https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 02:40:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/12x12-weeksextending-feeds-with-a-baby-who-doesnt-take-a-paci-how#post-2827575 Mon, 11 Jun 2018 08:46:49 +0000 SweetiePie 2827575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: Well I guess my thought is that EVENTUALLY like in 2-3 more months he can put the paci back in himself :silly:<br /> Paci is like the only sleep crutch I’m ok with for that reason. Haha.<br /> I def let him fuss a while! Especially for naps. Even just 5 mins ago he woke at that dreaded 45 min mark and I didn’t go in. He fussed for about 3 mins then went back to sleep. Night time is a different animal for him, he escalates much quicker. And I’m not afraid of CIO i guess I just want to wait till my Ped officially says “go for it”. He’s only getting 4oz so I’m pretty sure he can make up for that elsewhere. But still.<br /> Damn kids, so much worrying and thinking involved 😂</p> <p>@jennlin821: This is helpful thanks! I’ll give this a shot. During the day I’ve had some success with pu/pd but haven’t had to do it in a while since his naps have gotten pretty good/reliable (watch I just jinxed myself and he’ll wake up screaming in 5 mins).<br /> I did just realize last week that maybe he needs a new paci. I bought a couple of new ones and so far no dice. He just locks his lips, spits it out or gags (very dramatically, I might add. It’s pretty comical). ! He took it for a little while when he was itty bitty. I guess before he was really aware and would just suck on anything. Lol. We did try to not rely on it as much as we did with my first son, so we didn’t use it a lot. I guess he just isn’t used to it now and he’s like “nope!” Especially at night it seems to piss him off even more. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/12x12-weeksextending-feeds-with-a-baby-who-doesnt-take-a-paci-how#post-2827573 Mon, 11 Jun 2018 08:22:38 +0000 LBee 2827573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD wouldn't take a paci at first - it was incredibly hard to extend her. I didn't CIO, but I expanded my flexibilities of letting her fuss. I considered it a primer for CIO :silly: . I found that if I gave her a few minutes to fuss it out (not cry) that she would re-settle. FWIW, I see little difference between conditioning him with rocking vs reinserting a paci. Neither are situations the baby can recreate himself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/12x12-weeksextending-feeds-with-a-baby-who-doesnt-take-a-paci-how#post-2827570 Mon, 11 Jun 2018 08:05:36 +0000 jennlin821 2827570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before we sleep trained and before DD was into the pacifier, I would put my hand on her chest and whisper sing the same song (Somewhere over the rainbow) that we sang before bed/nap.<br /> This seemed to settle her down into realizing its not time to eat yet and should go back to sleep. The warmth and pressure of my hand was enough comfort, without having to pick her up. </p> <p>Also, have you tried different pacifiers? DD loved the newborn pacifiers for two weeks, then wouldn't take it. We assumed she didn't want them anymore, until 3 weeks later in a desperate attempt I tried a 'regular' pacifier - which she loved, and it still a fiend for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/12x12-weeksextending-feeds-with-a-baby-who-doesnt-take-a-paci-how#post-2827400 Sat, 09 Jun 2018 07:10:30 +0000 gotkimchi 2827400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t have any advice but my kids were like this and would sleep more if I held them or whatever but there was now way I was willing to be awake that long. To get rid of night feedings I sometimes would offer only a bottle with water or let’s say if he’s taking 5oz middle of the night I would only do 4, then 3 then 2 or whatever. Or if you’re using formula keep the same amount of water but do 1 scoop of formula instead of 2 until it’s just water. They gave up pretty fast when they weren’t getting anything good </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/12x12-weeksextending-feeds-with-a-baby-who-doesnt-take-a-paci-how#post-2827399 Sat, 09 Jun 2018 06:55:09 +0000 SweetiePie 2827399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very specific and it’s the weekend so I know it’s a long shot...</p> <p>With my first we did 12x12 pretty easily because he took a paci and we could extend each feed by at least 30 mins every night. He’d wake, I’d pop the paci in, he’d sleep anywhere from another 30-60 minutes. We were able to get him sleeping 7-4/5am pretty easily that way and then dropped ounces and CIO to get rid of that last feed. </p> <p>This baby is trickier! He won’t take a paci very often, he usually just spits it out or just won’t let us put it in. So extending him at night is way harder and I have minimal success doing it. I might be able to pick him up and rock him with a paci but I’m not sure that’s going to produce the results I want (meaning I don’t want to teach him that every time he cries at night I come in and rock him). </p> <p>I would really like to just extinction CIO but I’m waiting for our 4 month appt for my doc to say it’s ok (per my other posts about his eating, which has improved dramatically🙌🏼). So until then I’d like to do SOMETHING to get to more consistent, later and later wakeups. Right now he wakes only once, anywhere between 12-3 and the days it’s closer to 12, I feel pretty frustrated. </p>