https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 17:31:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770993 Thu, 31 Aug 2017 16:08:17 +0000 Purpledaisy 2770993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamacat2: I would also suggest the Ok to Wake clock. It was a life saver for us. We got it when we moved DD out of her crib a 3. She would stay in bed but yell for us every 5 minutes starting at like 5am. With this she knew it wasn't time to get up yet and would usually just fall back to sleep. We still use it at 4.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770759 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 17:04:27 +0000 mamacat2 2770759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the door monkey is in our future sooner than I realized - for safety reasons alone. She somehow climbed over the gate in the hallway during one of her escapes from her room during naptime today and tumbled pretty badly...poor kid. The kind of sad twist is that she hugged her bed as I tucked her back in and said that she loved it so much she would stay in it now. Not at all the way I wanted her to embrace that idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770739 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 16:04:03 +0000 MrsBucky 2770739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: same here. Honestly it's less about keeping him in bed and more about keeping him in a baby proofed room. It scares me to think of him roaming our house without supervision but I know that room is as safe as it can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770733 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 15:49:37 +0000 birdofafeather 2770733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBucky: door monkey was out saving grace at 2.5. no clocks or anything else convinced her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770677 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 12:01:04 +0000 mamacat2 2770677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: We tried something like that last night, and it did help a little. (Plus it helped me get to her sooner to redirect her back to bed!) I think she liked thinking that she wasn't missing anything if we all were in bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770676 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 11:59:12 +0000 mamacat2 2770676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all! I ordered an okay to wake clock this morning, definitely worth it for a try. She's pretty good at visual cues and likes gadget-y things, so she might think the clock is something neat. </p> <p>I'm on the fence about really closing her in her room, but if this goes on much longer, I think I'll try one of the door knob cover things or a door monkey. It sounds like there's hope for taking it off once we're over this hump. She'd been such a great sleeper and napper most of her life, this one has thrown me for a loop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770673 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 11:49:05 +0000 looch 2770673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you could all "go to bed" at the same time? I wasn't comfortable closing the door to my son's room, so what we did was just to retire to our room, with a bedside light on and read until he fell asleep. Then we get up and do whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770671 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 11:43:42 +0000 erinbaderin 2770671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you ever used a sticker chart with her? We use that to keep B (3.5) from getting up once we've said goodnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770644 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 10:00:13 +0000 bees_knees 2770644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamacat2: that's about the age we started using an Ok to Wake clock. Something about having a concrete objecg look at (green vs not) really helped keep DS in bed! Might be worth the $20 to try it out :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770639 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 09:03:34 +0000 ShootingStar 2770639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a similar problem at 2.5 where DS would wake up 2-3 hours early and think it was time to get up and come bang our door open. We tried to talk to him about staying in his room and he just wasn't old enough to get it. Plus, impulse control at that age is pretty non-existent. So we put a door knob cover on his door. He tried once or twice to open it and then gave up. He learned that he just wasn't able to open the door by himself and completely stopped doing it. Several months later we took it off so he could get up and go potty whenever he needed and it hasn't been an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770621 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 08:06:00 +0000 Banana330 2770621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter did this tons when we first transitioned. It was brutal for naps and wake ups. You could try an ok to wake clock. Mornings we've had success with saying you have to stay in bed until "mr golden sun comes up" ( the actual sun). Bed time stalling we let her go out for one pee/poo and that's it. Generally we sit up stairs for the first 15-20 min after we put her down. We did put a door knob cover on her door recently but she can get it open with it on 🤷‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770610 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 07:19:50 +0000 MrsBucky 2770610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly for my 2.5 yo, we use a door monkey. He is daytime training but I have no expectation he will be ready to nap or night train for 6-12 months anyway, so I'm not concerned with giving him access to a bathroom right now. He sometimes comes to the door and yells for us, but it's rare. He is very verbal but I do not think a pass system would work for him at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bedtime-pass-for-25-year-old#post-2770603 Wed, 30 Aug 2017 06:33:53 +0000 mamacat2 2770603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anyone had luck with a “get out of bed” pass for a two and a half year old? We converted our daughter’s crib to a toddler bed about two months ago, and the first month or so of it went seamlessly. She stayed in bed, fell asleep and woke up similarly to how she had in the crib, with a naptime from about 1:30 – 3 in the afternoon and nighttime sleep from about 7:30/8 until about 7AM. Sometimes she would take a little while to fall asleep for the nap or nighttime, but was content to play quietly with her stuffed animals in bed