https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 28 Jun 2026 05:55:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1437246 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 14:59:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1437246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheesetomywhine: I have some good boy names that I'm happy to share!</p> <p>Girl names are so much harder to come by when you already have two girls :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436798 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 13:35:31 +0000 nana87 1436798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both dh and I are from 2-child families, so that just seems like the right number to us. My mom was the middle of 3 girls and hated it--her older sister was 6 years older so they weren't close growing up (though they are now), and her little sister beat her up all the time--so she's always talked about hating being the middle child. Then again, 3 of my best friends are from 3-child families and they've loved it and have always been really close to their siblings, so I could be open to a 3rd....though I think dh is pretty set on only 2. But our first is still in utero so we don't have to decide for a looong time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436725 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 13:18:53 +0000 cheesetomywhine 1436725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: haha fair enough! I assume it is a girls name then. I was hoping for boy inspiration :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436513 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:39:38 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1436513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheesetomywhine: Not until I'm absolutely sure that our birth mom isn't going to place another child and that the door is permanently closed on any bio kids! Suffice it to say that it meets all of our requirements, except for a song like the girls have. I don't know if this name would be perfect for everyone, but I'm so in love with it that the name alone pushes me to want to have a 3rd! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436449 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:21:37 +0000 cheesetomywhine 1436449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Are you willing to share the name?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436414 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:12:44 +0000 cascademom 1436414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Yep, I'm afraid of middle child syndrome too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436405 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:10:09 +0000 cascademom 1436405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always envisioned 2 and through. Seeing my brother have twins and a girl is enough for me to not to want more than 2. I never saw myself with more than 2. It's not even a financial, pregnancy, etc. thing. It's just how I've always seen my family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436386 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:04:26 +0000 mrs. wagon 1436386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: me in a nutshell. Seriously. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436377 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:02:20 +0000 Rubies 1436377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) I don't want D1 to be responsible for two younger siblings<br /> 2) I don't want D2 to be a middle child...She's my baby!!!<br /> 3) I've been blessed with twp healthy children and I'm so grateful. My life is full.</p> <p>Aww...But I do love babies...</p> <p>No, stop it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436315 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:47:28 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1436315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: same as @mrs. wagon: - I also see J as my squishy little baby, and he seems to fit the role well... so I just can't imagine him as anything else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436292 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:37:34 +0000 skibobrown 1436292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have 1 so far and almost certainly want another one so that our family can grow a bit (DH and I both have tiny families). After that we'll definitely be done though for many reasons. First of all, I hated being pregnant w/ my first. I was sick for 9 months straight, and it was just miserable. DH and I both have 40+ hr/week full time careers, and balancing that with 2 kids is going to be challenging enough. Also, beyond 2 kids, we would have to make financial sacrifices to our lifestyle that I don't think we're willing to make. So 2 and through! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436263 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:31:19 +0000 mrs. wagon 1436263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: um, my heart just exploded at the thought of the 3 crews together. Seriously. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436225 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:21:58 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1436225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Ha! Toms = same level as trying to convince you to have a #3. Love it! I'm already mentally planning a vacation to your area, just so I can see the Baby Dudes, the Wagon Crew, and the Paintbrush Dudes all together. If LMW happens to fall in love with a Baby Dude, who am I to complain! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436148 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:02:20 +0000 mrs. wagon 1436148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Don't you start with me now. You already got me with the TOMS yesterday. </p> <p>And, with the twins, you do have twice the chances... she literally has her pick... ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436132 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:59:06 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1436132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I see! I do love me some Baby Jodie. :heart: Although the idea of another Wagon baby makes me swoon, I won't peer pressure you as long as your willing to agree to an arranged marriage between at least one set of our children. :silly: I think I'm being totally reasonable in my request. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436083 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:45:40 +0000 Smurfette 1436083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a middle child, and I don't see the big deal about it. I think my younger brother actually got the best deal. He got away with a lot more</p> <p>We will be done at 2. We don't want to be out numbered. and financially 2 is all we feel comfortable with. Have you seen the cost of college? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436082 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:44:56 +0000 mrs. wagon 1436082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: My only desire for not making LMW a middle child is that it would change her "status" from baby to something else! I just want her to be the baby... the littlest... she's 19 months and we all still call her "Baby Jodie". haha. </p> <p>I have two close friends who are middle (girl, girl, boy) and last (all three girls). The first had not a great experience as middle, and the second had a good experience as baby, but they both want 3+! