https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 24 Jun 2026 19:57:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1437082 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 14:27:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1437082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am in school and I have a toddler. It is insanely hard, but it's doable. I definitely could not do it without a 100% supportive husband. </p> <p>An ideal situation would be the ability to have J in FT daycare, go to school FT and not work. But financially that isn't an option. I go to school both PT and FT depending on the semester, work PT and J is only in child care when I'm at work. The rest of the time at home I have to manage my time and work hard to get it all done. DH takes J most weekends so that I can study and do HW. </p> <p>If I get into the program I want, my course load will nearly double and I will still have to work PT. I am honestly unsure how I will do it, but I'm committed.</p> <p>I agree with HLK though - if I had waited just a little while longer to have my son, it would have made this process a lot smoother. Instead it's really, really hard. I wish I had known before I had J what I wanted to do, and gotten it done. I would definitely try to get a couple years done though prior to getting PG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1195336 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 15:12:50 +0000 sunny 1195336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend was telling me recently how she was finishing up her last class for her Master's degree and the final exam was a few days after she was scheduled to deliver her baby (she had to have a planned C-section). The prof was completely unaccommodating and wouldn't budge and let her take her exam early because he said she could take the course again next year. She was finally able to work something out but it was a huge hassle and it was really stressful for her. My point is that it will depend a lot on your professors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1195215 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 14:32:41 +0000 loveablebee 1195215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for the advice! I have two years of college already done at a community college so I am transferring to a university. I like the idea of planning a summer baby. Someone told me about title ix and I read about it. It explains how legally the school must accommodate you. Each school has a title ix officer so I am going to call and ask questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1195064 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 13:48:06 +0000 Snowdrop 1195064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's what we are planning to do, I'm in the middle of my masters but if we do have a baby I will be stepping off for a year, luckily I will still get my bursary during that time. Quite a few ladies have done this on my course (not in my year though). Just didn't want to wait three years and then not know how long it will take to conceive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194531 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 10:28:39 +0000 plantains 1194531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, if you can wait even a little longer I would. Going to Uni is such a huge adjustment and pregnancy is too. It will be insanely difficult to focus on your first year of undergrad while pregnant and still get the best out of the experience. Wou;d you consider waiting at least until yuo have a year nehind you before trying?</p> <p>My husband is in grad school for his zillionth Masters while working and we have a 16 month old. It is pretty rough in terms of him needing to be at school constantly for group projects, meetings etc. There is so much that happens outside of core classes, it makes it quite tough. </p> <p>I feel like you need to already be in school, know the lay of the land and have your routine down before you start tryin to shift things around for a baby. 25 is so young, you have plenty of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194516 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 10:17:41 +0000 Aimed 1194516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is definitely doable but if there isn't any real rush - then why rush it? Why not enjoy being in college and give your all to that experience.<br /> You are young and could have a baby later in your college career when it is a bit more familiar rather than starting two huge projects simultaineously. It sounds like (an I am completely guessing here, so forgive me if I am wrong!) that your husband feels the rush more than you do as he is touch older (but still very young!) but do bear in mind that you will be the one that is actually pregnant and having to attend college with any issues that it might bring (morning sickness, bed-rest etc.) and thus sacrificing your education.<br /> Your education is so important for you as an individual and also you as a family and your future children, for your own sense of achievement, your financial future, and your baby's future - if you have the option to give your all to college, I think that you would be great for yourself, your family and future baby.<br /> Education is a huge priority in my life though so my advice is coming through that lens! Best of luck in whatever decision you make. