https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 22:55:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466352 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:50:30 +0000 lilyann 2466352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: @JoyfulKiwi: Thank you ladies for chiming in!! Very helpful :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466338 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:46:20 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2466338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since you said you practiced positive parenting, you could say something like "Do you remember when you covered your ears when Mrs. X was talking to you today?" If he says he remembers you can ask him why &amp; go from there. If he says he doesn't, you can just say "Mrs. X and I were concerned because it's not respectful or safe to cover your ears when an adult is speaking to you. Our job is to keep you safe and we need you to listen to help us do that."</p> <p>I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it unless it becomes a chronic thing. If the teacher brings it up again, you could gently address how *she* is handling it in the moment. In the past, I've told teachers "Oh, we do XYZ at home, maybe you could try that?" (Even if its not an issue at home). I don't think it's very effective or fair for teachers to ask parents to "work on it at home" - it's the teacher's job to address behaviors when they arise. (I think it's different if a teacher informs parents of a behavior to make sure everyone is on the same page, but "work on it" always sounds like passing the buck to me)</p> <p>ETA: if it becomes a reoccurring behavior, I'd do what Jessi suggested and teach him words to use instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466336 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:46:03 +0000 Jess1483 2466336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is absolutely a behavior I'd ignore as a teacher (and my kids were 7/8.) And as a behavior specialist, I'd have worked on it by giving him words to name his feelings. This is on the teacher. I'd tell her that you're happy to talk to him about it, but that he doesn't display the behavior at home, so it's difficult to provide immediate feedback. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466324 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:37:08 +0000 lilyann 2466324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Right?! She is young with no kids...I definitely don't want him to act like that but 3 year old's are no angels :silly: I will talk to him about it tonight when I pick him up. It seemed very out of the blue, maybe his teacher is just having a bad day, lol. She said "he is just normally so sweet and it thru us off"....welcome to my world, lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466320 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:34:11 +0000 lilyann 2466320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: I was just caught off guard when she asked me if I would work on it with him. He is not sensitive to noises but he loves to mimic his classmates behavior. I mean, I really don't expect him to understand that it is not respectful but I guess I can just tell him that is not a nice thing to do and hope he stops? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466317 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:32:51 +0000 ShootingStar 2466317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would come up with how you would like the teacher to handle it in a positive way and have her handle it. If he's not doing it at home, there's not much more you can do. And WTF at a teacher being mad a 3.5 year old is disrespectful. I think that's pretty much the definition of 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466312 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:30:34 +0000 ValentineMommy 2466312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: If it was a "I'm not listening" type of thing, I'd say it's probably a phase/age thing. They sure do whatever they can to push our buttons, don't they? On the other hand, my son covers his ears, but it's more about things being loud or bothering his ears. He has sensory issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466301 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:26:01 +0000 lilyann 2466301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: They were not concerned, they were more or less upset by his behavior IMO and found it disrespectful. For example, he was running in the hall this morning and his teacher told him not to, so he covered his ears and pulled the "I'm not listening" card :meh: </p> <p>@Mamaof2: His teacher just texted me this morning about it...I plan on asking him today when I pick him up but I was wondering if anyone had good advice about how to approach disrespectful behavior at such a young age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466285 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:21:55 +0000 Mamaof2 2466285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: have you asked him why he does it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2466279 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 13:20:42 +0000 Raindrop 2466279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping! How concerned did the day care people seemed?</p> <p>Sorry no advise but if the daycare people don't seem concerned I probably wouldn't be unless you had a gut feeling ... then maybe I would take him to my pediatrician. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35-year-old-covering-ears#post-2465866 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 10:55:17 +0000 lilyann 2465866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a text from my son's daycare teacher that said he has started covering his ears when she (or the other teacher) is talking. She asked me to work on this with him. I was pretty stunned to hear about him doing this because he has never done that to us and we never do that to him. I am sure he picked it up at daycare but how can I approach this? I try to practice positive parenting but I am obviously not with him 24/7 and have yet to catch him doing this... </p> <p>I tried to consult google but it kept referring to autism and I don't think he is displaying any autistic traits but is being defiant aka being a 3 year old. </p> <p>Any advice?? </p>