during that time, and again when she woke up. We thought we were set! :)</p> <p>In the last two weeks though, she has been using every excuse under the sun to get out of bed, leave her room, and call to us from the top of the stairs (where there’s a gate). Some of her excuses are legitimate (dirty diaper, particularly if she pooped) but many seem like they’re just stalling techniques (wanted to look at the gate to make sure it’s still working, wanted to see if baby sister’s door was closed, wanted to show her stuffed sheep the nightlight in the hallway, etc…). For each time she’s out of bed, we’ve tried to be as boring and nonchalant as possible while ushering her quietly and quickly back to bed, telling her it’s still naptime or nighttime and she needs to stay in her bed. I really thought after a few days of that consistently, she’d get the hint that she was going back to bed regardless. I’m not so sure anymore. </p> <p>I’ve seen suggestions of a “get out of bed” pass for older kids and have thought about giving her two or three passes to spend when she calls to us, but I’m not sure if she’s at an age where that concept will work. And I guess if I’m being honest, I’m not sure what I do when she spends them all, since she is leaving her room to call to us from the top of the stairs, and I’m not really comfortable locking her in her room. We’re on the edge of potty training, so I want her to feel confident about leaving her room to use the bathroom when we get to that stage, but I’d really like to nip the unnecessary trips out of bed in the bud. It’s getting out of hand for all of us, and is compromising the quality of her rest too. </p> <p>Just curious of anyone has suggestions from similar experiences? I'm hoping this is just a phase, and that we'll be out of it soon, but I'm so grateful for ideas!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753230 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 21:37:19 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2753230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had no reason to move our son but we did as we travel a lot and he outgrew his travel crib and would not sleep in a bed in a strange place. So we got an IKEA twin with a rail and talked it up with books and made the move on a Friday night 2 months ago. He is literally in love with his bed and there has been no negative impact on his sleep besides taking a little longer to fall asleep the first night. Knock on wood he has never gotten out of it during nap or night time. We will do a queen when he's older but the twin is a great size. Mostly it was affordable and we can still get in it with him. He plays in it and 'reads' in it and puts us to bed in it too ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753219 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 20:50:20 +0000 Mae 2753219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was TERRIFIED of ditching the crib. We waited until 3 years + 1 month. And probably would've waited longer except I'm pregnant again and I wanted to get her moved in case it was a shit show and took us months to get back on track. </p> <p>In the crib she slept great. Went right down, never tried to climb out, never fussed. I was worried when we moved her to a normal bed she'd just not stay in it and would pound on the door and would wander her room and just be crazy. </p> <p>So far (knock wood) at about 2 weeks in it is going great for us! We moved her to a queen size bed on a platform frame. I felt like I did not want her on the floor because I was worried it would feel more like a fun bouncy mat than a bed. I wanted that elevation. I got a bed frame for $120 on wayfair, so it wasn't a big expense (we already had the mattress). I got bumpers from amazon to minimize the chance of her falling out (<a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01DTBFB5U/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01DTBFB5U/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&#038;psc=1</a>). We let her pick out her own sheets and quilt and got her all hyped about it for the week before, how exciting it was to move to a big bed, how comfy it would be, how it would be just the same for sleeping, etc. </p> <p>And no issues. She's gotten out of it on her own exactly once-- last night-- only because she dropped one of her animals on the floor and she climbed down to get it then climbed right back up. She treats it just like she did her crib for night. </p> <p>I will say, we've only tried one nap in it and she didn't want to do it. But she doesn't really nap anyways so not a big deal for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753156 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 17:08:46 +0000 Foodnerd81 2753156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My child was and is not a great sleeper and is very stubborn. With that said, we moved her into a queen. </p> <p>In our situation, we had a queen bed and her crib jammed into her room already. So when she would wake up early often DH or I would come in and cuddle her back to sleep in the bed anyway. She started screaming bloody murder when we put her in the crib, so we started letting her sleep in the bed. Worked for a few days then she started getting up over and over again, so we ended up putting her back in the crib (which we never removed since baby sister would need it soon). A few months later we did it again and it stuck but occasionally DH will still have to sleep in there with her. </p> <p>So I vote big bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753149 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:33:31 +0000 dolphin 2753149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We transitioned her to a twin size bed due to space, but if space was not an issue then full size bed for sure! She can use it for a long time and more room for those early morning snuggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753137 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:00:47 +0000 catlady 2753137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We took off the rail to make a toddler bed and it's been a great decision for us. Since it's still basically the exact same thing as before, just now a "bed" instead of a "crib", her sleep was not disrupted in any way. I prefer not to get into bed with her and start habits like that, so the small size works in our favor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753132 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:53:52 +0000 LBee 2753132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have changed anything - full bed and at 2.75 yo, he wasn't climbing out yet. He handled it like a champ and I have no regrets. We didn't use a box spring and he was really excited about his big boy bed. </p> <p>I would be cautious about your plan being to get in his bed because eventually this habit might get old and it's SO much harder to break things without the confines of the crib. I personally would be more inclined to address the 5 AM wake-ups in the crib (OK to Wake clock, etc) before moving him and allowing him that freedom. Although I know @jape14: moved when sleep had kind of gone insane and it did eventually flush itself out, but the transition wasn't as easy as ours was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753123 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:41:22 +0000 bhbee 2753123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is your son an escape artist in general? We moved my daughter to a queen at 2.5 and it was easy. We already had the bed so it made sense to use the Queen - lots of space if one of us ends up in there!