https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 13 Jun 2026 22:15:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901970 Sun, 10 Nov 2019 11:48:20 +0000 Ajsmommy 2901970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Commando.</p> <p>I would have screamed years ago if you'd said I'd go commando ... But I've evolved! I've worn boy shorts, string bikinis, thongs and now I usually go commando. I remember being in my aunts wedding when I was a teen and one of the bridesmaids was always commando (my other aunt made the dresses so.we had multiple fittings together) anyway I thought no way back then...<br /> But 20+ yrs later and I now get it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901954 Sun, 10 Nov 2019 08:10:09 +0000 meadow 2901954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks. I'll check out soma.</p> <p>I respect the opinions about we all wear underwear who cares. But as a high school teacher I don't feel it is appropriate for my underwear or bra to ever be visible. At the same time I want to feel happy about my body and wearing super loose pants makes me look &amp; feel fatter than I am. While I don't wear leggings, my pants are tighter and sometimes my panty line was showing.</p> <p>Thanks everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901496 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 14:03:12 +0000 Mamatimes3 2901496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the soma ones noted above. As I get older I’m going for comfort more than anything else. I like these. They also have some that are a little tighter in the belly area. Not like spanx but suck you in a tiny bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901493 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 13:51:35 +0000 graceandjoy 2901493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: oo that's good to know; i exclusively wear panties with lace bands b/c I hate feeling remotely anything "restricting" me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901486 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 13:17:14 +0000 Petitduck 2901486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: yep. I never understand why people care if you can see your underwear line. Especially in pants or leggings. The majority of people wear underwear so why are we trying to keep it a secret/ pretend we aren’t wearing it?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901483 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 13:09:46 +0000 meganmp 2901483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Target has some really silky bikini underwear that I haven't had an issue with at all. At $5 apiece, they are not a super huge investment either. They keep them in bins in the intimates section. I love them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901476 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 11:45:10 +0000 LCTBQE 2901476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: if it's the line I'm thinking of, they have a weird rubbery edging on them that is kind of polarizing--it bothered me when I tried it once. But my regular panties are from soma and hold up pretty well, I like the brand a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901462 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 10:51:51 +0000 graceandjoy 2901462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A style blogger I follow and love swears by Soma; they have some kind of no panty-line collection. I missed their last big sale so I'm waiting for a another deal to finally try! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901454 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 09:52:57 +0000 LCTBQE 2901454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: YES, this is something that women willingly participate in and buy into and it's our prerogative to change it. see also: women demurring about telling people their age, and pretending we don't dye our hair. I work in fashion, am quite vain and style is very important to me, but I think this is idea that VPL is such a gauche thing is anti-feminist and needs to go. </p> <p>@meadow: so, you will probably gawk at this, but my new jam is Calvin Klein MEN'S boxer briefs. The fit is super snug, they never budge and they are SO comfortable, I love them. Even though I do believe that VPL as a concept can fuck off, I hear you and these fit the bill for pretty much anything clingy like skirts or trousers. If you're wearing leggings they might show around the thigh a bit depending on how they fit you; mine don't really. Call me crazy but I love them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901449 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 08:15:08 +0000 hitchhiker 2901449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not what you're looking for, but I'll suggest wearing whatever undies make you comfy and not GAF (sorry, not sorry) about VPL. I'm convinced it's the patriarchy. Another thing taking up our precious mental space and time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901447 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 06:33:20 +0000 Ms.Mermaid 2901447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wear icon (now speax?) underpants because of my pelvic floor damage. But I have heard good things about Soma Intimates underpants for this purpose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901446 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 04:52:16 +0000 meadow 2901446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: yeah.....I get that things would solve the issue....but I'm not interested in wearing them daily.....I pretty much can handle them like 1x/year.....hah<br /> Thanks though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901444 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 04:49:02 +0000 MrsADS 2901444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following. I can't wear a thong all day (not comfortable!). I've been wearing Aerie's boyfriends but they're not perfect. A little ride up and some vpl sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901441 Mon, 04 Nov 2019 00:50:07 +0000 cake2017 2901441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meadow: Not exactly what your asking but I’d wear thongs with the work pants. No issues there. Target, online or Nordstrom etc has nice quality ones that are cute and comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-vpl-and-no-wedgies#post-2901438 Sun, 03 Nov 2019 22:36:00 +0000 meadow 2901438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite bikini style undies with no VPL and no ride up. GO!</p> <p>I just bought new work pants and apparently the styles are closer cut to my butt than 3 years ago when I bought pants ( haha) and my trusty hanes no ride ups are showing a bit more than I'd like.</p> <p>Suggestions that can be bought in a multi pack get bonus points ;)</p> <p>TIA! