https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 07:32:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2814175 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 08:44:31 +0000 Mrs D 2814175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSRS: Just looked up this bunny clock...so cute...I'm getting it now and returning the tot clock I had bought. DD2 will like the bunny better!</p> <p>@MACSUNSHINE: no advice...just commiseration. DD2 has been waking up between 4 and 5 the last few weeks off and on. I think some of it might be waking up from peeing...she is "starting" to potty train and I think the peeing may be more annoying to her now and unsettling. Anyways...she screams and wont settle. Which eventually wakes DD1 up. Oy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813984 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 12:22:03 +0000 bubblegum 2813984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MACSUNSHINE: Life happens and the babies adjust and do whatever is best for them even if it means mommy and daddy's bed being taken over lol</p> <p>That's the same thing that happened to us. We redid his room before DD was born in hopes that he would want to sleep in there but NOPE! </p> <p>He would go nuts and cry himself into a rage and with a newborn we just caved. Hopefully you have better luck than I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813847 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 08:01:19 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2813847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum it is so common and happens more than people like to admit. I am with you, whatever it takes to get the best quality sleep. We shall see, I am completely fine with rolling with it and I know that this season will pass. I wish I had advice you, other than this will pass as all stages do. I have heard of the kids sharing a bed once your little one is older. </p> <p>Thank you, we are trying to get him to to a good spot before the baby arrives but the truth is the baby is going to rock our worlds and there is no way to predict what will happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813843 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 06:39:41 +0000 bubblegum 2813843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is exactly what happened to us. DS was a wonderful independent sleeper, we moved to our new house he was great but then a few months into the move he would not sleep in his room or alone. Fast forward to almost a year and a half later and he’s still in our bed. I have no advice because clearly I have given up because sleep with a 3 year old and 11 month old is more important for now buttttt get a handle on it before your stuck with a little munchkin in your bed like me. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813841 Tue, 03 Apr 2018 02:01:27 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2813841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hypatia thank you, we have done this method in the past with success but he also gets very distraught and ends up vomiting. We will go this route if we have to, my husband is pushing for it, I am hoping we can get him back on track without the mess this time around.</p> <p>@bubbletea thank you! Your story is very similar to mine with the first, we have sleep trained him so many times over his 26 months ;). My husband can be extremely cranky with all this, whereas I just roll with it and know that this too shall pass. I am 36 and motherhood has given me the confidence to just go with my gut and not apologize for any of it. DS is a wonderful child and eventually the sleeping will be better. Maybe it will be when he goes to college but I am ok with that.</p> <p>@dahlia thank you! We will see if I do anything differently with this baby, I doubt it. DS has a habit of working himself up until he gets sick so for me, sitting for a minute next to his bed saves me a lot of clean up time.</p> <p>As I said above motherhood has brought out my ability to say to those that judge too bad ;). I have always been someone to take others opinions to heart and now I am just very much well thank you and off I go to do whatever I feel is right. My husband and I have been together for over 15 years so he has had a wake up call with my mama bear instincts. </p> <p>Thanks again everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813835 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 23:05:41 +0000 Dahlia 2813835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not advice, but wanted to say that DD was a great sleeper after we sleep trained her at 7 months, but every since turning 2 she's gone through periods of night waking. It usually lasts for a week or two, then gets better for a few weeks, then starts again. Sometimes I can't figure out why, but other times it's clearly linked to developmental changes. She had two awful weeks, and then all of sudden could jump on two feet and was back to sleeping all night long. </p> <p>All this to say, I don't think it's your fault. And we do stay in her room until she falls asleep most nights, and stay in there until she falls back asleep if she wakes up. She freaks out otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813830 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 22:27:28 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2813830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MACSUNSHINE: I have a 3 yo boy and 5mo girl. They are SUCH different sleepers but I have also parented them quite differently for a variety of reasons. My son never wanted to be set down as a baby, and I think I exacerbated that by never setting him down. We bedshared out of necessity full time starting at around 4 months, as it was the only way I managed to get sleep. Transitioned him to a floor bed at some point, maybe around 1.5-2? He was sleeping 100% in his room by 2.5, but I or my husband layed with him till he was 100% asleep and I would go in early morning hours when he woke up till the day started. And guess what, when baby was born he started sleeping full time in our bed again! (So at almost 3 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️). But, I haven’t felt up to battling him to sleep in his own room. He sleeps great with us and it hasn’t been a problem too much with the baby. I still feel he’s come a long way from when I had to nurse him to sleep for waaaaaaayyy too long and back to sleep during the night. I pick enough battles with him during the day, at night he’s sweet and cuddly and silent (haha). </p> <p>And as for my daughter, she started out an amazing sleeper. Her sleep has gone downhill recently but she still naps great and I am gearing up to do some gentle sleep training with her. From her personality I can tell she’ll be ok with a little crying and blowing off steam in learning to fall asleep on her own. My son was not like that, he would have been 100% freak out puking and screaming for hours. </p> <p>Anyways, I wrote you this novel to say good job, listening to your child and doing what you can to help him sleep. Maybe you and I could have done stuff differently when they were infants but maybe not. And hopefully your baby to come will be a better independent sleeper for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813815 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 20:48:15 +0000 Hypatia 2813815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bought this door lock:</p> <p>Door Monkey Door Lock and Pinch Guard <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004ECJWK4/" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004ECJWK4/</a></p> <p>I honestly think that as long as a toddler can leave their room, they're going to--and that is a safety problem, as well as a sleeping problem. A few nights of frustrated crying (which you do not respond to at all costs) will quickly teach him the new way things work. But I'm mean that way. