Hellobee Boards Tag: Time out

Hellobee Boards Tag: Time out https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:05:00 +0000 merriment on "1-2-3 Magic!" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-2-3-magic#post-1873995 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 09:50:09 +0000 merriment 1873995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are going to start implementing the 1-2-3 Magic system of counting and timeouts. Our daughter is 2.5. Any advice before we begin would be appreciated. HLK208 on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1210380 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:50:00 +0000 HLK208 1210380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ What I learned going through this with my first, is that the timeout has to be right away. If it doesn't happen right after the situation, the toddler doesn't understand or connect why they're in a timeout. Also, when I take away something for bad behavior, it's usually associated with the bad behavior (example: wouldn't share a truck, so we take away the truck). Last but not least, I followed Super Nanny's timeout rules, which said one minute for every year they are old. Personally, I wouldn't put him in a timeout that often at a young age because there is so much they are learning, sometimes gentle words and quiet time or redirection helps best. The terrible two's and three's are a totally different story - which I think a timeout can really straighten (some) kids out, like mine! Even at 4, if he doesn't listen to me we have a consequence on his reward chart but sometimes a timeout is the only thing that helps! Weagle on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1210278 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:27:03 +0000 Weagle 1210278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MamaCate: I agree with this. When it comes to chores and household stuff, LO loves it when she's doing things with me. Extra praise for being a good helper goes a long way. Songs and marching while doing these chores always works for us. The 18-24 month range is great because they still get a kick out of doing "adult" things. MamaCate on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1210202 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 09:00:13 +0000 MamaCate 1210202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @irene: as far as tidying up his room and the laundry, I would try to make it fun instead of punitive. My LO responds really well to competitions (who can put the most things in the basket the fastest? who is going to finish first?) rather than threats. With tidying up, we sing the clean up song and that seems to help a lot. I try to think of it as catching more flies with honey than vinegar--enticing them to have some fun with the chore rather than doing it or else being punished... Weagle on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207842 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 07:51:06 +0000 Weagle 1207842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is 18 months and we use timeouts. I think it's helpful to really focus on correcting 2-3 behaviors at a time. For us that's hitting, throwing food, and coming when called. That doesn't mean that other undesirable behaviors are ignored, just that we save time out for these three and stick with verbal reprimands for others. I'm definitely more strict than DH, but typically LO gets one "no hit" and then a warning of time out if she does it again. We don't do 1,2,3 because we don't really see the value in giving 2 extra chances to disobey. These are not complex problems we're dealing with. T.H.O.U. on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207815 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 07:15:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1207815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Before age two time ours were more of us removing her from the situation and going to a quiet place to reset and talk about it. erwoo on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207811 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 06:53:56 +0000 erwoo 1207811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Time outs are a MUST in our household when I see that they are going to put themselves into danger. When they throw uncontrollable tantrums I also put them in time out just to help them reset themselves. Both of these reasons really help. And when I go get them I always ask "do you know why you're in time out?" And then I make them repeat what they shouldn't do again next time... or go say sorry to whoever he hit, etc. You just need to help them understand why they were there and why they shouldn't do what they did to put there in the first place. Generally, it helps for my two crazy boys so I continue to use this form of discipline. lamariniere on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207800 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 06:15:21 +0000 lamariniere 1207800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Time outs and the corner have worked well for us. He usually gets about 3 verbal warnings and if he doesn't stop, he goes to the corner. If he does something really "bad" like hitting, biting, throwing food, or anything we consider unacceptable, he goes straight to the corner. We have no qualms about putting him in the corner while we are out, so we have definitely found corners in the grocery store, at the park, at friends' houses, etc. FWIW, he's almost 3 and we started the corner young, maybe 