https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 20:17:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1866803 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 17:44:31 +0000 Crisark 1866803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: that is exactly how I think it's gone too. Intermittent and then an awful two weeks or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1866793 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 17:38:17 +0000 Mrs. Cheesecake 1866793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So DS turns 18 months next week. For the past three days it's taken him longer to fall asleep, but at least he's not screaming - just rolling around and talking to himself. But then he will wake-up every 3-4 hours standing, crying, and screaming for 5 minutes then he goes back down and sleeps. Hopefully this is the extent of his sleep-regression. But from what I have read from all of you, it can only get worse. :sad: </p> <p>Here's to purchasing a new set of ear plugs and buying coffee in the morning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1866693 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 16:17:01 +0000 blackbird 1866693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So i can say...I think...that my kid just grew out of this. She "left" the leap on the app and has been STTN again, normal and happy, for like, 5 nights now. </p> <p>THANK THE LORD. I just think you're stuck riding out this shit until then! I'd say it lasted about a month total with 1-2 weeks being more constant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1866688 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 16:14:48 +0000 jessibear 1866688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crisark: Fingers crossed for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1866626 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 15:44:39 +0000 Crisark 1866626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: Ugh I'm sorry!!<br /> She actually slept all night last night and only took about 15min to go to bed. I'm hoping that maybe just maybe she's turning a corner but I'm not too optimistic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1865548 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 08:02:25 +0000 jessibear 1865548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crisark: Oh no! I'm sorry it's not over for you guys. It feels comforting to have company in this precious part of life, though! C has added in hour long screaming fits at 1 AM the last two nights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1864895 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 15:51:35 +0000 Crisark 1864895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>P.S. It wasn't over lol This regression is the worst by far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1859300 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:46:00 +0000 pinkb 1859300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: Hope it goes well! Since DD got a cold she has learned how to cry and cough to make herself vomit so we will come in and get her. So much fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1859008 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 20:01:49 +0000 Crisark 1859008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: ugh idk but I hope it's over lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1859001 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 19:58:31 +0000 jessibear 1859001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, we just put her in the crib. She is screaming and hollering. Going to give it 10 minutes and then send DH in for a check. Fingers crossed but I have a feeling we will cave before she does! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858626 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 17:16:52 +0000 shopaholic 1858626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we are in this right now too, with a few normal days and then a few wacky days. The wacky days stacked together really are frustrating. Like you we've had a pretty solid night-sleeper for at least a year. @pinkb: Almost exactly the same situation. Molars, cold, plus jet lag. </p> <p>@jessibear: I read somewhere it's best not to develop unwanted sleeping habits to fix a short-term problem (i.e. co-sleeping, if that's not what you want). Stupid thing is they don't really tell you how to fix it (CIO, checks, ???) I let her sleep with us a couple of nights, but panicked about the long-term (I know preschoolers who still sleep with their parents, I suspect from this regression because "they were excellent sleepers before"). I just go in and comfort her, pick her up, heck, I even rocked her again one night. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858570 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 16:53:45 +0000 pinkb 1858570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are still in the middle of this :( It started about 3 weeks ago mixed with her molars coming in and then DD got a cold and made it 1000 times worse. Some nights the crying starts as soon as we put her in the crib and some she goes down fine but wakes up 3 or 4 times during the night. And then there are a couple nights where she is back to sleeping 12 hours with no issues. I just hope it ends soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858482 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:58:29 +0000 blackbird 1858482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: E's crying has gotten less hysterical over time and we always give her a little time to work it out. Sometimes she gets MORE upset, sometimes less. It is such a crapshoot </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858479 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:56:25 +0000 jessibear 1858479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @blackbird: YES! The sheer panic from this kid, who loved sleep/her crib a week ago. WTF, seriously. I have no coping mechanisms, she has STTN and put herself to bed for over a year. </p> <p>You ladies are giving me hope AND making me feel like I'm not nutso for thinking this will end as suddenly as it started. </p> <p>Do you think I should continue to try her crib at the beginning of each night and let her cry a little? I don't want to fuel the panic/crib resistance but if I don't keep trying, how will I know it's over?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858471 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:51:51 +0000 travellingbee 1858471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crisark: oh yes! What is up with the standing in our bed and crying for no reason? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858457 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:46:50 +0000 blackbird 1858457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: yes omg the PANIC! That's exactly what it's like, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858450 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:44:38 +0000 Crisark 1858450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just got out of it like 2 days ago. It started for us closer to 17months and it was terrible. Worse than the others for sure. She was waking nightly, would end up in our bed,stand and cry for no reason. It lasted roughly 2 weeks....god I hope it's really over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858422 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:35:32 +0000 travellingbee 1858422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are on the tail end of this I think. It started at 16 months for us but he is typically a little early with his sleep regressions. This was one of the worst. Same deal-- he had been sleeping though the night and we just put him down and said, night night and he'd lay down and go to sleep. Then at 16 months he wouldn't let us leave the room-- panic, screaming, clinging, clawing.... we still have to stay in the room until he falls asleep and he sometimes is still coming in to sleep with us for the 2nd half of the night but he is sleeping through the night about 50% of the time now. It is pretty miserable and has been going on for 2 months. But I think he always has regressions longer than most other babies. He did with 4 months and 9 months too. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858410 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:29:32 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1858410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we are in this. We were up for two hours last night. I was a walking zombie today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858376 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:18:19 +0000 blackbird 1858376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg I tbink we are coming out of it. It was so messed up!!!! Lasted about a month and then she would STTN one night, wake up for a few....STTN again....now she's stringing a few nights together again. It sucks so bad-E has STTN almost every night since she was 6 months old!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858223 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:15:25 +0000 sotofamilia 1858223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessibear: oh man, we are just coming through this now. I figured he was trying to learn how to talk and snuggled him a lot. I worried constantly about bad sleep habits when he was little and didn't hold him too much, so I kind of enjoyed being needed again to go to sleep. But I know what you mean about not wanting to go to bed at 7:30! He's about to be 19 months, had some kind of word explosion, and is starting to sleep better.</p> <p>Tl:dr don't worry! He will sleep by himself again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858213 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:11:12 +0000 jessibear 1858213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: @NovBaby1112: @scg00387: oh it's so nice to have people to commiserate with. My friends/family have never heard of regressions and looks at me like I'm a crazy lady grasping at straws when I talk about it. Bless you all for going through it and giving me hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858202 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:05:10 +0000 LuLu Mom 1858202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our sleep regression happened closer to 22 months and we are about 23 1/2 and still battling it. She used to sleep 12 hours, now we are lucky to get 9 hours at night (and maybe a 30 minute nap.) She's been a disaster lately because I know she's lacking sleep but we can't get her to calm down or go down. She's throwing tantrums at bedtime that last a good hour if not 2. Daycare can't get her stay in her bed/laydown and she tries to wake up the other kids...no beuno. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858184 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:54:48 +0000 NovBaby1112 1858184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the 18 month regression or whatever the heck it was around 18/19 months was BRUTAL. My LO figured out how to climb out of the crib during this regression, and it sucked to say the least :silly: Fighting bedtime, early wakeups....all lasted about 2-3 weeks (I honestly forget...maybe my brain blocked it out ha). We just went with it and it went away as quickly as it came! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858168 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:46:42 +0000 immabeetoo 1858168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The 18m regression was the only one we experienced. We co slept and just rode it out. I think it was about three weeks and he went back to normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/18-month-sleep-regression-separation-anxiety#post-1858060 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 12:46:15 +0000 jessibear 1858060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talk to me about your experiences with the 18 month sleep regression, Bees. I'm going nuts.</p> <p>Until last weekend, we had a rockstar sleeper. C would ask to go to bed at night, happily walk in to her crib and fall asleep alone, getting up 12 hours later.<br /> Last week, we saw some glimpses of sleep issues when she woke up a couple of hours after going to bed, just crying and screaming and standing up. She'd go back to sleep eventually, usually only after I went in to check on her. This happened several nights in a row. Then, on Saturday, she went to bed ok (later than normal) but woke up around 2 and just would not calm down. She shrieked whenever I put her in the crib. She ended up in bed with us. </p> <p>Every night since, she has slept in our bed. Not only has she slept in our bed, she has insisted she be nearly on top of me, or at least touching me, all night long. Throughout the night, she'll cry out for "mama" and have to move even closer to me. The snuggles are sweet but I'm about to lose it. I don't want to go to bed at 7:30! </p> <p>She's napping regularly at daycare but recently has been more hesitant at drop off than she was. Two weeks ago we could hardly get to daycare fast enough, she was so excited to see the other kids. Now she's fine being left but definitely sadder to watch us leave her. Over the weekend, she refused all naps at home in her crib, passing out on our bed in the afternoon. </p> <p>Things we've tried:<br /> Driving around until she falls asleep and transferring to her crib.<br /> Letting her cry for 20 minutes.<br /> Spending more time in her room.<br /> Leaving a night light on in her room.</p> <p>Always the same result. I really don't want to create bad habits but I am at a loss. Do we just gut it out and see if it improves on its own? Do I keep putting her in her crib each night and letting her cry for awhile? We had to do that at the 11 month mark when she was waking up each night and we were forced to bring her to our bed. One day it just stopped. I'm honestly open to any suggestion.</p> <p>TL;DR My formerly excellent sleeper has started boycotting her crib and ending up in our bed, insisting I sleep as close to her as possible. No one is getting the sleep they need. What can I do? </p>