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856799 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 21:31:44 +0000 wrkbrk 2856799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well this is terrifying. DS is a little younger at 3 next week but his teacher made it clear he’s not ready for undies at school yet. Like others, he’s simply not interested. But he starts a new school in August where 100% potty (and poop!) training is required. Cue cold sweat. It’s certiably not the case that all kids are reliably pee and poop trained by 3.75 😳😭 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856756 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 18:13:57 +0000 catgirl 2856756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Calibee: Sorry you are dealing with it too! DD was the same about holding it for days when we first tried to deny diapers. Unfortunately she has dealt with chronic constipation her whole life which complicates how we want to deal with it. At her 3 year check up the doctor said to just give her the diaper and she would eventually come around, but I never thought we would still be dealing with it almost a year later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856754 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 18:09:30 +0000 Calibee 2856754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: My daughter is 3.5. Totally pee trained—in fact, she has never had a single accident. But will only poop in a diaper. If we don’t give her one, she will hold it for days. So...commiseration! It’s driving me nuts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856682 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:56:30 +0000 catgirl 2856682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not quite the same but my DD will be 4 next month and will only poop in a diaper. She has been pee trained for over a year and has never had an accident. She has always asked for a diaper to poop, which we rolled with for a long time. The only rule was she had to go in the bathroom while pooping.</p> <p>We have been trying to not give her a diaper for poop but she still wears a pull up at nap and bedtime, so she just goes poop at the end of her nap every day. Bribing hasn't worked, the threat of losing privileges hasn't worked, basically she doesn't care. I was hoping starting pre school this year would help, but she has an extremely predictable poop schedule and never has to go there. </p> <p>All that to say, good luck! I'm not sure what our next step is but you are not alone in these issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856674 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:39:32 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2856674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And I say all this, and fully expect a regression tomorrow. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856673 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:38:58 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2856673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bribed my 3yo with m&amp;ms. If that hadnt worked then it was going to be prescheduled potty trips until he decided that just doing it himself would be faster. </p> <p>If I were you I just would hide the diapers and/or buy like girly patterned ones and say the other ones were all gone. </p> <p>Commando helped too during the transition. </p> <p>Oh and also we bought underwear slightly too big because it was much easier to get on and off, and he only wears "soft" pants most days for the same reason. Basically we did/do anything that makes potty the easier option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856648 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:00:23 +0000 Kaohinani 2856648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice as I am in the same boat with my 3.75 y/o DS. (* We are on our 5th round of potty-training in 1-1/2 years ... He gets to 90/95% trained then regresses. Most frustrating is that he LOVES his diapers. Ugh.)<br /> So, I can only offer a bit of commiseration and tell you things will get easier once your DS decides to jump on the potty-training wagon. Many *hugs* your way as I know how frustrating this process is. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-does-my-kid-want-diapers#post-2856640 Wed, 14 Nov 2018 13:32:26 +0000 codeitall 2856640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have trained DS earlier, but we had a baby and major life changes and it didn't work out. So we waited.</p> <p>1 month ago we started potty training. He can now go pee and poop in the potty on demand. He does best when he's naked. We have to remind him if he's wearing anything. He won't do it on his own.</p> <p>This morning he woke up dry and peed without complaint. Then when I tried to put his pull up on, he absolutely refused. Cried, wailed, gnashing of teeth and all that jazz. He wanted a diaper. Even went and got one for me from his sister's room (unfortunately they wear the same size).</p> <p>We try every weekend to make progress with potty training, but he refuses to use the potty at daycare and hates pull ups, which daycare requires if he still has accidents.</p> <p>Bribing works selectively, he isn't jealous of his sister wearing his underwear or pull ups, doesn't care about being a 'big boy' or 'like dad' and the ultimate toy bribe for when he is potty trained doesn't seem to be working.</p> <p>What the french toast am I supposed to do now?</p> <p>ETA: he's a month away from 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815210 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:44:39 +0000 gingerbebe 2815210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our son wears undies during the day and puts on a pull-up at night and he's typically fine with it, but every now and then he'll randomly refuse one or the other. He'll say I don't want underwear or I don't want pull-ups and it will be this thing for a few days for some oddball reason.</p> <p>I don't know if it will work for you, but we told him if he didn't wear his underwear, he'd have to go back in a diaper like a baby. It was his choice. He was like NOPE, UNDERWEAR IT IS.</p> <p>Another suggestion could be a transition of sorts where you put underwear on her and then put a pull-up on top. Then over time just skip the pull-up, since she's used to having the underwear on first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815199 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:14:41 +0000 Iced Tea 2815199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I think you’re right. I will try a practice day. </p> <p>@BadgerMom: that’s so funny! I never would have thought to say something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815137 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 08:53:47 +0000 looch 2815137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of feel that maybe she's not confident enough to go with underwear during the day...my son was similar, so what ultimately worked was to pick a day when we wouldn't be going anywhere to practice. It helped boost his confidence and then he was fine in pullups only at night once he realized that he could do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815136 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 08:13:36 +0000 bhbee 2815136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: yes to bribes :grin: especially if it gets you over the hump! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815129 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 07:26:24 +0000 BadgerMom 2815129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you get a different design (brand/character/color) and tell her these are special pull ups only for night time? </p> <p>I like to blame these kinds of transitions on other things. He seems to take it better when the pull up says it’s only for night then when I say the pull up is for night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815126 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 07:12:06 +0000 erinbaderin 2815126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you do boring pull-ups and “attractive” (character) underwear? Or I wouldn’t be above bribes - “once you have underpants on you can have a chocolate chip!” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wont-give-up-the-pull-ups#post-2815119 Sun, 08 Apr 2018 22:28:43 +0000 macintosh 2815119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: Yes, I usually get him dressed right away in the morning after he uses the potty, so pull up comes off with the pjs. If the pull-up is dry I might re-use it :silly: </p>