https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 02:46:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-990160 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 11:51:30 +0000 Arden 990160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not their baby. It's yours. They can deal with it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989644 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 09:30:58 +0000 Modern Daisy 989644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness, DO IT!!! We had a gender reveal shower and it was one of the most excititng moments of my life. And we already knew the gender, the reveal was for everyone else!</p> <p>I anticipated that a lot of people would try to talk us out of it or make rude/negative comments, so what we did was we just kept it a complete secret until the week of the shower. It was really hard, i mean we found out the sex at 17 weeks and our shower wasn't until 27 weeks - so for 10 weeks we were just super vague. At first we kept saying we didn't know the gender yet, it was too early to tell, etc. then when we hit about 23/24 weeks people wouldn't accept that as an answer so we started saying we knew but were keeping it a secret until the third trimester so as not to jinx anything. We were hounded almost daily about the gender by multiple people, but we still didn't announce our plan to have a gender reveal shower until just a few days before, and it was a surprise for most of the guests. </p> <p>I'm telling you - it was awesome. Everyone got so into it and it was worth all the hard work and frustration of keeping the secret. I'm glad though that we didn't tell anyone our plan to have the party since it kept people from being vocal against it, which would have made me second guess it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989541 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 09:07:14 +0000 swurlygurl 989541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it sucks when people rain on someone else's parade. Not everyone likes all the same things, and that is totally fine. No need to be snotty about it though. I can certainly understand someone not liking the idea, but keep it to yourself and if you really don't want to go, then don't!</p> <p>If you think it sounds fun, then you should do it because you can't go back and change your mind afterwards! If it ends up not being as awesome as you imagined, at least you won't regret not doing it, and you can still hopefully have a good afternoon/evening of eating and hanging out with friends/family </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989340 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 08:03:47 +0000 purrpletulips 989340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's your party, have it if you want to. I'm sort of surprised by the reason they don't like the idea. I've heard of people being upset about a gender reveal party but that was because they thought the couple should be team green. I've never heard of someone being upset because the couple was waiting 4 days to find out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989332 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 07:59:49 +0000 littlek 989332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: If you want the party, have the party.</p> <p>But as PP said, I wouldn't expect people to get too excited. TBH, it's really only exciting for you and your DH. So, if you and your DH want the party, do it for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989233 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 06:53:47 +0000 T.H.O.U. 989233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, the parties aren't for me. </p> <p>Is there a way you could remove the word "Party", so it doesn't seem like such a big to-do? Maybe just a family dinner where you will be all finding out the sex of the baby together. </p> <p>I agree, I wouldn't expect people to get too excited. I mean its fun, they are excited for you, but it really doesn't matter to them whether it is a boy or a girl. And thats ok. Remember that these people still love you and your baby no matter what sex he/she is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989213 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 05:53:42 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 989213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have the party. It's not for them it's for you. If they chose not to come so be it. No one is going to be more excited for your upcoming baby than you and your husband. So take their lackluster attitude in regards to the build up events with a grain of salt.</p> <p>Gender Reveal parties and announcements seem really fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989207 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 05:31:16 +0000 artsyfartsy 989207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: @wonderstruck: Thank you for mentioning that. That's something I haven't thought of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989167 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 02:38:38 +0000 hellocupcake 989167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: if you want one, I would totally do one. My MIL thought I was crazy for wanting to reveal the gender in a fun way. She wasn't even very excited that we waited 3 months to tell her we were pregnant. My only suggestion would be to maybe do something that would include everyone...</p> <p>Example: have you seen the silly string gender reveal? Or the pink/blue in desserts (: Oh, take a box to a grocery store and have them put pink or blue balloons to float out when you open it? (: just something to maybe make everyone feel like they're included in the fun? I love the outfit idea too...whatever happens...you'll be finding out the gender...who can really ruin that?! (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989016 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 22:12:35 +0000 HLK208 989016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have the party!!! It sounds fun and I would be so excited if someone in my family/close friend had a reveal party! My family has parties for everything though. Maybe your IL's are party poopers ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989007 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 22:06:56 +0000 Reese 989007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I don 't see how this party could suck in the slightest. Food, games and gender reveal sounds like a good time to me. Especially since you have specified not to bring gifts.. people shouldn't feel obligated to do anything except show up and share in your happiness.. Not too much to ask IMO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea/page/2#post-989004 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 22:01:09 +0000 wonderstruck 989004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: "I planned the party honestly because it would be awesome to me to see everyone's reactions at once"</p> <p>The thing to keep in mind with this though is that not everyone may have a big reaction like you want. IMO you're kind of setting yourself up for disappointment once you start having expectations for other's immediate reactions other than your own and your DH's. But I'll admit that I'm not big on the idea of a gender reveal party, personally I feel that inviting cousins and everyone is a bit excessive. We just had our parents and siblings over for dinner and did a cute little reveal with them when we served dessert. But DH and I already knew, it was a moment where I didn't want to feel like I or my family felt like they had to have some specific reaction for everyone watching. