https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 13:38:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722995 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 15:05:15 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2722995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038 I am so sorry. We had a rough transition for our almost 13 month old to a toddler transition room. Similarly he would scream as soon as I walked in at night for pick-up and you could tell he had cried on and off most of the day. In the past 6-8 weeks it has gotten so much better. </p> <p>We also hadn't been prepared that he wouldn't be allowed to have breast milk in the room, only cow's milk since they were concerned about other kids grabbing cups. I was immediately up in arms about it since he has not taken to the cow's milk. I will say keeping with it as painful and heart wrenching as it was, is the best course. </p> <p>If they can be a little flexible and ensuring he gets naps and maybe a binky during nap, our son actually naps better on the cots in the toddler room than the infant room (go figure), that will make all the difference. It is just awful to see but when they start to settle in and you see the growth it will be all worth it! Transition is hard on everyone and I just have to remind myself that the teachers see this all the time and they do know what will work. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722841 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:32:13 +0000 Bluebonnet 2722841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: Ugh - I'm sure the lack of gradual transitioning has made things worse (especially since the teachers, room, schedule and rules are all different). It also sounds like he's not napping as well in the toddler room, and obviously a tired toddler makes everything so much harder. If possible, try to let him get extra rest at home so the change is a little bit easier. Hang in there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722827 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:14:36 +0000 peaches1038 2722827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shabang: thank you.</p> <p>@travellingbee: me too ☹️. I'm not sure if I should force the issue with them so he can have the binky and sippy cup now to have to take it away again later or just let him struggle while we wait it out. Ugh. </p> <p>@Bluebonnet: they said yesterday that he cried off and on all morning but was better after nap. So he was ok from about 230-4 when I picked him up. And he starts crying again as soon as I get there and won't let me put him down at all. They were planning on transitioning him over a week period, but we were on vacation that week, so when we came back, he went right to the next room. It was very abrupt. He has 2 friends that moved up last week. The infant room and toddler rooms are set up very similarly, so i don't think there is too much appeal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722825 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:10:11 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2722825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No sippy cup sounds a bit rough. Do they allow straw cups or are they drinking out of regular cups? </p> <p>I wanted to commisserate with you and say that my first son had a super difficult time transitioning to every room. When we first started day care, he cried every day at drop off for a full year. He got slightly better towards the end of that year, and then we transitioned rooms and he cried for another 3 months. By that point, he was well over 2.5, and it was so frustrating to me to have the drop off while DH got the happy pick up every day. </p> <p>Eventually he gets better, but sometimes, you have a sensitive child who craves the normalcy of routine. I would say to just try to keep it up, and it will very slowly get better over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722814 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 09:52:21 +0000 Bluebonnet 2722814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: Is LO fine shortly after you leave? Or does it sound like he's struggling all day?</p> <p>How did daycare prepare him for the transition? Does he have friends from the infant room in the toddler room? Are there special big kid things that he gets to do in the toddler room that he didn't get to do in the infant room? </p> <p>I think you are doing everything you can to make drop off easier. Some kids have a harder time with change (but its good to figure this out now, so you can better prepare for changes in the future). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722804 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 09:47:05 +0000 travellingbee 2722804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No binky or sippy cup?! At 16 months?? That's crazy. I'm sorry for your LO. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722799 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 09:44:09 +0000 shabang 2722799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just commiseration. That transition is the hardest, in my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722797 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 09:43:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2722797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: I agree. Half the kids in that room had binky's! Strangely DD stopped using a binky at school but still needed one at home till we weaned around 22 months. But I def saw other kids with them in that room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722795 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 09:41:24 +0000 peaches1038 2722795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: thanks! I will ask about dropping him off in his old room for at least a couple of minutes</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: thanks for the commiseration. I'm definitely going to check it that Daniel tiger episode. It's always the same teacher in the morning, so at least that will be consistent for him </p> <p>@snowjewelz: i think the no binky rule is super tough. I could see in the 2-3 room, but I'm not sure why they are pushing it at this age </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722742 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 08:25:23 +0000 snowjewelz 2722742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In DD's daycare, about a month before transition they start bringing them to the new room to hang out longer and longer. Maybe the abrupt transition plus no binky is too rough? