https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 15:41:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898412 Thu, 03 Oct 2019 08:52:29 +0000 hellobeeboston 2898412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: omg I didn't know it was going to be so crazy! My husband signed him up, I think he downplayed the time commitment to me, ha.</p> <p>Hockey is 2 practices and one game per week.<br /> BBall is one practice, one scrimmage per week.</p> <p>He really LOVES both of them though, so it seems worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898371 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 18:10:35 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2898371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: oh my gosh that sounds impossible! Why so much practice? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898347 Wed, 02 Oct 2019 12:39:59 +0000 hellobeeboston 2898347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: Thank you!! I know, I'm trying to be a bit better about getting playdates on - but his schedule is insane. He has hockey 3x a week, basketball 2x a week, and drums one day. WHAT?! Friday's he's open so i've been trying to arrange playdates that day - but yes. I was thinking at the start of this I should prioritize that. THANKS.</p> <p>Very curious to hear from new teachers perspective tomorrow at our meeting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898293 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 16:33:30 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2898293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first grader isn’t so handsy but the boys are ALL still pretty immature. My son is just starting to have a more regular group he plays with at recess...but none from his class. He’s still not willing to agree to do what other kids want to do. I would suggest one on one play dates to slowly build relationships but just wanted to tell you it sounds pretty typical. (But also great that he’s in lunch bunch!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898259 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 11:17:30 +0000 hilary 2898259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a learning curve thing. With my first grader we have to replay scenarios at school and then talk through the appropriate behavior. We also try to get her to relate to the other kids like...remember when your sister was hugging you when you didn't want to be hugged? How did that make you feel? Remember that even though hugging is nice, it stops being nice if the other person doesn't want to be hugged. Or we ask how she's been a good friend today. If she can't come up with things, we ask specific questions...did you share? Did you include someone at recess? Did you stop doing something when asked?<br /> It feels hokey but it helps her relate very specific action and learn the appropriate response. Hope this gets better for your son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898248 Tue, 01 Oct 2019 09:50:26 +0000 hellobeeboston 2898248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Phillybaby2013: YES, HANDSY. And acts on every impulse.... I keep talking to him about thinking before doing, but I'm not sure it's sinking in.... meeting with the counselor and teacher this week. I'm really hoping they're seeing some sort of improvement this week after lots of conversations over the weekend... I'm reading lots of things online, but i'm still not 100% sure what else to do for him to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898197 Mon, 30 Sep 2019 23:52:38 +0000 Phillybaby2013 2898197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice but will commiserate with you. My son, also in first grade is the exact same way. We've already gotten emails home about being too handsy. He's not aggressive but doesn't know when to quit and things get out of hand. He worked with the counselor for some other classroom stuff last year and I just sent in for him to start up again with her. He has the biggest heart and is very sensitive so I worry but we'll see how the year goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898057 Sun, 29 Sep 2019 10:28:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2898057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: Don't beat yourself up, momma. We're all guilty of it. A lot of oldschool cartoons are the same way. I think it's a positive thing that this happened at such a young age because he'll be more aware of the consequences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898056 Sun, 29 Sep 2019 06:13:41 +0000 hellobeeboston 2898056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: yes, definitely. In fact me and my husband are totally guilty of laughing at slapstick comedy like that with him. You make a good point that we include him in a lot of things that perhaps he's too young for and brings that to school - and, like I mentioned above, he's so great with adults, not so much the kids.</p> <p>I've since found out that the friend he slapped also found it funny but NOBODY else did.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898054 Sat, 28 Sep 2019 21:46:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2898054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could it be he's mimicking something he saw on TV? A comedy skit of some sort? Slapping someone as a joke seems advanced for a kid that young to naturally connect as a joke. I would try to figure out where he first saw it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898029 Sat, 28 Sep 2019 06:22:52 +0000 hellobeeboston 2898029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MommySLP: THANK YOU! That site looks great, I plan on digging into it later.</p> <p>He is already in a social group "lunch bunch" once a week with the adjustment counselor, he started it mid-way through K, and they're keeping it going this year. hopefully it's helping a little? its only once a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2898013 Fri, 27 Sep 2019 21:23:08 +0000 MommySLP 2898013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: check out Michelle Garcia Winner. She is a well known speech pathologist that has a “social thinking” program. I’ve used it and I think it’s fabulous. It’s often used for kids on the autism spectrum but I’ve also used it a lot with kids that just are struggling a little bit socially. You may even find some of her stuff on you tube.<br /> <a href="https://www.socialthinking.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.socialthinking.com/</a></p> <p>Also, you may want to talk to the speech therapist at your school. I’ve run social groups with kids that need some help with social “rules” and they don’t necessarily have to be on an IEP (with parent agreement at least). Anyways, that may be an avenue to explore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/1st-grader-social-skills-help#post-2897997 Fri, 27 Sep 2019 15:50:17 +0000 hellobeeboston 2897997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first grader struggles socially. He is the sweetest boy, and WANTS to have friends so badly, and he does have a handful of friends, but it's like he tries to push some of them away with his behaviors. He slapped one of his good friends in the face today :crying: and part of it was because he was being overly silly, and thought it was funny, but, NOT OK. He also is very handsy - wrapping his arms around kids, and what not, we're working on it. But he does things that he thinks are funny, but really it's just pushing kids away.... Like, he'll yell something silly at them and laugh, and they're like, Umm, bye. :bummed: </p> <p>He is just so socially unaware still. He's so much better with adults, strangely.</p> <p>He's with the school counselor once a week for a lunch bunch with other kids having similar issues to help. I'm meeting with his new 1st grade teacher next week too.</p> <p>But wondering if you Bees had any advice or resources so we can try to help him. I'm just not sure what else I can be doing, besides reading books we find and reinforcing what's OK and what's not.... He came home the other night so sad because he said he had no friends, which isn't true necessarily, but i'm sure some of the kids say things to him when he's being nutty. </p>