https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 12:24:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602199 Thu, 11 Aug 2016 02:14:19 +0000 jaguar 2602199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: this is a beautiful experience and a special way to say goodbye. Love you, lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602169 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 22:28:42 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2602169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: So many hugs for you. I'm glad things went as well as something this terrible could &amp; you'll be able to bury sweet Frances. :heart: :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602149 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:37:13 +0000 avivoca 2602149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: I am so glad you got to see Frances. I'm so sorry again for your loss and so glad that you have an amazing doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602142 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:30:44 +0000 simplyfelicity 2602142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: Mary, I am so sorry. I am "glad" to hear that you got to see sweet Frances Ruth and spend some precious moments with her. I can't even imagine how horrible this situation has been but it sounds like you were in God's hand the entire time (as you always are) and that He opened some doors for you to be comforted. Much love to you and your husband. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602141 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:29:46 +0000 youboots 2602141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: I'm glad for you to have been treated with kindness and respect.💕 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602138 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:20:14 +0000 MaryM 2602138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winter_wonder: she was very blunt and All business. Thankfully two other nurses came in full of hugs and sympathy. </p> <p>I hope the first nurse gets to see our baby to see what's possible... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602136 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:17:37 +0000 winter_wonder 2602136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your doctor sounds amazing. Sending you love.</p> <p>On another note, that nurse can shut her trap :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2602133 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 21:12:56 +0000 MaryM 2602133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I might have landed the best OB ever.</p> <p>The D&amp;C was moved back to today (from Friday) because I was cramping and bleeding. </p> <p>My biggest fear was trauma to my baby's body and/or there not being enough tissue to bury her with her sister. And after holding our stillborn baby, I knew seeing the baby would help in healing and thought that went out the window with surgery. </p> <p>My doctor was running late and probably just wanted his day to be over, but knowing we wanted to bury her, he spent twice as long as usual being really gentle and delivered our baby intact. She only measured about 11 weeks as of Monday. </p> <p>And the chaplain asked to bless her so I got to see her. It made me furious at one of the check in nurses who said nothing would be recognizable, but I'm so glad I got to see her. And that my doctor was so patient and gentle. Thanks to him, I have no regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2601195 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 14:00:24 +0000 Worrywart 2601195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, sending you big hugs! I have followed your story for a long time and was on the Jan'16 due date boards with you. My heart is just totally breaking for you :sad: </p> <p>Similar to @HLK208, I was 11-12 weeks when I had my D&amp;C. We had a successful 8 week ultrasound and the baby simply stopped growing somewhere between weeks 9-10. There is no way I could have handled it emotionally at home and opted for the D&amp;C. The procedure went fine and fast and all of the nurses/doctors were warm and comforting. I only needed rest for a day or two until physically I was back to normal. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and will be sending you prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600924 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 01:55:43 +0000 HLK208 2600924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs :heart: </p> <p>I was 11 weeks when I had my MC (although baby measured 9w5d when we found out - we had heard the heart beat a week before). I really hated the idea of the D&amp;C but I knew I couldn't emotionally handle anything traumatic if I miscarried at home. I'm glad I went for the D&amp;C...(I hate to say glad) but I prepared for it, I obviously went under so I didn't feel anything (just felt like a long nap) and my husband was with me before and after so we talked a lot and he comforted me. I needed a lot of rest the following days but the procedure went okay. </p> <p>I'm so sorry you have to go through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600918 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 00:28:57 +0000 Crystal 2600918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although my first miscarriage was earlier (6 weeks), it was awful waiting for it to pass naturally. I think it took over 2 weeks? I was scared every time I felt the slightest twinge and nervous every time I went to the bathroom. It was fairly emotionally scarring. When I had my 12 week loss, I couldn't imagine going through the trauma again. I just wanted to be left to heal, so I requested the D&amp;C. It was the right decision for me, and definitely helped me to heal by knowing, at least physically, it was over. The hospital and nurses were absolutely fabulous, and many came over to share their personal stories that had gone through the same thing. They were comforting and supportive, even as I cried all day. </p> <p>All my thoughts and prayers are with you and Frances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600916 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 23:48:31 +0000 BabyTsMom 2600916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm the same as a pp in that my d &amp; c experience was as positive it could be, given the circumstances. I had a missed miscarriage, so I was still experiencing all the pregnancy symptoms even though I had miscarried a few weeks earlier. When I found out there was no heartbeat, I could not bear to wait around and wait for my body to catch up. I also had to keep working so I didn't want to miscarry at work. I felt that the d &amp; c was the best for me and I never felt like my baby was being ripped out. it was more healing for me, actually. My doctor was amazing and so kind, so that helped a lot too. So sorry again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600830 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 19:51:17 +0000 Iced Tea 2600830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been there myself. A friend had an issue afterwards, though, and felt upset that she wasn't informed of the risks (particularly the increased chance of acretta in subsequent pregnancy). So I would be sure to get informed of the potential risks before making a decision. I'm so sorry you are facing this difficult experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600820 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 19:24:04 +0000 simplyfelicity 2600820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Again, I am so sorry. :heart: I don't have the experience to answer this fully but just wanted to share that I found my D&amp;C at 11 weeks to not be as cold or impersonal as I thought. I was pretty much crying the entire time and everyone was so sweet to me and kind. They understood how much I wanted this baby and treated me with more tenderness than I can imagine they would if I were having my appendix removed. Anyway, just wanted to share my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600812 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 19:08:38 +0000 Eko 2600812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry :heart: </p> <p>I opted for the d&amp;c because the thought of passing at home, a place of comfort, seemed absolutely terrifying. The worst was the in-between time being pregnant and nothing happening. I wanted my body back. Recovery was fine. I was a little out of it for a day or two and that's it. I never felt like something was being ripped from my body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600808 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 19:03:13 +0000 Tanjowen 2600808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was almost 10 weeks and miscarried at home 2 days before a scheduled D&amp;C, Not as far along, but my experience if it helps :</p> <p>It took almost 24 hours for the drugs to work, I was up all night in pain, cramping heavily. I stayed in bed for 3 days and took pain pills and did nothing but cry and recover. I didn't know I would be so very very tired and weak. I made it through because of a dear friend that let me text every ugly awful thought in my head and still loved me. </p> <p>I think that it *seems* the thing about a D&amp;C is that the awful uncertainty and waiting to miscarry isn't there, which was the absolute worst part of it all. I just mentally couldn't handle what seemed at the time an impersonal medical procedure but I'm not sure I would make the same decision now. </p> <p> I'm so incredibly sorry and sending lots of good thoughts and strength for what lies ahead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600804 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 18:56:47 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2600804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry. I had a later one. I couldn't handle the emotional aspect of dealing with it at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600800 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 18:42:29 +0000 jaguar 2600800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs*</p> <p>I've had both, but the later one at 11+ weeks with Noah was my only d&amp;c. I just couldn't handle the idea of passing him naturally, and the OB was okay with that. </p> <p>I know with my procedure, they gave me tablets to induce things and make the whole thing less traumatic (it brought on some contractions before the d&amp;c) and from what I was told, it was minimally invasive in terms of being rough or awful. Recovery wasn't too bad either.</p> <p>Lots of love and hugs to you. My heart is so sad for you x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/11-13-week-miscarriage#post-2600784 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 18:15:25 +0000 MaryM 2600784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has anyone miscarried late first trimester and not had a D&amp;C?</p> <p>The idea of my baby being ripped apart and ripped out of horrifies me, but I think I'd also be traumatized if I delivered at home.</p> <p>Anyone willing to share what they experienced and how they decided? </p>