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722735 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 08:14:22 +0000 yoursilverlining 2722735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: We did the same - drop off in the infant room for a long time too, now that I think about it. Great tip! That helped my LO a lot too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722734 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 08:13:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 2722734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs - we had a rough transition to the toddler room too (.....all of our room transitions were hard actually, even though they were all at the same school). </p> <p>It definitely took my LO longer than 2 weeks to transition - I can't remember exactly but at least 4-5 and maybe more like 6 weeks. One thing that helped was developing a routine with mainly 1 teacher at drop off so that LO built more of a relationship with that teacher, and doing the same routine each morning helped as well. </p> <p>Another thing that helped us a lot was the Daniel Tiger episode about "grownups come back". We watched it a lot and talked about school during the episode and then would talk about the episode (and how grownups always come back) during drop off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722733 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 08:10:20 +0000 Adira 2722733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My youngest struggled with the transition to the toddler room too. What we found to work was that we actually kept dropping him off in the infant room with his beloved teacher. He'd get a snuggle from her, and then 5 minutes later, she's just bring him over to the toddler room. With no parents around, the transition seemed to go more smoothly for them.</p> <p>He's been in the toddler room for 6 months now and we STILL have to go to the infant room for drop-off, but now we can just walk through (it's kind of a big loop) and we loop around to the back of the toddler room. It's kind of ridiculous, but seems to be working for us. And Logan LOVES being in the toddler room, now that he's used to it.</p> <p>Hope things get better for your LO soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-daycare-transition-to-toddler-room#post-2722719 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 07:59:55 +0000 peaches1038 2722719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is having a hard time transitioning to the toddler room at daycare. He was moved 2 weeks ago today. The room is 16 months-24 months and they do not allow binkys or sippy cups. He cries hard everyday at drop off, which he never did before. He also is not napping well, though that's improving. They have to hide his coat bc he just sits under his hook and cries and points to it all day. When I walk in, he's usually being held by his teacher and seems ok, but starts crying as soon as he sees me. So far, we talk about school a lot and how the day will go. When we get there, I say "it's ok to be sad and mama will be back to get you after snack. I love you" Big hug, then I hand him over and walk out. </p> <p>They do allow him to have his lovey and that seems to help a bit.</p> <p>His teachers are being really patient and kind about it and keep telling me it's normal, but I feel so sad for him!</p> <p>Anyone else struggling with this right now? How long did it take your lo to adjust? Any other tips? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460885 Sat, 13 Feb 2016 16:03:08 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: haha! Awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460730 Sat, 13 Feb 2016 10:19:19 +0000 Finfan 2460730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: I started a parents of Threenagers support thread for us LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460585 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 23:34:23 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: Let's start a Parents of Threenagers support group! 😁 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460562 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 22:18:21 +0000 Finfan 2460562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sometimesshesings: omg this. I have a 3.5 year old and a 3 month old and the threenager stage is my personal hell. Love that kid but ack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460560 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 22:16:16 +0000 Ms maths 2460560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find the actual parenting of 2 kids to be about as easy as parenting one kid. What I find harder is getting everything else done; two kids just means a lot less down time than I had with one (which already felt like no down-time). But I have two young kids--27 months and 11 months--so they are both at an age where they require a lot of attention. And somehow I have to fit in my share of household stuff, along with work that I end up bringing home because I can't spend enough time at my office :bummed:</p> <p>Edited to add: It didn't feel hard at all to me until LO2 hit six months. Before that, LO1 was still in daycare part-time, I had minimal work responsibilities, and LO2 was a pretty chill baby. Now, I am back at work full-time and LO2 has lost her chillness. (In a good way, but she just doesn't tolerate sitting around while I do something else like she used to.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460543 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 21:37:05 +0000 sometimesshesings 2460543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: for us, it's more about the difficulty of having a 3-year-old! LO2 (3 months old) is a piece of cake in comparison! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/transition-to-2#post-2460451 Fri, 12 Feb 2016 19:21:03 +0000 pastemoo 2460451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: There are some bees on here now that are in that situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2388220 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 16:56:09 +0000 Pumuckl 2388220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just brought our son back to bed and otherwise tried to keep calm and not make a deal of it and after a couple of days the thrill of the newfound freedom was gone and things went back to normal. (Well except he now comes to our room instead of calling out for us MOTN). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2388211 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 16:48:52 +0000 Kelley_lovelikecrazy 2388211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh - we just moved ours and she's done well for 2 nights. But she hasn't realized she can leave yet. I'm holding my breath for a few more weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2388046 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 15:29:49 +0000 .twist. 2388046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SeptMomma12: hahaha He sounds like quite the comedian! :D hahaha that is hilarious! BUT I totally get the 5:30am thing. It was so cute the first time L let himself out of his room. He comes up to me and say "Hi Mommy! I'm awake!" and I looked over at DH and I was like, omg, he is just the cutest thing ever. I don't do that any more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2388037 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 15:21:41 +0000 SeptMomma12 2388037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: It's not so adorable at 5:30am, but I have to give him some points for creativity :silly: Yesterday he went so far as to yell from his room that we needed to go to Home Depot and get new batteries for his clock! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2388007 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 15:10:38 +0000 .twist. 2388007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: It wasn't one of my initial concerns, I was more scared of him falling out or something, which he hasn't done. He's proven he's very good at getting in and out. ;) </p> <p>@yin: haha thank you! I'm sorry it took so long for you, that sounds exhausting!</p> <p>@MrsB2012: @Charm54: It sounds like we'll be trying a door lock! Thanks ladies, and I'm glad your sleep improved!</p> <p>@cascademom: We are potty training in the next couple weeks and I just dread bedtime + potty excuses! Good luck with the gate tonight and report back! :D </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: I don't think I can revert back! We're getting ready to potty train and I want ease at night with potty visits because I am SURE there will be plenty.</p> <p>@SeptMomma12: I may end up bribing him, but first I'm just going to lock him in. ;) I also REALLY giggled at his comments about the ok-to-wake clock. That is hilarious and adorable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2387895 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 14:05:54 +0000 cascademom 2387895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SeptMomma12: With the token system, it's definitely on the bribery level. It generally works well when he's with the program unlike last night. I'm picking up a gate before picking up the kids tonight. I'm hoping that it stems some of the issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2387879 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:46:33 +0000 SeptMomma12 2387879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh we had the same experience this summer. My husband calls it the worst month of his life :silly: What eventually worked for us was a combination of a few things... We put a baby gate on his door, which worked surprisingly really well. I don't know if it makes him feel more secure or something, but he even reminds us if we forget to put it up. We also told him he's allowed to get up once. And he does, almost every night about 5 minutes after he goes to bed. That seemed to give him a little more of the control he was looking for. And finally, good old-fashioned bribery. He got a matchbox car every morning that he stuck to the rules.</p> <p>We have the ok to wake clock too, but that's been very hit or miss with DS. If he happens to sleep until it's green, he's super excited. But if he wakes up earlier, he just tells us it must be broken. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2387855 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:32:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 2387855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We put her back in the crib. I just gave up and decided I'd rather buy a new crib for baby 2 if t comes to that. </p> <p>In your situation could you put a cover over the light switch, and move the sound machine out of reach, and lock the door somehow (doorknob cover)? Just remove all temptations? </p> <p>Meanwhile my friend told her son he can't get out of bed until his clock turns green- and he never did. It's unbelievable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-bed-transition-ruined-sleep#post-2387832 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:14:13 +0000 cascademom 2387832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in the middle of this hell. We've been doing a token system where he gets three tokens where mom and dad can come up and answer his request after routine. It worked perfectly for two weeks until this past weekend. DH and I got sick and all hell broke loose. Last night, he went to sleep at 11pm after getting up to go to the bathroom twice on his own. I'm getting a gate today. Gate plus token system I hope will stop this. I'm exhausted from being sick and not getting a lot of recovery sleep that I needed from his drama plus 6 month old waking up. </p>