https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 12:43:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812268 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:44:58 +0000 Running Elley 1812268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I already have 2 but what I'm most scared of for #3 (in the future lol) is after birth uterine cramping. It was HORRIBLE after #2 and I've only heard that it gets worse :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812196 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:16:17 +0000 Mamasig 1812196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I only breastfed the 1st for about 2-3 weeks. My second son was better at it but he had a tongue tie which made his latch super painful. So I gave up after a week - absolutely no regrets. Breastfeeding has not been some kind of wonderful euphoric bonding experience for me. I'm so much happier just giving them formula! I couldn't love or be any more bonded to my boys! </p> <p>The 1st time I was pretty upset. I was more meh about it this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812188 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:15:03 +0000 cyndistar3 1812188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now the only thing I am not looking forward to is potty training again seeing as I haven't even got lo #2 potty trained yet! I know it's far away but I hate potty training.</p> <p>Eta: I was also afraid of lo #2 being super hard because #1 was easy but lo#2 ended up pretty easy as well :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812179 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:11:14 +0000 regberadaisy 1812179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL to those afraid of karma.<br /> I'm afraid #2 will be just as hard if not harder than #1! Fussy, 20 minute naps, multiple nightly wake ups. Things did not get better till she was almost 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812167 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:05:10 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1812167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: did you give up breastfeeding earlier/easier this time vs the first? I suffered through EPing until 9 months last time but I am already kinda like meh about the whole thing this time.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812159 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:02:06 +0000 Freckles 1812159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm afraid to learn that LO #1 was an easy baby/child. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812155 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:01:08 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 1812155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: Ditto on LO#1 being a tough, tough newborn. He was a great sleeper, but when he was awake it was colic city. On the one hand, since I've been through it and made it to the other side with a happy toddler who I adore, I know it'll be okay and I'll survive if it happens again. On the other... I am holding out hope that I get a really easy baby this time around. I think I can deal with any of the normal newborn stuff, even with a toddler too, as long as LO#2 is a happy newborn. It's so hard - but nice - to imagine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812118 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 14:45:45 +0000 marionberry 1812118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@emg86: I'm in the same boat with the 2 under 2...aaah!</p> <p>I'm scared of handling two at the same time, especially if our second isn't as laid back and mellow as our first. I'm also worried that DH will have a harder time handling it. Sometimes J tries his patience, and I can only imagine what 2 of them crying at the same time might do.</p> <p>From a me perspective, I do NOT look forward to the pumping at work and juggling being a successful career woman with being a successful mom; I want both, but I know it won't be that easy.</p> <p>Oh and the expenses...that's gonna be a rough one too with 2 in daycare. Gulp. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812056 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 14:31:27 +0000 emg86 1812056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 under 2...eeeeeekkkkkkk!!!! J will be 16 months when baby brother arrives. </p> <p>MOTN wake ups...J is an early riser and if baby brother is anything like she was...he will looooove to be up at night. </p> <p>Breastfeeding was not awful or painful for me the first time around and I'm praying that I have the same experience again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1812031 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 14:22:45 +0000 Mamasig 1812031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a mom who had baby #2 a few months ago, I can say the sleep deprivation and MOTN wakes ups were easier this time. I think my body is just now used to broken sleep. </p> <p>Breastfeeding still hurt and I gave it up quickly. </p> <p>Juggling two was definitely hard but got easier around month two. </p> <p>Nothing seems as bad this time - my older son was pretty laid back and this baby is too. </p> <p>On a positive note, DS1 was not much of a sleeper. DS2 is better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811968 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:50:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 1811968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MOTN wakeups + having a toddler to contend too. We've already decided she will still go to daycare so I can get some sleep when I'm on maternity leave. </p> <p>LO was such a good night sleeper, the though of waking up every 2 hours scares me, we used to wake her up to feed her in the beginning. She was going 5-6 hours by the time she was 3 weeks old. </p> <p>Attempting breastfeeding again...it went horribly last time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811960 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:48:47 +0000 knittylady 1811960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Worried about LO1 feeling abandoned. :(</p> <p>Also he was a seriously difficult newborn, so I'm terrified we'll get more of the same in that area. I also (and this is the biggest fear) am afraid of PPD again. So much so that I'm looking into placenta encapsulation. I would do ANYTHING not to be in that place again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811945 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:42:56 +0000 bhbee 1811945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>definitely most worried about #2 being harder than #1. I think karma owes us one.