https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 16:10:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709478 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 12:01:33 +0000 T-Mom 2709478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gummyB: You know what my kids love, is stuff like silly putty, slime, etc. Maybe that's something portable you could try. And what I mean by being self-aware is.. they have to want to soothe themselves... if they want to throw a tantrum, then they are going to do it. That's why it does get better with age. Maybe you could try some incentives too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709453 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 11:38:24 +0000 gummyB 2709453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: love the idea of sensory play! I'll have to think of some options for the car since that is a rough place for her. She really loves art and imaginary play when she is happy so I can think of ways to introduce them as a soothing technique. I am actually SO ready for her to read independantly since I think that will be another way for her to engage her mind and relax a bit (other than watching TV, ugh). I really thought 5 would be an age where she had more self-awareness but I think I'm expecting too much of her. Really appreciate your story! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709444 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 11:23:50 +0000 T-Mom 2709444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gummyB: My DD also went through a very rough patch when she was 5. I was flabbergasted since we never really went through any "terrible" phases with her like many kids have. She was a model student at school, so focused, but would fall apart at home for no good reason. Like a 45 minute, thrash her body session. We were walking on eggshells. I have to say we never really figured out the answer per se. Things gradually just petered out by around age 6. I did take her to a therapist once for an evaluation. That ended up being more like a therapy session for me more than anything. But things really settled down around that time, or we definitely would have continued. I think 5 is hard because they are still lacking some self-awareness. You might try some sensory play for her, or making a "calm down spot". I noticed that my DD is very calmed by playing with sand, stuff like that. Get her doing that stuff to diffuse a situation was helpful before it became a full blown tantrum. But really, some time and patience got us through that patch. Also, I would say - she is 8 now and still a VERY intense person. She is a control freak and still has a hard time coping when things don't go her way. But as she has gotten older, she has become more self-aware. She knows when she is freaking out that it is not an appropriate response for the situation and has some of her own "methods" for self soothing. Such as, there is a song from the cartoon Steven Universe that she sings to herself that talks about everything being ok. Also, we do spend a lot of time talking about things in advance to try to manage her expectations. But life happens! You can't control everything and that's what they need to learn to cope with. Lots of luck to you, I feel ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709424 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 10:58:06 +0000 Truth Bombs 2709424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds a lot like my 4 year. We are going through a phase of crying over everything little thing when she doesn't get her way. Honestly I think she's just trying to control things, and I know that she knows better than to behave that way. So, when she cries about something that's really over dramatic I tell her that if she would like to calm down and talk about how she feels I would be happy to do that (doesn't mean I'm going to give in to what she wants, but I'm happy to talk through things with her), but if she just wants to cry and fuss and throw a fit, then she can go to her room until she's done because no one else wants to listen to the dramatics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709422 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 10:57:22 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2709422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 4.5 year old is incredibly sensitive. There are times when he's so mad at me for not doing what he wants me to do that I have to let him know that he's going to sit in timeout for a bit unless he changes his attitude. That usually seems to snap him out of whatever mood he's in, but not always. </p> <p>He seems to have a hard time understanding that things cannot go his way all of the time. He has an 18 month old brother, but there is never really any jealousy. </p> <p>Things that I say to him that help are telling him that I know he is a nice boy, but right now, he's not acting very nicely. He prides himself in being a nice person, so it's bothersome to him if I think he's not acting appropriately. This focuses on a positive of his, and allows him to understand that he IS a nice person and should start acting that way rather than telling him something negative upfront and then trying to follow with a positive when the negative has already brought him down.</p> <p>These mood swings are tough, and I commiserate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5yo-behavior-problems-at-home#post-2709419 Mon, 13 Mar 2017 10:50:10 +0000 gummyB 2709419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love some resources/advice to help with my 5Y0 daughter. She is super smart and is a model student at her pre-K full-day daycare (where she has been since 4months old). She is helpful, friendly and is very focused on good behavior there (maybe too much??). </p> <p>It's the issues at home that have me concerned. She has always been fairly "fragile" emotionally and we had tantrums starting before she was a year old. She's never been an easy kid and struggles to self-soothe. I thought things had turned a corner at age 4, she became more reasonable and tantrums nearly stopped. Recently, things have gotten so much worse, namely in her whining and trying to control everything in our family life. We fight over clothes, food and what to listen to in the car and her whinning and complaining is so out of control. I lose my patience which I know is a terrible cycle but ignoring her doesn't work and giving into her also seems like a bad pattern. She has a 2YO brother and I do think there is some jealousy there (he is very happy kid), but overall we have a very happy and stable home life so her behavior has me wondering if I'm missing something!!</p> <p>Basically, I think I need new ways of helping her pull herself out of these moods when she is in them, but I honestly don't know how. Books or tricks that have worked for you are very much welcomed. I am very worried about her transition to kindergarten next year if we don't have better coping mechansims in place. Thank you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712552 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 21:24:44 +0000 Honeybee 712552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS used to cry when we didn't feed him fast enough. I started feeding him with a Boon travel spoon, I think it's made by Munchkin. You put the puree in the handle and when you squeeze the food comes right out on the spoon, so it's a lot faster than scooping from a bowl. Also, sometimes even now (he's 12 months) I'll give him a puree pouch before dinner. Otherwise he gets overly hungry and ends up cramming fistfuls of food in his mouth and choking. :)</p> <p>I wouldn't worry about his behavior too much at this point. DS has mostly grown out of crying, and your LO probably will too, with a little more time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712378 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:19:55 +0000 luckypenny 712378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd keep signing "more" and pointing to things and ignore the whining. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712305 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 17:38:08 +0000 Weagle 712305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would continue to sign, and let him whine. I try not to reinforce bad behavior. Even though at that age it's not really whining, it's still a learning/teaching opportunity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712222 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 16:51:53 +0000 Dandelion 712222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's good to reinforce the sign for more...he'll get it eventually. And, when he does, really praise him for it.</p> <p>But since he's only 8 months, I don't think you have to worry about the whining just yet...kids whine regardless of what we do as parents, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712208 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 16:48:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 712208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm interested to see the answers, LO is just 6 1/2 months and she does this all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-whines-if-i-dont-spoon-feed-him-fast-enough-what-should-i-do#post-712200 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 16:41:04 +0000 cranberryapple 712200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO (8.5 months old) only recently started becoming more whiny this past week! It has coincided with us spoon-feeding him. I almost miss the ease of baby-led-weaning, but in order to cut out a night feeding, I figured he needed more solids. Anyway, should I just let him whine to tell me he wants more? Should I sternly tell him that it is unacceptable to do that? I do try to sign and ask him if he wants "more", but I wonder when he will get it. I do know that's probably his way of telling me he wants more, but...is it bad to encourage this? Just wondering if I'm doing the right thing. I'm probably thinking too much into this. </p>