https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 00:08:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1271112 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 08:34:06 +0000 Sunshine1810 1271112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Thank you for posting this! We've been trying since 2011, but I am really hoping that 2014 will be our year! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270808 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 22:56:21 +0000 SunshineMcC 1270808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweettooth - thank you for sharing this! It's really powerful and nice to recognize that we're not alone in the emotions that we feel!</p> <p>@coffeeapples - I think it is OK. It might sound a little cheesy, but it's all a part of our journey - the good, bad and the sadness. I like to think that when we're parents it'll all be worth it! In the meantime, you're definitely NOT alone in how you're feeling and what you're experiencing. Stay strong! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270805 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 22:50:14 +0000 Torchwood 1270805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for posting this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270802 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 22:47:18 +0000 coffeeapples 1270802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you so much for sharing this.</p> <p>I was JUST thinking the last few weeks how this is just "not our year" and is it ok to just have a year associated with pain and sadness around infertility?</p> <p>I guess so....</p> <p>Thanks </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270611 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 21:14:35 +0000 LovelyPlum 1270611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: HOPE is a great thing to have in 2014! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270609 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 21:14:09 +0000 LovelyPlum 1270609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for that pretty song! It's amazing how big of a difference a year can make. This time last year, I was having such a rough time, and we weren't technically even TTC yet. I was still trying to get my health in order, we were working on getting our finances straightened out(ish), and DH didn't have a job. 2013 has been a year of both incredible heartbreak and incredible joy. I never could have imagined the journey that we have found ourselves on, and I'm so grateful for everyone who has walked it with us, including all of you lovely ladies :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270327 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 18:24:23 +0000 sweetooth 1270327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Time does fly...but this time of year always feels like it's on fast-forward, doesn't it? Thinking of you...</p> <p>@Shutterbug: I'm a big fan of the golden rule. I'll always be checking in with my IF friends. And here's to HOPE in 2014 :)</p> <p>@MrsKoala: You're welcome! I don't always listen to lyrics, but I heard every one of these loud and clear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270296 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 18:10:11 +0000 MrsKoala 1270296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! That is a really great song. Thanks for posting it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270291 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 18:09:16 +0000 Shutterbug 1270291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: thanks for this, and I really appreciate how supportive you are even though you've made it through to the other side! 2013 (and 2012) have definitely not been my years, but I'm hopeful for 2014! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270271 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:59:47 +0000 Happygal 1270271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: wonderful timing. I always appreciate your thoughtful comments and posts. Thank you for sharing. </p> <p>And oh my gosh, your baby is almost one month!?! Time flies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270259 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:55:28 +0000 sweetooth 1270259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: I look forward to 2014 as well - but will always remember the roller coaster that was 2013...and 2012...and 2011 :P Life is crazy, isn't it?</p> <p>I'm happy to be on the other side with you! And I wish for the same for everyone who is trying and feeling like they cannot get off of the roller coaster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270154 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:22:02 +0000 lilteacherbee 1270154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So powerful! I was thinking just last night about how sad I was this time last year. I was 5 months out from a m/c and still not pregnant again and we had been TTC for almost a year. Now, I look at my 3 week old and it brings tears to my eyes. 2012 was definitely NOT my year and 2013 was spent being pregnant and unfortunately, having crazy anxiety. So excited for 2014!</p> <p>Thanks for sharing this, friend. I'm so glad you have come out the other side as well. TTC and all of the emotions are so hard, especially at this time of the year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-your-year-dont-give-up#post-1270130 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:14:34 +0000 sweetooth 1270130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have used music to get me through various times in my life. I made a playlist for my wedding and my honeymoon. I made playlists to keep me focused when I was leaving a job and venturing out to something new and exciting. Playlists for road trips, playlists for mood shifts, and a playlist to work through the difficulty of infertility.</p> <p>I'm on the other side now - my baby boy will be 1 month old tomorrow. And I will just say this...I've had a few melt downs in the past 4 weeks and I've tried my best to remind myself of where I was a year ago. On the cusp of treatments after working through all of the infertility testing during the fall of 2012. What a difference a year makes. But oh how difficult infertility is...</p> <p>Back to the power of music...this song came up on my ipod while I was feeding my son and it brought tears to my eyes again. I know that the holidays, and the end of the year in general, creates a certain kind of pressure even if you aren't trying to conceive. And while you have probably heard every piece of advice you ever want to hear...here's just a little more. From the Weepies.</p> <p><b>This Is Not Your Year | the Weepies</b></p> <p>Scattered shadows on a wall, you watch the long light fall<br /> Some impressions stay and some will fade<br /> Tattered shoes outside your door, your clothes all on the floor<br /> Your life feels like the morning after all year long.</p> <p><i>Every day it starts again<br /> You cannot say if you're happy<br /> You keep trying to be<br /> Try harder, maybe, maybe<br /> this is not your year.<br /> This is not your year.</i></p> <p>Movies, TV screens reflect just what you expected<br /> There's a world of shiny people somewhere else<br /> Out there following their bliss<br /> living easy, getting kissed<br /> while you wonder what else you're doing wrong</p> <p><i>Every day it starts again<br /> You cannot say if you're happy<br /> You keep trying to be<br /> Try harder, maybe, maybe<br /> this is not your year.<br /> This is not your year.</i></p> <p>Breathe through it, write a list of desires<br /> Make a toast, make a wish, slash some tires<br /> Paint a heart repeating, beating<br /> "don't give up, don't give up, don't give up."</p> <p>Scattered shadows on a wall, you watch the long light fall<br /> Some impressions stay and some will fade away</p> <p><i>Every day it starts again<br /> Someday you'll say it<br /> That you're happy<br /> Keep trying to be, try harder harder, maybe, maybe<br /> This is not your year<br /> This is not your year<br /> It's just not your year<br /> This is not your year<br /> This is not your year</i> </p>