14 months. irene on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207627 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 23:02:23 +0000 irene 1207627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MamaCate: Thanks for this ! It is very helpful. Yes I started feeling not right when I am threatening him about "sitting in the corner" on very minor things. How would you discipline a child that wouldn't tidy up his room and putting clothes in the laundry basket before bath time ? (He used to do both actions happily, then I don't know what happened, he just says no when asked about the laundry basket, and just ignore us when asked to tidy up). And no, there was no immediate consequence at the moment.... we were just going to go home right afterwards, and there was no treat planned in the car! MamaCate on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207615 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 22:51:38 +0000 MamaCate 1207615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Time out can be complicated, but I don't think it has to be. My LO is a few months older than yours (23 mos). In terms of discipline overall, I do a lot of positive praise, ignoring/redirecting, and timeout. I do the 1,2,3 like you described but the end consequence is not necessarily time out. We do lots of choices, so this would be something like: come to get your diaper changed or mama will pick you up and carry you...1,2,3. Or give mama the phone you are not allowed to have or mama will take it...1,2,3. I mainly use timeout for safety issues (hitting, biting, etc.). I immediately pick her up and physically put her in the time out place. I say the limit really briefly ("no hitting" etc) and leave her there for at least a minute. She cries. Then I go in, pick her up, and sit with her and talk to her. This is the "time in". I talk to her about how I see she is upset and sad. I help her calm down. Then we talk about why she had timeout and why it is not safe to hit/bite/whatever. Then we are done and move on with our day. I hope that is helpful. I think of timeout as a discipline tool, but not the only one in my toolbox. Let me know if you have questions about how we implement this. A few other quick thoughts: I would personally hesitate to threaten the removal of a lovey/security blanket for attachment reasons. I would also try to find an immediate consequence for not leaving the lego table, not something that waits until home, as toddlers are such concrete thinkers. Maybe he loses a treat or snack in the car or something? irene on "When do you call time out?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-call-time-out#post-1207586 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 22:11:30 +0000 irene 1207586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is 21 months. We just started implementing time outs not too long ago and I am a bit confused to how to consistently reinforce it. Hence the question: When do you call time out??? It all started when LO flipped his dinner plate over on his tray on purpose despite of how many times I told him not to (he did that repeatedly for a few nights). I got really upset, took him off of the high chair and sat him on a corner of the living room for less than a minute (actually more like a handful of seconds). He cried and cried the whole time. That was very effective. He never flipped his plate ever again since. And to be honest, I am amazed how he would sit on a corner as told. I have adopted the 1,2,3 approach too, where I'd start counting 1,2.. and by 3 he would go to the corner, or he would lose a privilege (eg. not getting his security blanket for sleep). Now if he doesn't listen, I'd tell him, don't make me start counting 1,2,3 and make you sit at a corner, he'd get scared and would do what I asked him to. Today, we were at a store and we were getting ready to pay. LO was at the lego table. DH asked him to leave, he says no. He starts crying when DH attempted to carry him away. I went over and did the same thing when DH went to pay. After unsuccessfully carrying him halfway, I put him down, told him I'll count to 3, and if he doesn't listen by 3, he'd need to sit at the corner when we get back home. So ended up he continued to cry until 3, and i told him the consequence. Somehow he quieted down and walked out with us. IT was very odd. I did put him in the corner when we got home for maybe half a minute (or less). There was no fuss. But the line gets blurred. When do you call time out? He is at the "NO NO NO NO" stage where he'd say no when we ask him to do something (eg. cleaning up, putting clothes in laundry basket, bath time, bed time...etc.) - Do you start counting / giving warning on all these occasions that he says no? I am not trying to make him not say no or not have his preference if you know what I mean. I don't want to over do it, but I don't know where to draw the line. I definitely do not want to do it everyday, he is a very good kid overall. There were also 2 times recently he slapped my face hard (yikes, the hitting stage, my biggest fear). I said no sternly and explain to him why we don't do that, which I think he understood (?), and didn't give him a time out. Today he slapped me again with a small book when he was on the potty (he isn't potty trained yet, we are just playing). I can not tell if it was an accident or not, so I just told him no and reminded him that is not acceptable, but didn't give him a time out. I also didn't want to complicate the potty time as who knows, he may hate potty time afterwards. Advices please!!!