https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 22:43:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886646 Tue, 04 Jun 2019 13:47:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2886646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: ++ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886645 Tue, 04 Jun 2019 13:46:09 +0000 Ajsmommy 2886645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go with the flow and let her go at it... LOL.. some battles are just not worth it and honestly I don't know why we are all soo worried about it being tacky or that you look "gift grabby" for celebrating a new baby! I can assure you I've never been invited to a baby shower, 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th and I thought "oh how tacky/what a gift grabber"...bc I haven't ever thought that. And if you have friends or family who actually think that then well geesh they suck.</p> <p>Anywhoo I know I am probably not the norm here but I'd let your mom go and have her fun. Celebrate the baby BOY and have fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886593 Tue, 04 Jun 2019 09:24:14 +0000 ALV91711 2886593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister threw me a shower for my second DS. My family had also thrown a shower for DS1. I didn't think it was necessary and told her so but she really likes to throw showers and there is 5.5 years between my two boys. She kept it small and casual. It was actually a lot of fun and nice to get a few new things. DS1 and my two nieces were there and they had fun opening gifts and a couple people even got him big brother gifts. </p> <p>I say you can tell her that you would prefer something small but just let her throw it and enjoy celebrating. I like your idea of just keeping it to local people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886436 Mon, 03 Jun 2019 09:10:31 +0000 cake2017 2886436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I had a similar post recently. Well my family hosted a small sprinkle at my sisters home for baby girl. We had a bigger shower for our baby boy so i was hesitant how a second celebration would come off. Honestly it was nice and i only had 6 close family and friends attend. It was short and sweet and everyone was fed and had a good time. They brought small gifts. I made a small gift registry but didn’t share that with anyone unless they asked. It was nice and honestly- have something small and if you feel it’s like asking for gifts suggest none or something in place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886148 Fri, 31 May 2019 09:27:29 +0000 graceandjoy 2886148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I have never felt like having multiple showers/sprinkle is tacky. Every pregnancy/baby should be celebrated! Where I am and in my social circle, it's fun to get together and there are always registry items in all price range so I can pick something within budget. I actually love showers because it's an opportunity to get together with friends! </p> <p>So IMO, let her do what she wants since she missed the first two times! Hopefully there will be SOME people in this party that you are excited to see/hang out with, and let all the other chips fall. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886137 Fri, 31 May 2019 08:20:13 +0000 foodiebee 2886137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This reminds me of the struggles I had with baby showers during my current pregnancy. Grandma just wanted to throw herself a party!</p> <p>I agree with LadyDi that you have to decide what battle you want to pick. If this is important to you (it was to me, as I felt it was a party in my name coming off as gift-greedy to people I barely knew), you can try to explain your concerns and offer compromises. I felt passionate that instead of gifts, people should donate to women- and pregnancy-focused charities like Every Mother Counts. I voiced my concerns in a way that tried to acknowledge where she was coming from and her enthusiasm, but also reiterate that she was trying to throw an event for *me*, so here is what I would like and would mean the most to me. Be prepared that you might still lose this battle (I did!), but I'm the type of person who knew that if I lost, I didn't want it to be because I hadn't spoken up. That's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886132 Fri, 31 May 2019 06:40:23 +0000 LadyDi 2886132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coming from someone who has a mother who is also easily offended and receives all feedback as a personal attack, I find it to be easier to just let these things happen. My mom gave me a sprinkle for my second, which while I appreciated it I didn't really want it. I did ask her to keep it to local family only, I didn't want my friends to feed obligated to come. I created a small registry. There are probably a few things you need...baby toiletries, new nipples for bottles, maybe new pacifiers. I also asked for diapers, although I know that doesn't apply in your case. </p> <p>Also, I don't think it's tacky to direct gifts. I would rather by something I knew someone wanted. I threw a small bridal shower for my friend recently. Since it was her second marriage and she only had a honeymoon registry, I asked people to bring a cookbook instead of a gift bc she and her fiance love to cook together. No one was offended (at least not that I know of).</p> <p>I'm pregnant with my 3rd now and my mom, mil, sils, and bff took me out to dinner and gave me a basket of "mom" things...new slippers, lotion, a gift card for a pre-natal massage and manicure, etc. It was a fun way to celebrate actually and nice to get some "self care" items....although it doesn't seem like that's something your mom would go for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886127 Fri, 31 May 2019 00:59:48 +0000 JJ2626 2886127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How about having guests bring their favorite baby book? So there are still presents but they are cheap and useful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886125 Thu, 30 May 2019 23:30:08 +0000 MenagerieMama 2886125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: do you think it's tacky to direct gifts? really the only thing we need is boy clothes ("need" rather, he can wear pink!). The only other suggestion I've seen is have guests bring diapers, but we cloth diaper so we are all set there too... I like the charity idea but my mom is so focused on gifts for the baby. I think we will do like a brunch type get together thought, but I do like the tea idea! There is a tea place near her house. That would keep the numbers and maybe the fuss down... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886124 Thu, 30 May 2019 23:11:08 +0000 Kemma 2886124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you possibly suggest doing an afternoon tea and maybe ask the guests to bring a gift to donate to a local shelter or charity? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/3rd-baby-sprinkleshower#post-2886106 Thu, 30 May 2019 16:46:49 +0000 MenagerieMama 2886106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>tl;dr: etiquette for 3rd baby shower/sprinkle? (and how to best convey to host)</p> <p>Background: I'm pregnant with my third, a boy, after 2 girls. My first 2 were born out of state, across the country from family and friends (we moved 3 mo before the first was born!). </p> <p>My mom is very excited that she gets to be present for this third baby pregnancy/delivery and wants to throw us a shower. I feel like it will be lovely to celebrate this baby, and finally get to have a "real" baby shower with my family, but I feel like it's a little tacky to have a baby shower by #3. I've already tried to gently introduce the idea that this should be small (a "sprinkle") and more celebration focused. But my mom is really into doing the full, get presents, invite everyone in the universe shebang (luckily I don't know that many people, but she even had old high school friends on her suggested guest list :shocked: ). Like I don't want to invite my mom friends from nearby because it will be in my hometown and I don't want to ask them to drive 1.5 hrs when they have little kids like me! My mom is also easily offended so I'm trying to scale/refocus her energy without ruffling her feathers, which is not easy...she drives me crazy at baseline and we don't communicate well. But I can tell this is important to her. </p> <p>Any advice? </p>