https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 20:45:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447452 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 14:44:33 +0000 Rock n Roll 447452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest didn't sleep through the night until she was over a year old. My younger one slept through the night the week she came home from the hospital. Older cried non-stop the first four months and was/is extremely clingy to me. Younger is the happiest baby you'll meet and loves everyone. </p> <p>Of course, you never know how it'll end up. I was totally prepared to have another one just like the first- and then I got the easiest baby ever! I love them both like crazy, but the first few months with the older one were REALLY hard. They flew by like nothing with the younger one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447451 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 14:44:25 +0000 Mrs. Bee 447451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my brother and i were total opposites. i was super mellow and easy while my brother was very colicky.</p> <p>charlie and olive are both average babies. i think olive is a little bit easier just because we're more relaxed as parents, and she's used to not getting all our attention like charlie was. she is more stubborn than charlie, but overall both kids are pretty similar in temperament (so far!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447274 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:56:04 +0000 Honeybee 447274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're alike and they're opposites, depending on the area. Both of my kids have been generally happy kids who hit milestones early, and both of them hav struggled with sleep. Both of them are great eaters with big appetites and both of them have been very healthy, so far. </p> <p>DD is pretty disciplined for a toddler; she tells when she's tired and needs to sleep (and has been doing this since about 15/16 months), she potty trained super early at 18 months, and she's pretty self-directed and independent in both play and daily life. The biggest challenge with DD was just backing off enough to let her figure things out on her own, and she really thrived with a child-directed parenting approach.</p> <p>DS has been better natured than DD from day 1. He laughs and smiles super easily, he 's really social and loves everyone, and he rarely fusses or cries. On the other hand, he needs a lot more structure, and I have to be very strict with his schedule. He also developped physically faster than DD did so he's really big and heavy for me to carry around and he's been teething almost continuously since four months, which has really taken a toll on all of our sleep. The biggest challenge with DS is his advanced physical development; carrying a 20 pound 8 month is a lot of work!</p> <p>So they are alike in a lot of ways but they're also different. There's just no telling what you'll end up; it's all chance and luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447227 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:26:07 +0000 Springtime 447227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder about this too! My LO is a horrible sleeper, hyper, into everything, gets bored easy, doesn't like to sit still, needy, and always wanting something. I wonder and hope my next LO will be calm and peaceful and a great sleeper lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447223 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:23:32 +0000 mrsmenow 447223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Day and night!</p> <p>My oldest is really quiet and thoughtful. She is emotional and sensitive.</p> <p>My second is a little spitfire. She is bossy and loud. She has more character than anyone I have ever met. </p> <p>I am really struggling picturing how this third baby is going to fit in with the two of them being so different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447218 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:21:53 +0000 stargal 447218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This also scares me.... D's is ssoooo laid back and easy going.<br /> He spoiled us for sure. I'm terrified # 2 is gonna be a high needs baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447208 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:17:30 +0000 T-Mom 447208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was a serious baby, very picky eater, but a great sleeper (we did CIO at 4 mo). So we got lots of rest with her. DS is super laid back, happy, enthusiastic eater, but not as good a sleeper. So they really are opposities. I think it a combo of their different dispositions , AND how we are different as 2nd time parents. We are so much more laid back, so I think it helps DS to be laid back. I wouldn't be discouraged! Whatever the disposition of the child, your family dynamic will morph and compensate for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447189 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:11:31 +0000 autumnlove 447189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried because LO is pretty easygoing and started sleeping through the night early! Fingers crossed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-moms-was-your-2nd-child-a-total-opposite-of-your-1st#post-447180 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 12:09:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 447180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My #1 thing holding me back from trying for #2, is how challenging DD is, and thinking that I couldn't handle another one like her. I keep hearing that #2 will be "a complete opposite" of #1, but I have crappy luck and I refuse to believe that I could be so lucky. </p> <p>What was your situation? </p>