https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 20:08:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892776 Tue, 30 Jul 2019 07:29:59 +0000 bhbee 2892776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I think age was a factor too so I bet you’ll see more improvement in senior! And for us first grade improved over kinder too - I remember some drama over her first drop off party in 1st and now it’s fine as long as she knows someone. She had a fierce attachment to her lovey that has waned some in the last year too (probably good but kind of sad too!). Hugs in the meantime, I also SAH and mostly solo and it’s a lot. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892773 Tue, 30 Jul 2019 06:55:35 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2892773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: thanks I will check that out! @MrsSRS: thanks, will do. I love to read. @ALV91711: very tiring! My husband works a ton so it’s almost always me dealing with it and it can definitely be exhausting.<br /> @bhbee: he’s done one year of kinder (here it’s junior and senior in the same class doing a lot of the same stuff, he starts senior this fall) and it did seem to help and then at the end of the year he fell into this extreme clingy ness again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892755 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 22:04:40 +0000 ALV91711 2892755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I was just talking to my mom tonight and she mentioned how much of a change there has been in DS from the beginning of kinder last September until now. More confidence and more independent. </p> <p>@Mrs. Champagne: his clingyness is why we haven’t really tried sports yet. It sounds like you are doing the right things it may just take some more time unfortunately. Having a clingy kid can be tiring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892748 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 20:51:18 +0000 MrsSRS 2892748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try the book Growing Up Brave </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892740 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 19:36:05 +0000 bhbee 2892740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: kinder made a huge difference for my oldest too (girl but similar issues). </p> <p>Honestly I was so afraid of kinder because of her clinginess, but it went fine (some tears to start but nothing worse than usual) and now it’s much much better at 7. Like it used to be even when I was there at a bday party she would likely just cling vs do the activity. In first grade she’s done several drop off things with no problem! She can talk to adults now, it’s all just night and day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892736 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 18:46:51 +0000 ALV91711 2892736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advise, my son is 6 and like this. I found finishing kindergarten made it better. </p> <p>@bees_knees: yes, the talking up seems to have the opposite effect! Instead of talking things up we discuss what it will be like and what he will do. </p> <p>Like today he started a new session of swimming. We talked about how he’d have a new instructor, be in a different pool and what to do if he was scared to try something. He did so so good for a change and was trying things in his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892726 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 17:16:49 +0000 bees_knees 2892726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds so frustrating, for all of you! I like this Janet Lansbury take on it—she talks about separating with confidence. </p> <p><a href="https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/09/say-goodbye-child-school/" rel="nofollow">https://www.janetlansbury.com/2015/09/say-goodbye-child-school/</a></p> <p>I need to read that and refresh myself, I can’t remember if she talks about it in the above post or a different one—but she also talks about not “selling” an event to your child. So no like “IT WILL BE SO FUN YOU WILL LAUGH AND PLAY AND IT WILL BE AMAZING” because your kid will sense that’s you’re selling the experience—and then wonder what’s making you need to “sell” it to them. Does that make sense? If you search her archives she has a lot about separation anxiety. (Hi, I’m bees_knees and I’m a huge JL fan 🙋🏻‍♀️) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-wont-go-anywhere-without-me#post-2892715 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 16:18:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2892715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could use some advice!</p> <p>My son turned 5 in March. I’ve stayed home with him since he was born. He went to twice a week preschool (9am-1130) from age 2.5 until 4.5 when full day kinder starts here. </p> <p>He started struggling at preschool just before he turned 4. He would scream and cry at drop off. Say he was going to barf, etc. It all started the week I told him I was pregnant with number 3 and his sister joined him at preschool (in a different class). </p> <p>We worked through the issues with school with his awesome teachers and went to some therapy type place which helped him with his breathing etc to work through some anxiety. </p> <p>He improved a lot once DS2 was born. He started school in September without issue and was happy to go until the last month or so. </p> <p>He started crying at drop off again in June. He won’t do any sport unless my husband or myself are participating with him. He won’t go to a drop off party or a play date. His best friend came for a play date last week and he’s supposed to go there this week but is now refusing because he doesn’t want to go without me. </p> <p>He’s a pretty challenging kid at home - emotional, hits his siblings. But if my husband or I are one on one with him, he’s incredibly well behaved and a joy to be around. He’s good at school - on the report card on the last day of school there was some issues mentioned we wish we had known sooner. Mainly that he “lacks confidence” and that he can’t sit still and stay on task sometimes. </p> <p>Any one else have a sensitive/emotional kid like this? Specifically a first born boy? Someone once mentioned to me he’s very typical first born boy. And I would add to that he’s a very typical first born boy who has a stay at home mom, haha. </p> <p>Looking how to get him over the hump for doing things on his own. He immediately starts bawling and making a huge scene if we try to make him do things without us (like we will be 10 feet away watching but he wants us closer). </p> <p>Any tips or resources appreciated. </p>