https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 06:05:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890600 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 22:06:40 +0000 ALV91711 2890600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A 4 hour stretch at that age is good. Definitely blackout curtains, still in use for my 6 year old. </p> <p>My best advice, which can be hard, is to not stress over it or compare. My first was not a good sleeper and was around 18 months when he sttn. My second is 10 months and not a good sleeper but I’ve been able to relax a bit more and not stress out about it which makes it better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890592 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 20:12:29 +0000 QBbride 2890592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s definitely normal to only be sleeping 3-4 hour stretches. The ideal room temperature is actually 18-20 degrees so I don’t think you need a warmer sleep sack. I would just keep a dark room, use white noise etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890585 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 19:14:06 +0000 erinbaderin 2890585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely the white noise, but otherwise I don’t think there’s any science to baby sleep. At 3 months my older son was only sleeping 90 minute stretches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890584 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 19:03:50 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2890584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use the travel dohm for all our white noise needs it's great. We have used it since around the 3-4 month mark for night sleep. We also do blackout curtains. E was getting a formula top up bottle and still some nights would only go 4-5 hours, others would be longer but it was such a crapshoot from night to night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890583 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 18:55:02 +0000 pachamama 2890583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 more things:<br /> Taking Cara Babies on Instagram! She's so so helpful but you have to make it work for you and your family aka not everything she suggests works .<br /> The Dohm white noise machine!! Worth every penny but I got mine off our local mom Facebook group :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890581 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 18:32:06 +0000 Petitduck 2890581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: I’m in Canada too. Definitely needed for winter! There is a period over the summer I don’t use it and then I start again. With my second kid I put him in it with just a diaper in the summer sometimes.</p> <p>There are white noise machines, apps/ soundtracks, and some people just use a little plug in fan. All achieve the same goal. I find they’re really useful and I like it for myself and my nearly 4 year old still really likes having it on. Both my kids have a plug in pictek white noise machine off amazon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890570 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 15:24:25 +0000 Kemma 2890570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That all sound very developmentally and biologically normal! Babies are designed to wake frequently (it’s a protective measure against SIDS and helps maintain your milk supply) and sleep isn’t linear so their sleep will come and go as they grow.</p> <p>My best advice as a mother of three babies who didn’t STTN until over twelve months would be to stop worrying and overthinking it and just go with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890559 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:40:55 +0000 pachamama 2890559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: if he's an arms up sleeper, you can buy the Arms Up Swaddle on Amazon. Hwell be able to suck on his hands. And yes the nightlght did help me more than him too lol. All these little things are not "the magic fix" but can help. the fact you can pat him back to sleep is a great start! But the terrible truth is he will need to learn to fall asleep on his own if he's going to be a good sleeper. Most babies learn this just fine!! Give it a little time. They really shouldn't get "trained" til 6 months. We hit the sweet spot at 5.5 mos.<br /> I will also second the Precious Sleep book but when it comes down to it, it's a CIO book by way of extinction which is wonderful and horrible in its simplicity 😆 (it worked for us in 3 nights and has transformed our lives. ) But you prob won't need to go there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890558 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:35:57 +0000 pachamama 2890558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: yes, when we tanked up with a bottle before bed (even though I EBF) it helped so much!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890557 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:32:06 +0000 bhbee 2890557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: white noise machine is so worth it! You can use it forever. We have the plug in dohm and their travel one and both work well, I think the travel would work for everyday too. Also, if you have a lot of light you may want to consider blackout curtains. Another long term investment, we’re way south of you but it’s still a great great help in getting my older kids to bed when I want in the summer (vs when it’s dark enough outside). Ours are from amazon and I have some pretty sheer panels in front of the blackouts for a nicer look. </p> <p>I agree 4 is normal for this age and especially being a smaller baby, and it is HARD if you are doing every wakeup. I think the trade off schedule mentioned above is a great idea if you can swing it. I know pumping another bottle can be hard to fit in but it might be worth it! Doing a big pumped bottle at bedtime might also help with sleep (vs just feeding at the breast) because they don’t have to work as hard to get it. But baby may just not be ready to go longer yet. Just throwing it out there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890556 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:29:55 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2890556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A bottle of breast milk right before bed (just a few ounces) helped mine sleep wonderfully. Also didn’t create a nurse to sleep habit/let dad do bed time/mom got a break/lots of benefits. