https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 12:10:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762931 Sat, 29 Jul 2017 05:50:43 +0000 meadow 2762931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone....I'm feeling less alone. I'll put more solid effort into the gentle hands approach.......I had tried it a bit but not consistently or long enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762800 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 15:58:32 +0000 DesertDreams88 2762800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted about a similar topic recently, I thought the suggestions here were very helpful:<br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting#post-2756501" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting#post-2756501</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762704 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 11:44:08 +0000 LCTBQE 2762704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good to know! My baby is just starting this (11months) and seems to be really enjoying the reactions he's getting.<br /> @Truth Bombs: 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762701 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 11:35:22 +0000 BSB 2762701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, my twins started hitting around 14 months. But I think it was related to some of the games I would play with them. Like I would pat their cheeks or pat my cheeks to make noises and they would try to mimic me, but it would look like hitting. Of course, I would laugh and they would continue doing it. After a little bit, that's when I would realize that this isn't the best idea. </p> <p>As for the throwing of sippy cups. Yeah, my nearly 23 month old twins are throwing things now. I think it starts because I thow toy balls and stuff animals and they run after it and bring it back to me (haha, like a dog). So then they start throwing everything like sippy cups. Some of it is out of frustration, too. My twins do have a communication delay (therapy is starting soon), so we do have some tantrums which involve throwing whatever they have in their hands.</p> <p>Oh, we do have two dogs so we are always saying to don't the dogs and showing them to be nice and pet the dogs softly. It works. Although, my son seem to pick up the gentle petting before my daughter. I think my daughter needed a few weeks to control her hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762674 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 11:10:17 +0000 RKitty 2762674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi @meadow:~</p> <p>My Little Guy is doing the same thing but he bites in addition to the hitting! We say Be Nice/Be Gentle when he starts hitting or goes to hit and most of the time now he'll stop and gently pet you instead. But we've been working on this for months because he gets to rough sometimes with our cats or dogs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762667 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 10:49:01 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2762667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Ours were 2.5 months apart. The hitting was intense. Our younger one preferred hitting with objects, particularly any wooden toys she could find. So we basically packed away all of the hard toys they had for about 6 months! Now, at almost 21 months, it has improved dramatically. She still hits (and bites) some but her language is so much better that makes a big difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762636 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 09:28:57 +0000 maddyz 2762636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not you mamma. It's a thing. Do your best to help channel the hitting into something else. It's super hard to deal with (that and biting) but it's a thing that kids do.... I really struggled being that mom with that kid at the park, but it passes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762632 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 09:17:09 +0000 Truth Bombs 2762632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is still doing this at 20 months. We taught him gentle hands but now he just hits and then immediately follows it up with gentle touches as if that absolves the hitting offense 😒 I asked about it at his 18 month appt and the pediatrician assured us that it's developmental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762618 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 08:37:50 +0000 skinnycow 2762618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as @looch - we tell DD "gentle hands" and show her what we mean. She caught on very quickly and if she starts hitting we remind her of gentle hands and she'll immediately stop. Works great on making sure she's careful with pets, also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762606 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 08:06:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2762606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO (15 mos) is a hitter and has been for a few months now. We don't use the word hit, rather we verbalize the immediate action we want him to do followed by how we want him to use his hands. "Stop." (&amp; block the hit if you can). Then, we hold his hands and say "hands are for high fives" or "hands are for eating" or "gentle hands." Then, we demonstrate the action. This usually stops the hitting at the moment, but sometimes we have to put distance between ourselves. </p> <p>The other day another child bit my son after mine gave him a few hits. Eventually he will learn. Daycare is so unconcerned because this is developmentally appropriate, but I'm horrified. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762594 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 06:37:32 +0000 looch 2762594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Instead of no hitting, try the gentle hands approach. Take one of their hands and caress it over your arm or hand. Tell them over and over that hands are for gentle touches. </p> <p>In addition, give them plenty of opportunity for sensory play, they are learning, but you don't want them to get the idea that hitting is okay, because it can be a really difficult habit to undo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762592 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 06:07:19 +0000 pachamama 2762592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Argg we are going through this with my 18m old who started it at 16m. Nothing we do makes him stop. We just constantly redirect, "can you go bring me the broom?". He hits my dogs and bites, playfully but I really don't know how to stop it. I think it's just part of their development.<br /> Are the twins playing when they're hitting? In that case I'd let it be because they're are learning the power and limitations of their physicality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1-year-old-amp-hitting#post-2762590 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 05:38:45 +0000 meadow 2762590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 14 month old twins hit eachother or me a bagillion times per day. I must say "no hitting" to someone every 5 minutes on average.</p> <p>Is this developmental? Or am i doing something wrong parentingwise?</p> <p>I have been wailed in the head with a sippy cup 3x this week and am so frustrated that the hitting (with hands or objects) contines and doesnt seem to be getting any better. </p>