https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 11:50:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268855 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:27:08 +0000 Aimed 1268855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few minutes one way or the other wouldn't bother me but 2 hours!! I understand that things happen but chronically late people and people who don't let you know that they are going to be late are just being plain disrespectful and are in essence saying that their time is worth more than yours.<br /> I am also not a fan of lying to people abot the time of things so they will get there on time - people are adults and we shouldn't have to hoodwink them into acting responsibly.<br /> That said, I wouldn't end the relationship over it, @LemonLimes advice was really good, also after 15 minutes late, just get on with your day as though she is not coming, and when she arrives you can say, "o, I figured you weren't coming as it got so late and I had other things to do" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268834 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:20:19 +0000 HLK208 1268834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always try to be early but there have been a few times when I've been 10-15 minutes late. I absolutely hate when I'm late and I stress about it. I usually call or text though.</p> <p>I don't mind other parents being a little late but 2 hours is nuts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268831 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:19:47 +0000 LuLu Mom 1268831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am always 5 minutes early and 2 of my best friend are always late...and they KNOW how much I hate it. I get so mad when they are late...drive me bananas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268830 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:19:43 +0000 Greentea 1268830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MapleMoose: me too! I get stressed when it is me but am laid back when it is someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268823 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:17:08 +0000 Greentea 1268823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a very hardcore "early or on time at the latestest" person but since having a baby... all of that has changed because it became very difficult to be on time. I like it when people are late. I really don't mind... I think it all depends. I remember before cell phones when there was no communication and you woukd be left time wasted and not knowing when people didn't show but phones have changed all that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268798 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 10:03:34 +0000 irene 1268798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Thanks for your advice - that's very good advice. My issue is, she wants to "do something" with us every other weekend if not every weekend (that's way too much in my books but I don't know how to say no. grr). I don't have that many plans that I could just ask her to "come and flow along and if I don't see you we'll see you next time". She wanted me to go with her to an outdoor event with the LOs next weekend, and I actually rearranged a class schedule that we just joined so I could go with her. After last night, I have decided not going. I don't want to risk being left out in the cold mountains with LO by myself (husband already said he's not going).</p> <p>ETA : Wow, I voted (1) to begin with, but I realized my definition of "late" was an hour late. hahaha. I have actually grown to be very tolerable for a 10 minute late (individual) and 30 minute late for parents with babies. But for myself I am always early/on time or try to be on time when I have LO along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268781 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:56:36 +0000 lilyofthewest 1268781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My approach is that unless I'm attending an event with a firm start time, anything within 10 minutes of on-time is interchangeable for me. </p> <p>I start to get a little impatient once the ten minute mark is crossed, but, I easily tolerate lateness up to 15 minutes. If someone is running more than 15 minutes late, I really want them to let me know before the time we were intended to meet up. If they're running that late, they've known they were running behind for a while, and it is inconsiderate not to let me know too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268773 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:52:47 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1268773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: sounds like she is a habitual time waster. Instead of making plans to do things with her. I would invite her along to do things you are already set to do. Give her a time when you will be there. If she shows on time great. If she shows up late okay, but don't let her arrival mess with the rest of the day you already have scheduled. " nice to see you, we've been here since 2. Now we are off to this next thing. Catch you another time."</p> <p>I successfully taught a time waster friend not to mess with my timme by making other plans when I couldn't reach her to confirm. In the past our plans would be delayed way too long. So by the time she called me 1.5-2 hrs after our proposed meet time I was having dinner with someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268768 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:50:20 +0000 heartonastring 1268768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's very occasional and for a good reason, then I totally understand. But if you're ALWAYS late? No. I can't. It drives me INSANE, largely because I think it's incredibly rude. Basically, to me, it says that they think their time is way more valuable than yours. </p> <p>My dad and step mother are chronically late and it is a huge issue for me - particularly now that I have a baby's schedule to factor in as well. It seems to me that people should be able to figure out how to budget their time in order to be where they need to be on time - the rest of us somehow manage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268759 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:46:03 +0000 erwoo 1268759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it's okay to be late and for a reasonable amount of time... but please call or text or something! That way, I'm not waiting and waiting and waiting...especially when there are LOs waiting with me. I try not to be late but late is part of my