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1436072 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:41:43 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1436072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: @Mrs. High Heels: You both mentioned not wanting to make J &amp; LMW middle children, so I gotta ask out of curiosity...what's your thinking on that? Is it the "middle kid gets the shaft" stereotype or something else? If you care to share, of course. </p> <p>I came from a family of three, and admittedly, I'm the baby, not the middle, but my brother has always seemed happy in his position (actually kind of has the best of both worlds because he was and is super close to both of us, whereas my oldest brother and I are too far apart to have ever been super close), so I've never given that stereotype much credence but I'm sure it's true in other families. Anywho, I was just curious about your perspectives on the middle child thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435847 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 09:28:53 +0000 illumina 1435847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always thought I'd have two. It's most common in my extended family to have just two, so I always thought I would follow suit. Before LO arrived, Dh and I discussed the idea of 3 and whilst I never like to say never, I'm pretty sure we will be two and through. It depresses me to think of having to go through pregnancy and the newborn stage a second time, let alone a 3rd. Also like pp's have said, there's the issues with ratio of adults to children, having to get a non-standard sized car and a bigger house etc. I think the only thing that would sway me were if Dh really really wanted a 3rd, or if we didn't have a boy next time, or if the first two are super super easy toddlers/pre-schoolers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435772 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 08:57:53 +0000 MamaMoose 1435772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two words: College Education. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435751 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 08:52:36 +0000 Koolbreeze 1435751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have felt the exact same way. Right after DS1 was born, I had baby fever again. I knew we'd have more children and I couldn't wait. Once I was pregnant with DS2 we agreed on 3 children. The instant DS2 was born I just knew he was THE baby of our family. We kept our plans for 3 kids for a while though before we agreed we didn't want another. We both felt our family is complete the way it is.</p> <p>I've had a few moments where I wonder if later down the road I'll wish we had a third, but those moments pass quickly. I have a lot more moments when I'm watching my little family play together and just think "this is perfect!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435655 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 08:19:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1435655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm reluctantly two and through. Mostly because my husband is done and due to financial/logistical concerns. If I was a few years younger, I'd push for three... I have a name I'm so smitten with, but not likely to happen at this point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435373 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:38:39 +0000 erwoo 1435373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Haha! We do the tag teaming too! Except now that we're in Asia and finally hired a live-in helper it's been less my DH dragging the kids out of the kitchen so I can finish but more us trying to get the kids from fighting while dinner is being prepared. There is always something! And we do the, "you're up..." too when it comes to showers! ;)</p> <p>And we are 2 and through b/c I am OLD! LOL! Plus, I do also get the feeling of never wanting my youngest to NOT be the baby anymore. He is such a baby! And my little baby. I try to hold him like a baby and he actually enjoys it from time-to-time. He's a tough one though. Sometimes I wish he was still a baby! :P And the middle child syndrome runs in our family (my sister) and I can't imagine my youngest being that. He's already tough enough as it is. I just can't imagine him having a combo of the two. Oh, I would turn all grey in one second!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435371 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 02:27:08 +0000 lamariniere 1435371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always only wanted two, it seems like a good number. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why/page/2#post-1435326 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 00:09:15 +0000 luckypenny 1435326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm scared ill end up with three high achieving girls and we have to pay for their college and weddings lol. I also think having a third is the difference between taking more vacations, saving more long term, etc... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why#post-1435287 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 23:20:41 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1435287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: @chopsuey: @Mrs. Jump Rope: DH is the oldest of three, and that's why he's so open to having another! He liked it - but it could be because he's the only and oldest son! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why#post-1435278 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 23:11:21 +0000 Sammyfab 1435278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: Middle children unite! My experience as the middle of 3 girls is ultimately what makes us 2 and through (although sometimes we contemplate even having a 2nd). My younger sister feels the same way...she got away with everything and realized as an adult how crummy it was to be the middle child at times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why#post-1435277 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 23:10:33 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1435277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I felt the exact same way as you after I had my first. I just knew that it wasn't the end for us, and there was a certainty there that there would absolutely be a second...</p> <p>Now that we have our 2nd, I have similar thoughts about not wanting to make J a middle child. We are not 100% absolutely certain that we're done, but I feel like I'm mostly keeping that small percent chance open because my husband still isn't sure, and he is right that we are only 30... and we could change our minds once J is no longer a baby. Maybe I'll miss having a baby and want another.. who knows!</p> <p>But right now, it feels like we're two and through. I feel like right now we have that perfect balance of having a full, rambunctious family, but our marriage is still thriving, we still have downtime for ourselves, and we can still focus on our careers. I feel like we'd be stretched so thin if we have another. It's just financially crazy to think about, I don't want to go through pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding again, and I also don't want to play zone defense!</p> <p>Eta: DH thinks that we might change our minds once J gets bigger, but I have a feeling that the more we venture OUT of the babyhood stage and the spacing gets further apart, the LESS we'll want another. I don't want to start ALLL over again when both our kids are self-sufficient enough so that we can finally do stuff as a family (without timing things around naps, nursing schedules, etc) and ENJOY it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why#post-1435274 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 23:04:50 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1435274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm one of four and I idolize parents of 3+. I always wanted three. But I'm not sure if I'm tough enough! I will revisit if we have 2 and see how I feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-and-through-why#post-1435270 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 22:58:12 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1435270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: haha I'm definitely from more than 2- six kids in my family - and I don't want that many. I loved/love having a lot of siblings and family get togethers are very fun. However, I myself don't desire a large family. I think I could possibly want it IF we had endless amounts of money to support them, maybe have a PT nanny, etc.. But I am an anomaly - because most families I know who come from larger families, want the same thing. So I know what you're talking about.</p> <p>We're not sure if we're one and done, two and through or open to more. We have absolutely zero idea what we want at this point. And I'm ok with that. </p>