your dad's life. You don't have to become all buddy-buddy sister-like with your new siblings if you don't want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gaining-step-siblings-late-in-life#post-547501 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 19:19:21 +0000 yoursilverlining 547501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband gained a step sister and 5 step-brothers when he was a late teen. We are in contact with the step-sister; who is the same age as my husband and who has young children. We're not close, but we are friendly. My MIL's 2nd husban was quite a bit older than her, and his sons are all 15+ years older than my husband. We know them all, and they came to our wedding, but we don't hang out or anything.</p> <p>I think it's totally ok to not be super friendly; especially at first. Honestly, if I were in your position, I would feel the same way you do. My husband definitely still has some residual issues because his dad defaults to whatever wife2 wants; and so often feels left out/replaced. I think you should be honest with your dad about you feelings. Over time, maybe you will become friends. Maybe you won't. But you don't have to be friends immediately. We are friendly; but at the end of the day, the only relationships we have is based on someone elses marriage...so no one seems to push any sort of extra relationship that doesn't just naturally develop. Hope this helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gaining-step-siblings-late-in-life#post-547489 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 19:02:14 +0000 mamimami 547489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a stepsister I've never met! My parents split when I was 24 and my dad remarried a year or so later. I don't consider his wife my stepmother nor her daughter my stepsister. I mean, technically yes, but obviously I am old enough where there's not a whole lot of family blending! It was weird at first but maybe try not to think of them of instant family members. You don't really have to have much to do with them if you're not comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gaining-step-siblings-late-in-life#post-547482 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 18:55:47 +0000 Bookish 547482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little background- My parents separated in early 2010, and divorced mid-2012. In late 2010 my Dad started seeing a woman and eventually moved in with her. Although I like her, I barely know her family. I haven't even met all of her kids. We have done nothing together as a group, and the one 'family' dinner I attended (without my 2 sisters) made me feel like quite the interloper. You see, my dad's girlfriend has a ton of family in the immediate area, so my dad sees all of them weekly. He sees my two sisters and I about 3 times a year. </p> <p>My dad just called to tell me they are going to Vegas in June to get married. It was a bit of a shock. He had never mentioned marrying her before, and I assumed they were content just living together. So, as immature as it may sound, I'm pissed and upset. I do not know this woman's family, they (my dad and gf) have made no effort for us all to get to know each other, and I know it sounds like a 10-year old thing to say, but I feel replaced.</p> <p>Does anyone have experience with blending families later in life (I'm 25, my sisters are 20), and any tips on how to be more mature about this? I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow, but you bees are always good for a pick me up. Thanks :) </p>