world now that I have two kids. I try to plan ahead of time but sometimes something happens with one of them right before we leave and I end up being late. But I always call. And I try not to be more than 15 mins late if I can help it. Sorry about your recent experience though. I would be annoyed too... :\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268746 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:41:57 +0000 lawbee11 1268746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Growing up my mom was always late for everything. I couldn't stand it. So now I am the opposite--I am always early/on time. I guess being on the receiving end of having your parent late to everything (including your games, concerts, appointments, etc) makes you very intolerant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268740 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:37:52 +0000 teamjse 1268740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm extremely punctual, I'm one of those you show up 15 mins early and you are on time people. It drives my dh nuts. All of my friends are notorious for being late. When I go out with them I will show up 30 mins late and I'm usually on time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268685 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:14:10 +0000 BananaPancakes 1268685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: You don't know anyone who is chronically late? I actually find this to be amazing. I can name 3 close relatives right off the bat. And 2 close friends. Gah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268670 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:07:01 +0000 blackbird 1268670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends what it's for. Chronically late people? No, but I don't know anyone like that. If someone is late b/c of traffic, got stuck at work, etc, I'm understanding. Those things do happen. </p> <p>If someone was going to be more than an hour late, though, I would have just rescheduled. That is unacceptable. Two hours is mind-blowing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268653 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:50:30 +0000 Mae 1268653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well right now I'm RAGING on hold with home depot bc they are apparently going to be 8 days late delivering my new washer/dryer… so no. </p> <p>But with people? I think I have a little patience but not a ton. If someone is 5 minutes late I don't care. If they are 15 minutes late but they texted me to let me know, I might be annoyed but I generally get over it really fast (particularly if they are late getting to my house vs. late meeting me out somewhere, which is more annoying). More than 15 minutes without a good excuse is unacceptable though. </p> <p>Ditto what @BananaPancakes: said. Why is their time more valuable than theirs? Why do chronically late people think that the world should just wait for them? No. Obviously if you had an ACTUAL issue I'm understanding about whatever delay there is. But if you're the sort of person who is just constantly half an hour late with no reason I'm probably not going to be your friend because I just feel like you have no respect for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268646 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:44:03 +0000 MsLipGloss 1268646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: If you had texted me, I would have responded and let you know what my timeline was shaping up to be. *gah* I hate that your LO was waiting for his friend . . . I think that would upset me more than my friend being late for just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268637 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:38:55 +0000 Smurfette 1268637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two hours I would be annoyed.</p> <p>I hate being late but since R got here, we are more then I want to admit but it usually 15-30mins at the most. But I now just plan on leaving earlier then we need to and it helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268635 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:38:51 +0000 MapleMoose 1268635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how to vote in your poll. I don't care when other people are late but I hate hate hate when I myself am the one who is late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268630 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:34:06 +0000 irene 1268630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: The part that irritated me was, she could at least let me know what is she up to, or check her text in 15 minute intervals, if she was planning to meet me. Again. I didn't say 3pm. She said 3pm.</p> <p>No I am not ending my friendship with her. Just this really irritates me about her. And I don't know if I should even say anything about it. There were times that she didn't even show up when she had us (me and 2 more friends with our babies) gathered at a playhouse (she did have an explanation back then). Another time a few of us wanted to have a play date, say at 11am, at a playground. She told me to lets get together early at 9am and let the kids play a bit first (the other mothers couldn't make it and we know in advance). We basically was left waiting for 2 hours. She just showed up at 11am. Yes it is fine because we were playing in the playground anyway, but it is just not cool when this happens all the time, and there is no pattern for it (there are also times that she'd be pretty on-time, by on time I mean within 15-30 minutes). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268621 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:27:18 +0000 MsLipGloss 1268621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds to me like your plans were pretty fluid, and that there wasn't necessarily a hard *start* time . . . I bet she doesn't think she was *late* at all. I wouldn't end a friendship over this . . . I would just make more definitive plans next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268619 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 08:23:13 +0000 irene 1268619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sapphiresun: Wow, I'd be super pissed! Kudos to you!!!