</p> <p>also I think there a lot of things I've forgotten, like how messy everything is between oversupply spraying all over, spit up, blowouts, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811943 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:42:23 +0000 Mrs. Rabbit 1811943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto what @Mrs. Jump Rope: @Mrs. Blue: said. I know I'll somehow adapt to the ridiculousness of it all, but I'm really not looking forward to it. </p> <p>I'm also nervous about interacting with my toddler, giving her enough love and attention, and letting her know that she's not being replaced.</p> <p>I'm also realllllly terrified about solo parenting two kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811922 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:30:00 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1811922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The pain of breastfeeding at the beginning. I shudder thinking about it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811919 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:29:09 +0000 Weagle 1811919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm nervous that #2 will be more difficult than LO. She has always been pretty easy and flexible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811902 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:20:13 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1811902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep deprivation. Being up all night and sleeping all day. Colic. Two diapers to change, two kids to feed and cart around. </p> <p>I'm kind of excited for all of this too! In a sick way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811892 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:15:53 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1811892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#2 being harder than #1. #1 was a breeze and sttn early.<br /> Also that #1 will be totally bored with me at home for the first few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811870 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:08:08 +0000 Boogs 1811870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MOTH wakeups<br /> Solo parenting 2, worried about being outnumbered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811845 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 13:01:01 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1811845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: &lt;----This. Sleep deprivation plus toddlers who will apparently be teething until they are 15 and all the joy that accompanies that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811836 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:57:15 +0000 NeekieRose 1811836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am concerned that this baby won't be as easy as DD, but since they are going to be so close (DD is only 9 months), I am still in the middle of bottles, and pumping, and MOTN wakeups...so I guess I won't get used to not doing those things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811818 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:51:41 +0000 LulaBee 1811818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MOTN wakeups (although this one HAS to be better than DD was) and pumping. Oh, I loathe my pump. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811810 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:49:22 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1811810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep deprivation WITH a toddler who is battling sleep<br /> Balancing schedules for both kids </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811802 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:45:40 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1811802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep deprivation. I'm really not ready for that again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811799 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:44:13 +0000 Adira 1811799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: We are so screwed... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811782 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:39:41 +0000 swurlygurl 1811782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Oh, yes, I am afraid of not having an easy baby this time. I don't think there are babies easier than L - I'm probably in for a rude awakening!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811780 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:38:43 +0000 swurlygurl 1811780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For as much as I say I'm not a 'baby person', I really didn't mind too much of the newborn/baby stage! I even liked MOTN wakeups because they were so sweet and cuddly (and she only woke up once/was easy to put back down - I had it easy)..</p> <p>DEFinitely bottles though. Daycare takes care of their own bottles though, so if I can get BFing to work this time, I won't have to deal with bottles hardly ever!</p> <p>Oh, and BFing pain, definitely not looking forward to that.</p> <p>And pumping. Uggghhhh :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811768 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:36:17 +0000 Adira 1811768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, so scared of MOTN wake-ups. And soooooo not looking forward to pumping around the clock. Just ordered some new parts for my pump though, so... yay?</p> <p>I'm also really scared that baby #2 won't be as easy as Xander was. Xander was great at self-soothing, even as a newborn, and we've had very little issues with teething (he's had molars pop up that I didn't even know he was working on) so I'm scared about dealing with a more "normal" baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/2nd-time-pregnant-moms-things-were-not-looking-forward-to#post-1811749 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 12:31:16 +0000 regberadaisy 1811749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MOTN wake ups<br /> TEETHING!!!!<br /> Washing bottles!!! Ugh. I need to buy more so we're not washing them nightly. :P </p>