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194494 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 10:02:06 +0000 pui 1194494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's doable, but it won't be easy. Like others have said, expect that you won't get your schooling done in 4 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194426 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 09:32:14 +0000 Honeybee 1194426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I both completed our grad degrees with children, so I do think it's possible. My husband started his degree a few weeks before we found out we were pregnant with out first, and graduated when she was about 1 year old. I started my program a few months later, about three months pregnant with #2. I finished up my degree this summer; DD was just over 3 and DS was 15 months. We also both worked full-time almost the whole time.</p> <p>For us, it helped that our programs were 100% online, since that gave us some built-in flexibility. I also found out that my university offerred a maternity leave (up tp one year) and my professors were very understanding/helpful. I didn't end up taking any time off, but the semester I was due, my teachers allowed me to work ahead. By the time I had DS, I only had my mid-term and final papers to write; all my other assignments had been turned in.</p> <p>I do think it's hard to go to school and have a baby; you have to have a lot of discipline and a supportive partner is really helpful. However, I think if you're committed to your goal and you are able to stay focused, it's not impossible. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194402 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 09:16:50 +0000 Bookish 1194402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm working on my Master's right now, and have been since before I was pregnant. It's definitely hard, and my classes are only online. That being said, if you are only taking classes, not working (I'm doing both, and it's hard!), it's definitely doable. Like @blackbird: said, it takes some planning. I unashamedly found the easiest possible class I could to take this semester (my daughter was born in July and I started school 5 weeks later). I'm so glad I did, because working full-time plus getting the swing of having a baby has eaten up pretty much all of my time. Definitely plan on taking a light load the semester you have her. </p> <p>As for flexibility, try to look for any online combination classes you can for when you are pregnant. Schools do not have to be flexible, and you will most likely have to withdraw for a semester or take an incomplete if you can't do the work. I was very honest with my professors when I was pregnant, and for the most part they were accommodating.</p> <p>Sure, it's hard to do, but if you are smart about it, you'll be fine. It will probably take you longer than 4 years (my 2-year Master's will take me 3.5), but it's doable!! I'm so glad I didn't drop out when I got pregnant, and it gets easier every month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194392 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 09:07:24 +0000 blackbird 1194392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's doable, just hard, and it seems that most end up going back later, down the road. I've definitely known people who have managed it, though. You probably won't be able to finish in 4 years, though, unless you have the baby in late May/early June. A 16+ credit courseload will eat up more time than you will be able to dedicate, more than likely. One of my friends was able to take two weeks off, then had to go back right away (her mom came in town to watch the baby, since daycares don't typically care for babies under 6 weeks). Another girl I know was in class the weekend after having the baby. </p> <p>Universities aren't always the most flexible. I've found that the adult/online courses are (and you can transfer a fair amount of that type of coursework in). Night classes would be a good approach, too. Some programs are naturally more family-friendly, too. </p> <p>I was in the middle of an online course when I had my baby. I had emailed with the professor numerous times, he was very understanding, and I turned a few assignments in early. By the time I had her, i only had one large paper to write. it sucked, but I was able to pound it out during nap times and then polish it up on a weekend. I also picked an easy class for the semester I was due. So there can definitely be some strategic planning going into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194259 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 07:10:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1194259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For your bed rest maternity leave question I don't think universities allow for that they just make you withdraw due to medical leave of absence. Just be prepared that you may not finish a degree within four years if you do try to have a baby within that time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194257 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 07:06:44 +0000 looch 1194257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do think it depends on what kind of experience you want from University and the program. One thing that often creeps up is group projects...having BTDT, it is often very difficult to accomodate everyone's schedules and sometimes, meetings are just downright inconvenient!</p> <p>Also, the first 2 years (at least IME) were the easier, core classes. When you get into the classes specific to your degree, the level of intensity def. increases.</p> <p>Best of luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194250 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 06:51:57 +0000 Dandelion 1194250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm taking a semester of college, but it's been at the beginning of my pregnancy, and I'll only be about 24 weeks when it's done. I'm not taking any classes next semester, because I know I'll have a c-section and I'm due before the end of the semester.</p> <p>I would just try to plan it to have the baby during the summer, or at the end of a semester.