https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 02:35:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278978 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 10:50:22 +0000 blackbird 2278978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: We did this when E was on bottles and it worked beautifully! </p> <p>@MsHangry: I actually moved T down the hall, thinking my smell was waking him up! It didn't seem to have any effect, though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278958 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 10:41:12 +0000 MsHangry 2278958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm, do we have the same baby?<br /> About half the time I get a 4-5.5 hour stretch at the beginning of the night. Good nights are wake-ups every 3 hours, bad nights are every 2 hours. He nurses, usually a lot, and then immediately back to sleep. I just figured he was hungry and would never considered any different way without reading threads like this.<br /> Currently he is in a crib in my room and I am a light sleeper though... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278895 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 10:08:20 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2278895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: That is exactly what I am doing with DD to try to get her back to her longer stretches. </p> <p>When she's been waking up after 5-6 hours, she has been eating somewhere between 6 and 7 ounces (basically a full bottle for her). I'm just making up smaller bottles and will be decreasing the number of ounces every couple of days until she isn't getting anything if she wakes up. My pediatrician said that should help eliminate the unnecessary wake ups quite quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278732 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 07:59:57 +0000 blackbird 2278732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm you guys have me thinking that him waking up at midnight/3/6am to eat is a lot, then :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278719 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 07:51:42 +0000 jape14 2278719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS started giving us a longer stretch (and by that, I mean 5-6 hours, not even close to STTN) the week he turned 3 months, then the next week started the 4-month sleep regression early. That lasted 2-3 weeks, right at Christmas/while staying at my ILs, wanted to die. We sleep trained at 4 months on the nose - Ferber, just for going to sleep - which helped immensely! He kept one MOTN feeding after sleep training (very occasionally 2, but mostly 1 in the 1-4am range) until he was about 7-8 months old and he started legit STTN. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278674 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 07:07:59 +0000 SweetiePie 2278674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and I almost forgot, we also had a crazy week or two when he was around 4 months. I had gotten rid of the midnight for a couple of weeks and then he finally had his first true sttn night. Then the next night - wham. He woke up every 2 hours like clockwork. I was staying at my parents house in the same room with him and they had to work so I went back to bottles all night long and I felt horrible about it because it felt like such a set back, but if it was a growth spurt I didn't want to deny it to him. He eventually went back to a midnight and a 4/5am wake up and then back to only a 4/5am wake up. Shortly after is when my ped encouraged me to drop that last bottle and CIO.<br /> Amazing how in the moment those times feel like hell, but 7 months later I almost forgot it even happened! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278670 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 06:56:56 +0000 Eko 2278670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read your post yesterday and then last night W had his worst sleep ever, waking up every 2-3 hours. I keep thinking of you and praying it was a fluke, but I'm following to see if something works for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278649 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 06:07:44 +0000 SweetiePie 2278649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age he was doing about 7pm to 4/5am. At his 4 month checkup my ped instructed me (I didn't even ask) to start weaning from that 4/5am bottle and when we were down to the last ounce let him CIO. We did that for about 3-4 days and then bam, 7pm-6am.<br /> Right before that he did still have a midnight wake up as well. I did the same thing with the midnight on my own, I had started reading 12 hours x12 weeks and it was magic to get rid of that midnight wake up.<br /> But he was bottle fed. Not sure how easy it is for BF babies, though it does have instructions for a BF baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278518 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 21:17:17 +0000 MrsBrewer 2278518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3 month old sleeps from 9 till 3-4 most nights, then sleeps till 7-8. I start work this week and so far the last 2 nights she's STTN until 6! Idk how it happen like this, but I'm not questioning it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278455 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 20:27:21 +0000 blackbird 2278455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: DH has, he's not a huge fan of the paci. Or a couple times, he goes back to sleep only to wake up 30 min later all hangry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278372 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 19:28:59 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2278372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 months was awesome. We were getting overnights from about 8 PM to 6 AM with only wake-ups for the pacifier when it fell out. Then at 4 months...oh boy. He learned how to roll over and would wake himself up, and would be inconsolable for a few hours. It was ROUGH. By 5 months things were getting back on track, and at 6 months is when consistent STTN really began. My son wasn't interested in eating in the MOTN, though, so I can't help you with scheduling as far as that goes....he just wanted his paci and would conk back out. I assume you've tried offering paci before bottle/boob? