https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 01:58:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-1092279 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 11:20:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 1092279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have bene battling this for a few months now (she's 11 1/2) she HATES diaper changes and tries to rollover and screams if you tell her no. She will swat at things. I try to be patient (not always the easiest) and figure out what she wants. She's really strugglign wtih not being able to communicate and isn't really picking up on signs. She will do more, but if you don't give her what she wants she throws it on the floor. I'm hoping this phase passes very soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-1092258 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 11:13:05 +0000 mrsjyw 1092258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kml636: we are right there with you.... he def throws a fit if he doesn't like something..!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-1092255 Tue, 17 Sep 2013 11:12:30 +0000 kml636 1092255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, I'm glad this thread exists because I most certainly thought 9/10 months was too young for tantrums until my daughter started flinging her head back all.the.time now!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-417903 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 18:53:57 +0000 sugar 417903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 11 month old, goes in and out of phases like this. For awhile it was just in the afternoons- I totally agree that she now knows what she wants and gets upset if she can't have it. I try to redirect a lot, and if it won't physically harm her- I let her have at it. I think I have a station in each room in the house of things she can get into. eg, mixing bowls and tupperware in the kitchen, two cabinets in our bathroom- but not the cabinet with the cleaning supplies. Basically, it is really nice to let her play in a room without me having to stop her. AKA I let her rip up the toilet paper- I just couldn't think of a reason to stop her.</p> <p>That said, 50% of the time she arches her back getting into the car seat- it sucks. I try to make sure I have a toy that she loves or sing a song to make it stop.</p> <p>The worst part- she's getting a bit aggressive and sometimes she hits my face. I say no and she laughs. URG!!! She still doesn't get gentle. It's like a game. Good luck.</p> <p>I will say, I have a book that for one year olds titled, Fun and Frustrating! Sums it up best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-417901 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 18:53:18 +0000 plaidpants 417901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're going through this too! LO is 11 months. Maybe she's a late bloomer? :) She's become VERY opinionated - screaming when I take something away from her or when I don't give her what she wants. She'll also scream if I put her down, but then try to pull my hands off her when I try to pick her up. I'm like, "OK, would you just like to levitate by my side?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-417879 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 18:44:56 +0000 erwoo 417879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm...sounds like what my almost 8 month old is doing. For me it's more separation anxiety than tantrums. My oldest (now 3.5) did this as well but not as bad. I think it's a phase and he'll outgrow it. I try to use toys as distraction right before I set him down so his focus is on that rather than me setting him down. However, when he's hungry there's nothing that'll work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-417824 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 18:05:16 +0000 lemondrop 417824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: it just means he will appreciate all you do that much more. Hope your recovery is super fast and that she has a few good weeks during that time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-416793 Tue, 27 Nov 2012 12:17:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 416793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: Thank you for sharing - It makes it so much more bearable when I know that this might be just a phase. I hope it passes as quickly as it did for Cam! I'm having knee surgery next week and I feel awful that my husband will have to handle her all by himself because she definitely is a two person job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-415735 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 18:45:53 +0000 lemondrop 415735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: You just perfectly described October for us (minus the pneumonia, how horrible!). Month 9 sucked. I am loving month 10 though! Cam seems to have another level of awareness now, he is interested in everything around him and too busy to throw tantrums most of the time.</p> <p>I HATE the back arching so much! When he did that, I would just set him on the floor and wait for him to finish. I think he suddenly realized that he was able to argue something he didn't want to do and tested the boundaries. I dreaded swim lessons, going to bed, and going out to eat. But it passed for the time being. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414974 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 13:26:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 414974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Maybe it's just a girl thing? LOL</p> <p>@LivsMama: That sounds exactly like Willa right now. I have walked told her it's not ok and walked away, and she would follow me, crawling and crying. I tried not to laugh because it was kind of cute. :-/ Good to know this will pass, just hoping sooner instead of later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414896 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 13:00:00 +0000 T-Mom 414896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it related to a wonder week? I don't have the weeks handy but there may be a wonder week involved... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414886 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 12:55:18 +0000 LivsMama 414886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it might be the age. Liv had tantrums from about 10 month to 13 months. We called it the "Obnoxious Ones" instead of the terrible twos lol. She would scream and arch her back and throw a fiiiiit over anything. Eventually it passed. There were a lot of times though that I had to set her down and be like "that is not ok!" and walk away. Diaper changes were rough for awhile, I just had to deal with the screaming and squirming, Even now shes not a huge fan, but I always give her something to play with (usually a non-toy item like my watch, her brush, a tube of butt paste, etc) and that keeps her distracted. Or try making it a game and tickling her toes or kissing her neck to make her giggle. It eventually helps.</p> <p>I think the issue around this age is that they are starting to know what they want, but they cant effectively comminicate. Its vey frustrating for them, and since they cant control emotions yet, the only way they know how to deal with it is to scream, hit, and arch. This happens with a LOT of developmental milestones</p> <p>I KNOW its frustrating. Been there. But it does pass! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414881 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 12:52:58 +0000 Honeybee 414881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through some phases like with this with DD. She would have a week or two where it seemed like she was unhappy all. the. time. Each time it happened I worried that she was going to be permanently grumpy and I'd cry that I'd lost my angel child. Then a week or two would pass and just as suddenly, she'd snap out of it. Her rough times usually coincided with teething, an illness, or a developmental milestone, and she also usually had major sleep issues during that time. </p> <p>It can be tough, but just try to wait it out. The likelihood is that something is bothering her and throwing off her normal behavior, but she should be back to normal soon. :)</p> <p>Also, I just realized that we haven't had these issues with DS. DD went through it plenty of times, though... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414868 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 12:46:43 +0000 autumnlove 414868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry she had pneumonia! LO had it in June and it was so draining on the whole family.</p> <p>My LO also has meltdowns during diaper and clothing changes and toys don't seem to distract her.</p> <p>Hoping some Bees have some advice for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/10-month-old-tantrums#post-414854 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 12:38:17 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 414854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anyone else run into this? I'm hoping this is just a phase, but DD is throwing tantrums All.The.Time right now. I didn't think it was supposed to happen until she's 2 or 3 years old?? </p> <p>We thought she was doing it because she had pneumonia, but it's continuing after she's healed. If you set her down, she will slump down and start crying a horrible "why on Earth did you do that to me???" kind of cry that doesn't stop until you pick her up again. Other times, she will throw herself back and just start crying for (what seems like) no reason or when she doesn't want to do something (like have her diaper changed). She is also spitting/blowing raspberries at us if she doesn't like what we're giving her (such as, food, which then ends up all over us).</p> <p>Distraction doesn't work. If I show/give her something to try to distract her, she'll either hit it away or throw it. </p> <p>There's only about 1 hour a day that I actually see her smile now and it breaks my heart to know she's so unhappy. I don't know what I'm should do about it, but I know it's getting really frustrating for everyone (including her), so I need to do *something*. Should I ignore it when it happens? Is there a trick that I don't know about to distract her? </p>