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813814 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 20:42:40 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2813814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks @mrssrs we have seen improvement in the last few nights by just ‘rinsing and repeating’ exhausting but in the long run his sleep quality is improving. He no longer asks us to lay down and he seems more comfortable/confident that we return to give him a kiss even when he is asleep.</p> <p>I appreciate everyones feedback, it is always good to confirm we are not alone. My husband consistently believes that we screwed up DS’s sleep habits but it is just who he is, not the best sleeper. We’ll see what LO2 does! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813808 Mon, 02 Apr 2018 19:49:53 +0000 MrsSRS 2813808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our second went through a similar phase at 2. We started using a wake up clock with a bunny on it and ran through a script all.the.time during the day."When bunny is asleep everyone is asleep. Mommy is in her bed. Daddy is in bed. Brother is in bed. DD is in bed. Everyone is in their bed when bunny is asleep. When bunny wakes up then we can get out of bed!" Then every wake up would be a calm walk back to bed, look at the clock, "Oh look. Bunny is asleep. Bunny is asleep, so DD needs to be asleep in her bed and Mommy needs to be asleep in Mommy's bed. Night night. I'll see you when the bunny wakes up." Then walk out. Rinse and repeat until it sticks. It took a couple weeks, but with clear improvement after the first handful of days.<br /> Edit: then in the morning we would also point at the clock "Look! Bunny is awake! That means we can all get out of our beds. Let's go have breakfast!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813047 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 08:53:29 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2813047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks @mrs. champagne, I wa suggesting that to my husband this morning so I think we will try it. </p> <p>Thank you @faithfertility and @foodnerd81! Sleep is a constant battle with DS, every time he is in a good spot something happens. Which is most likely what will happen with the baby’s arrival. Survival will become most important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813026 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 06:51:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2813026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the same thing with my older one while I was pregnant with the younger one. We tried to be consistent with walking her calmly back to her room and say good night, but in reality usually my husband would end up sleeping in her bed with her the rest of the night. This of course meant she knew she could keep trying and DH would give in. Wasn’t really the best situation. He did usually take the wake ups because I was pregnant and exhausted, and once the baby was born I’d have to be up with her nursing and he’d have to deal with big sis then anyway. </p> <p>Eventually she mostly outgrew it. We did start a sticker chart for staying in her bed all night which helped some, maybe. It was a rough stage especially after the baby was born. And super helpful people at the playground used to tell me I needed to nip that in the bud since the baby was coming, just in case that hadn’t occurred to me :sad: </p> <p>Now she is 4.5 and still goes through phases where she wakes up at night and wants a snuggle before going back to sleep. I just think some kids are wired to be worse sleepers than others. My younger one sleeps better than her and we definitely did a lot more things “wrong” with her sleep habits, where with my older one I read all the sleep sites and advice and did everything I could to help her sleep. </p> <p>Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813025 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 06:46:20 +0000 FaithFertility 2813025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was 22 months when DS was born a few months before around 20 months she was in our bed every night, which I don't mind..<br /> But...like You said a baby was on the way and it wasn't a Great routine<br /> We got her a full bad and she liked it, when she would wake when DS was born we would take turns sleeping with her, I know it isnt ideal but it did work for us!<br /> She is now 3 and STTN </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813024 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 06:27:40 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2813024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't stay with him.. walk him back to his room lie him down and go. If my son is having a night of wake ups (rare now, he just turned 4). I tell him I'll come check on him and give him a hug once he's quiet and sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2-year-old-getting-up-all-night-help#post-2813023 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 05:48:00 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2813023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looking for some advice. My DS is 26 month and in the last month has started getting up multiple times in the night, not crying just coming into our room and asking us to go lay down with him. Nothing has changed in his room, we moved in December but honestly he had been sleeping better at the new house and transitioned easily.</p> <p>He sleeps on a full size floor mattress and has been for at least a year. Full disclosure, I consistently fail at sleep with this child. I am someone that prioritizes everyone’s sleep and ended up co-sleeping with him as an infant far more than I expected. When this initially started we were both guilty of laying down with him except LO2 is due in 2 months so we quickly realized this can’t continue.</p> <p>His bed time routine is bath, 2 books and lights out. We recently moved the books to his bed with us sitting on the floor beside, we found he was falling asleep on us and were concerned that was causing the wakings. We are definitely trying to reprogram his sleep habits so I know this could be a long haul.</p> <p>When he gets up, one of us (usually me, somehow my non-pregnant husband has higher sleep needs than me and frankly cannot function getting up more than once) gets up and takes his hand and puts him back in bed. Generally I have to sit on the floor next to the bed for a few and then I “excuse” myself to go to the bathroom, check on the dog, etc. I always come back trying to lengthen the time to show that we are always there. Anything else?</p> <p>My husband would like to keep him in his room and let DS work through it on his own...I struggle since no one sleeps with that but maybe. We did get a time to wake clock but have not pushed it yet, he is young. </p> <p>I have tried to talk about it well before bed time and in the morning to understand why he is getting up. From what I can gather, he just wants us to lay with him. Anyone else have success with other methods? TIA! </p>