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890554 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 13:08:48 +0000 Umbreon 2890554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Petitduck: thank you. I will look into a 2.5 sleep sack. Might be best as I'm.in Canada and winter is cold. I dont I know how cold it gets in our room in the winter yet.</p> <p>@pachamama: honestly the nightlight was for my benefit so i can see where I'm going when he wakes up. We put it in the bathroom now and leave the door open a crack just so I can barely see now. we dont swaddle because he hates it. He sleeps with his hands above his head. He has started to self soothe by sucking his fist but when he falls asleep and his arms drop it wakes him up. But after awhile he will just be out.</p> <p>He either falls asleep by feeding or rocking. In the middle of the night I usually just put my hand on him as he self soothes and that works. It's a bit harder to get him down at night I think because it's still daylight. It's starting to get darker around 9 now which is better. </p> <p>We dont have white noise... I will start looking into that. I guess there are machines you can buy?</p> <p>Glad to hear 4 hours is normal though. Maybe I wont stress about it too much. He is a small guy too, under 11 lbs (weighed 5 lbs at birth) and is EBF so maybe he does just need to eat a bit more often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890553 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:33:21 +0000 pachamama 2890553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: I think no nightlight is a good idea- babies aren't afraid of the dark usually until theyre 2 or 3! And you have white noise and a swaddle?<br /> A 3 month old sleeping 4 or 5 hours is very typical. There's so much pressure for babies to sleep through the night and it's just bullshit, especially if you're breastfeeding. When my 1st son was 14 weeks he finally started to sleep longer but it would come and go. He was a great sleeper in general, it just took a while.<br /> What I might suggest is slowly getting the baby to fall asleep on his own. This was my problem with my second. Of course it's only natural to nurse to sleep but if you can let him try to self-soothe it will be SOOOOO much better in the long run. How does he fall asleep usually?</p> <p>In terms of being tired, I totally understand!!! Could your partner take over one feeding? This got me like an 8 hour stretch-- my husband would feed him at 11pm then I could sleep 8-4 or so! It was LIFE CHANGING. And also it might help him wean away from you at night (not like you need to wean but sometimes they wake up for comfort of mom and it gets out of control)</p> <p>ETA: any doctor who makes you feel bad about an under-4 month old not sleeping very long stretches does not understand the physiology and sleep patterns of babies. By 6 months though if things are not MUCH Better, for everyone's sanity, you can start sleep training and life will be so much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890551 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:21:08 +0000 Tionn3 2890551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was doing about 4 hour stretches at 3 months old. Sleep was a real struggle for us. As he got closer to 6 months old he started sleeping longer stretches, maybe it go to 6 hours. I sleep trained him at 7 months because he was not falling asleep independently and he was showing signs of dropping all middle of the night feedings except the 5am feed. I highly recommend reading the book Precious Little Sleep. It helped me so much, and it was really easy to read. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890549 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:18:19 +0000 Petitduck 2890549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That’s great sleep for a 3 month old I feel! My first did 5 hour stretches at that age usually and that was with darkness and constant white noise so those would be my suggestions. My second did a 3 hour stretch tops and then would wake every 1-1.5 hours until I got up for the day until he was 6 months old. It was so crappy. A 4 hour stretch is definitely very normal, especially f he’s a breastfed baby because they get hungrier quicker. I would laugh in my doctor’s face if they told me my kid should be sleeping 5 hours at 3 months. Most sleep consultants say you can start sleep training at 16 weeks and then they can do longer stretches provided they are growing well. </p> <p>If you only want to buy one new sleep sack I’d suggest a 2.5 and then dress him in lighter clothing like a long-sleeved onesie until the weather gets colder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-month-old-night-sleep#post-2890548 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:05:57 +0000 Umbreon 2890548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is 3 months old, and sleeps at most on average a four hour stretch. He has done 6 hours before, so I know he can do it. I'm wondering if there's any tips on how I can get him to sleep longer. Could it be that he's cold? He never feels cold, but maybe he has a chill? He sleeps in a long-sleeved sleeper, with a 1 tog sleep sack. I need to buy him a new sleep sack, because he's starting to outgrow it. Maybe I should get something warmer? Our bedroom is usually around 22 or 23 Celsius. I don't think he's too warm because he's not sweaty.</p> <p>The other night he slept 5 hours, when we forgot to plug in the night-light. I tried keeping the room darker the next night, but it didn't work. So maybe it was a fluke. We are keeping the room darker now though.</p> <p>Or is it normal that he's only sleeping 4 hour stretches? At his two months doctor appointment, the doctor said he should be able to sleep 5 hours. I'm afraid that it is next appointment in a month, if his sleep hasn't gotten better, she's going to make me feel bad!</p> <p>But also when he sleeps 5 plus hours straight, I feel a lot better in the morning with more energy too. So it would be nice if I could get him to sleep at least five hours, six would be amazing. </p>