<br /> However my son (2 and still in crib) will be a disaster I think and we will keep crib as long as possible. He can climb out of the lowest setting so now he essentially has a floor bed inside the crib frame (his frame goes really low). But also set up (for future and sister's occasional use) is the IKEA daybed. I love it! Looks nice, the daybed frame helps make it reasonable for me to lay down in it with him (vs falling out of a regular twin with no backing), and great storage underneath if you need it. It's great if you don't have space for a bigger bed. We can also all 4 sit in it for story time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753116 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:34:19 +0000 gingerbebe 2753116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLonghorn: They do make a toddler bed size one, but we figured we'd move to a twin since we had a spare twin mattress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753114 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:33:31 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2753114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: i remember your privacy pop transition, but somehow forgot the part that it is over a twin. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753112 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:32:50 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2753112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, thanks for indulging me - I don't know why we are so paralyzed by this decision. I think it is fear of ditching the crib. If I don't decide on a bed plan, then we can't actually get rid of the crib! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753106 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:25:16 +0000 gingerbebe 2753106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a twin floor bed in a Privacy Pop tent and everyone in the family loves it. Its plenty big enough to cuddle up in and when we close up the flap it gives him the enclosed feeling of his tent, he naps and sleeps the same overnight, etc. We did have to lock him in his room for a bit but now he just waits for us to get him and sings to himself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-is-your-ideal-post-crib-bed#post-2753102 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:21:00 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2753102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Poll time!</p> <p>DS is turning 3 soon, and shows no sign of climbing out of his crib (knock on wood), but does like the idea of sleeping on the floor and has asked to do it a few times. I'm tired of spending 5am wake-ups with him in the glider, so I'm thinking about switching him to a bed soon where we can both cuddle lying down instead of crammed into a chair and hurting my back.</p> <p>Question 1 is whether or not we really want to do this (my back says 'yes' but I'm scared of what will happen at nap/bedtime...)<br /> Question 2 is what size mattress to use, regardless of when we decide to make the switch.</p> <p>If space and money was not an issue, what would you have done? And when would you have done it? (multiple choices allowed) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/move-to-toddler-bed#post-2290688 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 15:26:22 +0000 ShootingStar 2290688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We transitioned DS at 21 months and it has been incredibly easy. He still stays in bed like it's a crib. He has slid feet first off the edge a couple times, but the bed is really low he didn't get hurt and we just went in and fixed him. He never got the point that he was climbing out, but he did like to put his foot over the rail when I would come in his room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/move-to-toddler-bed#post-2290548 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 13:10:51 +0000 Smurfette 2290548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sailgrl18: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003ULP592?psc=1&#038;redirect=true&#038;ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o09_s00" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003ULP592?psc=1&#038;redirect=true&#038;ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o09_s00</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/move-to-toddler-bed#post-2290527 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 12:59:46 +0000 sailgrl18 2290527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: we have the babyletto hudson which doesn't let you put the mattress on the floor or have a higher side so unfortunately we can't buy more time that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/move-to-toddler-bed#post-2290522 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 12:56:24 +0000 sailgrl18 2290522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: by net do you mean a mesh rail or something that goes on top of the crib? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/move-to-toddler-bed#post-2290496 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 12:41:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 2290496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to keep him in the crib, have you tried putting the mattress all the way to the floor (instead of on the bottom setting which is usually a good 6 inches or so above the ground)? My friend bought herself a couple of months that way. She also had a crib that was higher in the back than front so she turned it around so she couldn't climb over the higher part. </p> <p>My LO hasn't actually climbed out yet but was freaking out and fighting the crib, so we tried a big bed (new baby in December is getting the crib anyway) but she isn't ready. Just couldn't stay in bed and kept coming out, so we put her back in the crib and she's been ok again. </p>