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988996 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 21:51:47 +0000 Weagle 988996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to have a party, have a party. I agree with everything @DigAPony: said, though. Manage your expectations. Not only will it make this party easier, it will make everything extended family/baby related easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988981 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 21:44:02 +0000 JamieLee 988981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the idea of a gender reveal party! I think you should still have your party. Especially if DH is really into it. I would love to be invited to one. I think it sounds like such a fun time. </p> <p>We wanted to reveal the gender at my baby shower, but MIL would not be able to keep it a secret till then, so we just let the cat out of the bag. I was kind of bummed to miss out on the fun though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988919 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:56:12 +0000 Cherrybee 988919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the idea of a gender reveal party! Finding out the gender was one of the most exciting bits of pregnancy for me! I love the idea of opening a box with a pink or blue helium balloon in, so it would float up and announce the gender to the room! Plenty of your friends and family will enjoy the party, you won't even notice the miserable or absent ones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988911 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:51:42 +0000 kjpugs 988911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just like hosting any other BBQ or fun event- people who are excited about your pregnancy will be excited to find out with you. If they don't like the idea or think it's weird, they can choose not to go. Not everyone will love ANYTHING you do- everyone has an opinion. If you post too much/not enough about your pregnancy on facebook. If you share too much (names, gender) or not enough. Etc etc. Do what makes you happy! I LOVE your idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988909 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:48:51 +0000 MamaMoose 988909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also in the camp that thinks gender reveal parties are kind of weird and self indulgent. And I will totally admit that if I received an invitation to one I would probably react with a judgy eye roll. But if it was family I would put on a happy face and go. I'm sorry they are being rude to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988901 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:45:30 +0000 NavyRN2012 988901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the idea of a gender reveal party! Do it and don't worry about what the negative people say, it's YOUR moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988900 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:45:17 +0000 spaniellove 988900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have your party! It is certainly hurtful that they can't be more tactful. But this is not their baby, it's yours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988894 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:42:37 +0000 avivoca 988894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go for it! I'm sorry your inlaws are being jerks about it. It's not about them, it's about you, your husband, and that sweet baby. If you want to celebrate and surprise everyone including you, then do it. Don't let them rain on your parade. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988893 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:41:53 +0000 googly-eyes 988893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: All of this!</p> <p>I also like @corduroy's idea.</p> <p>I am another who thinks gender reveal parties are a bit much but you just have to do what makes you happy. If this is something you really want, you should just go for it and be happy with whoever wants to celebrate with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988887 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:36:20 +0000 Corduroy 988887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have the party. Anybody that doesn't like it doesn't have to attend. Or frame it as a BBQ/dinner/whatever + gender reveal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988883 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:35:19 +0000 MrsRoo 988883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: wow, how selfish! I'm so sorry she ruined your party :(</p> <p>@Danizaur: Do it! It sounds like something that both you and your husband are excited about, so I definitely wouldn't let anyone rain on your parade! </p> <p>We had a gender reveal dinner with just our immediate families and I loved it! We took a video of everyone finding out (we knew already, though!) and we watched it so many times to see everyone's faces :) my dads wife tried to ruin it, but we didn't let her and I'm glad we went ahead with it as planned. Just focus on those who are excited for you and F the rest of them. It's their loss in the end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988881 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:35:08 +0000 DigAPony 988881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: I'm one of those who thinks that gender reveal parties are strange, but if you guys want to throw a party, I think you should do it! </p> <p>I wanted to comment, though, just because of one line that you wrote above: "I planned the party honestly because it would be awesome to me to see everyone's reactions at once." I think I personally had unrealistic expectations regarding my family's reaction to our gender announcement. When I told my parents my mom was just sort of shocked and didn't say/do much; my dad just smiled and that was it (though he's the quiet type so it wasn't out of character). To be frank, I was a little surprised by/disappointed by my mom's reaction, because I thought she would be really excited and hug me or something. Anyway, the whole incident reminded me that truly, no one is going to be as excited about our baby as my husband and I are, and that's okay. We can't expect other people to have a certain reaction. Sorry for the lengthy response, but I wanted to share my experience! Have the party, have fun, but try not to put too much pressure on people's reactions--and try to forget those family members who are being rude enough to say that you shouldn't celebrate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988869 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:28:46 +0000 fairefaire 988869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: HAVE IT. Don't let anyone else ruin your fun. I'm one of those annoying people who isn't really into gender reveal parties, but if a family member was having one, I would ABSOLUTELY go, and be happy about it, and would never say anything to bring down their excitement. </p> <p>Just do it - you won't regret having it, but you might regret canceling it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988836 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:14:34 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 988836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: If your DH is adamant about having one, even after what his family said, and it's something you really want to do, then do it. Don't let a few people ruin something special for you. It's "different" for some people, and they may not warm up to the idea so quickly, but in the end, they'll just be happy to know what you're having. So go plan that party!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988823 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:09:06 +0000 Mrs. Deer 988823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I so hope you have the party anyway! Hard when not everyone's on-board but I bet it'll be a super fun day anyways :) @Mrs. Jump Rope; I'm so sorry you had to miss your party! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988820 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:07:24 +0000 Smurfette 988820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have your party! Don't let them ruin your fun and excitement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988813 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 19:59:16 +0000 Dandelion 988813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have your party...if they don't want to come and support, then they'll have to wait until after the party to know what you're having. Don't let them bring you down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ils-dont-support-my-gender-reveal-idea#post-988808 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 19:55:45 +0000 artsyfartsy 988808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your support! I'm still rethinking it...I haven't spent any money or time on planning yet. </p> <p>DH is adamant about having one. Lol. I think he's just trying to prove a point to his family. </p>