</p> <p>Also, a lot of colleges offer online courses, so you might want to consider those for during the time you'd need to be home more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194247 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 06:48:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1194247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine had twins during her second year of college. She took a full year off of school to care for her children. When dshe headed back she put her children in daycare, went to school full time and had a paid internship. It's definitely doable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194207 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 02:57:08 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1194207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: gosh that must have been rough going after two weeks. I could still barely walk at that point!<br /> @loveablebee: I agree with @HLK208: that trying to bust out as many credits as possible before baby will be helpful for you and your family. That being said - trust me, I know what its like to NEED to start the TTC process. I have a three month old and am taking two online classes this semester. Am on maternity leave so i have found the workload very doable! Will you be working, or just taking classes? I'm a little nervous for next semester because i will be back at work, but my schedule will be part time.<br /> Most classes are only once or twice a week, so I'm thinking its easier(and cheaper) to find care for LOwhile you go to class. i'm not positive about the "bed rest" scenario but figure they will allow an "incomplete" where you finish coursework at a later time. Never done that but i know someone whonhad to do that when his father passed away.<br /> is there a way yoi can take a random math or English 101 course at a community college before fall 2014? That would be another way to get credits in pre baby. (just make sure credits are transferable!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194203 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 02:20:29 +0000 HLK208 1194203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did but he was a surprise baby and that alone was hard. Honestly, it can work but I would try to have the first two-three years out of the way. Instead of planning out his nursery, I had papers to write. Instead of decorating the house for his 1st birthday, I had a math final to study for. If we could have held off even 2 years, it would have helped me so much.</p> <p>Also, I took mostly all evening classes so DH could be home with DS. It's doable and there might be online classes for the first few years, definitely not all classes. As far as the school being accommodating, mine was but I only had one class when I delivered. I was able to take a 2 week break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-a-child-while-in-college-advice-please#post-1194195 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 01:36:54 +0000 loveablebee 1194195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies! I am looking for any kind of input and advice I can get:) DH and I have been married for two years. I am 25 and he is 28. We have both expressed wanting a child, him especially. He wants at least one before he is 30. Here is the issue. I just applied to a University for Fall 2014. I will get in. I have 4 more years for my degree and I don't think the college really offers online classes. I know for a fact I do not want to wait 4 years. Especially because after I graduate, I am going to want to work and let's face it, I will NEVER have a kid!</p> <p> So I am thinking that maybe we can start trying next year so I will be pregnant my first year of college. The question I have is, are universities accommodating to pregnant college students? What if I am put on bedrest? What if I give birth during a semester? To be completely honest, I am scared. Especially because DH and I live in a town 4 hours from our family and have no support. Our child would most likely be put into childcare (we are ok with that). I would love any and all input and advice you can give :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-169532 Fri, 25 May 2012 17:45:29 +0000 Honeybee 169532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm finishing up my Master's right now, and we have two kids. I got pregnant with DD the same month DH started his Master's program; he graduated when DD was just over a year old. Then, I started my Master's program when I was about 3 months pregnant with DS; he'll be 15 months when I graduate. It's busy, but totally possible. It also helps that both of us completed our degrees through online programs, though. We're able to work when the kids are asleep and on weekends, when we're both around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-168069 Thu, 24 May 2012 16:25:21 +0000 Mrsbells 168069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mo got her masters when I was 5years old so its definitely possible but from what she told me its easier if you have a potty trained child versus an infant, because infants demand more attention both day and night </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-168047 Thu, 24 May 2012 16:19:04 +0000 chopsuey 168047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you can take night classes? I think it's totally doable, but it'll take a lot of sacrifice!<br /> My cousin had a baby when she started law school and had her second during her 3rd year! They had family close by, but they made it work.