https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 23:05:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045985 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 10:10:28 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1045985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: yes it killed our back but it was worth it for us to not make her CIO. If she stood up we would leave. Usually it didn't take long for her to fall asleep. We actually pulled up the ottoman from the glider and reached through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045962 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 10:00:39 +0000 lindseykaye 1045962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not crazy! I was really hesitant to sleep train for many of the same reasons and waited it out in the hopes that things would get better on their own. My LO is younger (10 months next week) but we simply hit a wall when things got worse with time instead of better.<br /> I will say that she only ever ramped up with the crying when we attempted to wait it out prior to actually sleep training and I think it was because she had literally never fallen asleep on her own before then. If she had never done it, of course she would fight it REALLY hard. So we committed, and it was far less traumatic than I expected (it wasn't at all actually). With her history, I expected it to take a lot longer on the first night for her to fall asleep, but she surprised us. Once she had fallen asleep on her own, she picked up on it very quickly.<br /> Sleep training was a last resort for us, but things were really that bad. As long as you come up with a plan with your DH that you can stick to, you might want to try it out and maybe she will surprise you like my LO did. If after a couple days it's just not working for your family, you can readjust and mvoe on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045956 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:58:00 +0000 luckypenny 1045956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you doing checks with CIO? Do you think it would help if you are in the room like the super nanny method? Keep your back to her but sit near the crib? You're supposed to move farther away each night. It took DD a looooong time the first night but it cut in half each night after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045954 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:56:52 +0000 lizzywiz 1045954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: That is good to hear. We have recently started the back pat instead of picking her up but it is killing my back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045950 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:55:26 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1045950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think for me, there was confusion if we were going to get her or not. Once we said, no picking her up out of the crib, it helped a ton and she learned to go back to sleep on her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/16-months-of-terrible-sleep-and-still-hesitant-to-sleep-train-are-we-crazy#post-1045949 Tue, 27 Aug 2013 09:53:55 +0000 lizzywiz 1045949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO has always been a terrible sleeper. Goes to sleep fine,naps fine, but wakes every two hours many nights.<br /> By many western standards, we did everything *right*- no nursing to sleep, sleeps in her own space, goes down awake, etc. When all of that didn't evolve into better sleep I tried more nursing and co-sleeping and what not, but that never helped either (she actually doesn't like co-sleeping, weird, right?)<br /> So, last night was a bad night in a series of bad nights. Pure exhaustion has led us to let her cry for 30ish minutes at times, mostly as we lay in bed trying to wait for the other person to go to her. Within those 30ish minutes, she never calms down and always ramps up.<br /> On one hand we know this can't go on. On the other hand, we are pretty sure she will win any CIO battle.<br /> We just keep hoping she will grow out of it, but it may kill us before she does!<br /> Anyone else been in this terrible, sleepless spot? </p>