https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 13:55:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957273 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 22:31:49 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1957273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipper2010: I ignore tantrums too. I really feel like any person that is that upset about something would be hard to reason with in the moment, then you add on their limited understanding of the world &amp; there's not much to do. I figure that as long as I don't "give in" to her fit throwing, she will learn that that's not the way to express herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957205 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 21:44:08 +0000 skipper2010 1957205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fuzzypeaches: I'm going through the exact same thing with my 15 month old. I have found that he typically throws food if he's not hungry or doesn't like what's in front of him. He's also throwing tantrums if he doesn't get what he wants, be it a toy that another kid is playing with or something he's just not supposed to have. I keep telling myself this is normal/developmental, but I can't help feeling like a bad mom. I know that they're too young to reason with, so I've been ignoring tantrums so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957097 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:23:38 +0000 Kemma 1957097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fuzzypeaches: I believe that discipline at this age is more about consistency and boundaries rather than punishment. Things like always eating in the high chair or general "house rules" sort of stuff so that they begin learning about what is acceptable behaviour.</p> <p>You could try operating a three strikes sort of deal, the first one or times your LO gets the item back, the third time it's gone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957093 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:23:04 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1957093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also try to give her less at a time which helps. If she throws I sternly (buy don't yell) say "Hey! We don't throw our food." If she does it again I say "LO, (she always looks when I say he name) do not throw your food, please. " If there is a third infraction I ask her if she is all done. If she acts like she is (trying to get out of her chair, holding her hands up for me to pick her up) then she's done. Usually though, she gets mad because she's not done so I tell her to please eat her food or I will take it away. I always follow through &amp; she rarely gets her food taken. I know that's a lot of chances but she doesn't always need to be told that many times &amp; like most parents I'm worried about her being hungry so I give an extra warning in this situation. </p> <p>As far as general discipline goes, very early on I made a point to say "Look at mommy." When she did something she's not supposed to be doing &amp; then talk with her about it. If she doesn't understand my exact words, she definitely understands my firm "don't do that" tone. Example: if we are over at MILS &amp; she is playing with something that isn't for her I lightly say "no, no, please don't play with that" &amp; physically move her. The second time, I ask her to look at me &amp; I very firmly tell her that mommy said it's not okay to play with that because you'll break it/get hurt/whatever. The third time I just say LO, no maam! &amp; pick her up &amp; take her to a different room/remove the object. She usually throws a small fit but I generally ignore it (it lasts about 30 seconds) &amp; that's it. I rarely have to go past the second warning. I talk to her a lot &amp; she seems to be a very good listener. I know that won't work for all kids (I'm scared LO 2 won't be so easy!) but I hope it's at least a little helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957081 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:11:51 +0000 regberadaisy 1957081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's very normal! I only gave food in small amounts. If she kept throwing then we were done with the meal. Thankfully it was a short phase for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957078 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:08:54 +0000 fuzzypeaches 1957078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies - it actually just helps hearing it's not just me. - I've been so frustrated the last few days with this. Especially bc we are at my in laws for Thanksgiving and they keep giving me this look like "why aren't you doing anything?"</p> <p>I think that's actually true that when he has less food and is really hungry it's not as bad :s snacking is definitely a big problem for us.</p> <p>Disciplining them is so hard - I feel like half the time they don't really understand what I'm saying "no!" To! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957075 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:03:50 +0000 Tanjowen 1957075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son has started doing this (11 months). I tried saying no and that just made it a game. So now I just ignore it and give him small bits like @blackbird: said. </p> <p>As for discipline, that is so hard! My husband and I spoke recently and agreed that we don't want him to hear, "No!" all the time, so we only tell him no if he hits or bites (he's teething, so he tends to chew on anything nearby). Otherwise we try to distract or ignore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957074 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 20:01:11 +0000 Anagram 1957074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was throwing food from 13-16 months. She still throws now, but not as badly. Ive tried lots of techniques, from totally ignoring (no chastising, no saying no, no reaction) to grabbing her hands be for she tries to throw, but ultimately what helps the most is no snacking before meals so she is really hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957069 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 19:55:11 +0000 blackbird 1957069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E threw quite a bit until just a couple months ago. We had better success doling food out to her in small amounts so she couldn't go crazy. And taking it away once she started to throw </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/14-month-old-throwing-food#post-1957061 Sun, 23 Nov 2014 19:40:20 +0000 fuzzypeaches 1957061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's driving me crazy! I don't know how much is developmental and how much is tantrum (ie I don't want this give me that). </p> <p>I'm embarrassed to admit that he is otherwise acting tantrummy and whiny do my guess is part of it is that he's spoiled and I don't know how to teach him what is ok and what isn't. </p> <p>How do I discipline this?! How to discipline him generally? </p>