<br /> She missed out on lots of mommy baby time though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167823 Thu, 24 May 2012 14:29:24 +0000 stargal 167823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i currently just finished the semester in the beginning of may at 31 weeks pregnant. i wont lie it was hard. I would get really tired by the end of hte day and come home and just sleep/relax. but its DEF doable. im having my baby in july and then plan to start back up at school (part time though) at the end of august, so i think it will be hard but doable </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167380 Thu, 24 May 2012 10:17:19 +0000 PBandBaseball 167380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently working FT &amp; in grad school at night and we're TTC. I won't finish until December 2013, so hopefully I'll be a mom by then! I go to school with women who have children and I think it's possible as long as you have a strong support system. I think it is similar (obviously not exactly the same) for them being parents &amp; in school as it is for me working full time &amp; in school. There are time management concerns and it's exhausting. I think working, having a baby, AND going to school is a lot to deal with but it's not forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167374 Thu, 24 May 2012 10:16:07 +0000 Mrs. Pen 167374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be! But I only have two years of school left. I will do it mostly online, maybe do a few night classes so DH can be with DS. My mom and sister are also willing to watch DS. Since I'll be in school, we wouldn't be able to pay for childcare so it will take some juggling. I know it will be hard, I will have to devote my weekends when DH can take DS to homework and studying. It won't be easy, but it can be done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167325 Thu, 24 May 2012 09:46:10 +0000 Mrs. Blue 167325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I agree. It's possible, but I wanted to finish up.</p> <p>I think it also makes a difference what kind of program you're in and how intense it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167283 Thu, 24 May 2012 09:10:07 +0000 yoursilverlining 167283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you have 5 years left – would you just be starting college after the baby, or have you already taken some classes? Are you going to school on a part time or full time basis?<br /> If you are not working, and just going to school, I don’t think it would be that different from if you were working full time – meaning, daycare would probably be necessary. I would suggest doing as much studying and assignment prep as you can at school, as I’m sure it would be much tougher to sit down and concentrate on studies at home with LO.<br /> Lots of people juggle working full time while going to school at the same time, or having babies while in school, so it’s definitely possible. I would think time management would just be super important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167203 Thu, 24 May 2012 08:25:55 +0000 heffalump 167203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There was a pregnant girl the year under me in my masters program. They had her take less classes and do less interning hours. Obviously it took her longer, but our program was so time consuming and stressful they didn't want her to have the full load while pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167198 Thu, 24 May 2012 08:21:42 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 167198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could not imagine doing it myself. I waited until I finally finished all my schooling before we had babies... but people are doing it, so I think it's a case of needing to know and be honest with yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167187 Thu, 24 May 2012 08:18:31 +0000 sorrycharlie 167187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's hard, but totally doable! someone in my program (only a 2-year program, though) had her baby last summer and we just graduated. her family is halfway across the country, so she had neighborhood moms/babysitters and her DH to help. she also took a few extra months to finish her internship hours - so we graduated may, she'll be officially done in august. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167183 Thu, 24 May 2012 08:15:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 167183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend went back to school right after she had her baby, she decided she wanted to get another degree in order to help provide for her family. She manages with the help of her husband. She does take mostly night classes, is this an option for you? It helps that her DH can babysit when she's in class. She also has friends (like me) who will babysit if they need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-possible-to-have-a-baby-and-go-to-school#post-167162 Thu, 24 May 2012 08:04:49 +0000 Rock n Roll 167162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you going full-time or part-time and are you working? If you're not working, it should make it a lot easier. The hardest part is scheduling then. If you're working, it does make it a lot harder. Not just with limited time, but there is a lot of guilt involved when you spend all day away from LO at work and then have to spend even more time away working on school. Not that it's impossible, but I have to say there are times when I feel like a bad mom and a bad student. (I take two classes/semester towards my Master's, work full-time, have a two year old and am expecting a newborn in a few weeks.)</p> <p>There is definitely a pull of playing with my child and feeling like I should be working on school, or working on school and feeling like I'm neglecting my child. But I get that kind of mommy guilt about a lot of things. </p> <p>It's definitely possible, though. Just not easy. You can do it! And I can tell you, I'm going to be a million times more proud of this degree than my undergrad because I am working so hard on this one and sacrificing so much. </p>