https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 08:23:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189718 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 17:28:00 +0000 Mrsbells 189718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with pp, I would be irritate about it but I would just not worry about it because your health is way more important at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189673 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 16:18:49 +0000 Ms.SK 189673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your HR group let you come in when you were put on bedrest and clearly on maternity leave (you weren't paid)? Shame on them! If it was HR lawyers in your practice and not your HR Dept., double the shame in them. They know the law and they should have encouraged you to stay home. Please don't allow work to put you or the baby at risk. </p> <p>I say this as some one who was put on bedrest with 1 day notice as well. I had a ton of open projects as well. I felt terrible for myself and my coworkers but was encouraged to listen to my Dr. I offered to also come in the office. They turned me down but did take me up on the conference calls I offered to have with anyone taking over my projects for a week. Then I had to tell them I needed a break to email me and I would check with them when I felt up to it. Do what you can and let them worry about the rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189578 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:21:50 +0000 SugarplumsMom 189578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be pissed! But I would leave it - it's not worth stressing over and jeopardizing your health and the baby's. You did what you can out of pure courtesy. Any kind of non-paid work while you're pregnant and supposed to be on bed rest is way above and beyond. They shouldn't ask for anything more. I think you should follow your doctor's orders. It's just not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189566 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:14:27 +0000 pastemoo 189566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I would be furious--but I also would not go in to train the next person. Offer phone training, but you have already gone ABOVE AND BEYOND. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189561 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:13:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 189561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>agree with pps, don't go in again. I had pre-e, I'm not sure how far along you are, but it can be a scary and dangerous dianosis. Thankfully I only got it the last couple weeks of my pregnancy and I was induced right away at 38+5. But if your pre-e escalates, you could have seizures and that is soooo scary and not safe. So just follow what your dr says and STAY IN BED. You need to keep yourself and your baby healthy :)</p> <p>oh, and yes- I would be furious. But then just tell myself that I did the best I could and there's not much more than can be done.<br /> You gotta focus on your baby now </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189557 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:10:39 +0000 lemondrop 189557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would be furious! But you need to let this go and follow your doctor's orders- your baby and your health are far more important than your job. You obviously do a great job at work and are an excellent employee, so I agree with above in typing out directions or answer phone calls from bed- but cap it at that!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189550 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:04:56 +0000 Modern Daisy 189550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I would be mad too. But at the same time, you can't pre-announce a resignation so I do understand why she didnt' say anything. It is just a crappy situation for everyone. She looks bad since she's leaving right after being trained and you are all left hanging and back to square one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189542 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 15:01:34 +0000 dc yoga bee 189542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: This. Ultimately it is what it is, and it's her right to quit. You've gone above and beyond, and it's not your problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189527 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 14:52:57 +0000 mamimami 189527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed. But thank God any of us can quit anytime we want, so it's her right. I think maybe you feel overly responsible for what does on when you're not here. It's not your responsibility and if I were you I would NOT go in again. Not your problem. You could quit today if you wanted and the bosses would figure something out.</p> <p>Try to let go and calm down... I'm sure the stress of this ongoing situation is not good! </p> <p>It sounds like you've already gone above and beyond the call of duty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189490 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 14:34:04 +0000 Running Elley 189490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I agree!</p> <p>I wouldn't offer to go in again to train, especially when your doctor has specifically mentioned that the stressful nature of your job may be contributing to the issues that you've been having. Baby is number one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189460 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 14:20:39 +0000 JessicaMcB 189460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all, I'm still mad but I guess I have to let it go. I know the woman wasn't trying to slight me personally, I just find it unprofessional. Until my firm/lawyers says something to me about needing help with the new person I'll leave it alone.</p> <p>Thanks for all your thoughts! Many heads are cooler than one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189375 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:57:47 +0000 mrs. wagon 189375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you went above and beyond, and your husband is right, it's now their problem and not yours. You did everything in your power to help them (and didn't even get paid for that day) prepare for this unexpected loss of you. But I voted yes because if I were you, I'd be pissed!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189332 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:50:16 +0000 looch 189332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: haha, I hear you. I'd invest the time in typing the stuff out, because you can never trust the quality of someone else's notes. This way it's all in black and white. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189320 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:47:30 +0000 MsLipGloss 189320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @FoodNerd81.</p> <p>and (((hugs))). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189313 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:44:41 +0000 ladyfingers 189313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be livid, but at the same time, there's not much you can do. Try not to stress on top of everything else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189289 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:32:12 +0000 mrbee 189289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I would be very upset.</p> <p>I don't think you should get involved though. If anything, your lawyers will value you more after they go through this experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189282 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:30:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 189282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be angry, but I couldn't really blame the girl who quit. Even if she knew she probably had another job offer coming, what could she do if she didn't have it in and be ready to quit? As much as it really sucks for you, which is very unfortunate, she did have to think of herself and her own job. I think the company has a lot of responsibility for not having anyone else who can remotely handle your job. What happens when you go on vacation? What was the plan for your mat leave?