https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 04:56:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902836 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 13:10:52 +0000 shabang 2902836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How does she do socially at school? My daughter took until Jan in K last year to really make a friend, and then she started enjoying school. This year in 1st grade, it just happened, so 3 months? She is very slow to engage in a group, and if your child is similar, I found playdates to be beneficial. They're not a complete solution because kids act different at school than they do 1:1, but helpful at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902829 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 11:45:05 +0000 psw27 2902829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: We are working with a cognitive behavioral therapist for our little guy. I think that's a good first step! I think they work on learning calm down skills, ways to cope with big feelings, etc. But we are just a few sessions in at this point so yet to be determined if it helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902828 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 11:42:35 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2902828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: @psw27: yes I know holding it together all day is rough, even for an adult. I'm very very careful about how we discipline the behavior (I mean if you hit your sister, you don't get a pass just cause you've been at school all day). </p> <p>@psw27: I had anxiety as a kid so I have thought about that. Any tips on how to help heranage that if that's the case? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902817 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 11:09:49 +0000 psw27 2902817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you thought about anxiety? It could be that she's working so hard to hold it together and regulate at school she gets home and just lets all the hard work and emotions out. You are her safe place, so that's good that she is sharing her feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902803 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 02:22:06 +0000 Kemma 2902803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think kinder/ school can be a rough transition for kids because all of a sudden they’re treated like little adults and not given a lot of emotional support or opportunities to connect with their teachers. I also think it’s really rough that kids are expected to sit a desk inside all day when kids aren’t designed to operate like that! It’s probably also the reason that you’re experiencing the behaviours at home, she’s used all of her energy self-regulating at school and sees you as the safe space where she can just let herself go.</p> <p>No other advice but hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902799 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 23:44:51 +0000 ALV91711 2902799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you’ve had some good suggestions above. </p> <p>When DS started kinder last year he slept a lot more. And he had gone from full days at daycare to half day kindergarten and home with me. He was in the afternoon class. He went from 8pm bedtime 6am wake up to 7:30 bedtime and sleeping til 8 most mornings. After a few months he started to get up by 7am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902773 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 18:02:00 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2902773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: @Madison43: thanks for the input! I'll work harder at making sure we are resting enough. A friend of mine suggested asking her to draw her feelings when she gets so emotional. Maybe that will help us communicate a little more deeply. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902725 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 10:11:47 +0000 Madison43 2902725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: kindergarten is tough! My daughter loves it but is legit exhausted and sort of fragile in that she cries much easier than she used too, which I attribute to exhaustion. We don’t start school until 8:50 but she’s in bed by 7:30. And she occasionally takes a nap on the weekends. Not often, but yesterday afternoon I let her nap for two hours and she still went to bed on time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902722 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 09:59:46 +0000 graceandjoy 2902722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you able to talk to her to try to pinpoint what she is sad about? And I would absolutely reach out to teacher(s) to see if there are any inclination on what could be making her sad. </p> <p>Mine started K this year too, and if she's ever "sad" it's always because "so and so doesn't want to be my friend/play with me", etc. But in digging deeper, I think my girl is just a little immature in the way that she only wants people to do what she wants to do and if they don't want to, then it's automatically "they don't like me". So we've been been working on/talking about what being friends &amp; playing together means, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902721 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 09:59:33 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2902721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: the counselor is a great idea! </p> <p>We start school late, doors open at 825 so we kept bedtime the same. In bed at 8. Awake for the day around 7....but maybe she is more tired than she lets on. It's harder than I thought it would be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902720 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 09:54:12 +0000 gotkimchi 2902720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: ya for sure on the sleep. I put the 3yo at 6 and the 5yo at 7. With no naps and full days of school they’re all passed out within minutes </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902717 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 09:26:33 +0000 bhbee 2902717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs, I’m sorry. Kinder transition is rough. Agree with above school may have some tips, even her teacher - they’ve surely been there before. Is she getting enough sleep at night? That really exacerbates problems for my oldest if she’s tired and kinder knocks them out. She had to go to bed by 7 the first half of kinder (gets up at 6:30). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902714 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 08:12:25 +0000 gotkimchi 2902714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: Do you have a school counselor you could run this by and maybe get a few tips? My lo also started k this year and i do feel like she needs a lot more attention/snuggles. I feel like we are JUST starting to turn the corner if her getting used to school and not being such a mess </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902713 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 07:44:36 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2902713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: she is perfectly okay at school. It's only at home that we have this behavior</p> <p>@Petitduck: She's 6. She says she likes school.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902711 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 06:05:08 +0000 Petitduck 2902711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is your kiddo? I’m having huge issues with my kid still (mainly anger and sadness and when there’s communication with me about it the reason is “I miss you all day”) and I have cried about it a few times. School really changes my kid and I hate it and miss who my baby was. Just turned 4 and looks so forward to the weekend every week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902707 Mon, 18 Nov 2019 01:02:54 +0000 crazydoglady 2902707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I'm sorry...that sounds really rough. What does her teacher say? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3-months-into-the-school-year-amp-the-transition-is-still-rough#post-2902706 Sun, 17 Nov 2019 23:58:23 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2902706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started full day, public Kindergarten at the end of August. We've had all the behaviors I expected, like lots of attitude, fighting with her sister, defiance, etc but the one that gets me the most is the sadness. </p> <p>She is sad a lot. Always needing to sit in my lap, waking up crying at night needing a hug. The thing is she was NEVER like this. Before starting Kinder she was the kid who wiped off my kisses &amp; would only sometimes give me a hug. Don't get me wrong, I love more hugs from her but I'm also a little concerned that she's having such a rough transition. We did move a few months prior to starting school but only about an hour away from our old home. She spent 2 years going to part time preschool &amp; spent 10 to 12 hours with my mom once a week before starting kinder so I really thought we'd have a little bit of an easier time adjusting to being apart.</p> <p>I do my best to give her all the attention she asks for plus some when she is home but Im only capable of so much..</p> <p>Any comments or feedback is welcome!! </p>