https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 23:09:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2407263 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 15:06:12 +0000 MrsF 2407263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I see that this is an older thread, but just a thought if it's still an issue. Is there any way for the nanny and T to take a special trip just the two of them, some place really fun (ice cream, whatever)? Maybe if you were able to watch R during a nap or something? Our nanny and M have done a couple of little outings just the two of them and I think it's nice for them to have some one-on-one time. Maybe that would set him up for more success in the future? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2407202 Sat, 02 Jan 2016 12:29:45 +0000 Boogs 2407202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: What if you went out with them, but you leave before they do once he realizes being out means fun? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398616 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 14:44:44 +0000 KayKay 2398616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Will he play &amp; interact with her at home if you are out of sight? So she could engage him in an activity that lasts, say, 15-30 minutes so that even though you are at home, you aren't right there when she gets him ready to go somewhere? Or is that what you are saying isn't working?</p> <p>If you can't/don't want them home while you are trying to get stuff done, I'd probably use some sort of reward/bribe. I know, I know....but still.</p> <p>Every once in awhile K has clingy fits and doesn't want to do something or go to school or whatever away from me. We try to talk about why she is feeling that way (often not insightful but feels like the right thing to do...), and then I just try to distract her/get her moving in our normal routine. But we've never had a huge fit about it -- I don't know what I'd do then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398565 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 14:26:18 +0000 MrsSRS 2398565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is your nanny the type to have a suggestion? Maybe she'd be comfortable powering through the tantrum or she'd like to leave your younger one with you and take the older one for a fun treat to get over the hump or maybe she has some other idea? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398475 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 14:00:03 +0000 winniebee 2398475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I'm not sure if I am....(not even 4 weeks yet...) and if I am he doesn't know!! But we are moving and he is very aware of that, so that could totally be it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398445 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 13:48:29 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2398445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D had all of a sudden started crying at preschool drop offs after perfect drop offs for months. I think part of it is the changes in schedules and routines over the holidays and it must be the age too... I would keep doing try same things and I imagine he will adapt eventually (hopefully)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398414 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 13:26:40 +0000 Raindrop 2398414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you might be pregnant? I wonder if that has something to do with it. My oldest one was very clingy when I was pregnant - like he knew!! Was T clingy during you last pregnancy? I'm just throwing out ideas. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398301 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 11:54:45 +0000 kiddosc 2398301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Ok, maybe a trip to Starbucks would be better :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398267 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 11:30:37 +0000 winniebee 2398267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: hide in garage, LOL!</p> <p>We're moving in less than a week and are in upheaval so I'm wondering if this is just super clingy behavior related to that.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398248 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 11:19:39 +0000 kiddosc 2398248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried leaving the house first and seeing how he reacts then? I'd leave, or go hide in the garage or something, and then have her try to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398202 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 10:57:56 +0000 Anagram 2398202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he will adjust, and probably be fine as soon as he's out the door with her. I would probably just let her handle it (if she's okay with that), and load him up in the stroller or whatever and just have her go.</p> <p>Sometimes my LO doesn't want to leave the house with ME (she'll say she wants to stay home) and she'll have a little tantrum, but as soon as we are there at the park or store, she's fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398182 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 10:48:46 +0000 mrswin 2398182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Can you tell him that mommy needs to go out to somewhere he can't go, the hair salon, the doctors...and tell him the nanny is taking him and R somewhere fun like the park, etc? Maybe if you leave too he will be ok going somewhere with her??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/35yo-wont-leave-house-with-nanny#post-2398130 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 10:28:35 +0000 winniebee 2398130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm at a total loss. Our nanny has been with us for 3.5 months. She's wonderful and very talented with toddlers/preschoolers. She watches R (1) three days a week and also watches T when he gets home from school. She also does his drop off or pick up every day. I work from home. </p> <p>This week T is home from school for holidays. He won't leave the house with her. Only wants to be with me. Cries if we suggest he go anywhere with her. I don't know what to do. Make him leave with her? I hate him sitting around the house all day. And I want him and R out of the house for some period every day.</p> <p>I'm really concerned as the school we are starting him at in January can only have him 3 days. One whole day he will be with her. I need to figure out a way to deal with this issue so that he's not tantruming over leaving the house with her on that day. I don't want her to be in the position of having him freaking out on her while she is trying to juggle both kids. </p> <p>Help? </p>