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278189 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 15:45:59 +0000 blackbird 2278189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: ew, i remember the 4am wake ups. Gahhhh. I could try sending DH in to soothe for that first wake up. He just gulps down so much that it's hard to think he's NOT hungry.</p> <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I wondered about that, too, but he seems perfectly content on 12 ounces for the 9 hours/day I'm gone. And i always send a couple ounces of extra milk. Our daycare lady breastfed her 4 children and I feel really confident in her ability to feed him breastmilk . </p> <p>@Mrs.KMM: haha, they totally do., We must have "sucker' stamped on our foreheads </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278183 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 15:44:55 +0000 LC 2278183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice, but I can commiserate! LO is 16 weeks also and his sleep is horrible (IMO). He goes to bed by 6:30 and is up by 10 and then every 2 hours all night long. His sleep was never great but I remember telling the pedi at his 2 month appt that he could go 6-8 hrs for the first stretch, and now we're back to about 4 hours for the first stretch, and nursing is the only thing that soothes him. This is rough but I keep telling myself it's temporary and I will sleep train at 6 months if necessary. (I'm hoping it's partly 4m sleep regression and partly him needing time with me now that I'm back at work.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278148 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 15:25:04 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2278148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: it sucks when they regress! You get kind of used to getting some better sleep yourself and then that little baby laughs and says "jokes on you!". Hopefully both our little ones get back to their better sleep soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278126 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 15:12:05 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2278126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't read all the responses. But could his waking more be correlated to the fact that he's getting less milk in the day do you think? If he was nursing on demand maybe his intake was higher and now that he's getting bottles it's not enough milk? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278101 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 14:44:40 +0000 JoJoGirl 2278101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So A was a terrible sleeper as you know, but at that age she was definitely down to 2 wake-ups a night. As others have said, BF babies sleep worse than formula babies, but he should be doing longer than 3 hour stretches! Could you try soothing instead of feeding at his midnight wakeup and see if he'll go back down? </p> <p>Also around 5 months we had other issues like her waking for the day at 4am, but that's a different post :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2278066 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 14:25:12 +0000 blackbird 2278066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: That would be pretty glorious! T was doing great when we had the 2 month appt--getting a 7 hour stretch in consistently, but...sad face, not anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277887 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 12:36:36 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2277887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E is 3 months old and recently went from 6.5-8 hour stretches at night to 5.5-6 hour stretches. It's still only 1 wake up but I prefer the longer stretches for sure. We need to work on getting them back.</p> <p>My pediatrician seems to have different thoughts on sleep goals than some of the PPs. He wanted to see E getting 5-6 hour stretches by her 2 month appointment (which she was). And I know he'll want her to be consistently going 7-8 hours at night by her 4 month appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277836 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:57:46 +0000 BandDmommy 2277836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was odd she started STTN very early she's had stretches where she might wake up once to feed but that's rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277833 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:51:33 +0000 catlady 2277833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: By 5.5 months, it was like 2 or 3 times to nurse (that includes a super early morning one like at 4:45 am, which I always counted as a "night" waking). She dropped them gradually, by 7-8 months she was down to 1-2 times and then by 10 months, she slept through. Your LO actually sounds pretty normal for that age, aside from no long stretch. I think pre-regression, my LO could do 4-5 hrs as an initial long stretch. So maybe yours is going through the regression by adding one night feed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277790 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:27:18 +0000 jetsa 2277790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: this is exactly what we did with J when nursing stopped working. I know I need to just break the routine especially since her nights have gotten bad anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277778 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:18:15 +0000 Happygal 2277778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: I was really perplexed at how to accomplish not nursing to sleep. I still rock and have white noise on, but leave a dim lamp on. For most nights, that has been enough to get her drowsy, but not asleep. I think she was already starting to have a harder time nursing to sleep, so she was ready for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277775 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:14:51 +0000 blackbird 2277775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: do you remember how often your LO got up to eat at 5.5 months?