https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 02:45:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2198239 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 18:39:15 +0000 irene 2198239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lady grey: hmm if there are periods like that our roller coaster go up and down every week! . Last 2 weeks he was so good and then it was hell. Today he is good again because I practically exploded into pieces yesterday.</p> <p>Age 1, 2, 3 were not particularly better. For us 10+ months to about 2.5 years were beautiful then it went down a cliff.</p> <p>@winniebee: hugs to you! I sometimes feel like I need therapy just because of the tantrums. It is so unfair because we are repeatedly being emotionally abused by a 3 year old but we are expected to act calm and collected. To be honest there are moments that I understand why my mom beat me when I was a kid now lol. </p> <p>@Me3: I agree with quitting!!!!! In fact yesterday I was so mad I told him I am not mommy anymore I just work here. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2198019 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 14:01:19 +0000 lady grey 2198019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like your LO may be in a period of disequilibrium:<br /> <a href="http://centerforparentingeducation.org/library-of-articles/child-development/developmental-stages-the-roller-coaster-of-equilibrium-and-disequilibrium/" rel="nofollow">http://centerforparentingeducation.org/library-of-articles/child-development/developmental-stages-the-roller-coaster-of-equilibrium-and-disequilibrium/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197758 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 10:50:08 +0000 winniebee 2197758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: my son said "I'm going to tell Hudson my mommy yelled and I'm sorry". Hudson is his friend. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197756 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 10:48:17 +0000 winniebee 2197756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Me3: yes exactly what you said. "New" brother is 6 months old and it's getting harder not easier. I keep wondering when we will have a good day start to finish. Those seem to happen more when dad is around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197753 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 10:47:08 +0000 winniebee 2197753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's been bad since giving up his nap at 34 mos and he just turned 3. Like some days I think I need counseling bad. He needs constant attention and stimulation, doesn't listen to anything, throws things, hits me, begs for screen time, sleep is horrendous. The only plus to the past few months is he potty trained. I try to follow Janet Lansbery teachings ("no bad kids" /RIE philosophy) but there are days when it goes out the window. Right now I would say we are an 8. He has a cold and the world is coming to an end most of the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197681 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 09:46:37 +0000 Me3 2197681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Irene thanks so much for posting this. Yesterday I told my husband, "If this were my job I would have quit five times today!" Needless to say, things are tough with my 3 yr old. I think a big part of our struggles are a new brother and a recent move, but it seems like we haven't had a good or easy day in months. I keep thinking how ironic it is that my older child is so much more challenging than my new baby. I did not see that coming. Does anyone have techniques that worked to deal with huge fits and big emotions, or do you just have to wait this period out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197348 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 22:48:15 +0000 irene 2197348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone, I just struggled putting the car seat cover on (after washing) and reinstalling the carseat back onto the car. I feel a bit better that it seems I am not the only one struggling with this. Tonight I was really upset and I was yelling at him so loud, that afterwards I feel bad and thought oh crap now my son is going to grow up and do drugs. :( I hope that won't be the case.</p> <p>@mrbee: @JMOM: I hope your sweet girl return soon..... at least that's what everyone said that it is going to get easier..... I am really looking forward to and counting on that...</p> <p>@stargal: I feel relieved too that I am not the only one.... at one point I was like OK really I don't remember ever acting like this crazy. Sigh.</p> <p>@PinkElephant: I recently got many "Mommy you are not my best friend anymore". Sob sob. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197326 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 22:10:45 +0000 regberadaisy 2197326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: yes! Everything started with a "no"! Drove my husband and I bonkers! We are really working hard at showing her to respond in another way besides no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197301 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 21:30:49 +0000 PinkElephant 2197301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I'm glad you said this bc I'm there right now. Intentional potty accidents when I'm distracted doing something other than what she wants, refusing to do things and telling me "nope" or "because I don't want to". Glad it's not just my kid and hope it passes fast!</p> <p>@irene: my almost 3 year old does that too. For her it was "cuz I looooove going pee pee in my underwear." Yup. Lovely.</p> <p>@mrs. bee: I recently got my first "I don't love you". I told her it was ok, I loved her anyway; I remember how mad it made me when my mom told me that when I was a tween...so I kind of enjoyed that part :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197295 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 21:16:16 +0000 stargal 2197295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Urgh does it make me a bad.person to feel relieved that im not.the pnly one going through it. P has been a 7 lately with sll the.whining and.tantrums. i need more patience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197289 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 21:13:21 +0000 JMOM 2197289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how to vote. My DD is 3.5 and he can be very difficult. When he gets angry he hits me. He doesn't listen and he really has been tormenting his 6 year old sister. She is constantly coming to me and telling on him. It is a fight to get him to take a nap everyday. He was a perfect angel up until he turned 3 - now the devil is coming out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197280 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 21:02:20 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2197280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2.5-3.5 were rough with her, but then from 3.5-4.5 it was like the "golden period" of her childhood. Now at 4.5, she's starting to show major attitude... so I voted 5. We definitely have our ups and downs, but for DD I found the 2's harder than the 3's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197269 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 20:50:15 +0000 cascademom 2197269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours is close to three and acting out really bad. Last week, he was with my parents and picked up bad habits and general spoiling. It takes awhile to break him of that. Add to that, we added a sibling last week. So many adjustments all at once with a mouthy toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197251 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 20:27:23 +0000 irene 2197251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Hugs. Tonight before dinner was a 9 for us :(<br /> What pissed me off was when I asked him why do you throw a tantrums several nights in a row and he answered, because, because I like it? Grrrr!!! Is this ever going to go away? :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197180 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 19:30:05 +0000 regberadaisy 2197180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even going to vote.</p> <p>35-36.5 months were demonic. Like 8.5-9. </p> <p>But for now she's back to being more like a 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197158 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 19:10:43 +0000 mrbee 2197158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Just the usual threenager stuff... doesn't listen, pushes boundaries, doesn't sleep until very late, tells me "I don't love you", etc. The sweet little girl is gone for the most part... we do see flashes of her now and then, but it's just one facet of her personality now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197156 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 19:08:07 +0000 irene 2197156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: What does she do? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197155 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 19:06:32 +0000 mrbee 2197155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: She was an angel until a few months ago, and now... let's just say she's no longer an angel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-difficult-iswas-your-threeager#post-2197146 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 18:59:08 +0000 irene 2197146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From a scale of 1-10, 1 being an angel and 10 being "Super Nanny" level demonic, how difficult is/was your threeager, and mind to elaborate?</p> <p>My 3.5 year old DS has been good for a while but has started being difficult again. I am not sure if he came down with something or if it was because we switched classes. I want to know does this ever end? And is it just me? Care to share your experience?</p> <p>He's been demonic the past 2 nights. He threw massive tantrums and just being all around unreasonable. Crying and crying nonstop. Today he peed on the carseat which he hasn't done since he was 3 years old. And he basically cried for half an hour and I told him if he doesn't stop I wouldn't get him out. But he just kept on crying. After he finally calmed down I asked him why did he threw a tantrum he said "because I like it.". Excuse me????? It drove me mad. </p> <p>However, he is usually a very very good and sweet boy, he never acts out at school according to teachers. He also never does that to babysitter. He only does that to me. So normally he'd be a 2-3, and when he goes crazy he reaches a 9-10, so I gave him a 7. </p>