https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 13:50:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137212 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 19:12:28 +0000 autumn865 2137212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are soooooo here right now too (I also have a two and a half year old and a two month old). In some ways I feel like DD1 is still somewhat acting out about the baby by doing things she knows she's not supposed to do and I have told her not to do a billion times. What I have found really helps is if I plan little "projects" for us to do. The project could be cooking dinner with me by being my "mixer" or "cheeser" etc. or a simple arts and crafts project. It gives her something structured and positive to put her energy into and I make sure she gets lots of praise while she's working and helping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137208 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 19:07:47 +0000 dagret 2137208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: ugh L is just a bit younger and we are going through this. With a 7 week old, too, so I think it's also a bit acting out for attention. One thing that has really helped with us is the book no bad kids - toddler discipline without shame by Janet Lansbury. L doesnt react well to negative reinforcement, and the methods in the book have made a big difference. I review it every couple of weeks, actually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137202 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 19:04:56 +0000 mrsjazz 2137202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: OMG our kids sound the same! My daughter's favorite phrase right now is "I'm just..." in explanation of why she is not doing what she is supposed to be doing.</p> <p>Right now we redirect, give warnings, and time outs, but I think we need something else or more. Researching books. Or British nannies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137180 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:50:18 +0000 sorrycharlie 2137180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I've tried a little bit of everything, lol.</p> <p>9 times out of 10, she isn't doing it to purposefully tick me off - she's just super, la di daaaa, in her own world. but then of course there are those times where she'll bluntly say "I'm just.." as if she's a teen. </p> <p>"O, it's time to brush teeth"<br /> "I'm just playing."<br /> "O, quick quick! We need to get going."<br /> "I'm just waaaalking!" </p> <p>lol. lord help me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137161 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:32:57 +0000 Radish 2137161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 is just like this sometimes. Usually, it seems to be for attention so after the incident has passed then I try to give her a little extra attention not related to the ignoring me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137156 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:26:52 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 2137156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like she is trying to assert independence and isn't practicing situational awareness. She doesn't need to listen to you because she's a big girl and can do it herself. Duh!</p> <p>Maybe you can say, "okay, O! We are going down the stairs now. How do we walk down the steps like a big girl? Mommy likes to hold the railing. What do you like to do?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137151 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:21:33 +0000 regberadaisy 2137151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are you doing when she doesn't listen to you?</p> <p>My older daughter responds to punishment and loss of privileges. Time outs, losing her friends (stuffed animals), screen time, etc. when she doesn't listen we give warnings and follow through on them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/25-year-old-not-listening#post-2137144 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:16:03 +0000 sorrycharlie 2137144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is normal for the age..but I'm getting so frustrated. DD1 does not have any hearing problems. I know this. But she flat out ignores me half the time..or more!</p> <p>If I tell her to stop doing something (dangerous!) she'll continue to do it. Yesterday she was emptying a toy basket and flung a mozart cube onto my lap as I nursed DD2 (2.5 months old). I told her she could not throw because it almost hit her sister and she would get a big boo boo. </p> <p>well two seconds later, she turned around all excited and seriously, like, bludgeoned the baby in the head. With this Elsa in a snow globe wand that weighs 5 lbs. I was so freaked out but after a lot of screaming she (baby) was fine. I yelled DD1's name out of instinct (even though it was an accident) and because she's so sensitive, she sobbed and sobbed. </p> <p>today she was about to trip backwards over a laptop wire at my parents. I said, "DD, stop!" and did she stop? no. luckily I was close enough to grab her arm. She also almost fell down our hardwood stairs today at home because she ignored me when I reminded her to hold the railing.</p> <p>I am at a loss. Just keep reminding her? Is there anything I can do to get her to LISTEN??? omg. I'm mainly concerned about the dangerous things. Esp because we have on street parking on a busy road! </p>