</p> <p>I'm definitely under the belief that T is only waking to eat right now, and there isn't anything else majorly problematic at play here, but I don't know when (if he doesn't regress hard core), i can expect him to go longer stretches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277773 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:14:07 +0000 blackbird 2277773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: haha i hear ya. Cut yourself some slack! I'm really hoping to have to sleep train by starting with good habits now, but you know what they say about the best laid plans and all :) it's still hit and miss with him. He's so chill, i want to capitalize it on it as much as I can! And before I get MORE tired. DH has better luck putting her down that way, because if she smells me, he wants to nurse to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277770 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:12:46 +0000 catlady 2277770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep at this age was like hell on earth for us. Her first waking would be within 1 hr of bedtime and then she would be up every 1-2 hrs for the rest of the night. So 8-10 times per night. I tried to sleep train at 16 weeks because I was losing it and it just made it worse. Also tried various non-cry methods, swaddle/non-swaddle, merlin suit, crib/RnP/PnP and even the swing in desperation. We waited for her to "grow out of it" but it didn't get better. Finally at around 5.5 months, we tried sleep training again and it worked immediately and got her down to a normal amount of wake ups (for nursing only). The good news is, she has been a rock star sleeper ever since (and she's almost 2 now!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277763 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:09:32 +0000 jetsa 2277763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: ha. J lived his first year in a sleep regression so I don't know what normal babies do. Even at her worst D is better than J. You are way way ahead of us, drowsy but awake is not a phrase in D's world. It needs to be soon though because she has started fighting bedtime like no other. Yeah mom I was asleep at the boob but that doesn't mean you can lay me down. It's annoying to say the least. I need to change bedtime so that the feeding is not the last thing we do but that requires effort and between moving and remodeling we are not there yet lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277751 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:03:48 +0000 blackbird 2277751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: We hit that 4 month regression with E, but it looked TERRIBLE compared to this. And very different. She was up every 45 minutes or every 90 minutes, just crying and crying. I saw the note about the wonder month. UGH. 25 days to go *head desk*. We did have a night last week where he was up 5 times and i was like WTF NOT THE REGRESSION but it was just a one-off night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277748 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:02:17 +0000 blackbird 2277748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: ha! I was going to ask our ped in a couple weeks what a normal sleep stretch would be, just to make sure he's not way off, and 4 hours would make sense. He'll do it sometimes, but pretty rarely now. He does go down easily after the 3 or 4am feeding if I'm there, but this morning, i snuck out of bed at 545 and he was like LOL NOPE FEED ME and was restless and sleeping light until I got him up for daycare. </p> <p>@Smurfette: Hey, mama's gotta function, man! I'm pro survival mode!</p> <p>@Mae: Blerg, 1 wake up a night sounds amazing! But I feel like that's a ways off for us. If i can get one longer stretch and/or drop the midnight feed, that'd be stellar. If he wakes up to soothe only, kid is shit out of luck and I will sleep train his ass right then and there, LOL. He's not big on a paci, either. Most of a fist chewer. </p> <p>We have started putting him down drowsy but awake in his crib and implementing other good sleep habits.....hopefully that bodes us well in the long run. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277739 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:55:21 +0000 jetsa 2277739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with you. Dia was getting up once perhaps twice a night and now it's all over the board sometimes once sometimes 3+ times. Saturday night I dream fed her at midnight and then she got up at 3, 5, and up for the day at 7. I've heard the 4 month sleep regression is the worst and we are right in the midst of a wonder month soo I'm blaming it on that and hoping it will pass soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-4-month-old-sleep#post-2277737 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:53:35 +0000 Mae 2277737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So around 8 weeks fia started sleeping 930-7ish with 1 wake to eat about 4am. At about 10 weeks she started 930-830 with wake to eat at 6. At 11 weeks she gave us a week of sttn from 930-730. She never has eaten again overnight since then. But at 12 weeks she started waking and needing soothed (with paci or rocking) to sleep a few times/ night. Got progressively worse and peaked suckiness at 16 weeks when I spent most of that week sitting up rocking her literally all night because she wouldn't sleep on her own. Got a bit better on her own but never went back to sttn until 14 mo (although as I'm sure you'll recall it did get totally livable at 6mo when we sleep trained) </p>