https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 03:22:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93641 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 19:19:08 +0000 eeh 93641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's a set age at which you can start taking a stand. I think it has to be on a child by child basis (like most things regarding children). If your little one is healthy and your ped doesn't have any concerns about him gaining weight then I think now is a great time to start. It will be hard at first because he'll probably be a little whiney since he's hungry and he's trying to get you to cave. I would also avoid giving him snacks in between meals. Give him the options you want him to eat and that's that. If he goes to bed hungry, so be it. Like I said, he will NOT starve himself. Even though he's a baby he has a natural survival instinct and will eventually give in and eat what you provide. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93621 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 18:40:17 +0000 aunt pol 93621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once he's healthy and a healthy weight, the odd missed meal will do him no harm. He's well old enough to do what he's told:)<br /> ETA he probably knows by your behaviour/reaction that it's important to you that he eats, so it's an easy power play for him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93613 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 18:22:36 +0000 cupcakemama 93613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pelikila: I think I am maybe with @eeh. If he eats it at school then it's not that he doesn't like it. He might be being a naughty monkey for his Mum!</p> <p>It's a hard one though. Have you talked to them at school about it? They may have tips and might be able to answer some of your questions. I have read that they say it can take up to 10 times for babies/toddlers to take to new foods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93584 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 17:15:22 +0000 pelikila 93584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: That was my thought with my original question - at what age might it be okay to take that stand? </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: Thanks for the encouragement. And you are not alone, my son hates mashed potatoes too. It took months to get him to eat a french fry but now they are okay to him. The palates and stubbornness of toddlers are incredibly frustrating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93540 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 16:01:30 +0000 eeh 93540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You mentioned he'll eat meatloaf at school which makes me think this is something of a control/manipulation issue already. If he eats it at school but not home it's probably because they won't cater to him and offer him other options. Try doing that at home and see what happens. I promise you he will NOT starve himself. He WILL eat at some point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93443 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:30:25 +0000 mrs. wagon 93443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pelikila: also know that it's a phase... for a LONG time probably between 18 and 25 months RJ would NOT eat bread. What kind of kid doesn't like bread?!? Usually kids live ONLY on bread!!! He basically ate only six foods during that time: scrambled eggs, yogurt, applesauce, pasta, ham, and cheese. He's just now leaving that picky phase and will now eat bread. He just tried a french fry and didn't spit it out for the first time in his life. The big bummer is that he used to eat steamed veggies every day (green beans, carrots, sweet potatoes) but stopped during the picky phase and now it's IMPOSSIBLE to get him to eat them again. We're not stressing about it too much and trying to hide it as best as we can in mac and cheese. </p> <p>And he won't eat mashed potatoes. Who doesn't like mashed potatoes...?!?!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93430 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:19:12 +0000 pelikila 93430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: My son won't touch pasta at all. I've tried the veggie pasta, the spirals, the stick noodles, the little soup star shapes, the colors, etc. My kid is apparently incredibly weird/stubborn. :)</p> <p>@mrs. wagon: I believe I will try your applesauce dipping method. Good suggestion.</p> <p>Thank you to all of you for suggesting ideas! It is very appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93350 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:48:55 +0000 mrs. wagon 93350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We STILL dip things in applesauce and RJ is 2 now. We'd do a whole spoonful of applesauce and put a tiny bit of food into it, then gradually increase teh size of the food and decrease the amount of applesauce. He learned to eat fish sticks this way. Now he'll pick them up and eat them plain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93328 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:20:42 +0000 T.H.O.U. 93328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow sounds like you have a tough one on your hands! </p> <p>Maybe for now try to at least make healthy starches? Lots of whole grains? What about like banana bread, zucchini bread, etc. I know they make pasta that has a full serving of vegetables in it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93179 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 08:31:51 +0000 pelikila 93179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yes! Maybe I need to start making my own chunky purees. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93177 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 08:29:42 +0000 looch 93177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard, isn't it? I can't understand why one day he'll love fish, then the next time I serve it, he tries to throw it on the floor, even prepared in the exact same way. I just keep trying. When I really need him to eat, I make him a chunky puree of sweet potato, spinach, meat and pastina. It's not ideal, I don't want to create negative associations around food...that's where I struggle the most. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93172 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 08:26:49 +0000 pelikila 93172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: proteins, fruits, and vegetables is what I'd like to get more of into him. For example, I'll serve some meatloaf (which he'll eat at school), scalloped potatoes, and peas. He will sit in his highchair crying and won't even pick up the food let alone let it near his face. If I brought him a piece of toast he'd be in heaven and would gobble it up. I don't want to give in to his preferences because it might set us up for him controlling me and I'm not willing to make two meals every time, even if the second meal is as simple as a grilled cheese. At the same time, I want to make sure my child is getting the nutrition and energy he needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93143 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:59:19 +0000 looch 93143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it that you want him to eat other proteins? </p> <p>I can't fool my son (15 months) by any stretch. He knows what he wants when it comes to mealtimes and while I control what I offer, I can't control what he swallows. I try not to stress about it too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93128 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:44:32 +0000 pelikila 93128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I tried the other day to put a slice of ham into the grilled cheese and he would take each little square, pull it apart, and throw the ham either on his tray or on the floor or offer it to the dogs. Not a single bite of ham actually got past him.