<br /> Sorry you are going through so much stress at the exact time you should be avoiding it! I hope they get someone capable in and fast, so you can relax and take care of yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189278 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:27:13 +0000 JessicaMcB 189278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Thanks highwire, nice to hear from another paralegal :) .We're lucky that our firm is a smaller mid-sized at just over 100 people, but there's so many vacant desks right now between people quitting and being fired that it can get stressful.</p> <p>@artbee: I agree because I wouldn't want anyone to be miserable, I just don't get why she didn't figure she couldn't handle it in advance- she's been on the desk before. Meh, I'm probably being hormonal about it. Thanks for your input!</p> <p>@looch: I wish I could do that, but that'd be a LOOOOONG memo. Glad yours worked out!</p> <p>@zippylef: I think this may be the way to go, thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189269 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:22:59 +0000 loveisstrange 189269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be LIVID. I wouldn't offer to go it, but I agree with telling them you would be willing to talk to the new person over the phone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189267 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:21:29 +0000 looch 189267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: I typed up the instructions on what to do for the woman I trained, I am guessing she handed over the material to the new person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189266 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:21:20 +0000 heffalump 189266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be upset because it does create more work for you when you shouldn't be stressing out... but I also think she has the right to do what she did. Maybe she realized your job was too much for her. She has to think about herself first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189261 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:18:25 +0000 JessicaMcB 189261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: This is a good idea, I have a feeling I know who is going to be put there and she's even more worrying. She likes to play footsy with the IT guy instead of doing her job. I hope they bring in someone externally, I feel like your suggestion could really work if they did.</p> <p>@looch: Sad and glad to know I'm not the only one whose had this happen. What happened with the replacement, did they just figure it out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189260 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:17:02 +0000 DillonLion 189260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would absolutely be furious. This exact scenario hasn't happened to me, but I've had people quit with no notice twice since in the three years that I've worked here. There are only 4 people total in my office, so when someone does that it is a HUGE blow. </p> <p>Anyway, I'm sorry that happened and you have every right to be mad. What a pain! I wish people would just man up and handle the job, not just run off and quit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189259 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:16:25 +0000 JessicaMcB 189259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LivsMama: I thought it might be that too because before they hired me they went through 6 paralegals in less than six months. I just find it really unprofessional if that is the case that she didn't ask to put someone else there where she's been on my desk before. Thanks for reading my novel :)</p> <p>@hellobeeboston: No, I put that out there as an option but the issue is that I do so much drafting and client meetings because one of my lawyers has extreme social anxiety that it wouldn't work. My doctor also told me she thinks the high-stress nature of my work probably isn't helping anything, so she doesn't want me working in any capacity. It's hard though when you're on a career-path that requires a lot of focus. Thanks for your suggestion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189258 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:16:17 +0000 T.H.O.U. 189258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be angry at the woman but I think I would leave it up to the firm to figure out. Let them know that once they find another temp you would be happy to have a phone conversation to help get her trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189249 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:12:52 +0000 looch 189249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this happen to me when I was going on maternity leave...but the person I trained went to another department internally. At the time I trained her, she and my boss knew she'd be moving, but I didn't. I didn't have to do another retraining, though, that would make me angry!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189248 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:12:27 +0000 hellobeeboston 189248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i answered yes - because I would be pissed if i did that- definitely not cool as she definitely knew she wouldn't be there... but at the same time - it can't be your problem right now - it sounds like you need to rest and take care of your baby... but i understand wanting things to be ok -- is there anyway you can work from home? conf calls, do stuff online? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189245 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:09:51 +0000 LivsMama 189245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im thinking that she got stressed out and left. I highly doubt she'd go through that training knowing full well she was leaving. That being said, yes, Id still be pretty ticked off </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-be-angry#post-189242 Thu, 14 Jun 2012 13:06:56 +0000 JessicaMcB 189242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey Bees, I need to check-in with you all and see if I'm right to be mad about this, or if I'm being a crazy person.</p> <p>As a bit of background I am the only tax paralegal for a corporate law firm, my job is incredibly demanding and is considered by HR and the other paralegals to be the most work fathomable. The level of organization, knowledge of systems and precedents and general client knowledge required is extremely advanced. On top of this 2 of the 3 lawyers I work for are crazy people who scare everyone else.</p> <p>I was put on bedrest on Monday because of my HG, syncopal episodes, SCH's, irritable uterus and potential pre-e. I came in on Tuesday however because the sheer anxiety of just throwing someone on my desk unprepared literally kept me up all night. I informed HR it was my intent to be there all day to train whatever poor float they were going to throw my way. The thanked me for the professional courtesy and gave me the one floater that my head lawyer HATES. She's messed up several large client transactions for us when she's covered for me when I've been sick in the past.</p> <p>I grit my teeth and bore it though, and spent the day trying to get this woman to understand everything she'd need to know to be me. I was very supportive and told her she could call me anytime she had troubles, and that I'd rather she ask me a million questions than have the lawyers yell at her. I also warned her she was probably in for the long-haul because of how my firm/my desk works (here meaning my bedrest and maternity leave). She said she was excited to get another chance at my desk.</p> <p>Well today my best girlfriend at work emails me and lets me know that after me busting my buns to get this woman ready, she quit today and is gone next week! This means I either have to go in on ANOTHER day of what is supposed to be complete bedrest to train someone else, or field screaming calls from my lawyers and HR about whatever clueless individual they put there. To be frank, I'm really angry at this woman as she clearly knew she was leaving when I was training her and knew that it was a personal sacrifice (I didn't even get paid for it!) to help her that I was making. Now I have to go in on the weekend and try to straighten out whatever she's left behind.</p> <p>Would you be angry? Am I wrong to be angry about this? My husband told me to leave it alone because it's not "my problem" until I go back, but it is my problem if I'm going back to a nightmare or leaving my bosses to suffer for over a year.Ugggggh! </p>