https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 01:16:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120818 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 07:27:47 +0000 AprilK 2120818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I definitely think it is a clingy age and it's something she'll grow out of, which is why I tend to lean toward giving her the extra loving she needs. But my husband acts like it's the worst thing ever!</p> <p>@QueensBee: I do like the limits - I need to solidify what my limits are in my head and then make sure I am consistent... although I think I am it's hard to tell sometimes, fully. I wish my kiddo was a bit more verbal, if she said "Up, please" I think my husband would take it alot better than her shrieking! haha...</p> <p>@travellingbee: @Greentea: I know... this too shall pass, and then I'll be thinking, "remember when she wanted me to hold her all the time? I miss that."</p> <p>@Peasinapod: I do have a couple - I need to figure out how to use them in the back carry, I think she'd like that now that she's bigger. I'm going to try that tonight since I have a ton to get done!</p> <p>@Bubbles: Sometimes it bothers me, but most of the time it doesn't. What I'm trying to reconcile is how to deal with my husband being so annoyed with it and acting like I'm ruining her life by picking her up. haha!</p> <p>@Mamasig: you described the situation exactly! Ahhh, so good to know other people are dealing with the exact same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120344 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 16:20:34 +0000 Mamasig 2120344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 10 month old is like this and has been for a couple of months. Basically, if I'm home, he must be held by me or he cries. So I hold him! My mom says he is not like this when I'm at work. Obviously if I have to do something that requires both my hands or is unsafe to do while holding him, I put him down. He cries and sometimes he'll stop when he gets preoccupied playing. And other times he keeps crying until I get him. I know that this is just a phase and it won't be like this forever. Pretty soon, he'll be running after his brother, and he won't need me as much. It doesn't bother me! I'm a WOHM so I like the extra cuddles and knowing that he needs me. I don't think there is anything that really needs to be done about it as long as it doesn't bother you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120289 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 15:47:54 +0000 Bubbles 2120289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its fine as long as it doesn't bother you. My DS is only 15mo so perhaps things will change - but for me I can only deal with a certain amount of clinging, and I want to make sure that I set limits that mean I don't end up getting annoyed or frustrated. If I'm not doing anything then I'm more than happy to cuddle him, but if I'm in the middle of something I will finish what I'm doing. I tell him what I'm doing and that I will pick him up afterwards. If he cries, I just acknowledge that he's upset because he wants to be held, but mummy needs to finish xyz first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120240 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 15:17:39 +0000 meredithNYC 2120240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the odd man, I guess, but clinginess drives me crazy, so I would probably ignore or try to set boundaries. I'm a SAHM and keep pretty busy, though, so holding a child a lot isn't really possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120215 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 15:07:01 +0000 Peasinapod 2120215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a baby carrier? My sister ( who I jokingly call super woman) has a son who adores her. At 12 months he'd literally start climbing up her leg if she didn't pick him up. She wore him on her back in the Tula for a lot of cooking / cleaning. He was entertained watching her work, and happy to be so close, and she got stuff done! Therefore no need to discourage the love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2120202 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 15:01:01 +0000 Greentea 2120202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just hold her and give her as much love as you can (as long as you aren't being driven crazy) :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119941 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:47:35 +0000 travellingbee 2119941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine went through a similar phase around the same time. It was rough but it got better. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119929 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:42:18 +0000 lady grey 2119929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AprilK: For me igorning wouldn't be the way to go. My 21 mom old son has had some pretty clingy phases, including right now, as he has a bad cold. Yesterday he straight up said "no daddy" when my DH tried to pick up him. </p> <p>Try to give her as much attention as is reasonable, but still being able to get things done. Some good advice I got once is that little kids need *at least* 15 minutes undivided attention from their parents a day. Maybe try to find a time early in the day to just be with you LO that won't get interrupted? Also distraction still works well at this age, I try to hide some toys I know my LO loves and pull them out when I need to get something done, like cook dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119912 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:33:14 +0000 QueensBee 2119912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is like this too. He's 24 months now but it's been going on for a while. He's totally fine around DH and other caregivers, but wants to be held 24/7 with me. </p> <p>I find it helps to set limits for times when I absolutely won't pick him up. For example, he gets tons of snuggles all morning but I won't hold him when I'm cooking breakfast in the kitchen. I tell him it's not safe and if he'd like to help me, he can climb into his learning tower. Sometimes it works and other times it results in a tantrum on the kitchen floor. I just try to be consistent so he knows the rule. At other times, I'll pick him up if he asks politely. Screeching, whining, and screaming won't get you into mama's arms! He has to say, "Mama, up please" like a human being. </p> <p>It's not great but at least I feel like we're enforcing some limits while still providing a lot of love and physical attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119873 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:09:43 +0000 blackbird 2119873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, it's a clingy age. I don't pick mine up at her every whim because i'm 34 weeks pregnant and it's too hard on my back, but I've resorted to trying to get her in a wrap more often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119872 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:08:27 +0000 illumina 2119872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 18mths and we just went through a patch like this. For her that behaviour isn't normal though and it did pass in a couple of weeks. I think I tried to be as normal as possible with her, not give in to her tantrums, try and do my own things around the house like I usually would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-old-a-terror-around-mommy#post-2119868 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 12:02:31 +0000 AprilK 2119868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 18 month old is EXTRA clingy around me and just generally an all around terror if I am around and not holding her. My husband keeps claiming she is totally fine if I'm not around, and claims I need to ignore her and stop picking her up so much. It breaks my heart - I can fix all problems she has with a little love, why not do that? there are certainly times when I ignore a tantrum or distract her but overall she just really loves Mama! And she goes to bed at like 7:30 so it's not like I can't get things done after she goes to bed.</p> <p>I don't know, is there anything to be done here??? I don't want to ignore her all the time, I feel like one of my main goals at this age is to make them feel loved unconditionally. </p>