</p> <p>@artbee: I always do blueberry, whole wheat apple, or zucchini muffins so that is a small win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93126 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:42:44 +0000 heffalump 93126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was also going to say to try to sneak healthy foods. Like zucchini bread or put healthy things in the muffins. Lo is just 7 1/2 months so I don't have much good advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93123 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:40:55 +0000 Andrea 93123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say between 2-2.5 yo you can start sending them to bed hungry. That is what my friends with older kids have told me. After a few days of being hungry, the kids come around and start eating the other stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93120 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:38:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 93120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, we aren't there yet. Is there anyway you can "sneak" healthier foods? Like a grilled cheese sandwich? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-age-is-it-okay-to-not-give-in-to-food-desires#post-93115 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 07:36:48 +0000 pelikila 93115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 13 months and refuses to eat pretty much any table food other than breads/grains. He'll eat like a champ on muffins, pancakes, toast, sandwich bread, crackers, goldfish, cheerios, grilled cheese, french fries, tortilla chips, and nutrigrain bars. I am curious to know at what age it may be appropriate to say "if you don't want what I served, then you don't get to eat." I know every child will be different in when that time frame would be appropriate but I can't feed him stage 3 purees or carbs exclusively! I've managed to sneak in the occasional banana by mashing it with an egg with a touch of cinnamon/sugar and making a "pancake" but this isn't balanced nutrition by a long shot. And he doesn't want to be spoon fed the purees so I'm at a loss. Do you think it will get better once his molars come in and he can grind food better? Any advice would be appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-44134 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 13:27:45 +0000 Rosie Girl 44134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both very stubborn! We normally both bend a little though to settle our differences, but we really don't have many differences! DH is more relaxed in certain aspects though, so that helps balance us out (like decorating, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-44115 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 13:00:19 +0000 Meridian 44115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: Me too! Didn't think of it as a Taurus trait, but totally right!</p> <p>I definitely tend to get my way, haha. I like things "just so". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-44019 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 11:07:00 +0000 winniebee 44019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband, definitely. He's a taurus ; ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-44013 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 10:48:40 +0000 eeh 44013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're both pretty stubborn but usually on different things. If there is a situation where we're both being stubborn I usually end up giving in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43998 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 10:06:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 43998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more stubborn in general. DH is so laid back. I would really prefer to be like him and let more things just roll off like he does, but I guess I'm just not programmed that way :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43966 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:33:39 +0000 Wondermommy 43966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeesh, we're one of those rare couples I suppose, because we're both stubborn as mules, lol! He's of Irish descent, and I'm a second generation Cuban, so our tempers do NOT mix well. And it shows in our poor LO-he's as hard-headed as the both of us! SO is a Cancer, I'm a Sagittarius, our youngest is a Virgo, and our oldest is a Taurus. Good times.<br /> As for who compromises, it usually depends on the situation, but overall I'd say it's 50/50. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43954 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:23:12 +0000 chopsuey 43954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think either one of us are very stubborn.. :T I always get what I want and DH always gets what he wants too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43949 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:08:00 +0000 hilsy85 43949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Yup, I agree with this. I almost always get my way because DH is laid back, but when he feels strongly, he REALLY feels strongly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43943 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:36:25 +0000 Andrea 43943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the DH is. Once his mind is made up, he really doesn't ever want to budge even if a better idea comes along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43942 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:24:52 +0000 Rubies 43942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely the stubborn one. The hubs is laid back so often he's indifferent about stuff and I usually get my way. But when the hubs feels strongly about something (like the name of our LO, for instance) it's such a rarity that I give in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43934 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:03:07 +0000 mynoahbear 43934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm way more stubborn. He usually just gives in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-more-stubborn#post-43933 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 01:01:05 +0000 BSB 43933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess that would be me. He can be stubborn too but I put up more of a fight! </p>