</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: She does this in very random times and never really provide an explanation. I was able to tolerate for an hour, but I was irritated after that. We were supposed to meet somewhere at 3pm, both of our kids need to nap between 1-3 I asked her to let me know when her LO is up she said yes. I texted her at 3:05 and say my son is still down. Are you guys up and should I wake him up? No response. I texted her a few times, and called and no response until 4pm she finally picked up and said her LO just woke, and let's not meet somewhere and they'll come to my house. Which is fine (but I would have expected her to at least check in once after 3pm). Then she said she has to walk the dog and all that and she will be at my house in 30 minutes (she lives 10 minutes away from me tops). Fine. During that time LO kept running to the door and gesture if they were here yet. Almost another hour passed with no texts and calls, I texted and called, no response. Finally at 5:10 I received a text saying she is close by. 5:15pm she called and said she was lost (despite the fact that she's been here for 20 times before, and everytime I told her to put my address in the GPS. I happened to forget to mention that yesterday, because I thought anyone would have learned by now). Grrrr.</p> <p>She arrived and I wasn't very happy. And she was like, what's wrong? Grrrr</p> <p>The part that bugs me is, LO was anticipating for them to come for 1.5 hours..! Another thing that really irritated me was, it wasn't my idea to have a play date! I didn't even want to have a play date but she kept bugging me for it! I could have had more of a quality time with LO if I wasn't constantly wondering when they are coming or if they are coming or not.</p> <p>Done venting. Grrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268589 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:50:05 +0000 Dandelion 1268589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't give up a friendship over it, if there were other things that the person added to my life. If someone is always late, then I'll just plan on them being late. </p> <p>DH is always on time, too, but we're a couple of New Yorkers living in the country south, so we have had to adapt our expectations by choosing to live here. If people aren't at work, they don't like schedules. So we just learn to go with the flow. Everyone is late here. We just deal with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268584 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:44:40 +0000 mediagirl 1268584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did she call or text or say she was going to be late? If she arrived 2 hours late, I would have told her we already started dinner but she was welcome to come in and hang out while we finished. Then she can decide if she feels welcome or not. </p> <p>I have one friend who is consistently late. I just deal with it. I am on time or early for everything because I cannot STAND being late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268582 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:39:23 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1268582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: exactly this!</p> <p>DH is always late. It kills me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268580 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:37:54 +0000 Ree723 1268580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm constantly running late - never for super important things or professional matters, but every day things, yes. Usually only 5-10 minutes late though and I always send a text to say I'm running late, not to mention apologise once I arrive. I try and try and try to be on time or early but I always misjudge the amount of time something is going to take! I'm a procrastinator by nature and I think it carries over to my punctuality :-( </p> <p>I wish I was an on time person, but alas, after more than 30+ years of being late (I was even born 13 days late!), I have come to accept it as a major failing on my part. Doesn't mean I don't keep trying to improve though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268578 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:36:45 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1268578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 hours late! I would have canceled. </p> <p>I am pretty good about being on time. As soon as I realize I may be late I text or call and let thr person know how long I will be delayed and always give them the chance to reschedule. One of my friends used to straight up lie and say she was 15 minutes away when in reality she hadn't even left her house and was at keast 45 minutes behind schedule. </p> <p>I wouldn't stop being someone's friend, but I wouldn't make plans set in stone with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268566 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:10:53 +0000 looch 1268566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try my hardest not to be late, but sometimes public transportation is involved. I call if I am going to be more than 15 minutes late.... I should also note if you don't have children and are still late with no explanation, I get very annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268563 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:07:53 +0000 delight 1268563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man I hate being late for things! I always try to be a few minutes early. It's so much harder though to be on time with a child! Waaaa!</p> <p>As for friends or other people, it bothers me when people are late, unless of course they tell me they're running late. I voted 2. I don't think I would stop being friends with someone but I'd be super annoyed if they were chronically late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268562 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 07:03:11 +0000 BananaPancakes 1268562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I think on time means 5 minutes early for most things, and can't stand to be late myself. This hasn't changed since I had a baby. I usually start getting annoyed around the 10 minute mark for anyone, and I still expect an apology. I think it is incredibly rude to assume my time isn't worth as much as yours, and that's basically what you're telling me when you're late. </p> <p> That said, I would never not be friends with someone who is chronically late, but I may lie to you about the time of the event to get you to show up on time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-you-stand-people-being-late#post-1268535 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 05:27:46 +0000 illumina 1268535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind waiting 10-15 minutes for someone, but that is my max tolerance... I wouldn't wait 2hrs!! I always manage to get places on time, even with a LO in tow--which people said would be impossible! It's not, I just have to start getting ready much earlier :) </p>